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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cinnamon here and having been a single guy once on here know the frustrations you might feel but also being part of a couples account and been privy to gingers account think some of you are shooting yourself in the foot from the off.

You are the majority! There are more "single" men on here then there is single and attached females combined. To attract their attention you have to face stiff competition. So how do I do that I hear you ask?

With everything in life the more effort you put in the better the result.

When writing your profile "I'll fill this in later..." or "I like fucking...." is not going to cut it. Try to sell yourself more, describe yourself, what do you like and what your looking for. Try to be honest it might cost you meets from one section of the crowd yes but then there's others who you'd be just what their looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who was asking

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Use naff profiles and crap messages as a filter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Next up is add some pictures and not just cock pics! Some women like the surprise like unwrapping a gift at xmas besides they've all seen at least one and there's not much difference. Tease them with body pics, tight boxer shorts but if you wish to be discreet keep your face pic for friends.

Read their profile not just look at the pretty pictures. This will give you an idea if you are the right person before you message them.

When you do dont panic not everyone can spell but make sure its not text speak or fancy a fuck. That's not how you'd ask a girl at nightclub now is it?

"What you upto" "Hey how are you?" also high on the list on conversation killers.

Use your imagination and take inspiration from their profile. Make them laugh but most importantly stand out from the crowd!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Well let's hope that the I-can't-get-a-meet brigade read this thread instead of posting...at least until it gets to the bottom of the thread-topic page :-/

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

such a true word spoken.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Get involved, jump into the forums, visit a swingers club or go to a social. That way you can get to know more people and spark more interest in you. Even with a well worded message and a glowing profile you may still not hear back from people on here because single females can get around 100+ messages a day, couples not as much. If they don't answer they're not being rude just otherwise it becomes a full time job. I've seen days where as soon as ginger has read one message 3 new ones hsve arrived.

Patience is the key, it may take awhile before you arrange a meet. By that I mean longer then 2 weeks. Its a site for swingers yes but no where in the name does it mention sex so stop thinking that every conversation is going to end up with a sweaty fuck and relax.

I can't guarantee these tips will insure you get laid but they will improve your chances a hell of a lot more then a large percentage of guys on the site who don't read the forums and will continue sending out those one liners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I can't guarantee these tips will insure you get laid but they will improve your chances a hell of a lot more then a large percentage of guys on the site who don't read the forums and will continue sending out those one liners "

All good advice !

But I'm not here to get laid ? I'm here for mutual fun,exciting times and experiences ?

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I find that if a message is too short or too long it is less likely to be responded to.

I stick with about 2 relevant sentences, this is usually enough to indicate you have read their profile and tell them what you are offering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get involved, jump into the forums, visit a swingers club or go to a social. That way you can get to know more people and spark more interest in you. Even with a well worded message and a glowing profile you may still not hear back from people on here because single females can get around 100+ messages a day, couples not as much. If they don't answer they're not being rude just otherwise it becomes a full time job. I've seen days where as soon as ginger has read one message 3 new ones hsve arrived.

Patience is the key, it may take awhile before you arrange a meet. By that I mean longer then 2 weeks. Its a site for swingers yes but no where in the name does it mention sex so stop thinking that every conversation is going to end up with a sweaty fuck and relax.

I can't guarantee these tips will insure you get laid but they will improve your chances a hell of a lot more then a large percentage of guys on the site who don't read the forums and will continue sending out those one liners "

Someone buy this lad a pint.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Generally, although not always, I've found most messages sent as a result of searches are a bit of a waste of time. Whilst I agree with what the OP says about having an interesting profile, even if that doubles your success rate it's still probably going to be quite low; after all a success rate of between 0 to 1 out of 100 when doubled is still only 0 to 2 out of 100.

I've found the best results are got by getting involved with the site. And it really does work.

I've only changed my profile a small amount since I joined this site but originally I was messaging maybe 50 to 100 single women and a few couples every few day. Most got no response, some got a 'thanks, but no thanks' response and maybe 1 a month got a positive response. Of those positive responses 2 turned into meets and one went further.

Since then I've changed what I do.

First, I now spend quite a bit of time in the chat rooms. This doesn't seem to bring great results by its self but does get you known.

Second, I spend a lot of time in the Forums. Occasionally creating topics, sometimes offering advice to the 'No meets in 3 years' posts, joining in the fun 'Chat, Kiss, Fuck, Pass, Avoid' and similar threads, making thought through comments on some of the more serious threads and generally join in. This is a good way for people, and in my case especially single women, to get to know who you are without letting you know that they are looking.

Finally I go to as many socials, clubs and parties as possible. When I'm there I try to talk to as many people as possible, not just single women. Also there is normally at least one, if not more, of the people I've already spoken to in the chat rooms there so I'm not often going into a club, social or party completely in the cold.

Since I've been doing things this way I now regularly get 1 or 2 messages a day, sometimes they are from people I've already contacted and I'm having an on-going chat with but sometimes they are spontaneous messages from single women, which is just great really.

At the end of the day, this site is like everything else in life. The more you put in the more you are likely to get out. You just have to make the effort.

My only problem now is that I can't change my ugly face. LOL. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the huge male to female ratio will play in hand and as well where you live, certain places there just wont be any horney women no matter how good your profile is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all else fails. Grow a beard and become a pirate. It's the road to success guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was asking"

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Great advise

And if I can add one more thing.... Be polite

The gorgeous going lady I (mickey) met at the weekend daily receives vulgar and even abusive messages. It's so bad she is thinking about leaving the site

We don't mind as it means we keep her to ourselves

But seriously what is the point? If you want to meet people.... Be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid until the day this forum starts being able to do stickies for good threads then all this advice is going to be lost within a day or so and won't have any positive impact for anyone really

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Great advise

And if I can add one more thing.... Be polite

The gorgeous going lady I (mickey) met at the weekend daily receives vulgar and even abusive messages. It's so bad she is thinking about leaving the site

We don't mind as it means we keep her to ourselves

But seriously what is the point? If you want to meet people.... Be nice"

Is it being nice to say Minnie has a very nice sexy arse, or is that just me being a bit of a perv? LOL

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Get involved, jump into the forums, visit a swingers club or go to a social. That way you can get to know more people and spark more interest in you. Even with a well worded message and a glowing profile you may still not hear back from people on here because single females can get around 100+ messages a day, couples not as much. If they don't answer they're not being rude just otherwise it becomes a full time job. I've seen days where as soon as ginger has read one message 3 new ones hsve arrived.

Patience is the key, it may take awhile before you arrange a meet. By that I mean longer then 2 weeks. Its a site for swingers yes but no where in the name does it mention sex so stop thinking that every conversation is going to end up with a sweaty fuck and relax.

I can't guarantee these tips will insure you get laid but they will improve your chances a hell of a lot more then a large percentage of guys on the site who don't read the forums and will continue sending out those one liners "

And Ginger's is pretty nice to. Defo one of the best arses on here IMHO. he he

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The sensible guys already know this.

The 'target audience' will probably never read it.

And tbh - spoon feeding will only result in a good profile being created for the same person who set it up with no thought in the first place.

Shit profiles, bad attitudes and less than positive behaviour are all useful identifiers. If someone can't work out themselves how to interact on a site such as this without guidance then maybe they should reconsider using one.

Just a thought!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sensible guys already know this.

The 'target audience' will probably never read it.

And tbh - spoon feeding will only result in a good profile being created for the same person who set it up with no thought in the first place.

Shit profiles, bad attitudes and less than positive behaviour are all useful identifiers. If someone can't work out themselves how to interact on a site such as this without guidance then maybe they should reconsider using one.

Just a thought!

A"

This is the unfortunate truth. The sensible guys, the ones with a brain who understand that meeting people is about human interaction, and not just being a penis owner, already know. Sadly the 'target audience' as mentioned, are the lizard-brained knuckle grazers that just look at the pictures!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was asking"

Plenty of men ask for advice. If you don't need or want it you don't need to read or follow it

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath


"Great advise

And if I can add one more thing.... Be polite

The gorgeous going lady I (mickey) met at the weekend daily receives vulgar and even abusive messages. It's so bad she is thinking about leaving the site

We don't mind as it means we keep her to ourselves

But seriously what is the point? If you want to meet people.... Be nice

Is it being nice to say Minnie has a very nice sexy arse, or is that just me being a bit of a perv? LOL "

All positive feed back is always gratefully received with thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was asking

Plenty of men ask for advice. If you don't need or want it you don't need to read or follow it "

For some it will be useful if they don't know, some will never take advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol if I talk about myself it will just say, that I ma going to the gym everyday

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Great advise

And if I can add one more thing.... Be polite

The gorgeous going lady I (mickey) met at the weekend daily receives vulgar and even abusive messages. It's so bad she is thinking about leaving the site

We don't mind as it means we keep her to ourselves

But seriously what is the point? If you want to meet people.... Be nice

Is it being nice to say Minnie has a very nice sexy arse, or is that just me being a bit of a perv? LOL

All positive feed back is always gratefully received with thanks "

In that case I'll say it.

"Minnie's got a very nice, sexy arse." xx. . he he

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"The sensible guys already know this.

The 'target audience' will probably never read it.

And tbh - spoon feeding will only result in a good profile being created for the same person who set it up with no thought in the first place.

Shit profiles, bad attitudes and less than positive behaviour are all useful identifiers. If someone can't work out themselves how to interact on a site such as this without guidance then maybe they should reconsider using one.

Just a thought!

A"

I get called a hater for pointing out the obvious... but their inadvertant have just done a few negative things...

a) just gave people a template into how to fool others.... if you really wanted to waste somebodies time, well now you have an idea on how to do it!!!

b) you made it harder for the guys who do "get it" to stand out (no... its nothing to do with competition, more to do with understanding swinging!!!)

c) you made it harder for couples to work out who are the guys who "get it" and those who worked from the template.....

sometimes it is just better not to say anything, because at the moment, even with the abuse that some people get, you can work out who's an arse, who you would and wouldn't meet fairly quickly.....

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Thankyou

I'll make sure she knows

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Also the huge male to female ratio will play in hand and as well where you live, certain places there just wont be any horney women no matter how good your profile is "

as he said effort been the word, effort in reward out, put the effort in to put yourself to the top of that pile then that ratio of men to women doesnt come into play, and if your willing to travel then where you live isnt as big a factor as you make out either, again its back to that word, how much effort someone is willing to put in to be successful, its down to the individual, sit back and hope something lands your way, or put the effort in, get out there and make it happen.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Who was asking"

you didnt have to read the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cinnamon here and having been a single guy once on here know the frustrations you might feel but also being part of a couples account and been privy to gingers account think some of you are shooting yourself in the foot from the off.

You are the majority! There are more "single" men on here then there is single and attached females combined. To attract their attention you have to face stiff competition. So how do I do that I hear you ask?

With everything in life the more effort you put in the better the result.

When writing your profile "I'll fill this in later..." or "I like fucking...." is not going to cut it. Try to sell yourself more, describe yourself, what do you like and what your looking for. Try to be honest it might cost you meets from one section of the crowd yes but then there's others who you'd be just what their looking for. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no no...... Keep profiles as shirt as possible. Say nothing about yourself or what you want.

Use silly and abusive language. Have no pics or just a cock shot (preferably with a sky remote).

Send very short messages such as "want a fuck"

And definitely DONT accommodate.

That way...those of us with half a brain and a bit of effort....get it even easier!

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

Carshalton

Sometimes a long message will result in an instant deletion, frustrating and wasted words. Sometimes a 'one liner' will get an instant response. It's all in the profile, make a judgement and act accordingly. Great advice from OP but as others have said, wasted. The men it's aimed at will not read it. Luckily we are not all so single minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also the huge male to female ratio will play in hand and as well where you live, certain places there just wont be any horney women no matter how good your profile is

as he said effort been the word, effort in reward out, put the effort in to put yourself to the top of that pile then that ratio of men to women doesnt come into play, and if your willing to travel then where you live isnt as big a factor as you make out either, again its back to that word, how much effort someone is willing to put in to be successful, its down to the individual, sit back and hope something lands your way, or put the effort in, get out there and make it happen."
Yes just what you said and I did, if your willing to travel, seen few travel over 200miles for a meet, that is just to far, rather wait for someone local lol.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Also the huge male to female ratio will play in hand and as well where you live, certain places there just wont be any horney women no matter how good your profile is

as he said effort been the word, effort in reward out, put the effort in to put yourself to the top of that pile then that ratio of men to women doesnt come into play, and if your willing to travel then where you live isnt as big a factor as you make out either, again its back to that word, how much effort someone is willing to put in to be successful, its down to the individual, sit back and hope something lands your way, or put the effort in, get out there and make it happen.Yes just what you said and I did, if your willing to travel, seen few travel over 200miles for a meet, that is just to far, rather wait for someone local lol."

and thats your choice, but those that do choose to travel will get more meets, from experience people do travel large distances after striking up friendships online to meet people, but more local meets are fun too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send many messages out anymore,

I don't just send them out to anyone just the ones I really want to meet and 90% don't respond, I haven't got the time to attend many clubs and I would only go for a pre arranged social/meet anyway,

I will travel as I would just book a hotel for the night but only if they are willing to chat on here as I would like to get to know them a little before I went, Not many people that I have messaged like to chat for a few weeks to see if there is any sort of connection,

And as for excepting friends I usually remove them after awhile if they don't chat or only give one word replies to my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mean to come across as a negative person am just being honest,

In fact am going to put what I said on my profile

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The advice unleashedcracken posted earlier is pretty much what I've been doing, and can confirm it works, in Ireland anyway!

Basically get out there and get seen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next up is add some pictures and not just cock pics! Some women like the surprise like unwrapping a gift at xmas besides they've all seen at least one and there's not much difference. Tease them with body pics, tight boxer shorts but if you wish to be discreet keep your face pic for friends."

The same could be said about pussy pics...you have a few of both on your profile to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The same could be said about pussy pics...you have a few of both on your profile to be fair."

We were offering constructive advice as we've seen profiles where the only pictures were cock pics all from different angles. What we have is 1 pussy pic and 3 cock pics where one shows torso as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same could be said about pussy pics...you have a few of both on your profile to be fair.

We were offering constructive advice as we've seen profiles where the only pictures were cock pics all from different angles. What we have is 1 pussy pic and 3 cock pics where one shows torso as well. "

The men your advice is aimed at will never accept or get it tbh those men that do are well verified can be found in clubs or on this forum so although kind of you to try I think you may be fighting a losing battle

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By *ubaMiamiMan
over a year ago

london

For all Master and Teachers

John 8: 1-7

"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


""Next up is add some pictures and not just cock pics! Some women like the surprise like unwrapping a gift at xmas besides they've all seen at least one and there's not much difference. Tease them with body pics, tight boxer shorts but if you wish to be discreet keep your face pic for friends."

The same could be said about pussy pics...you have a few of both on your profile to be fair."

I'm not so sure about that. I think guys' attitude to pussy pics is probably quite a bit different from gals attitude to cock pics.

That being said, as I was stuffing the turkey this Christmas, it did remind of some of the less well taken pussy pics I've seen on here. Sorry if that offends but it happens to be true.

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

Carshalton

Pussy pics do nothing for me, impersonal and meaningless without a face attached. In saying that a perfect 'homer' is a joy to look at

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"For all Master and Teachers

John 8: 1-7

"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.""

I think you have posted on the wrong thread lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For all Master and Teachers

John 8: 1-7

"If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.""

" mummy, put that brick down!"

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Cinnamon here and having been a single guy once on here know the frustrations you might feel but also being part of a couples account and been privy to gingers account think some of you are shooting yourself in the foot from the off.

You are the majority! There are more "single" men on here then there is single and attached females combined. To attract their attention you have to face stiff competition. So how do I do that I hear you ask?

With everything in life the more effort you put in the better the result.

When writing your profile "I'll fill this in later..." or "I like fucking...." is not going to cut it. Try to sell yourself more, describe yourself, what do you like and what your looking for. Try to be honest it might cost you meets from one section of the crowd yes but then there's others who you'd be just what their looking for. "

It does help those guys who put the effort in though when the lazy folk stand out so badly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The same day posted this did see at least 2 new posts from guys asking for help so seems some are too lazy to even read through the forums lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same day posted this did see at least 2 new posts from guys asking for help so seems some are too lazy to even read through the forums lol"

Sometime I think that's down to being new, not knowing how to search and they go straight to posting

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By *hatFellaNZMan
over a year ago

London

I like that you've taken the tine to post a well thought out and helpful topic subject. It can be a bit of a shit fight as a single man, ao thanks for sharing, its very cool of you.

I agree with the points you've raised and the fact that even following all of them guarantees absolutely nothing. I have to say based on my experience here, even taking the time to articulate a message that follows individual posters' rules, comments on specifics etc in 95% of cases results in nothing more than a deleted message and no response. But shit, that's life and noone owes me anything... If I want to get meets from the site, its a necessary downside.

One day...

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By *unduo000Couple
over a year ago

In and around


"Get involved, jump into the forums, visit a swingers club or go to a social. That way you can get to know more people and spark more interest in you. Even with a well worded message and a glowing profile you may still not hear back from people on here because single females can get around 100+ messages a day, couples not as much. If they don't answer they're not being rude just otherwise it becomes a full time job. I've seen days where as soon as ginger has read one message 3 new ones hsve arrived.

Patience is the key, it may take awhile before you arrange a meet. By that I mean longer then 2 weeks. Its a site for swingers yes but no where in the name does it mention sex so stop thinking that every conversation is going to end up with a sweaty fuck and relax.

I can't guarantee these tips will insure you get laid but they will improve your chances a hell of a lot more then a large percentage of guys on the site who don't read the forums and will continue sending out those one liners

Someone buy this lad a pint."

Wish more fellas would read this. Mrs D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost interest in the post early doors and i get meet fuck knows what others think but was like a school lesson.

Lighten up folk will complain about getting no meets regardless

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By *inkyminky69Man
over a year ago

Glasgow-ish

I found this thread most enlightening.

As someone who reads the posts regularly and has a great laugh doing it,

I have not actually contributed..... Until now.

Maybe a change of fortune is in store for me?

I might add, I am always polite when messaging and always send a decent length message with a face pic.

So let's see if it works over the next few weeks!

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