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No veries make it hard for people to trust I'm real! What do I do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone, I have messaged a few people on here but the replies I get usually say they are not interested because I'm a silver site supporter or that im not verified, any ideas? Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys on here are real - why would anyone fake being a single male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be an excuse to be fair? Sure it's not in that much doubt you're a male, maybe just less trustworthy in their eyes if you're not verified? I don't know what to suggest really, just keep positive and make good efforts. Good luck

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Try to get to some socials or clubs. You will probably get verified and may even get to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It may be an excuse to be fair? Sure it's not in that much doubt you're a male, maybe just less trustworthy in their eyes if you're not verified? I don't know what to suggest really, just keep positive and make good efforts. Good luck "

Thanks, I'm trying ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try to get to some socials or clubs. You will probably get verified and may even get to play "

I have never been to one so wouldn't know where to start with that, I wouldn't say I was confident enough to just turn up to a club meet, thanks for the advice though

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Go on cam and get verified that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try to get to some socials or clubs. You will probably get verified and may even get to play

I have never been to one so wouldn't know where to start with that, I wouldn't say I was confident enough to just turn up to a club meet, thanks for the advice though "

Keep your eye on the social meets on the forums, ask for an invite, if your lucky to get one, ask on the forum if there is anyone going who would like to have drinks beforehand to settle your nerves.

Also, if your too nervous for a social, what would you be like for an actual sexual meet...? Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cam verifications are not going to get you far...again just proves your male....no shortage of them.

Don't go assuming a "club meet" as you have put it...just go to a club and mingle. Introduce yourself...by fab name. If a "meet" occurs then bonus...just put yourself out there and good luck.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Most guys on here are real - why would anyone fake being a single male?"

Get to a social or party. That'll help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me about 7 months to get a meet and that wad over 2 years ago now but i just go with flow now and have a chat and a laugh if a meet comes along then happy days but if you are just on here to get a quick fuck then GOOD LUCK mate

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Get yourself to an organised social. I noticed you are in Buxton, that's Derbyshire right? Look out for socials at the attic in Derby City centre. They are very well attended and once there you can just meet people with no pressure to anything other that just chat. Once there, if you feel comfortable and meet someone you like, you may even play.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep plugging away x and yes get to a social.best way to make that personal connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I have messaged a few people on here but the replies I get usually say they are not interested because I'm a silver site supporter or that im not verified, any ideas? Thanks! "

Get on a webcam and aim to talk to people with 20+ veris. They will be happy to verify you.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Hi everyone, I have messaged a few people on here but the replies I get usually say they are not interested because I'm a silver site supporter or that im not verified, any ideas? Thanks!

Get on a webcam and aim to talk to people with 20+ veris. They will be happy to verify you."

I take no notice of webcam verifications. Yes it proves the person is a person but it doesn't mean they will turn up for a meet.

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By *airy_HettyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Well veri means shit all with re to a person turning up, if we are being honest about it! Lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Well veri means shit all with re to a person turning up, if we are being honest about it! Lol"

Well the very least that it clearly indicates is that he did turn up for those verified meets....

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

to be quite frank, the only veri that vaguely counts is one where you turned up and had some kind of play. The rest are just veris that say you exist - cams, socials, whatever.

It's the difference between a plumber being who he says he is, and being able to fix a drain.

So ignore all these people saying go on cam, go to a social - just keep sending nice polite emails with face pics that interest people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple before I had any veris. We got on well and I was flexible to their 'requirements' (time of meet and stuff) when we met they left me a Veri and that was that.

If people are saying they don't meet with any veris, I think that's their polite way of saying no (IME)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well veri means shit all with re to a person turning up, if we are being honest about it! Lol"

Here here. It's just a way of publicly displaying notches in your bed post. Reminds me of when I was teenager and my immature friends would keep a count of their sexual conquests. Some people just never grow up lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice everyone

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

If you're hung I'll met you and verify you; many young men tell me the same thing - that they have no veris; feel so sorry for you

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I had 9 really good verifications till some of them left the site. Doesn't make any difference. You will be equally ignored verified or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try to get to some socials or clubs. You will probably get verified and may even get to play "

Great advice and one you need to follow

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I had 9 really good verifications till some of them left the site. Doesn't make any difference. You will be equally ignored verified or not."

Moany post are really not sexy! And very much a turn off to a persons personality!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I had 9 really good verifications till some of them left the site. Doesn't make any difference. You will be equally ignored verified or not."

Actually, verifications will make a difference, as it shows that you will actually turn up for a meet, something many people will not do unfortunately. Which is why we now stick to clubs.

It obviously doesn't guarantee getting a meet, but you've more chance of it happening if you're shown to be reliable.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"to be quite frank, the only veri that vaguely counts is one where you turned up and had some kind of play. The rest are just veris that say you exist - cams, socials, whatever.

It's the difference between a plumber being who he says he is, and being able to fix a drain.

So ignore all these people saying go on cam, go to a social - just keep sending nice polite emails with face pics that interest people."
Depends on how ya look at it I spose ! Some get out there and meet people . Which in turn opens many doors that otherwise wouldn't be opened sitting sending polite messages! its all out there! Oh yes indeedy! Lol

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I had 9 really good verifications till some of them left the site. Doesn't make any difference. You will be equally ignored verified or not.

Moany post are really not sexy! And very much a turn off to a persons personality! "
who's moaning? I am very satisfied. Just telling him what my experience is.

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