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By *ojo1964 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I have been on this website for over four years. In the past I have had several meets. But lately I have noticed that they are drying up.

Before we go on any further I would like to explain that I am disabled I am confined to a wheelchair with cerebral palsy, on my profile I explain all this using humour to get my point across, I explained that I have lost my job after 27 years I am completely independent and I live on my own Therefore I would like to invite anybody to take a look at my profile and please can anybody explain where am I going wrong?

I write to people whether their profiles say no picture no reply so therefore I always send a photograph hoping for a reply even if it says no-thank-you. I have noticed that I don't get a reply and also nobody tends to look at my profile. I would appreciate any input. Thank you in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile starts off in a slighy negative vein, talking about folk wanting you off fab......scrap that and get positive. Search the forums on the same subject....loads of stuff there.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The update bit is very negative and so is the part about being made redundant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a look at your profile and see you've taken on board others advice already. Thats a good start. The only part I would potentially change is:

"now listen my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine, which is what counts for all you lovely sexy ladies."

I can see you're trying to get the humour in but not all women would agree with the latter part and it may put them off. You could just keep it as "my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine".

Also upload a few more pics, especially some showing you to be happy & smiling.

I think it is partly just a case of the site is getting more popular and it's harder for single males in general as there's so many. You can't blame women and couples for being sceptical of new males, especially when unverified, as so many give us all a bad name. I have been on here before and had meets and wish I'd just hidden the profile to keep my verifications. So don't get too downhearted, keep having a go and be positive and polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The update bit is very negative and so is the part about being made redundant

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look out the sheep is back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a look at your profile and see you've taken on board others advice already. Thats a good start. The only part I would potentially change is:

"now listen my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine, which is what counts for all you lovely sexy ladies."

I can see you're trying to get the humour in but not all women would agree with the latter part and it may put them off. You could just keep it as "my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine".

Also upload a few more pics, especially some showing you to be happy & smiling.

I think it is partly just a case of the site is getting more popular and it's harder for single males in general as there's so many. You can't blame women and couples for being sceptical of new males, especially when unverified, as so many give us all a bad name. I have been on here before and had meets and wish I'd just hidden the profile to keep my verifications. So don't get too downhearted, keep having a go and be positive and polite."
This!

And your new profile text is great!

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts


"I've had a look at your profile and see you've taken on board others advice already. Thats a good start. The only part I would potentially change is:

"now listen my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine, which is what counts for all you lovely sexy ladies."

I can see you're trying to get the humour in but not all women would agree with the latter part and it may put them off. You could just keep it as "my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine".

Also upload a few more pics, especially some showing you to be happy & smiling.

I think it is partly just a case of the site is getting more popular and it's harder for single males in general as there's so many. You can't blame women and couples for being sceptical of new males, especially when unverified, as so many give us all a bad name. I have been on here before and had meets and wish I'd just hidden the profile to keep my verifications. So don't get too downhearted, keep having a go and be positive and polite."

The advice was brilliant and even though I'm not looking for single men you came across as such a nice person , hope it's done something for you both .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a look at your profile and see you've taken on board others advice already. Thats a good start. The only part I would potentially change is:

"now listen my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine, which is what counts for all you lovely sexy ladies."

I can see you're trying to get the humour in but not all women would agree with the latter part and it may put them off. You could just keep it as "my legs don't work too well but my third and middle leg is perfectly fine".

Also upload a few more pics, especially some showing you to be happy & smiling.

I think it is partly just a case of the site is getting more popular and it's harder for single males in general as there's so many. You can't blame women and couples for being sceptical of new males, especially when unverified, as so many give us all a bad name. I have been on here before and had meets and wish I'd just hidden the profile to keep my verifications. So don't get too downhearted, keep having a go and be positive and polite.

The advice was brilliant and even though I'm not looking for single men you came across as such a nice person , hope it's done something for you both . "

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By *ojo1964 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I will give you an instant out what has happened today.

I wrote to somebody last night and this morning I had a reply back agreeing that we would meet for a coffee she had my mobile number in my address. And we agreed to meet next week because I was rather busy this week and she was as well. So this afternoon after I got back home I write to see if she had a good day.

I was just checking my messages to see if I had a reply and I found out that she has now block me and I can't get in touch with her. So please tell me where am I going wrong?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You didn't do anything wrong. These things happen. Frustrating perhaps, but don't let experiences like this affect your enjoyment of the site

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By *ojo1964 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I know that but it's been nearly a year since I met somebody off the site so therefore I was really looking forward to it. So now I feel like a balloon that's been Deflated.

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

It's very hard to make cyber meets and friends.. You need to be verified for the true person you are ..

You have to understand also that swinging is fickle

True swingers are not, but Cyber swing sites have only small percentage genuine.

Hot young bucks do best.. As do milfs.. That's the main catchment area.

I never used to get messages 6 years ago. So joint chat room s and attended socials when I was a member of another site..

I find fabs does attract a lot of people without manners .

The question is not what you are doing wrong ? But what so you want from this lifestyle?

If it's friends and a social life which may lead to sexual meets then start attending events ..

If it's for pure sex you may find just being a single guy Makes it very difficult on here.. It's a very confidence knocking site for sure

Keep positive and use it for fun ... I've heard POF better for sex meets anyway lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and as well depending on where you live will play huge factors as well if you find anyone, unles you want to travel 200miles or more maibe.

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By *ojo1964 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The trouble is most social meets around birmingham are inaccessible because I'm in a wheelchair. Might try POF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will give you an instant out what has happened today.

I wrote to somebody last night and this morning I had a reply back agreeing that we would meet for a coffee she had my mobile number in my address. And we agreed to meet next week because I was rather busy this week and she was as well. So this afternoon after I got back home I write to see if she had a good day.

I was just checking my messages to see if I had a reply and I found out that she has now block me and I can't get in touch with her. So please tell me where am I going wrong?"

It happens to us all. So try not to take it personally.

I had a similar scenario the other night where I arranged a spontaneous meet with a couple who are vastly verified. I gave them my mobile number as requested and went off to shower.

10 minutes later I returned to find a message from them asking to be friends so they could see even more pictures of me (I had already sent several). I went to reply and found they had blocked me.

So in that 10 minute time frame we agreed a meet, I gave them my mobile and still got blocked.

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