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Struggling to get meets

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Hey were struggling to actually get meets, let alone play! Any suggestions, fab tips? Xx

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Having read your profile & this is only my opinion but I don't find it at all attractive. To me you don't come across as welcoming, relaxed or fun.

Sorry guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not alone on this one lol we been let down so many times usually single guys that are veries swapped numbers and then go cold what's a couple to do ,as for finding a couple you both like is very difficult also good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read your profile & this is only my opinion but I don't find it at all attractive. To me you don't come across as welcoming, relaxed or fun.

Sorry guys x"
totally agree Need to chill out and add a bit of humour. It seems to be all about getting a single lady. Not a couple

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Hey! Take comments on board, how to change our profile? Hmm I didn't think it was that bad ??

We are friendly and fun... Promise xx

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

We started looking for a single lady but now far more into couples lol... Redraft coming up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, we're at a total loss as to why you guys don't get meets, as your profile is good. Surely you must get loads of people contacting you, so maybe it's how you come across in your initial messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey! Take comments on board, how to change our profile? Hmm I didn't think it was that bad ??

We are friendly and fun... Promise xx"
I am sure you are both lovely and fun. But you need to get that across in your text. Good luck to you both xx

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

We actually don't get any messages from new people at all lol

Redraft done, hope it's better n not worse lol xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We actually don't get any messages from new people at all lol

Redraft done, hope it's better n not worse lol xx"

do you message people?

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By *esi tardkaCouple
over a year ago

acton

You will need to put some face pics on your profile .. Lol

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Quite often! Just hard to get a meet! Once we meet its always a late night lol xx

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent

Mrs w is nervous of being recognised by work colleagues lol... Love your pics btw xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Quite often! Just hard to get a meet! Once we meet its always a late night lol xx"

Is that in answer to me? Use the reply+quote we'll know who you're talking to then.

I'm stumped then because you're half our age but we could be out meeting every night if we had the energy . I can't see that your profile is any worse than lots and its quite a bit better than many.

Maybe things will improve now you've started posting in the forums, good luck

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"Quite often! Just hard to get a meet! Once we meet its always a late night lol xx

Is that in answer to me? Use the reply+quote we'll know who you're talking to then.

I'm stumped then because you're half our age but we could be out meeting every night if we had the energy . I can't see that your profile is any worse than lots and its quite a bit better than many"

Aha! Got it! Posted some meets and redone profile text, some new pics tomorrow and fingers crossed! Thanks xx

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

just keep trying

you youngsters are so inpatient

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By *anderlustcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Kent


"just keep trying

you youngsters are so inpatient"

3 months and still no full swap lol, I think that's a little patience xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"just keep trying

you youngsters are so inpatient

3 months and still no full swap lol, I think that's a little patience xx"

some single men take three years!

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By *esi tardkaCouple
over a year ago

acton

Everyone who visits fabswingers have some interest in this lifestyle .. We love to be recognised but till now no one lol .. We even posted where she works ,. Thou she a stripper lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey were struggling to actually get meets, let alone play! Any suggestions, fab tips? Xx"

Your profile reads a bit like an advert for a used car!

It also comes across as mildly desperate given that you've had no luck in meeting anyone for such a long time.

Why is that though? Surely it can't just be because of your profile wording? Meeting other couples as a couple can be really tricky if you're looking for a perfect fit based on chatting on a site like this - have you considered meeting people at parties and connecting with more people that way?

Meeting at a party, or club will give you a better idea of the people as you're 'in the flesh' and not just words on a screen.

I would certainly chill your profile out a bit too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally quite like your profile. You do come across as a sexy and interesting couple. Maybe it's the location?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 people who fancy each other, 4 people who click, 4 people who want the same things....all at the same time can be a very difficult thing to pull-off if you're very specific about it.

Location is a good point too.

I reckon a party or club is your best bet, and best way to get to know more people face to face

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Have you considered popping up to eurekas for a night out? It's much easier to get your personalities across face to face than by message. Even if you don't play there you can network a bit and maybe get some friends for future meets/parties etc x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you considered popping up to eurekas for a night out? It's much easier to get your personalities across face to face than by message. Even if you don't play there you can network a bit and maybe get some friends for future meets/parties etc x"

Oh it's you again hottie bottie....always agreeing with me on something!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Have you considered popping up to eurekas for a night out? It's much easier to get your personalities across face to face than by message. Even if you don't play there you can network a bit and maybe get some friends for future meets/parties etc x

Oh it's you again hottie bottie....always agreeing with me on something!"

I hasn't read all the replies before I posted. But yeah. It seems we agree on this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you considered popping up to eurekas for a night out? It's much easier to get your personalities across face to face than by message. Even if you don't play there you can network a bit and maybe get some friends for future meets/parties etc x

Oh it's you again hottie bottie....always agreeing with me on something!

I hasn't read all the replies before I posted. But yeah. It seems we agree on this one!"

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We love the look of your profile! Obviously this is since you had a re-write I guess.

If we were closer we'd contact you off your profile and hope to lead that to a meet further down the road. Shame you are so far away!

We get 90% of our meets from club meets there are a lot of fake, time wasters on the Internet. In a club enviroment it's much easier to meet genuine people and it's face to face... Much easier.

Nerves are perfectly natural, just have to jump in with both feet

We'll be at Swingfields and VA's Festival of fun next year....

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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Just seen you guys on cam ....and cant believe your struggling for meets!

A great looking couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey were struggling to actually get meets, let alone play! Any suggestions, fab tips? Xx"

We are feeling your pain x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two meets in three months is not a bad start, especially as you are only looking for couples and women up to 35.

Your profile seems fine to meet.

Just be patient. One meet a month to begin with is fine and it might snowball from there.

Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single women have problems meeting too (although my marital status and lack of accommodation is offputting I know)

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