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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey now this might be a weird one for here but considering everyone on here has sex and there's plenty of women it's worth a shot, basically I'm worried about sex after my mrs has given birth, is she gonna enjoy it the same? I haven't exactly got a small dick, probably 7 ish and quite girthy but I'm worried I won't please her the same way!? Anybody have any experience I'd appreciate your input, I look forward to all the sarcastic comments too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after she has given birth, she will, within a few months usually be fine and back to similar, however, if she does need something bigger, let her set her own profile up on here to find someone that can

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"after she has given birth, she will, within a few months usually be fine and back to similar, however, if she does need something bigger, let her set her own profile up on here to find someone that can "

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I doubt it will feel any different after a while as it will go back to normal. It doesn't stay the same size as when the baby pops out!! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"after she has given birth, she will, within a few months usually be fine and back to similar, however, if she does need something bigger, let her set her own profile up on here to find someone that can "

Yeh been trying to talk her into this for a while, maybe have more luck now lol, well defo be calling upon you too if that's the case!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I doubt it will feel any different after a while as it will go back to normal. It doesn't stay the same size as when the baby pops out!! Lol."

Yeh even bows she tighten up and its only a month or so, feels amazing to me but I suppose if she's buggerd any nerves up they will take time to heal

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

It might take a little while (a few months) to settle down and heal up, but it will be back to normal after that.

You might only get as far as sex every few weeks, but when you do it'll be fantastic. Assuming either of you are awake. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might take a little while (a few months) to settle down and heal up, but it will be back to normal after that.

You might only get as far as sex every few weeks, but when you do it'll be fantastic. Assuming either of you are awake. Good luck!"

How true is this! At this stage in the game were both asleep befor out head hits the pillow! So both gonna be far too tired for any hanky panky.... Maybe when he's about 16 stopping at their mates house we might just manage to hit it off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might take a little while (a few months) to settle down and heal up, but it will be back to normal after that.

You might only get as far as sex every few weeks, but when you do it'll be fantastic. Assuming either of you are awake. Good luck!

How true is this! At this stage in the game were both asleep befor out head hits the pillow! So both gonna be far too tired for any hanky panky.... Maybe when he's about 16 stopping at their mates house we might just manage to hit it off! "

did you say she was 1 month in or 1 month to go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She will get back to normal down there . After i had my boys i started having sex about 5/6 weeks .it depends if she had grazing/cuts or stitches. If shes worried about not being tight enough there is pelvic floor excersizes that helps tighten the muscles up. Also a good excuse for anal lol

maybe try pamper her hot baths ,massages .even little things like a kiss on the head .a hug tell her you love her.tell her she is amazing and beautiful .. i know all i wanted after i had my babies i just wanted to feel loved and appreciated .. but every woman is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've had him one month lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She will get back to normal down there . After i had my boys i started having sex about 5/6 weeks .it depends if she had grazing/cuts or stitches. If shes worried about not being tight enough there is pelvic floor excersizes that helps tighten the muscles up. Also a good excuse for anal lol

maybe try pamper her hot baths ,massages .even little things like a kiss on the head .a hug tell her you love her.tell her she is amazing and beautiful .. i know all i wanted after i had my babies i just wanted to feel loved and appreciated .. but every woman is different "

Thanks, yeh I've been doing all that and more, didn't wanna sound like I've just tried getting back to fucking her hard and raw a month after lol, she had plenty of oral of off me and seems to enjoy that as she did befor if not more so now! She tore so I do understand there's some healing still to do, she's doing really well tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol "

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!"

The op didn't say that? Seems he's Just wondering if she'll change much down below. The answer op is that if she does her pelvic floor exercises frequently then she should soon return to her pre-baby tightness. I've had a 7lb, 9lb and a 10lb baby but apparently I feel like i've never had kids. She should be doing them at least half a dozen times a day op -and she should soon be able to grip a finger again - so imagine what she can do to your willy!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

The op didn't say that? Seems he's Just wondering if she'll change much down below. The answer op is that if she does her pelvic floor exercises frequently then she should soon return to her pre-baby tightness. I've had a 7lb, 9lb and a 10lb baby but apparently I feel like i've never had kids. She should be doing them at least half a dozen times a day op -and she should soon be able to grip a finger again - so imagine what she can do to your willy!! "

Thanks for that, as you said that isn't my intention, just wanted the advice of some women/men in a similar situation, so gratefully for you for sticking up for me! I'm sure plenty of blokes have been in my position and I'm just fortunate to have a bunch of nice people I can ask the advice of! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

The op didn't say that? Seems he's Just wondering if she'll change much down below. The answer op is that if she does her pelvic floor exercises frequently then she should soon return to her pre-baby tightness. I've had a 7lb, 9lb and a 10lb baby but apparently I feel like i've never had kids. She should be doing them at least half a dozen times a day op -and she should soon be able to grip a finger again - so imagine what she can do to your willy!!

Thanks for that, as you said that isn't my intention, just wanted the advice of some women/men in a similar situation, so gratefully for you for sticking up for me! I'm sure plenty of blokes have been in my position and I'm just fortunate to have a bunch of nice people I can ask the advice of! X"

You're welcome hun. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!"

No he's swinging as a single male. No mention of the wife on his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey now this might be a weird one for here but considering everyone on here has sex and there's plenty of women it's worth a shot, basically I'm worried about sex after my mrs has given birth, is she gonna enjoy it the same? I haven't exactly got a small dick, probably 7 ish and quite girthy but I'm worried I won't please her the same way!? Anybody have any experience I'd appreciate your input, I look forward to all the sarcastic comments too "

I don't know what pages you have been goggling or what porn you have been looking at but having a baby doesn't automatic leave a woman with a gaping cunt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

No he's swinging as a single male. No mention of the wife on his profile."

Sorry is this a dig or are you being supportive? Can't quite work it out? Sorry if you didn't mean it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

R u serious?...your wifes just had a baby n your worried about how slack her pussy will be?!...why worry your looking for other pussy anyway!...ffs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

No he's swinging as a single male. No mention of the wife on his profile.

Sorry is this a dig or are you being supportive? Can't quite work it out? Sorry if you didn't mean it that way "

Don't think its a dig think its FACT that you are saying things about your wife but nothing in your profile states you have one...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right lets get one thing straight, did I say, my wife's had a baby will I be able to please her now she has a gaping cunt? Or " I am a gaping cunt and my wife just had a baby and won't come swinging with me, why is she such a gaping cunt?" Fact is when you've had a baby you often tear, you often fuck up nerves too, now I'm well aware that it's been a month and I'm not expecting miracles I was purely asking about other people's experiences, I'm on here as a single male to chat flirt and have the odd meet, which she is well aware of, hope this is all ok for those of you that have had your day ruined by me asking this question, next time I shal ask my mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should of asked your mum lol saves you getting your arse chewed off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Shit yeh, should of put that on here seeing as it's everyone business what position I'm in, or I could just tell the people I'm actually taking too the full story and not worry about everyone else, get a grip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe you should of asked your mum lol saves you getting your arse chewed off "

Nah she would give me much more of a ballocking that anyone would on here guarantied!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pelvic floor , pelvic floor and even more pelvic floor exercises will sort it out if no damage has been done !

Good luck with the baby x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pelvic floor , pelvic floor and even more pelvic floor exercises will sort it out if no damage has been done !

Good luck with the baby x "

Cheers! And yeh I'm sure she said that she had to do a few everytime she feeds him, I did honestly think that this was to stop her pissing her self lmao! But I take it it tightens things back up too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Look sorry if I'm getting arsey, don't mean anything by it, and everyone opinion is as valid as the next, just don't want people to get carried away thinking I'm a cunt ( or a gaping cunt )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look sorry if I'm getting arsey, don't mean anything by it, and everyone opinion is as valid as the next, just don't want people to get carried away thinking I'm a cunt ( or a gaping cunt ) "

regardless of your marital status and even the topic of your post, just remember that the forums are a place of opinions and right, wrong or undecided you will usually find others will not always be the same as yours

don't let it wind you up and try to enjoy your time on here

and that's not us trying to be anything other than helpful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look sorry if I'm getting arsey, don't mean anything by it, and everyone opinion is as valid as the next, just don't want people to get carried away thinking I'm a cunt ( or a gaping cunt )

regardless of your marital status and even the topic of your post, just remember that the forums are a place of opinions and right, wrong or undecided you will usually find others will not always be the same as yours

don't let it wind you up and try to enjoy your time on here

and that's not us trying to be anything other than helpful "

Yeh thanks, sort of what the apology was about didn't mean to get defensive, just got a little carried away with myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had him one month lol

Your baby is a month old and you are thinking about taking your wife swinging?!

No he's swinging as a single male. No mention of the wife on his profile.

Sorry is this a dig or are you being supportive? Can't quite work it out? Sorry if you didn't mean it that way "

I am stating a fact. You have a single male profile. No mention of your wife yet you are asking for advice about her. Does your wife know about your profile? Are you swinging as a couple or not. Neither a dig nor being supportive just stating fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Love a good fact me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a good fact me! "

Bet she hasnt got a clue your on here...hhmmmm?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

He has actually said that she is aware that he is on here

Anyway, op, congratulations to you and your lady on the birth of the little one, hope everything is going ok. You are bound to have questions about your wifes body after her first child...just be guided by her, give her lots of love and cuddles. No need for anyone to bring this to the level of 'gaping cunts' , he only asked a question ffs!

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Pelvic floor , pelvic floor and even more pelvic floor exercises will sort it out if no damage has been done !

Good luck with the baby x "

Agreed

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Interesting replies, form a man's point of view I found my wife wanted sex pre delivery to start the birthing procedure off and was ready for sex the day after birth.

Not rough wild sex but gentle sensual lovemaking full penetration.

Did she enjoy it the same? Yes possibly even more.

Did I enjoy it the same no , it was even more enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was up for it exactly 7 days after the birth. I on the other hand was fucking traumatised and would happily have gone without for a few months.

John

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Op. I've got a two year old. I can tell you that they ate the best form of contraception you will find..... If they let you sleep sex is off, and just as you think they are.....you get intimate and then feel eyes on you......and yep there he is watching. (he shares our room as space is limited)..

Nanny will become your best friend when she wants to have him over for a few hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was left with scarring after my 3 births. With the last,who was over 9lb I tore and was sore for a good couple of months after and as a result I don't stretch very well. She will have been given exercises to do,just use your common sense and let her tell you what she's ready for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"after she has given birth, she will, within a few months usually be fine and back to similar, however, if she does need something bigger, let her set her own profile up on here to find someone that can "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies if this feels like I'm opening an old wound but I'm just curious. You've got a single male profile on here which you say your wife knows about... and that she knows about your meets and she's ok with that. I'm not gonna question that... I'll take your word for it. But it does sound like an unusual set up. How did you arrive at that? And does it work ok for you or do you feel it puts a bit of pressure on your relationship?

Sorry to pry but it's always fascinating when we come across people who have a very different set up from ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She will get back to normal down there . After i had my boys i started having sex about 5/6 weeks .it depends if she had grazing/cuts or stitches. If shes worried about not being tight enough there is pelvic floor excersizes that helps tighten the muscles up. Also a good excuse for anal lol

maybe try pamper her hot baths ,massages .even little things like a kiss on the head .a hug tell her you love her.tell her she is amazing and beautiful .. i know all i wanted after i had my babies i just wanted to feel loved and appreciated .. but every woman is different "
I agree that's what the lady's need

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By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

Assuming this is your first child it does amuse is that with all the joys of having a child your more interested in getting your end away ASAP. Personally I'd be taking a break from swinging an enjoy being a new dad. As for will it be any different? Every woman's different an heals in different ways, but highly unlikely you'll notice, if you do then your thinking about the wrong things while having sex, an that's where future issues will occur.

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES


"My ex was up for it exactly 7 days after the birth. I on the other hand was fucking traumatised and would happily have gone without for a few months.

John"

Goodness, I thought I was keen waiting 11 days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"R u serious?...your wifes just had a baby n your worried about how slack her pussy will be?!...why worry your looking for other pussy anyway!...ffs!!"
He did NOT say that! Be nice now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He has actually said that she is aware that he is on here

Anyway, op, congratulations to you and your lady on the birth of the little one, hope everything is going ok. You are bound to have questions about your wifes body after her first child...just be guided by her, give her lots of love and cuddles. No need for anyone to bring this to the level of 'gaping cunts' , he only asked a question ffs! "


"Interesting replies, form a man's point of view I found my wife wanted sex pre delivery to start the birthing procedure off and was ready for sex the day after birth.

Not rough wild sex but gentle sensual lovemaking full penetration.

Did she enjoy it the same? Yes possibly even more.

Did I enjoy it the same no , it was even more enjoyable."

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

I have to say I have 3 children now and 2 of them were big baby's . I tore with all 3 and had to have a lot of stitches . My ex was there at the birth and I have to say we were both put off sex for 4/5 months . After that when we started to have sex he used to joke that they had stiched me to tight . I used to think he was joking but since we have split most of my sexual partners have said the same thing .

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