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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I'm sending out many messages to people in my search criteria. Single women and couples 30 miles distance.

Most are left yellow unread.

Rge rest don't reply

How can. I get noticed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex change?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Widen your search and keep at it. It's a numbers game both in terms of effort and competition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My criteria is broad.

I have messaged almost every one

Obviously exceptions in looking for bbc etc

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Patience is a virtue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a female on here who has over 1000 messages unread in her inbox so lots go unread on this site its only by chance u get a reply if ur lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ditch the superman underwear there for kids

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pant gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have 5 meets in 2 months!!; that's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

I'm sending out many messages to people in my search criteria. Single women and couples 30 miles distance.

Most are left yellow unread.

Rge rest don't reply

How can. I get noticed? "

I have had the same problem so decided best way was to attend local social events- at least that way the organisers have to reply to invite you and that acts as an icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

I'm sending out many messages to people in my search criteria. Single women and couples 30 miles distance.

Most are left yellow unread.

Rge rest don't reply

How can. I get noticed?

I have had the same problem so decided best way was to attend local social events- at least that way the organisers have to reply to invite you and that acts as an icebreaker "

This is what you need to do

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see... my question would be if you messagesd everyone... why did you think "blanket bombing" everyone would be a good approach???

I think most of the people who ask for replies as to why they are not doing well are actually missing the point..

its not a case of trying to appeal to everyone..... the more you do that, the more generic and bland it becomes, the more "you" you actually lose....

you are never going to appeal to everyone... so why tried hard to.. thats a case of wasted time and effort.. and creates all the angst you see...

don't have to be mr popular to the massses... just to a select few

it is more a case of being more specific and showing those people what you have individually that makes you different......

but yes... clubs and social are a brilliant way of showing just how individual you are compared to others...... you get to stand out on your own merits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont blanket bomb with copy and paste.

My messages are wrote individually to each person

I try to incorporate there profile and pics if they have any.

Don't wish to appeal to the masses, but not even a select few has replied.

All the disingenuous ones ruin it for us genuine guys

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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All the disingenuous ones ruin it for us genuine guys "

nobody ruins it for anyone else.... thats the kop out "phrase of the month" i hate...

you don't dictate my success or otherwise... I don't dictate yours....

the site gives you the tools to make it work... you will near a myriad of clubs... and there are plentiful socials normally in and around you..... take advantage of them....

the profiles/site is only one part of the jigsaw....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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All the disingenuous ones ruin it for us genuine guys "

Wrong, the genuine ones are the ones that will stand out. People only ruin things for themselves and not for anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True

But if ur face doesn't fit and women are not attracted to you. Regardless of tools and wat you write in ur messages, it feels like flogging a dead horse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True

But if ur face doesn't fit and women are not attracted to you. Regardless of tools and wat you write in ur messages, it feels like flogging a dead horse "

well if the women are not attracted to you then I'm unsure what your expectations are. That comment is a bit different to your OP where you said you weren't getting replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, your replies to messages are a little unenthusiastic, you dont need to be like a giddy kid but a little effort goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My criteria is broad.

I have messaged almost every one

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Haven't even looked at your profile but i suspect this post is your answer.

Most women can tell the difference between someone whi wants to get laid and someone who wants to meet them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My criteria is broad.

I have messaged almost every one

Haven't even looked at your profile but i suspect this post is your answer.

Most women can tell the difference between someone whi wants to get laid and someone who wants to meet them"

Surely one has to meet to get laid.

My profile states I'm not looking for one offs.

Sometimes to build a friendship with and get to know.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Some people reply, some don't, no matter what is in the mail. Concentrate on any replies you do get rather than the ones you don't.

If you accept this happens you will enjoy the site better.

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