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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi

if I write to someone and my message gets deleted I take this as a "no thanks".

no problems with that! good to know.

but it happens to me that I write to someone who is online very often and my message is still unread.

one would expect that messages that are obviously not interesting would be deleted.

why do they keep them?

just wondering. just doesn't make sense to me. and it leaves me clueless.

bee xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 323 unread at the moment, I'm trying to get through them but it's not easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they haven't got round to reading them?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Because I am lazy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok.

not sure about that. but ok, I could look at that way.

I just might not be interested anymore in a few years. :D

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Because I am lazy! "

Me too

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have 87 unread at the moment. I tend to go through them once a week or so when I've got uninterrupted laptop time rather than on my phone and the risk of cock handed thumbs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got 0 messages and 0 unread lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

:D

omg. di I have to worry because we don't get 300 messages a day? :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 4 unread messages which are pages down by now. I will have to delete newer messages to get to them. I will get around to it eventually

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"hi

if I write to someone and my message gets deleted I take this as a "no thanks".

no problems with that! good to know.

but it happens to me that I write to someone who is online very often and my message is still unread.

one would expect that messages that are obviously not interesting would be deleted.

why do they keep them?

just wondering. just doesn't make sense to me. and it leaves me clueless.

bee xx"

they can be read without you noticing....

if i want someone to know its been read i'll let them know...

however.. micromanaging how others use the site is one of the least attractive traits.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am inly asking.

and I don't have an issue if you don't find that attractive.

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover


"I have 323 unread at the moment, I'm trying to get through them but it's not easy. "

Swinger girl I grew up just off Bedford hill and spent a lot of my childhood on tooting bec common. ??

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover

I get 1 message every 3 days... I might save it till the weekend also... then I'll look popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i'm interested in talking to someone but not got time then i'll keep the message for later, but it has got to about 2 weeks before i delete them coz i think i left it a bit late to reply.

So possibly they're interested and intend to reply later? I instantly delete anyone i'm not interested in, sometimes block if i didn't like them at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If i'm interested in talking to someone but not got time then i'll keep the message for later, but it has got to about 2 weeks before i delete them coz i think i left it a bit late to reply.

So possibly they're interested and intend to reply later? I instantly delete anyone i'm not interested in, sometimes block if i didn't like them at all.

"

no, this is not the problem. you read them.

but I am talking about not reading messages and keep them.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Have you messaged them previously? If so then I think they can read a new message from the thread of an old message if they are a site supporter.

Also they may be people that check out a profile before they decide if they are interested or not and have decided not but they just haven't bothered deleting the message unread. (I've not looked at your profile so no offence it's probably fine I'm just typing as I think)

Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks girls.

I got it. probably just too many messages and mine doesn't look interesting in the subject. and at rhe end the message falls over the edge.

makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 323 unread at the moment, I'm trying to get through them but it's not easy.

Swinger girl I grew up just off Bedford hill and spent a lot of my childhood on tooting bec common. ??"

Lucky, it's a nice area

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My main one's I haven't read are of the 'Hi, how are you variety' So I read the profile and if there is nothing of interest, I wont answer with 'I'm fine thanks, how are you'

So no effort in, I can't be arsed to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


":D

omg. di I have to worry because we don't get 300 messages a day? :D"

That's built up and because I had a meet posted. It's annoying though, just found a message from a major hottie in amongst all the 'want me dik?' messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My main one's I haven't read are of the 'Hi, how are you variety' So I read the profile and if there is nothing of interest, I wont answer with 'I'm fine thanks, how are you'

So no effort in, I can't be arsed to be honest "

how do you know that the messages are of that kind if you don't read them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just want a message boo hoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got 0 messages and 0 unread lol "

I'll have to send you one then Hun x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"My main one's I haven't read are of the 'Hi, how are you variety' So I read the profile and if there is nothing of interest, I wont answer with 'I'm fine thanks, how are you'

So no effort in, I can't be arsed to be honest

how do you know that the messages are of that kind if you don't read them? "

Trust me it is very easy to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got 0 messages and 0 unread lol

I'll have to send you one then Hun x "
Awww thanks hun yes, would be nice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok

I hope mine don't look like this from outside. because they aren't.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"ok

I hope mine don't look like this from outside. because they aren't.

"

In that case, put a very unique thing in the subject box...I always open those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be nice to get a message every now and again, let alone have enough to leave unread LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i'm interested in talking to someone but not got time then i'll keep the message for later, but it has got to about 2 weeks before i delete them coz i think i left it a bit late to reply.

So possibly they're interested and intend to reply later? I instantly delete anyone i'm not interested in, sometimes block if i didn't like them at all.

no, this is not the problem. you read them.

but I am talking about not reading messages and keep them. "

If I receive a message from someone who I want to spend some time replying to later then I leave them unread. Then I don't forget to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh! another thought.

interesting. thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 323 unread at the moment, I'm trying to get through them but it's not easy. "

Its a job in itself trying to work your way through that lot..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i'm interested in talking to someone but not got time then i'll keep the message for later, but it has got to about 2 weeks before i delete them coz i think i left it a bit late to reply.

So possibly they're interested and intend to reply later? I instantly delete anyone i'm not interested in, sometimes block if i didn't like them at all.

no, this is not the problem. you read them.

but I am talking about not reading messages and keep them. "

I don't read them though, you can see the picture and first bit of the message from your inbox so i get the gist of whether i like someone or not from that (i also look at the profile but they wouldn't know because i turned off that bit in settings about showing up in 'looked at me'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok.

not sure about that. but ok, I could look at that way.

I just might not be interested anymore in a few years. :D"
i don't see why people wouldn't reply you are hot shame im out of your age range

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By *he TrunkMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have 4 unread messages which are pages down by now. I will have to delete newer messages to get to them. I will get around to it eventually "

Just open any message and keep clicking the 'goto next unread' button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people keep worse things like ear wax and belly button fluff seen it on telly

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I have 323 unread at the moment, I'm trying to get through them but it's not easy. "

Any point in evening it up 324.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"people keep worse things like ear wax and belly button fluff seen it on telly "

PMSFL

And guess where I am again. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people keep worse things like ear wax and belly button fluff seen it on telly

PMSFL

And guess where I am again. LOL"

lol gonna have to keep an eye on you at the social i dont want to find you under my chair

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"people keep worse things like ear wax and belly button fluff seen it on telly

PMSFL

And guess where I am again. LOL

lol gonna have to keep an eye on you at the social i dont want to find you under my chair "

We could always sit on the same chair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 446 unread messages . Because I can't find time or effort to scroll thru them as these build up daily

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

I once had 3 unread messages. I think I took a screenshot of it

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By *inglecuckoldMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do prefer to see a deleted msg, however fab tells me if ive msged and not got a reply so don't mind it too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they drop out of the screen sometimes if you have a lot going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I am lazy! "

this lmao ppl are lazy. its very rarely personal

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