FabSwingers.com forum: Stood up.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry, this is a rant, but I am cold, horny and been stood up.

Arranged a meet with a verified couple, all good I thought. Was given directions to a safe area to meet, all seems legit at this point.

Detailed description of the lady and what she would be wearing, even got a "just saw you but was passed by work colleagues" message.

Then nothing.

So why oh why oh why did they either:

a. arrange the meet when they had no intention of meeting.

b. if they changed their mind, not have the courtesy to say so.

Yes they saw my face pic before arranging to meet. Had been chatting on and off all day, so everything seemed cool.

I know I should laugh it off, put it down to experience etc, but it has put me off "genuine" and verified couples.

Rant over.

Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people enjoy a laugh at others expense x

They're sods. They're loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a timewaster too last night said he got lost without his sat nav. Pull the other one got bells on it. Think of it more as a lucky escape x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you didn't travel far I went all the way to Glasgow for a woman I had known for 2.5 years and she didn't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a shame, I feel so bad for you. Maybe there should be a feedback system, like on ebay. You could have left them a negative feedback!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you are right! I don't normally meet couples, but I was hoping it would have gone well...

Hey ho, such is life on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a shame, I feel so bad for you. Maybe there should be a feedback system, like on ebay. You could have left them a negative feedback!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a shame, I feel so bad for you. Maybe there should be a feedback system, like on ebay. You could have left them a negative feedback!

Too easy to abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you are right! I don't normally meet couples, but I was hoping it would have gone well...

Hey ho, such is life on fab"
hugs sent x

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You can report them, on the report form one of the options is 'arranged to meet, didn't turn up'. Not sure how effective this is or what admin do about it tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least you didn't travel far I went all the way to Glasgow for a woman I had known for 2.5 years and she didn't show

That's flaming awful. Onwards and upwards!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe always meet for s coffee or in a bar first, then if they don't show, you can chill and have a drink anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows..."

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd certainly report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that..."

But you said the profile was verified?

Had you talked to her on the phone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that...

But you said the profile was verified?

Had you talked to her on the phone? "

That is where I went wrong, not getting a number and chatting first. Just very trusting I guess...

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Did you send them any face pics? if so they have no excuse of you were not what they were looking for, we only meet single guys and always get a face pic before arranging a social drink first and we don`t always assume the photo will be a recent one as a few have not been but we have never walked away without at least having a drink with who ever we are meeting . So as awful as it is getting stood up brush yourself down and get back on the bike it`s their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is why I don't meet any more. I've never had a bad experience but I've stopped meeting to reduce this kind of problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A verification isn't always enough. A verified profile, but none published, could be they verified themselves through another fake profile.

I always prefer profiles who actually show some verifications....then paper trail through to those profiles and see how genuine they are. It's a belt n braces approach ....but it usually works! It is why I display a large number of my verifications....no chance of being thought of as fake.

Better luck next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the wise words, I had sent a face pic so they knew what to expect.

I'll stick with my friends list for the forseeable future...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I don't travel far so if it happens its less than 2 miles to get home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been stood up by a couple myself was odd went from begging for me to come over to me being at the door wondering what had happened. Was a flat so couldn't buzz door as didn't know the number. Lesson learnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's any consolation Marmite my friend i've been 'stood up' a few times on here! Assuming they thought they wanted to swing but bottled at the last minute. Hence from now on i've had to state that guys must have several veris before i'll meet them. Hopefully that'll put the time-wasters off! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some right royal idiots about, like the chat and dare not carry on, why we always chat on cam face to face, then just meet half way for a drink. works well most of the time.. but yip we had idiots too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'll learn from it. Just that it is so rare for a couple to suggest a meet, I didn't show my usual caution. More fool me.

I have been stood up by couples twice, so perhaps I need to steer clear from now on?

But they are verified genuine, so it doesn't always offer a guarantee. lesson learnt.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Sorry, this is a rant, but I am cold, horny and been stood up.

Arranged a meet with a verified couple, all good I thought. Was given directions to a safe area to meet, all seems legit at this point.

Detailed description of the lady and what she would be wearing, even got a "just saw you but was passed by work colleagues" message.

Then nothing.

So why oh why oh why did they either:

a. arrange the meet when they had no intention of meeting.

b. if they changed their mind, not have the courtesy to say so.

Yes they saw my face pic before arranging to meet. Had been chatting on and off all day, so everything seemed cool.

I know I should laugh it off, put it down to experience etc, but it has put me off "genuine" and verified couples.

Rant over.

Sorry."

I always have a plan B!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

arranged to meet yesterday . went to address . no one in I went at the agreed time . sent message to say I was there . then user no longer on site message shown what a tosser be warned

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Karma perhaps? Ax

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that..."

Did you not speak to both of them on cam or phone before hand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll learn from it. Just that it is so rare for a couple to suggest a meet, I didn't show my usual caution. More fool me.

I have been stood up by couples twice, so perhaps I need to steer clear from now on?

But they are verified genuine, so it doesn't always offer a guarantee. lesson learnt."

Doesn't matter about what's in their past ?

Personal standards for being here should be the highest ? With people trusting others with their time and safe being ?

No one should ever treat anyone the way they wouldn't want to be tret themselves !

I'm sure there are loads out there who would love to have genuine ppl who they know would be there for them ?

Just finding the right ones I guess ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take notice of verifications. I've seen a fake single man with a webcam verification from a well verified couple on here.

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

hi all ...go back to the old system .....talk ..we have, no phone no meet policy ,it works both ways

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that...

Did you not speak to both of them on cam or phone before hand? "

Yes he did, the guy on the phone said 'here's me wife' then a high pitched voice came on saying 'I'm the wife how bigs ya cock, chuck' then on cam the guy was typing one handed and then looked a bit flushed and said 'I'll get me wife' then he heard shouting 'where are you, dear? It's mr Marmite' then she cane in with long blonde hair and sunglasses with a towel round her saying 'ooh! I just was in the shower how bigs ya cock' and then raced off to get her hubby again who rushed in and sat down and flung a towel from him and said 'what about it then, mate? Me and you? Oh yeah and her? Eh?'

And that was how it started......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens way too often to me! I agree about a proper feedback system as the verifications are optional whether you want then showing so you're only going to show good ones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least you didn't travel far I went all the way to Glasgow for a woman I had known for 2.5 years and she didn't show

WOW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, this is a rant, but I am cold, horny and been stood up.

Arranged a meet with a verified couple, all good I thought. Was given directions to a safe area to meet, all seems legit at this point.

Detailed description of the lady and what she would be wearing, even got a "just saw you but was passed by work colleagues" message.

Then nothing.

So why oh why oh why did they either:

a. arrange the meet when they had no intention of meeting.

b. if they changed their mind, not have the courtesy to say so.

Yes they saw my face pic before arranging to meet. Had been chatting on and off all day, so everything seemed cool.

I know I should laugh it off, put it down to experience etc, but it has put me off "genuine" and verified couples.

Rant over.

Sorry."

It was your fault obviously cos you're a single guy. Pfffft!!! Arseholes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always thought it was us single guys who were the fakes and no shows...

Maybe your couple was a single guy and he was sitting watching you

Didn't think of that...

Did you not speak to both of them on cam or phone before hand?

And that was how it started......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately in the sex game unreliability is all to common especially with women coz of their once a month ritual how many times c'mon give me 6 numbers between 1&49

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