FabSwingers.com forum: Making Contact

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some advice please folks. I've been on here for some time and not really made any contacts or had any meets. In genuinely single and from the beginning very open and honest along with trustworthy... Can any help me with some advice on how to get my profile views and start to enjoy life please.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't see anything really wrong to be honest. I know that isn't any help. Are you messaging people, striking up conversations in the forums, going to socials or clubs?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just messages to ladies on here really, I would like to experience a club but not got the bottle to do it on my own... I try to be different in my messages and not have the standard "Hi" type but a lot are just being deleted and I don't know what I'm doing wrong... It's knocking my confidence the longer I spend with no interest...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles fine pics are good.

But if it's not working simply nut up and go to a club and make some like minded friends. Clubs opened lots of doors for us in terms of party invites and making friends on the scene.

Hardest part is walking through the door the rest will come easy at a club. You are missing out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know, i see so many people and ladies who are really enjoying life on here. If like to think I'm one of the genuine hits on here but I'm getting no where...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just messages to ladies on here really, I would like to experience a club but not got the bottle to do it on my own... I try to be different in my messages and not have the standard "Hi" type but a lot are just being deleted and I don't know what I'm doing wrong... It's knocking my confidence the longer I spend with no interest..."

If it's knocking your confidence it's time to step away. This simply isn't worth damaging your self esteem over.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, i see so many people and ladies who are really enjoying life on here. If like to think I'm one of the genuine hits on here but I'm getting no where...

You are very close to some excellent clubs. You are missing out on a great lifestyle and the chance to show your decent by not simply making a quick phonecall to a club and then going along.

The only thing stopping you is you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, i see so many people and ladies who are really enjoying life on here. If like to think I'm one of the genuine hits on here but I'm getting no where...

Your profile is unclear whether you're a smoker or non smoker and it reads rather like you're looking for a life partner...other than that, get yourself out there to socials and clubs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles fine pics are good.

But if it's not working simply nut up and go to a club and make some like minded friends. Clubs opened lots of doors for us in terms of party invites and making friends on the scene.

Hardest part is walking through the door the rest will come easy at a club. You are missing out. "

agree babe. Even if u go to a club and don't play this will help u to get ur confidence. Xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about when I message, what is the right way to go about showing interest in a lady...??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What about when I message, what is the right way to go about showing interest in a lady...??"

I always say "show us ya flange, slutty" which shows interest.

Your profile is good, but not much of your personality is coming out. How about going to a social? I've never been to a club but if I was allowed (waiting lists etc) I'd walk through the door, pay me pennies, get a towel and key, get changed, walk in and say loudly 'anyone from fab?' and see what happens. Might be a very short visit as I get hoofed out, no one might say anything, in which case I'd go up to someone and introduce myself or someone might shout 'yes, us! Come and chat' or someone might say 'yes, but if you're BrightonSteve, fuck off an stay in Brighton'.......so many possibilities, going to a social or club.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You are very close to Atlantis....get yourself there on a Friday night, not with a view to playing but just to socialise with like minded people and if anything else happens then it's a bonus. You will be made very welcome, you will meet some great people!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I think your profile goes from great to oh god, from top to bottom.

text is great.

silly warning is silly. it has no effect and many see it as an idiot filter.

so many cock pics, major turn off.

face pics are good, but the face pics are not flattering, sorry.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great name by the (mark) way you just gotta keep plugging away with the messages very time consuming and frustrating coz most don't get read or answered but their are some lovely women on here a few weird and rude ones chief executive and Irish in London but good luck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

that said, star wars pic = + 100000000

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles fine pics are good.

But if it's not working simply nut up and go to a club and make some like minded friends. Clubs opened lots of doors for us in terms of party invites and making friends on the scene.

Hardest part is walking through the door the rest will come easy at a club. You are missing out. "

Or, if you're like me, you'll find walking through the door is the easy part.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles fine pics are good.

But if it's not working simply nut up and go to a club and make some like minded friends. Clubs opened lots of doors for us in terms of party invites and making friends on the scene.

Hardest part is walking through the door the rest will come easy at a club. You are missing out.

Or, if you're like me, you'll find walking through the door is the easy part."

Which bit do you find not hard then?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess making the right approach in messages so they reply...

I would live to join a club and meet socially with people but I can't just do the walking in and mingling...

I really want to get involved but just need that first step or pointers...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles fine pics are good.

But if it's not working simply nut up and go to a club and make some like minded friends. Clubs opened lots of doors for us in terms of party invites and making friends on the scene.

Hardest part is walking through the door the rest will come easy at a club. You are missing out.

Or, if you're like me, you'll find walking through the door is the easy part.

Which bit do you find not hard then? "

Getting a conversation going. Just about every time I say hello to someone, they:

a) Pretend not to notice I've said something,

b) Actually don't notice I've said something, or

c) Leave.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess making the right approach in messages so they reply...

I would live to join a club and meet socially with people but I can't just do the walking in and mingling...

I really want to get involved but just need that first step or pointers..."
youve just been given pointers, use them. Sorry to sound so harsh but the more you whinge the less appealing you become, look at similar threads to yours and see how they end. You wanna be a swinger? You gotta get out there in the swinging community, it's that simple

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess making the right approach in messages so they reply...

I would live to join a club and meet socially with people but I can't just do the walking in and mingling...

I really want to get involved but just need that first step or pointers..."

Step 1 Find the club you want to go to and ring them up to find out when they let single guys in and more importantly if you can get in. (Some may have waiting lists)

Step 2 Find out dress code and male an effort.

Step 3 Go along when you arrive ask for a tour and have the rules explained.

Step 4 Socialise if it's a single guy night people will mostly be there for that so don't be put off just talking to people.

The rest will come naturally. Clubs are the best.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I guess making the right approach in messages so they reply...

I would live to join a club and meet socially with people but I can't just do the walking in and mingling...

I really want to get involved but just need that first step or pointers...

Step 1 Find the club you want to go to and ring them up to find out when they let single guys in and more importantly if you can get in. (Some may have waiting lists)

Step 2 Find out dress code and male an effort.

Step 3 Go along when you arrive ask for a tour and have the rules explained.

Step 4 Socialise if it's a single guy night people will mostly be there for that so don't be put off just talking to people.

The rest will come naturally. Clubs are the best. "

This exactly!! You have to get involved, you are the one who is holding yourself back! Atlantis do not have a waiting list for single guys, you would be made very welcome, have a tour and be introduced to people! Go for it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Personally I don't like the first line of your profile - it's as if you're implying there aren't many decent guys on Fab. That's enough to put me off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. Think a call to the local club is needed and a few adjustments... Thanks to all who replied... I appreciate the help.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you've had no meets but your meet summary says you've met a couple?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys. Think a call to the local club is needed and a few adjustments... Thanks to all who replied... I appreciate the help."

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread