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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi me and my partner are looking to have our first threesome. We have decided to include another girl.

Is there any advice that anyone can give.

Do's, Dont's etc..

Also best way to set up this interaction.

Thanks

Em & M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may have decided that's the easy part, now the difficult part having a single lady to decide to join you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck !!! Its like looking for Rocking Horse Shit !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never a truer statement ...rocking horse ...

We keep chatting blah blah yeah love to meet loads of messages then oh i cant washing my hair...etc

Hunting the elusive Unicorn ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't.... Hold your breath! They are called unicorns for a reason!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Never a truer statement ...rocking horse ...

We keep chatting blah blah yeah love to meet loads of messages then oh i cant washing my hair...etc

Hunting the elusive Unicorn ...."

I have to disagree!!!

We have never played with a "single bi fem"....

... but we have played with loads of friends who happen to be single, bi and female!

Don't chase labels.... go to socials, make friends and I can assure you that it's easy to meet and play with these supposed "elusive Unicorns", let's face it, they are swingers who want to play too!

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"Never a truer statement ...rocking horse ...

We keep chatting blah blah yeah love to meet loads of messages then oh i cant washing my hair...etc

Hunting the elusive Unicorn ....

I have to disagree!!!

We have never played with a "single bi fem"....

... but we have played with loads of friends who happen to be single, bi and female!

Don't chase labels.... go to socials, make friends and I can assure you that it's easy to meet and play with these supposed "elusive Unicorns", let's face it, they are swingers who want to play too! "

We couldn't agree more. Clubs, socials or just out and about they can be very easy to find. Hell mrs even tempted two girls back to our room at liberty elite once for an FMFF. Still smiling now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never a truer statement ...rocking horse ...

We keep chatting blah blah yeah love to meet loads of messages then oh i cant washing my hair...etc

Hunting the elusive Unicorn ....

I have to disagree!!!

We have never played with a "single bi fem"....

... but we have played with loads of friends who happen to be single, bi and female!

Don't chase labels.... go to socials, make friends and I can assure you that it's easy to meet and play with these supposed "elusive Unicorns", let's face it, they are swingers who want to play too! "

Exactly this we've played with friends some of which happen to be single females but it wasn't the goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't.... Hold your breath! They are called unicorns for a reason! "

Quite a few about tho.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first 3some was great fun, second a total let down. People will say talk about/discuss the meet beforehand - sadly it doesn't always go to plan x

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Me and Kim have played with and have lots of single lady friends so they are not as hard as some say, look for local girls as we find this works better for us because woman dont want to travel and feel safer near home.

Make friends with the ladies first and thats the biggest obstacle out the way, make sure you as a couple have not even an hint of jealously between you both because that creates bad vibes.

If you do meet a woman go to her levels and don't think she is just for your enjoyment...all have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi me and my partner are looking to have our first threesome. We have decided to include another girl.

Is there any advice that anyone can give.

Do's, Dont's etc..

Also best way to set up this interaction.

Thanks

Em & M"
big influx of single guys pretending to be single bi females awaits your inbox. Good looking finding a genuine bi female.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Look on your local updates of females near you yes some will be fake but a phone call solves that problem, some being new wont have veris but once you have spoke you will know they are at least women.

Not all will actually meet straight away as they get scared so it could take weeks of chatting...loads of people just want a quick fumble so cant be bothered getting to know the woman first.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Also some better pics e.g. body shots of both of you with faces blurred if need be as usually its only a womens pics so women avoid profiles like these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male sexual biology responds well to abstraction i.e. body parts and doing certain acts with 'someone'. Women, it seems to me, are more contextual; they need to meet people and buy into the whole package.

Therefore any approach to sexual liasons which is abstract i.e. looking for them via an online website, is likely to have greater success with men rather than women. I therefore echo others on this thread by suggesting that you make it real... get out... meet people... let this other woman see you both in some context that helps reassure her that she wants to be a part of your lovely sandwich.

In reality, I'm beginning to feel that this is how all swinging should occur, and that Fab is really just a bit of fun on the side. People say too much on here, give each other too many excuses not to meet, when if they just met for a few seconds they'd be able to tell immediately whether they'd like things to go further or not. Hunting for men to have sex with online works fine. But I'm not too convinced it works very well for women and couples. Just my 2p Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why single bi women aren't flocking to meet people that describe them as unicorns and rocking horse shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck !!! Its like looking for Rocking Horse Shit ! "

You don't look anything like horse poop' rocking or not. You look lush V xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single bi female. Does that mean I'm a unicorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single bi female. Does that mean I'm a unicorn? "

Well I'm rocking horse shit. (somebody open the door ....It's starting to whiff a bit in here)

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By *ittle Miss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Suffolk UK

Seems as if i fit that category of rocking horse shite as well....

but i like to be in the category if single bi fem

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"Seems as if i fit that category of rocking horse shite as well....

but i like to be in the category if single bi fem "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never a truer statement ...rocking horse ...

We keep chatting blah blah yeah love to meet loads of messages then oh i cant washing my hair...etc

Hunting the elusive Unicorn ....

I have to disagree!!!

We have never played with a "single bi fem"....

... but we have played with loads of friends who happen to be single, bi and female!

Don't chase labels.... go to socials, make friends and I can assure you that it's easy to meet and play with these supposed "elusive Unicorns", let's face it, they are swingers who want to play too! "

This

We have had several FFMs and non have been from this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why single bi women aren't flocking to meet people that describe them as unicorns and rocking horse shit."

Not sure if we were included in the above comment. To clarify, we are not looking for bi fems so really don't know how easy or difficult it is! Didn't invent the term unicorn. Just introduced it to the thread as I understand it is widely used by swingers.

I assume from your post that it is considered derogatory. If so, I apologise for using it. To me, the word just highlights how rare bi fems looking to meet couples is considered to be. Didn't mean it in an insulting way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why single bi women aren't flocking to meet people that describe them as unicorns and rocking horse shit.

Not sure if we were included in the above comment. To clarify, we are not looking for bi fems so really don't know how easy or difficult it is! Didn't invent the term unicorn. Just introduced it to the thread as I understand it is widely used by swingers.

I assume from your post that it is considered derogatory. If so, I apologise for using it. To me, the word just highlights how rare bi fems looking to meet couples is considered to be. Didn't mean it in an insulting way"

No need to apologise. Unicorn isn't so bad. It's more the 'rocking horse shit' type of comments and assumptions behind it that I don't like. Sorry if I came across as grumpy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met some lovely ladies on and off here

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

Meet another couple who share your fantasy and you can perm any 3 from 4 and then still enjoy a foursome as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm available I'm single bi female

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Interesting post mpassion.

Hunting for men online isn't that easy though. I've tried three times for an mmtV threesome now, which given the volume of interest and sorts of messages I get I thought would be a piece of piss to arrange.

After the first two failures I tried to set another one up a couple of weeks ago. I put the meet request up on here a fortnight before, booked the room and everything. Then I sifted through approaches and sent out some messages to people who'd expressed an interest in the past.

In the end I settled on 4 'definites' who seemed the best and most genuine based on messages and profiles etc. I agreed to meet four because I thought 1 might always not be able to turn up because of unforeseen genuine circumstances, maybe at worst two wouldn't make it, which would still give me my first threesome and if all turned up then I thought I could just about handle four. They all knew I'd invited four and said they were fine with it.

All four failed to turn up. One, who had been messaging me almost hourly for a fortnight kept pretending he was on his way, stuck in traffic etc up to an hour after the scheduled meet time. What a timewaster.

I was let down by 5 more guys (for one on ones) at different times later that same night too. That's 9 in one day!

In the end I had to hunt down a horny trucker, but it still wasn't the threesome I wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single bi fems are about - just got to look

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"Single bi fems are about - just got to look "

You could even find what you are looking for right here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone. It's given us alot to think about.

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