FabSwingers.com forum: couple reported over child care scam

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Eh?

Was it on SKY?

I've just farted that didn't merit a forum post!

Elaborate, no specifics though.

Paddy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What scam was that then ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I know what hes on about and good on himx

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By *ustforusMan
over a year ago

cambridge

please read child support at partys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought thats what it might have been, but reported them for what ?

As 'unusual' as it may seem, I'm not sure if they've done anything that is against the site rules

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By *ustforusMan
over a year ago

cambridge

its now up to admin to decide...mal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good on you altho dont know what admin would do?

just the fact that this is known to some now might stop them tryn to take the piss outa anyone else xx

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true, ultimately Admin will decide, but the question that I ponder is this:

What is the difference between asking for someone to pay for a hotel room, bring some booze, pay for a taxi, pay for the other half of the meet to get into a club ... the list goes on.

Personally, and I may be wrong as I have been many times in the past, I can't see what they have done wrong, other that being a tad out of the ordinary for asking what they allegedly did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it's cheaper than paying £40 to meet them in a swinging club

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By *awnpaulCouple
over a year ago

Hounslow

Be interesting to see what, if anything happens. We got invited to a party once on another site, paid the dosh (it was in a club, so seemed fair enough) party was cancelled, no money refunded despite promises to do so, reported 'em to the Admin on that site and.......nothing happened, not a sausage. As far as we know, they're still on that site, and still scamming people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its now up to admin to decide...mal"

I agree, if in doubt on anything here just report it to Admin and let them decide

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By *nothercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hmmm now let me see, what was the word used to describe someone that takes money in return for sexual favours (even if it is thinly veilled as 'child minder') Prostitute springs to mind.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suppose it's cheaper than paying £40 to meet them in a swinging club

Only a fiver cheaper,good on you Mal,hopefully they read the furums as well and see its not on trying to scam people into paying their child care costs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well as a mother of small kids ,,,if WE dont geta a babysitter then WE dont play,,,SHIMPLES

babysitters is the cpls problem not the guy they are wanna meet??

hell never heard the likes ,,,jeeze

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i thort it was against fab rules to charge for sex so i presume the same goes if someone trying to charge a meet babysitting fees

but............ i cud be wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they are certainly very brazen, but a scam? doesn't sound like they are tricking anyone, just say, no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well they are certainly very brazen, but a scam? doesn't sound like they are tricking anyone, just say, no thanks.

My thoughts exactly

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"Be interesting to see what, if anything happens. We got invited to a party once on another site, paid the dosh (it was in a club, so seemed fair enough) party was cancelled, no money refunded despite promises to do so, reported 'em to the Admin on that site and.......nothing happened, not a sausage. As far as we know, they're still on that site, and still scamming people!"

The admin on there may have been in on it..there are some real snides out there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was the party orginized by fab? or people who are on fab?there is a diffrence.

all i know is that in scotland we hold a number of social events but fab take no responsibility as it is nothing to do with them so if anything did go wrong,,,nowt to do with them really.?

auds xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Hmmm now let me see, what was the word used to describe someone that takes money in return for sexual favours (even if it is thinly veilled as 'child minder') Prostitute springs to mind.......

Only meeting with someone for sex if they hand over money is prostitution...whatever they say they want the money for, they are still charging.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

How ridiculous calling this person a prostitute, way way over the top.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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What is charging people called?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"What is charging people called?"

Maybe the legal definition of prostitution should be researched before resorting to accusing someone of prostitution, none of us but the OP and the other member concerned know the exact facts about the conversation they had over child care.....it's a knee jerk reaction to start throwing words like prostitute around on here.

Total overkill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do wonder what makes people get all offended on this site. paying for sex is really prostitution, i think the couple were trying there luck and it never worked this time but probably has before.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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ANYONE who asks for money whatever the reason they want it is called charging.

No one knows the exact conversation that went on or even if it is true but maybe you should realise that people are commenting on what they can see.

What they can see is, someone could potentially be asking for money before they will meet for sex.

It doesn't matter what circumstances that is or what they want to spend the money on, it is asking for money before you will meet for sex.

If it turns out to be true then she is charging. Charging for sex is prostitution.

You are allowed your opinion but so are others without you rubbishing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we recently had an invite to a party, in the invite it said that there would be a £20 charge per couple to cover the cost of the buffet, drinks etc.

I didnt think this unfair.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Anecdotal evidence is all I see here, I agree that if members openly charge for sex on here then they should be stamped down on and banned, but slamming a member without real evidence is poor.

Have others reported the same couple for prostitution?, does the female concerned have any text on her profile that infers a charge will be made for sex?

Things like this should be investigated and dealt with by Admin alone, it's becoming very popular to broadcast the messages exchanged by members on here lately.....but we only ever see anecdotal evidence in these threads.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Anecdotal evidence is all I see here, I agree that if members openly charge for sex on here then they should be stamped down on and banned, but slamming a member without real evidence is poor.

Have others reported the same couple for prostitution?, does the female concerned have any text on her profile that infers a charge will be made for sex?

The OP was advised to REPORT it on another thread, he has. It will be looked at and decided if there is any evidence and what or if any action is taken. No one is disputing that.

People then decided to post their views on the situation, which they are allowed to.

They are discussing a subject now.

I really don't know why you are getting so het up.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Anecdotal evidence is all I see here, I agree that if members openly charge for sex on here then they should be stamped down on and banned, but slamming a member without real evidence is poor.

Have others reported the same couple for prostitution?, does the female concerned have any text on her profile that infers a charge will be made for sex?

The OP was advised to REPORT it on another thread, he has. It will be looked at and decided if there is any evidence and what or if any action is taken. No one is disputing that.

People then decided to post their views on the situation, which they are allowed to.

They are discussing a subject now.

I really don't know why you are getting so het up."

Am I not entitled to my opinion then?, there are two sides to any discussion and I am displaying my views.

How do you see my posts as getting 'het up'?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"ANYONE who asks for money whatever the reason they want it is called charging.

No one knows the exact conversation that went on or even if it is true but maybe you should realise that people are commenting on what they can see.

What they can see is, someone could potentially be asking for money before they will meet for sex.

It doesn't matter what circumstances that is or what they want to spend the money on, it is asking for money before you will meet for sex.

If it turns out to be true then she is charging. Charging for sex is prostitution.

You are allowed your opinion but so are others without you rubbishing them."

If you read this post then yes, I said everyone is allowed an opinion......but then you know that.

Walks away from the thread now.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"we recently had an invite to a party, in the invite it said that there would be a £20 charge per couple to cover the cost of the buffet, drinks etc.

I didnt think this unfair.

Downright stingy...I bet they made out of it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

were looking for a plumber to do a few simple job and he will be paid in kind.

is that ok??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we recently had an invite to a party, in the invite it said that there would be a £20 charge per couple to cover the cost of the buffet, drinks etc.

I didnt think this unfair.

Downright stingy...I bet they made out of it.."

dont know we didnt go

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By *ornyeyes4uMan
over a year ago

lincoln

"i have just reported the couple over the child care scam ...mal

Good on ya Mal !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gd for u xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF IF IF the inferrence was made that monies had to be exchanged before sex could take part, it is most deifinitely prostitution.

doesnt matter how it is dressed up, whether it's called childminding or massage...you know what you are paying for.

my comments are not directly made about this particular situation as i dont know the full story

(someat though when you have to start adding caveats to your comment)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so if someone offered to pay someones child minder, pay for a hotel room, or even cover their travelling costs etc, and they accepted, that would make them prostitutes

because regardless of if it was asked or offered, monies are still being paid and sex is on the adgenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so if someone offered to pay someones child minder, pay for a hotel room, or even cover their travelling costs etc, and they accepted, that would make them prostitutes

because regardless of if it was asked or offered, monies are still being paid and sex is on the adgenda."

According to the above post - yes

This site must be full of hookers

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think it is more on the lines of " you can have sex if you pay for my ( fill in whatever is approriate ) rather than shall we all share costs to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so if someone offered to pay someones child minder, pay for a hotel room, or even cover their travelling costs etc, and they accepted, that would make them prostitutes

because regardless of if it was asked or offered, monies are still being paid and sex is on the adgenda.

According to the above post - yes

This site must be full of hookers

i think there's a huge difference between someone saying "no, please, allow me" and someone saying "if you want to meet us, we want some money for xxxxx".

there are joint costs you expect to share, like hotels etc, however, there are costs that are unique to you and you expect to absolve if you want to play and you can't expect others to pay them and i would certainly be suspicious of anyone asking me to handover cash, even in hotels, i pay my share directly to the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know what you're saying rugby, but if the money was being used to pay for a child minder, not that we think its right, in fact it's pretty brazen tbh, but paying for a child minder, is exactly that, and will never equate to prostitution, it's only assumed he's paying for sex, and can't even see why prostitution was even mentioned with only one half of a story given.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"We know what you're saying rugby, but if the money was being used to pay for a child minder, not that we think its right, in fact it's pretty brazen tbh, but paying for a child minder, is exactly that, and will never equate to prostitution, it's only assumed he's paying for sex, and can't even see why prostitution was even mentioned with only one half of a story given. "

So if I stood on a street corner and when a man stopped and asked me how much, and I said £100 because I need a new tumble dryer, it means it isn't prostitution because I say what the money is being used for?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ps I have taken the OP off as this isn't discussing any ongoing report , more discussing a situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know more than we know rugby?

Thats the same as saying, couples on here that expect men to foot the hotel bill are prostitutes, sorry, but it's a hotel they're paying for, not sex, even if they end up with sex.

Think we should leave it at that, because we don't even know the full story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....i might not evenhave children and be asking for money for childcare. that's why this question needed asking and the potential of it being a scam examined

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Do you know more than we know rugby?

Thats the same as saying, couples on here that expect men to foot the hotel bill are prostitutes, sorry, but it's a hotel they're paying for, not sex, even if they end up with sex.

Think we should leave it at that, because we don't even know the full story."

Just to clarify. I don't do REPORTS and know nothing of what the OP said. I joined in the thread when it got talking about charging.

I have an opinion for me as any normal member and my opinion is, if people ask for money with a promise of sex, then it can only be described as charging.

I know of no one on the site who has asked for it , this is my opinion only.....as a member.

Maybe I need to start typing a disclaimer at the end of my posts to this effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I need to start typing a disclaimer at the end of my posts to this effect."

I felt the need to do that too earlier....!

maybe you can have a little signature block specially made up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way, can't be a very good prostitute if all she's getting is a babysitter for the night and a shag

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Maybe I need to start typing a disclaimer at the end of my posts to this effect.

I felt the need to do that too earlier....!

maybe you can have a little signature block specially made up?

Seriously thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way, can't be a very good prostitute if all she's getting is a babysitter for the night and a shag

IF there are any kids. Would be the easiest scam, who's gonna ask that you prove that there are any and that you can demonstrate that this is a direct cost?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry i'm trying to be humourous now, but £35 for a pozzie is surely a bargain

be better on an escort site charging 150+

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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oo you would be surprised Dog. When the man who was in Bradford uni killed those girls in Leeds ( I think) the other month, one prostitute was on the telly saying she charged £20 an hour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys could have two then for the same price as getting into chams

Sorry, I’ll get me coat

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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lol not guaranteed a shag in Chams though.

I was shocked though that you could get it for so cheap.

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By *ustforusMan
over a year ago

cambridge

hi peoples just an update not heard from admin yet will let you know there decision if i find out ...mal

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"hi peoples just an update not heard from admin yet will let you know there decision if i find out ...mal

You won't hear anything, it tells you that when you report it....and to be honest, you really don't need to keep updating.

The whole point of a report is for you to report it, Admin decide what to do with it and you move on.

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