FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla peoplr

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What does being referred to as vanilla please

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a term that some people use to describe people who don't swing it is also sometimes used by the bdsm community I believe.

I don't like it myself I think it is a bit patronising

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh I see thank you for that. Yes I agree does sound patronising as I believe each to their own and people should respect that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Oh I see thank you for that. Yes I agree does sound patronising as I believe each to their own and people should respect that"

I don't think everyone uses it in a patronising manner just some people.

People who don't swing have just as interesting sex lives as people who do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not an insult.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's not an insult."

Not always! Some people do imply insult when they use it though.

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Helston

I do use the term vanilla, purely in a manner to name something that isnt necessarily kinky sex.

So if someone were to say want to meet and cuddle and have sex in the missionary position - that I would describe as vanilla.

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By *unlovers70Couple
over a year ago

Overseas

I use the term vanilla but not to patronise at all. I use it in the context that we have swinging friends, who we can discuss anything with and vanilla friends who we could never dare tell that we swing. Not meaning their sex lives aren't great, they just choose not to share

But have just Googled it and it says sex that involves no twists or kinkiest and no S&M and often refers to the missionary position so seems I have had it wrong all this time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I describe myself as fairly vanilla as I'm not the kinkiest person around. Not by Fab standards anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well interesting answers which means as I'm not kinky I'm a vanilla well it is my favourite flavour. Thank you all for your replysx

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By *alldarkhandsomedaveMan
over a year ago

Derby

Give it time...

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By *unlovers70Couple
over a year ago

Overseas

"Well interesting answers which means as I'm not kinky I'm a vanilla well it is my favourite flavour. Thank you all for your replysx"

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