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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess so?....

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Works for us too.... We'll sometimes

Most times its

We wink............

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield


"ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

"

I wish

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yep, thought so, we must be getting winked by lazy winkers??

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I actually did this earlier this week, and followed up with the first message! And he messaged back, so happy days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I actually did this earlier this week, and followed up with the first message! And he messaged back, so happy days! "

glad to hear it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

"

I live in hope for the return wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds about right, makes perfectly reasonable sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was a thread about ET

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thought this was a thread about ET "

the title was to coax people in to think about E.T's virginity

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Might work... If I even looked at winks, but I never even check them.

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By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

Works for us, if there's no wink back then we know there isn't a mutual interest. Simples. Why would we write a intro message just to have it deleted by people not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had anyone respond to a wink I've sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to work for me when someone sends me a wink

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We wink, they wink back, we msg, they ignore

They wink, we msg, they ignore......works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink

They wink

We write decent intro message

They write 5/8 word response

We write decent reply message

They write 5/8 word reply

We delete

Works well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Works for us, if there's no wink back then we know there isn't a mutual interest. Simples. Why would we write a intro message just to have it deleted by people not interested? "

Exactly how I feel don't always work though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wink, they wink back, we msg, they ignore

They wink, we msg, they ignore......works for us "

Same here.

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By *avebi48Man
over a year ago

Lordswood


"We wink, they wink back, we msg, they ignore

They wink, we msg, they ignore......works for us "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey, maybe I need to re-think my new regime of winking first then

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By *amriel2000Man
over a year ago

Coventry

It would be great to receive more winks from women on this site.

I'll happily send a well thought out message to someone but it's always nice to know who's interested beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its complex

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Totally works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying you or anyone else is, but I wouldn't get hung up about a process. If you like the look of a profile, maybe message? Some people don't respond to winks, or even look at them.

If you're winked, I'd say you can either wink back or message if you're interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

"

That's our logic too. Though quite often, the people messaging put arguably less effort in to their message than they do the wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

"

This is how it should work

Then someone throws a spanner in the works and chucks a friends invite in before they should and then it's all gone tits up and the natural flow has been ruined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend not to wink, especially as a form of first contact as it seems the ladies and couples on here get more than the average fella and they'd just get lost in the landslide if indeed they'd get looked at at all, that plus the fact it's not like I'm all that busy and important that I can't take five mins to write a message to introduce myself and say hi...I can make a message stand out, I can't do that with a wink.

I have responded to winks though...some of which turned out to be off real tosspots, but some of which have developed into rather more so in short, I don't send them but I will respond to them

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"ok,is this what we all think is ok

we wink-you wink-we message

and if someone winks first

you wink-we wink-you message

"

If someone winks me (rare I admit); I will message them either to say hi if I am interested in her / them, or a polite thanks but sorry if I am not !

I rarely wink or message anyone first nowadays, generally hasn't worked for me in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we get a wink and we like we message saying thanks for the wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to wink back and message first

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