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By *educed OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Tell her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it made you feel uncomfortable enough to cancel the meet then that's fair enough although as it was a social, was it worth going to see how you felt meeting in person? Personally, I would be totally honest, if they don't like it or get funny then they've shown they are not the type of people you want to meet so have done you a favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)? "

Block and move on - you don't owe anyone an explanation and you really don't want to get embroiled in their domestic issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her. Then block them on here and also on your mobile. You don't need it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why cancel if it was only a social? Good time for everyone to lay their cards on the table. For all you know she may have been egging him on to turn up the raunch. The bit about meeting solo seems dodgy though. But If he was being an arse then could be fun to reveal that one infront of her. It is so easy to get crossed wires with online chat. A social meet doesn't mean we'll play. It's just a steping stone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell her. Then block them on here and also on your mobile. You don't need it!"

I totally agree.

This is meant to be a social thing.

I hope it wasn't us cause my spelling and grammar is crap lol

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By *educed OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Tell her. Then block them on here and also on your mobile. You don't need it!

I totally agree.

This is meant to be a social thing.

I hope it wasn't us cause my spelling and grammar is crap lol"

Haha. Your spelling and grammar seem fine to me.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should explain to her that you don't meet single men. It's clear on your profile. And tell her he wanted to meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her her husbands using her to get what he wants, block and move on.

Her

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By *educed OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank you guys. I was worried I was over reacting. But as he/ they have already messaged/ text over 10 times today (I lost count yesterday) I am going to stick to my guns with regard to the meet and just mention in my message back that the suggestion the husband and I meet separately is not really my bag. I will then block. This is hard work lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this situation too. I'd definitely tell her. Spare the next single woman this awkwardness.

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By *educed OP   Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I've had this situation too. I'd definitely tell her. Spare the next single woman this awkwardness."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)?

Block and move on - you don't owe anyone an explanation and you really don't want to get embroiled in their domestic issues. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)? "

Sounds like its a bloke pretending to be a couple, very sad but it happens! Report abuse, block and move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)?

Sounds like its a bloke pretending to be a couple, very sad but it happens! Report abuse, block and move on x "

That would be my first thought

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell her. Then block them on here and also on your mobile. You don't need it!"

This absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am going to stick to my guns with regard to the meet and just mention in my message back that the suggestion the husband and I meet separately is not really my bag. I will then block."

Perfect ending I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why cancel if it was only a social? Good time for everyone to lay their cards on the table. For all you know she may have been egging him on to turn up the raunch. The bit about meeting solo seems dodgy though. But If he was being an arse then could be fun to reveal that one infront of her. It is so easy to get crossed wires with online chat. A social meet doesn't mean we'll play. It's just a steping stone"

Why meet someone who's messages make you feel uncomfortable

And why on earth get dragged in to the potential for dram?

OP just block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her all his texts to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell her he is twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so I have arranged a social thing with a couple. I have done all the things I am supposed to have done - checked verification, spoke on the phone to the wife etc etc. Anyway, the messages/ texts from her husband are getting more and more explicit, uncomfortably so (I can tell it's him as his spelling and grammar are appalling) until finally he asked whether we could meet on our own! I don't want to for various reasons personal and moral and so I made up an excuse and cancelled the meet. Now Mrs is rather annoyed with me and has demanded to know why? Accused me of being a 'fake' etc etc. Do I tell her or just smile and wave (maybe block)?

Block and move on - you don't owe anyone an explanation and you really don't want to get embroiled in their domestic issues. "

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