FabSwingers.com forum: am i doing something wrong ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is there a way to pick women up from here cause when i try and talk to women on here i get blocked straight away i am doing nothing wrong and always a gentleman when messaging and sending face pics. Getting frustrated lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picking women up is hardly a phase used by a gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd need a fork lift truck to pick me up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

you get what i mean though like for example you comply with every request as in dont just say let me fist you or fancy a fuck stuff like that lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Take a look at the 'Expectations' thread running in the lounge.

My post there and those of others seem relevant.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is there a way to pick women up from here cause when i try and talk to women on here i get blocked straight away i am doing nothing wrong and always a gentleman when messaging and sending face pics. Getting frustrated lol"

Yes there is a way, go out to a bar and speak to a few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You'd need a fork lift truck to pick me up

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your threads longer than your profile, says it all really.

Take a look at it from a lady's perspective and ask yourself......'would I meet me?'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

not being big headed or anything but its all honest lol thankyou all for the replys though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You'd need a fork lift truck to pick me up

Haha that's very funny

OP: we don't know what you're doing so we can't tell you what you're doing wrong and also someones idea of 'wrong' will be someone elses 'right'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be honest but it tells people absolutely nothing.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Picking women up is hardly a phase used by a gentleman

Your just to fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try making your profile a little more interesting and relevant, for example are you really wanting to meet women from 18-99...?

get yourself out there, join in the forums and maybe look at going to a club.

no magic formula available!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thats the thing i aint fussy lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You've said more in this thread than you have in your profile. Try using some punctuation. Mr Punctuation didn't invent commas and full stops and stuff for people not to use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Picking women up is hardly a phase used by a gentleman

Your just to fussy

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol "
but the ladies on here are....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol but the ladies on here are...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol "
That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've said more in this thread than you have in your profile. Try using some punctuation. Mr Punctuation didn't invent commas and full stops and stuff for people not to use them. "

Mr Punctuation was very punctilious when it came to writing his profile.

There you go. A special word hidden in that sentence................work it out for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her"

You beat me to it, was just about to say the same. That statement really won't help your cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol "

Your just not thinking this through lad!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Head and palm moment.

I'd quit now fella and start again another day with a change of attitude.

You can't join a site such as this and expect to be balls deep in pussy every night. If that was your expectation then you're going to be very disappointed.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You've said more in this thread than you have in your profile. Try using some punctuation. Mr Punctuation didn't invent commas and full stops and stuff for people not to use them.

Mr Punctuation was very punctilious when it came to writing his profile.

There you go. A special word hidden in

that sentence................work it out for

yourself.

Found it! It's the saucy words 'tit' and 'cunt' in 'punctuation'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol "

OP you've just found the answer to your question....go figure!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"not being big headed or anything but its all honest lol thankyou all for the replys though

Ok. You ask if you are doing something wrong, someone tells you your profile is too short but instead of think "oh that's one of the things I could improve" you dismiss the very advice you asked for in the first place.

With reference to your comment about complying with all requests. There is much more to this than a tick box exercise you need to show a little personality too.....which brings me back to my first point.

Get chatting, meet at socials and put a little work in

. Good luck.

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

One it shows you arent fussy so thats off putting to many!

Plus theres a hell of a lot of men on here, many who are much better looking so the amount of people who are attracted will be minimal compared to how many messages you send

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

Yes you joined with the wrong idea that you are going to automatically have sex

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her"

You mean its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There really aint no way to do it, just by luck lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

"
Hello sunshine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her"

You mean its not ?

Rmmitin Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Snap

Gazumped Gimp

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Your profile is awful. ..just one big long sentence, you definitely need to put more time and effort into it

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Hello sunshine

Hiyaaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Hello sunshine

Hiyaaaaa

sexy bum

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Snap

Gazumped Gimp

Haha and that's after a night shift

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Hello sunshine

Hiyaaaaa

sexy bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Snap

Gazumped Gimp

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your the same then

Her

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

yes you are doing everything wrong, especially this attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thats the thing i aint fussy lol That does not help you either, it would be seen as " any hole a goal"

Her

You mean its not

Hello sunshine

Hiyaaaaa

sexy bum

love it

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Lose the 'I am doing nothing wrong' attitude - you obviously ARE doing something wrong because otherwise you would be getting meets! There are plenty of successful single guys on here, take a leaf out of their books

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"There really aint no way to do it, just by luck lol."

you make your own luck here, op its a swinging site, picking women up is something you do in bars and nightclubs, you have totally the wrong attitude for this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm desperate for............

A bacon sarnie

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Dull and desperate is what your profile says to me.

Use advice given. Effort in gets effort out. The effirt isn't about the number of people you message. The profile is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm desperate for............

A bacon sarnie

And me me me me

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

OP you could do everything right - a brilliant profile, great photos, well crafted and thought out messages, attending socials and showing everyone what a nice bloke you are.

The one fact many that sign up (couples and singles of both sexes!) forget is that for all the care put into your actions - if people aren't attracted to you or interested based on their own tastes and preferences - then you still may not get to meet and play with anyone.

Such is life in the real world.

Why should Fab be any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if the OP's profile will change after some good advice given? It often amazes me the amount of similar threads I read where some good advice is given yet nothing on the profile concerned changes. I'm well aware people don't have to act on advice given but then sometimes, these same people ask the same question a few days/weeks later. You can help people all you want but it often seems they don't want to actually help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No information about yourself. You can't accommodate so that makes it difficult. Maybe say why you can't

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Have they got handles on there back so you can carry them from room to room, ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it sounds like your definitely going to have to 'pick women up' now, cos with how you have come across in this thread no one will want to walk with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That went well

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it sounds like your definitely going to have to 'pick women up' now, cos with how you have come across in this thread no one will want to walk with you

Any hole a goal eww

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats the thing i aint fussy lol

Guuuuurrrrrrrd luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are not attracted to you from your message or photos then change them and alter your messaging but remember if people are not attracted to you you can't force them to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of guys on here who sends messages so its easier just to respond to the odd few who you are attracted to.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

well if you are doing nothing wrong... do not change a single thing and go about your merry way........

however........

ask yourself "are you doing everything to the best of your abilities to show yourself in the best light possible"

lets take 2 shops..... 1 has a dull and drab exterior.... the other has a bright and sparkly outlook....

which is more likely to entice you???

so "maybe" an idea is to look at a lot of the "shop windows" of the people who have answered this thread.... then see if you can come up with something in your own words and thoughts that would make your a bit brighter...

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Try looking at the other similar threads on here before!

This is not an "Instant Fix" site; if you had that expectation, then dream on! You gave to 'SELL YOURSELF', as you are up against so many other guys!

Your profile is inadequate. It tells the reader nothing about yourself. It is one lonnnnng sentence, without punctuation or even breaks to draw breath. You don't say why you can't accommodate so you need to say why not!

Expand your profile; ditch the cock shots to Private viewing. Get to Socials or clubs in your area. Get into the Forums; it is all about being noticed!

But at 8 weeks in, you are a mere beginner. You will get out what you put in, effort wise. Sadly, after 19 Hours after your OP, you haven't changed anything in you Profile. That speaks volumes!

It takes patience, perseverance and even more patience! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asxa single fem local to you it would definitely be a no from me. There are hundreds of men in this area. You do not stand out and it all comes across as a bit desparate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'd need a fork lift truck to pick me up

and me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I told you how to meet women from here there would be non lefty for me lol - i wish !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having seen your profile of no Under 45's. I'd wager I good chance at moving that ass in my bed for a nice cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'd need a fork lift truck to pick me up

Having seen your profile of no Under 45's. I'd wager I good chance at moving that ass in my bed for a nice cup of tea.

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over a year ago

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

well if you are doing nothing wrong... do not change a single thing and go about your merry way........

however........

ask yourself "are you doing everything to the best of your abilities to show yourself in the best light possible"

lets take 2 shops..... 1 has a dull and drab exterior.... the other has a bright and sparkly outlook....

which is more likely to entice you???

I thought you had given up on speaking sense to these threads? They never take any bloody notice anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined this site a couple week back and have still to get a reply from anyone also, I guess it's patience and finding that right person that suits your needs and theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not about 'picking up women' its not about a magic trick that will make woman's clothes fall off (trust me I've looked!) Its about seeing someone that you like making a respectful and interesting approach and hoping that the profile you've written puts you in a good light... After all that they then just might be interested enough to message you. Its not easy and its certainly isnt going to land at your feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Head and palm moment.

I'd quit now fella and start again another day with a change of attitude.

You can't join a site such as this and expect to be balls deep in pussy every night. If that was your expectation then you're going to be very disappointed."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be patient and keep trying you'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's that phrase I read here somewhere.... If you can't pull in real life don't expect it to better here.... Something like that x

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Don't you love how this thread was started two days ago, the OP has been online, not changed a thing on his profile and now has yet another whiny status on there!!

Why do we bother??!!

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