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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just want to know what a single guy has to do on here to get more interest, I know there are loads of posts like this but is there anything I should add or remove from my profile or how I should approach messaging someone? I'm jot one of them guys who doesn't read a profile for example if it says "only for bbc" then I'm not gonna message but even when it seems like I match at least a description of what they are looking for I don't even get a reply? What more can I do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't look very happy in your pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats cos he isn't getting any interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just added a new pic? I havent got any decent pics where I don't look young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? Three meets in eleven days?

If that's lack of interest, wait till you're in your fifties! You're in for a nasty shock! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That was in the summer though, I mean like I can't even get a message at the momennet and when I do its from a guy


"Seriously? Three meets in eleven days?

If that's lack of interest, wait till you're in your fifties! You're in for a nasty shock! Lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have 3 more meets than most guys have had since joining 5 yrs ago!

Sorry but your pics are a wee bit sad to look at

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I suppose that's a bonus that I've had some meets, I need someone to take some good pictures of me, caught of guard or when km out and about


"You have 3 more meets than most guys have had since joining 5 yrs ago!

Sorry but your pics are a wee bit sad to look at "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was in the summer though, I mean like I can't even get a message at the momennet and when I do its from a guy

Seriously? Three meets in eleven days?

If that's lack of interest, wait till you're in your fifties! You're in for a nasty shock! Lol"

Well, you must be doing something right to have a good run like that!

On a constructive note, I'd suggest re-wording your profile text. It focuses too much on not getting a chance, not getting a break. People will not like that - plus your veris fly in the face of that. Mention who and what you want, like and consider yourself good at. Think that would help. Accentuate the positive. You're a good looking bloke with a good body. Try to draw attention to that, without sounding arrogant.

It is also worth remembering that you are only twenty and this will put many off. Nothing you can do about that, except to come across as mature as possible in your opening message and profile text, I would suggest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that your profile text screams 'feel sorry for me' and I can't imagine that this approach will entice any ladies.

You're also very young, and apart from the fact that most single guys have to work hard to get meets, I'm afraid that guys your age seem to find it even harder (pardon the pun)

Also, you not being able to accommodate (but more importantly, not explaining why) may also be putting some people off.

As others have said though, you have had some meets.

Best advice I can give you is ti be more positive. Makes a huge difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are 1000's of us single blokes in here, when women scroll down the search pages, we all start looking the same, we're basically spare pricks at a wedding, lined up tapping are feet waiting for a glance, luck a lot of the time, your profile in front of the right eyes, at the right time!

Chat rooms are good for getting meets,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to know what a single guy has to do on here to get more interest, I know there are loads of posts like this but is there anything I should add or remove from my profile or how I should approach messaging someone? I'm jot one of them guys who doesn't read a profile for example if it says "only for bbc" then I'm not gonna message but even when it seems like I match at least a description of what they are looking for I don't even get a reply? What more can I do?"

Go for a night out and try to pull like any regular 20 year old and stop whinging like a little girl with a grazed knee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to know what a single guy has to do on here to get more interest, I know there are loads of posts like this but is there anything I should add or remove from my profile or how I should approach messaging someone? I'm jot one of them guys who doesn't read a profile for example if it says "only for bbc" then I'm not gonna message but even when it seems like I match at least a description of what they are looking for I don't even get a reply? What more can I do?

Go for a night out and try to pull like any regular 20 year old and stop whinging like a little girl with a grazed knee. "

Boo hoo - but I've only had three meets I'm entitled to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twenty year olds swinging is weird in my opinion.

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town


"When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight"....."

This.

You put us off straight away by claiming you are straight but want bi fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight".....

This.

You put us off straight away by claiming you are straight but want bi fun. "

yep, the dishonesty in your profile isn't good, especially when you cross veri and read that the bi couple you have played with both say they had fun with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be somebodys type you just have to keep looking. I ain't no supermodel I accept that but somebody will like the look of me just have patience and stop whinging after all your only 20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight".....

This.

You put us off straight away by claiming you are straight but want bi fun.

yep, the dishonesty in your profile isn't good, especially when you cross veri and read that the bi couple you have played with both say they had fun with you "

What a ridiculous over reaction! How many women list as straight yet have a little bi fun when on meets and in clubs?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight".....

This.

You put us off straight away by claiming you are straight but want bi fun.

yep, the dishonesty in your profile isn't good, especially when you cross veri and read that the bi couple you have played with both say they had fun with you

What a ridiculous over reaction! How many women list as straight yet have a little bi fun when on meets and in clubs?!"

the guy asked for advice, so pointing out the things that people might find off putting is a big part of the problem, honesty is something that lots of folk do find important

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town


"When you say this...." dont mind some bi fun with MF couples"......it makes me suspect this:...."straight".....

This.

You put us off straight away by claiming you are straight but want bi fun.

yep, the dishonesty in your profile isn't good, especially when you cross veri and read that the bi couple you have played with both say they had fun with you

What a ridiculous over reaction! How many women list as straight yet have a little bi fun when on meets and in clubs?!"

It's not an over reaction at all and we would say the same to a woman if the situation was the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your profile to a woman's profile, forget pictures or any writing as there's no need,

and I bet within 24 hours you'll have more messages, winks and friend requests than you've had on your male profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just changed some of my profile text if I could get some feedback that would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just changed some of my profile text if I could get some feedback that would be great "

Your still listed as straight even though your verifications state that you have played with men and women? If you are going to try and hide your sexuality then at least hide your verifications aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I just want to know what a single guy has to do on here to get more interest, I know there are loads of posts like this but is there anything I should add or remove from my profile or how I should approach messaging someone? I'm jot one of them guys who doesn't read a profile for example if it says "only for bbc" then I'm not gonna message but even when it seems like I match at least a description of what they are looking for I don't even get a reply? What more can I do?"

possible do some research for a start... and see what advice has been given on other thread asking the same question......

a lot can be said for backreading.... it seems not many people do it much these days....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I've just changed some of my profile text if I could get some feedback that would be great

Your still listed as straight even though your verifications state that you have played with men and women? If you are going to try and hide your sexuality then at least hide your verifications aswell"

this..... i think the worst thing in swinging is deception... so if you have played with men then don't put down you are straight......just say you are bi!!!

it does't mean you will be bi with everyone, but at least it is honest....

and the 2nd worst thing in swinging isn't just deception, its deception by omission... so don't take it out and hide and pretend it didn't happen......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought...

You started by saying you know there are lots of threads on here about your post, so why not read the responses on there to get the answers you seek...?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've just changed some of my profile text if I could get some feedback that would be great "

What Fabio said. You have indeed changed some of your profile text - by removing what I quoted in my earlier post. Which you can't delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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