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By *randmrsR OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Would You tell a non-swinging friend that you swing?

I meeting an old pal for a few beers this week and we always end up talking about our antics. I've not seen him since we started swinging and not sure if I should keep quiet!

Any advice from the fab forum folk?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Depends on the friend. A couple of mine know and, although intrigued, don't want a blow by blow account of every meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. This is my secret life and that's the way I want it to stay. I don't talk about my sex life so why should I tell them who, why, when or how just because I'm on here.

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

A few of our non swinging friends know what we get up, intrigued would be a good way to sum up their reaction. Trust is important, we wouldn't of let on if we didn't think they could share the secret comfortably and we wouldn't be putting them in a awkward position.

There seems to be lots of misconceptions around what "swinging" involves and the stigma surrounding "keys in a bowl" parties from years gone by.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

One or two know, but they certainly do not know the site name or anything like that, never mind details, however, I think the main difference is I am single, so probably not frowned upon for a single female

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, it's my sex life. It's private.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"No, it's my sex life. It's private. "

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Most of my mates know and are very curious - not about my meets as such but about how clubs work so our catch ups are often riotous (and after Saturday night's Q&A, none of the girls will refer to the under-the-stairs cupboard as "the glory hole" any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A handful of trusted friends know, yes. One couple were so curious they even ventured to a club.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 of my married friends know about me, and the wives love hearing about kestrels and meets I go on,

slightly different note, my boss was looking over my shoulder as I was reading messages, and won't stop going on about it, hes gagging to come with me, which is never going to happen!

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

One of Rose's vanilla friends had recently broken up with her man and was complaining about her lack of sex, so we invited her to come to Chameleons with us. She was actually VERY shocked that we were swingers, so we wouldn't tell vanilla friends again. Having said that, her sons and my brother know, ant they've probably passed it on to their friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far, I haven't mentioned it to anyone at all. Would I? Yeah, perhaps - but only with a friend who is actually open-minded and I can trust.

And of course, only those whom if you told, wouldn't creep them out. There's a line some friends don't really want to cross. Just be sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of our friends know what we do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't imagine why I would want to tell a vanilla friend.I sometimes wonder if those who are eager to tell are on a recruitment drive.

People are always keen to to gosip and in the end the last person I would want to know, would know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't tell a friend,I can't see any reason why I'd feel the need to

I have enough swinging friends to talk to about this side of my life if I want to have a chat about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes everyone knows here, friends and parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of ours know,but its nothing to be ashamed of, we all adults having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my friends know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of my friends know and have in fact met a lot of my 'meets' (hate that word) so the line between my swinging life and standard friends is getting fairly blurred these days.

In answer to your question though, do what you feel comfortable with....there is no right or wrong answer particularly...you know yourself and your friends better than anyone here....sorry its probably not too much use but its what I have.... good luck whatever you decide is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope !!

But now most of my friends I have met via swinging anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My other half Bex told my best mates wife whilst d*unk last week.

I texted him to see if his wife had remembered as she was also inebriated

Oh yes he replied she remembers every detail, but your my best pal n you've always been off it so I won't judge you. Life goes on as normal in fact they have offered to have our kids if we wanna go out to play .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my swinging life separate generally, no need to open that can of worms really.

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

i once told a couple of non swinging friends,it came back to bite me on the aris.So i would suggest keeping it to yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would You tell a non-swinging friend that you swing?

I meeting an old pal for a few beers this week and we always end up talking about our antics. I've not seen him since we started swinging and not sure if I should keep quiet!

Any advice from the fab forum folk? "

Only if there was a need to tell them I wouldn't tell them my bank card pin number either if there was no need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see the point of going out of my way to tell friends about my sex life unless it's with a view to including them in it somehow. Having said that, I don't really try to disguise my more relaxed views on sex from people so they're probably reading between the lines already

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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago

Wallasey

Yes as its probably the most conservative thing i do lol

seriously i am single if anything it stops people prying into what i do in my private life

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Some friends know, some have ended up playing too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tel my mum . And some of my friends know . I have actually seen some of them on here . I have introduced some friends to the site too . I'm pretty open about my sex life . But I don't go into every little detail

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I do know of a woman who met her daughter at a dogging site, they now tell each other when and where they are going so they don't meet up again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, mine think I'm a don for having the balls to do it and go to a swingers club and strip off all by myself. They want to but too nervous on it all and find it odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talked about it and decided that this is one part of our life that is between us and no one else. Its just for us to share

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

most of my friends know as does my family

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