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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Idk if it cuz im a male or cuz im chubby but i almost seems like alot of people on here are catfishing. Like people i wouldnt be on this site if i wasnt freaky but male sex aint on the list. I dont mind sharing or bringing my own female for a couple swap but damn people really would love to speak to real people who are serious. This my first venture on a site like this and kinda make me say im better off just leaving it alone idk anyone else that can help me out please look at my profile tell me what u think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 fab is great yeah its a cattle market and your male, loads of choice.

Relax chill and go to a club you'll have better luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your experience on the site is what you make of if. Effort in, rewards out.

There's no magic formula for success, no tricks, no set path to follow. If it's not working for you then you need to look at your approach and what your expectations from the site are.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You're not far from Tease 2 which is a decent club that does events for newbies and other parties. Check out any socials in your area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd drop the text speak too. . Makes you sound about 12

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" please look at my profile tell me what u think "

Your profile shows a total lack of effort.

The 2 pictures of the woman that don't even include you would I expect put many people off. Doe she know her face is on your profile?

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Closes clubs are super far away from me i kinda live me middle of no where so it makes it tough and trust ik it a cattle game of peacocking wasnt tring be rude just kinda makes it hard when ya messaging people or people look at ya profile and just dont speak or my all time fav u look at my profile but when i look at urs it says no black men. It like ok what was point looking at my profile if im not what u want

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I'd drop the text speak too. . Makes you sound about 12 "

Must admit, I could hardly understand the OP

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"You're not far from Tease 2 which is a decent club that does events for newbies and other parties. Check out any socials in your area. "

I think you will find he is from a different Huntingdon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, your textspeak doesnt help....you say you read others profiles....but yours has nothing on it....

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Yes she does know she told me post them we not together nd pic was taken for here i fig i put enough pics my my dick up here just wanted show my friend off

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"You're not far from Tease 2 which is a decent club that does events for newbies and other parties. Check out any socials in your area.

I think you will find he is from a different Huntingdon "

Whoops! Ah well, then he's screwed (or not as the case may be).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd drop the text speak too. . Makes you sound about 12

Must admit, I could hardly understand the OP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make more effort get rid of the women pics.

We always talk to good effort messages x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You have put more effort into moaning about how people use fab that you have on your profile.

How about spending some time on your profile? You say that people exclude black men, yet you're happy to say no bi men? Just as you don't want to meet bi men, she doesn't want to meet black men.

A) improve your profile

B) go to a social

C) go to a club - and there is one not far from Huntingdon cos I just googled it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also 'not single'...and 'not couple' is somewhat confusing....

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

I'm typing from my cell fone, it a little easier to type in text speak because i can get the gist of what i got to say out quicker. As for the lack of info on my profile… filling out profiles site to site when half the time people arent serious gets to point that you kinda dont want to try as hard.

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

I didn't understand a word you said op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also 'not single'...and 'not couple' is somewhat confusing...."

I'm not sure what the other options are!

I'm afraid I struggled to understand the post and I don't do text speak. From my point of view when I receive a message totally made up of text talk I don't even reply I just delete it.

As someone else said, you have to put in the effort and you'll get much more out of the site. Good luck! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well if you freely admit you cant be bothered to write a profile, why do you assume anyone can be bothered to find out any more about you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Living in Pennsylvania might be a slight hurdle too, not many other folk from those parts here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my posts are from a pretty basic phone. I check the spelling very carefully. . If I'm seen to be making an effort with this . . I'd imagine It'll create a better for anyone reading it . Simples

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Idk if it cuz im a male or cuz im chubby but i almost seems like alot of people on here are catfishing. Like people i wouldnt be on this site if i wasnt freaky but male sex aint on the list. I dont mind sharing or bringing my own female for a couple swap but damn people really would love to speak to real people who are serious. This my first venture on a site like this and kinda make me say im better off just leaving it alone idk anyone else that can help me out please look at my profile tell me what u think "

Word

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Living in Pennsylvania might be a slight hurdle too, not many other folk from those parts here."

Omg (txt speak) I assumed it was the UK Huntingdon! Well, mate (English), all I can say is if you can't be arsed (fannied?) to write a good profile, then you can't seriously expect people to make the effort to meet with you! Can you? Or am I wrong or am I wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm typing from my cell fone, it a little easier to type in text speak because i can get the gist of what i got to say out quicker. As for the lack of info on my profile… filling out profiles site to site when half the time people arent serious gets to point that you kinda dont want to try as hard. "

What sell phone doesn;t do spell check these days? Text speak is lazy and as is clearly shown by some of the posts on this thread it clearly isn;t getting the gist across

And being to lazy to write a decent profile and then bemoaning a lack of success - can you not see how these 2 things are linked? Your sense of entitlement is off the scale

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Profile updated with more effort tell me what u all think

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe a tad more about not wanting to meet bi men?

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

So i need add why i dont want meet bi men? I kinda thought i made it clear without pushung anyone else off or being rude

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Two pictures of someone other than yourself with you not in them, on showing her face? Do you really think that's appropriate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd drop the text speak too. . Makes you sound about 12 "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two pictures of someone other than yourself with you not in them, on showing her face? Do you really think that's appropriate?"

I think it isn't allowed never mind appropriate , I had a picture removed because the guy had a watch on that he had around my waist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Idk if it cuz im a male or cuz im chubby but i almost seems like alot of people on here are catfishing. Like people i wouldnt be on this site if i wasnt freaky but male sex aint on the list. I dont mind sharing or bringing my own female for a couple swap but damn people really would love to speak to real people who are serious. This my first venture on a site like this and kinda make me say im better off just leaving it alone idk anyone else that can help me out please look at my profile tell me what u think "

Patience young padawan...

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I'm typing from my cell fone, it a little easier to type in text speak because i can get the gist of what i got to say out quicker. As for the lack of info on my profile… filling out profiles site to site when half the time people arent serious gets to point that you kinda dont want to try as hard.

What sell phone doesn;t do spell check these days? Text speak is lazy and as is clearly shown by some of the posts on this thread it clearly isn;t getting the gist across

And being to lazy to write a decent profile and then bemoaning a lack of success - can you not see how these 2 things are linked? Your sense of entitlement is off the scale"

I have a Samsung Galaxy S2 but Im not sure, id be happy if it did, but Im not confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So i need add why i dont want meet bi men? I kinda thought i made it clear without pushung anyone else off or being rude"

I think this may be a case of an American failing to detect British humour and sarcasm...

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

And just fyi, where u live just alot easier to talk in text speak, not tring sound like im being cocky, not in any way. Alot of times when im writing on here it not the only thing im doing.also i enjoy speaking slang. Im more than able of speaking as was stated " as a normal adult than a 12 year old". But it's not easy to switch between the two when that's the level of people around me

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

I have a old zte. My fone sucks big time but i got kids to support working man style.

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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I'm typing from my cell fone, it a little easier to type in text speak because i can get the gist of what i got to say out quicker. As for the lack of info on my profile… filling out profiles site to site when half the time people arent serious gets to point that you kinda dont want to try as hard. "

In the words of a wise man

We have no idea what you are saying????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the profile reads how you want people to read it, not from you, regardless of the gem given permission the photo should not be allowed , also you have a gf and a friend with benefits, perhaps a couple profile for couple meets and this one for yours,,,

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

If u look at my profile im working on a year wasnt bitching just venting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If u look at my profile im working on a year wasnt bitching just venting "

It's probably not the best written profile.

Add some spaces, the eyes need a rest in order to process it all.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"So i need add why i dont want meet bi men? I kinda thought i made it clear without pushung anyone else off or being rude

I think this may be a case of an American failing to detect British humour and sarcasm..."

I'm afraid it was a little gentle amusement on my part. Perhaps not essy to spot if you're not from the UK but painfully obvious if you are. Can I be awfully insular here and ask, OP, do you really speak that 'gangsta' style speak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And just fyi, where u live just alot easier to talk in text speak, not tring sound like im being cocky, not in any way. Alot of times when im writing on here it not the only thing im doing.also i enjoy speaking slang. Im more than able of speaking as was stated " as a normal adult than a 12 year old". But it's not easy to switch between the two when that's the level of people around me"

There are plenty of serious people on here. It's just hard to make your mark.

Be patient, you're at the bottom of the food pile until you get a few veri's and make some friends here.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Look, I'm posting again as I can't quite get my head around this. OP: you're from the USA and have local people who speak as you write - in some form of bastardized tzt speak. So they are your target audience, right? If that is the case, then why ask for advice on a UK swinging room? If you ask on the USA one, they might be saying it's excellent.

A) lose all rhe negativity from your profile, it repels both people you don't want to meet and those you do;

B) break it up with paragraphs to make it easier to read;

C) read all the other 'profile advice';

threads on fab and take note;

D) tidy your room up. I'm serious - some people filter out people if the backgrounds of their photos are minging.

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Where is tease i used to live i. York it about 2 hours away now it just kinda put down go to a club alone. I do know locals a few mostly females who are more into the hanging local than going far. I also got kids and kids mom who works alot, it not that i cant get away it more i cant do it at drop of a dime.if i go out i try not to have it more than 45 min away cuz most nites got get home to help take care my kids. Sometime just hard to meet people in pa

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Omg i didnt know this a uk forum room i thought i posted in the advice part

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

In real life i mix slang with proper english. As for spacing i normally only hit space once on my cell. There was a question bout a gf, she not she my kids mom. We live together, co parent together but are not a couple.. my fwb are women that ive meet here and there on other sites. They are willing to play but for one reason or another it didnt work out to be anymore than fwb. Alot of them are women who seen me online and was local to my area. We hook up and because when you do get past my tough guy mask i put on to keep from getting hurt im a very sweet person who tends to put others before himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I lost interest due to your txt speak. Can't understand!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Omg i didnt know this a uk forum room i thought i posted in the advice part"

I'm sure it's the UK advice thread! Also, the CIA are probably monitoring your posts.

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land


"Omg i didnt know this a uk forum room i thought i posted in the advice part

I'm sure it's the UK advice thread! Also, the CIA are probably monitoring your posts. "

Bloody hell is this for real?

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

When i posted it said advice and swinging didnt know it was uk forum last post sorry again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't know if this will help or not but.

Profiles are like putting an add in the newspaper to sell something. It needs to be clear and concise. It's about selling yourself to potential meets. Not about selling somebody else, venting, or just being vague. People need to feel like there is some type of connection. It's a harsh fact but that profile is your chance for a good first impression. People will judge you by it and your messages to them. The better they are, the better you make your chances.

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

It the nsa that watches our net here cia watches keystrokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg i didnt know this a uk forum room i thought i posted in the advice part

I'm sure it's the UK advice thread! Also, the CIA are probably monitoring your posts. "

No, it's the N.S.A.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Omg i didnt know this a uk forum room i thought i posted in the advice part

I'm sure it's the UK advice thread! Also, the CIA are probably monitoring your posts.

Bloody hell is this for real? "

CIA, FBI, NSA, IRS, GTA-V, USA agencies all watching....and listening....and recording every perps digitalized input. It's why I don't do social media.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It the nsa that watches our net here cia watches keystrokes "

Type in "hey! cunty baws!" and see what they say

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Idk if it cuz im a male or cuz im chubby but i almost seems like alot of people on here are catfishing. Like people i wouldnt be on this site if i wasnt freaky but male sex aint on the list. I dont mind sharing or bringing my own female for a couple swap but damn people really would love to speak to real people who are serious. This my first venture on a site like this and kinda make me say im better off just leaving it alone idk anyone else that can help me out please look at my profile tell me what u think "
. Lots of people on the site want to meet but only those members that make an effort to sell themselves and have a positive attitude. You will need to list your hobbies and interests on your profile in order that potential meets can identify the type of person that you are . Interesting pictures help as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

huntingdon that's USA I can see why the tease club is miles away ..

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"And just fyi, where u live just alot easier to talk in text speak, not tring sound like im being cocky, not in any way. Alot of times when im writing on here it not the only thing im doing.also i enjoy speaking slang. Im more than able of speaking as was stated " as a normal adult than a 12 year old". But it's not easy to switch between the two when that's the level of people around me"

Whoa!

You are the only one on this thread who is coming across as a pre-adolescent, whether you decide to jabber in text-speak or not. Try and stay in adult mode...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a club less than an hour from you in Harrisburg.

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Harrisburg bout hour half two hours away from my town. That where problem lie. Would love make a trip like that but to just go be a bar fly makes me nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Harrisburg bout hour half two hours away from my town. That where problem lie. Would love make a trip like that but to just go be a bar fly makes me nervous "

There is also one in Newport, PA

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Harrisburg bout hour half two hours away from my town. That where problem lie. Would love make a trip like that but to just go be a bar fly makes me nervous "

Take a hike to the store via the sidewalk and spend a nickel on a gallon of confidence, bud. *American accent*.

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By *istagameover OP   Man
over a year ago

huntingdon

Thanks d*unk ive lived in pa ten tears or so off and on just never could find anything the one i did find online is down in reading and seems to be a older crowd im not sure id fit in with. Ik i can come off as ? Just how i am kinda a mixture of two worlds and dont fit into ethier. I speak almost too proper for hood people because i didnt spend my whole life poor. I use too much slang for non ghetto people so i try find a happy place that im understood but not pretending to be someone im not

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"hood"

Wellwhaddyaknow?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"D) tidy your room up. I'm serious - some people filter out people if the backgrounds of their photos are minging.

"

Yes mum

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"D) tidy your room up. I'm serious - some people filter out people if the backgrounds of their photos are minging.

Yes mum "

"mom", mofo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like this site, the forum and chat room is fun

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