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New friend is bisexual... Should we or shouldn't we?

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By *ambinos OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bury St Edmunds

Hey guys,

A new girl started work about 6months ago and we really hit it off and became good friends. I see her every day and we go on nights out together etc etc. I think she's gorgeous and the mr agrees. She's single and not looking for a serious relationship atm.

The other night we were a bit tipsy and started talking about sex and she told me she was bisexual. I was so shocked I didn't take the opportunity to press her on the matter and the conversation ended up changing to something else (I'm stupid I know!)

Anyway it's been about a week now and she hasn't mentioned the topic since. How do I bring it up and how do I go about coaxing her into bed with us?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Invite her round to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Invite her round to yours "

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Invite her round for a few drinks at yours obviously

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!"

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"...Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!"

Have to agree with this bit

As for coaxing her round, you could always go out for a drink and try to steer the topic and see what happens. Judge her reaction to what's being said and if she fancies you sexually or both you and your partner.

However i'd still stand by the above when it comes to work colleagues. It can turn sour mixing work and personal together

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"...Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!

Have to agree with this bit

As for coaxing her round, you could always go out for a drink and try to steer the topic and see what happens. Judge her reaction to what's being said and if she fancies you sexually or both you and your partner.

However i'd still stand by the above when it comes to work colleagues. It can turn sour mixing work and personal together "

Yea. Mr N and I met at work 34 years ago. The poor chap has had to put up with me all that time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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she told me she was bisexual

How do I bring it up and how do I go about coaxing her into bed with us? "

I'm trying to understand your rational but failing miserably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys,

A new girl started work about 6months ago and we really hit it off and became good friends. I see her every day and we go on nights out together etc etc. I think she's gorgeous and the mr agrees. She's single and not looking for a serious relationship atm.

The other night we were a bit tipsy and started talking about sex and she told me she was bisexual. I was so shocked I didn't take the opportunity to press her on the matter and the conversation ended up changing to something else (I'm stupid I know!)

Anyway it's been about a week now and she hasn't mentioned the topic since. How do I bring it up and how do I go about coaxing her into bed with us? "

This is so going to end in tears, the old adage applies never mix business with pleasure!

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!"

This exactly.

Despite her being Bi-sexual this could potentially end up being quite a messy situation. Put it this way, if it goes wrong and backfires this sort of thing could end up going around where you work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder why swingers sometimes have a reputation for being sexual predators.

Your friend confided in you and your first thought was how to coax her into bed and fuck her? Nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys,

A new girl started work about 6months ago ...

... How do I bring it up and how do I go about coaxing her into bed with us? "

If you are colleagues, you don't imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine a shirt dress and no knickers should do it then accidentally sit on her hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How do I bring it up and how do I go about coaxing her into bed with us? "

What makes you think that her bisexuality indicates that she's into threesomes???

To most Bi people, it means that you are attracted to either gender and might have one-to-one relationships one one side or the other.

Being Bi does not imply promiscuity (even if she's not looking for a relationship at the moment) and it certainly doesn't mean that she's free and easy with her love-life!

Why did she tell you? Was she confiding a confidence - or coming on to you - there's a big difference...

If you want to know what to do, treat her with respect - and ask her, not us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mine field!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mine field!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I wonder why swingers sometimes have a reputation for being sexual predators.

Your friend confided in you and your first thought was how to coax her into bed and fuck her? Nice. "

I always feel this way whenever anyone starts a thread about 'wouldn't it be great if there was a way to identify swingers in normal life'.

Swingers identify themselves easily enough. They go to clubs or join sites such as this.

OP if your work colleague had been straight would you be asking this question? Would you have asked for advice as to how your OH could have seduced her?

Somehow - I doubt it.

Not everyone is a swinger. Bi, straight or gay.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always said that we wont 'take a dump on our own doorstep' so if we came into contact with work mates or friends (apart from friends that we have made on this site) we've said that we would not go any further with them

Although we are all on here for the same reason, its when things get messy then it causes problems

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"I wonder why swingers sometimes have a reputation for being sexual predators.

Your friend confided in you and your first thought was how to coax her into bed and fuck her? Nice. "

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

She might not have been looking for anything more than a friend she could be open with, in quite a few of the places I've worked I've not been open about my sexuality. If you both, or one of you, starts coming onto her, it could ruin a good friendship. Better to have a good work colleague who feels they can trust you than someone who might think you've taken things the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont...she was pissed and flirting. Dont mean she wants you or your fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op id keep a eye on mr....maybe hes allready coaxed her into bed. Behind your back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont...she was pissed and flirting. Dont mean she wants you or your fella. "

^^^^ this only I wouldn't say she was flirting, she just confided in you as a friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont...she was pissed and flirting. Dont mean she wants you or your fella.

^^^^ this only I wouldn't say she was flirting, she just confided in you as a friend! "

this - and also you said you were shocked and that it hasnt been mentioned since - she might think shes told you something that has offended you

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she make any signs that she was interested in you sexually? Just because she has told you she is bi doesn't mean she automatically wants to fuck you. Just like all lesbians aren't attracted to all women just cos they are women.

Personally id steer clear from work colleagues. Total mind field!"

me too

My daughter was seeing a guy she works with, I warned her not to but as usual no one listerns to me, they met a couple of times and things didn't go well and now she's in the situation where she dreads going to work cause she has to see him and things are awkward

I always say if it's just sex do it with someone who won't mind loosing if it goes wrong and who you don't have to see all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's more important to you ? her friendship or a good session in the bedroom.

For me personally I'd pick the friendship

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By *ambinos OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bury St Edmunds

Thanks for all the replies everyone, but jeez I'll try and choose my words more carefully next time.

The coaxing into bed was said in jest. If you'd like I'll reword it to "how do I enquire as to whether she is interested in our lifestyle?"

But I take the point about mixing work with pleasure. I'll have to start looking for another job (again I joke)

I think I'll play it by ear for now but there was some great replies here. Definitely a lot to think about x

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