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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I posted earlier, a lot lol and this evening I'm going to be messaging a few women I'm interested in meeting, I'm so new to this, any advise, do's and dont's on that first contact, what to put in that bloody subject box, I don't think "hi" is going to get me noticed compared with the thousand other mails that single females get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a four leafed clover, rabbits foot and then pray to the gods!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get a four leafed clover, rabbits foot and then pray to the gods!"

Is it that bad?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm always reluctant to reply to these in case I get a message from the OP, but willing to risk it.

Read the profile. That will give you some ideas what will attract a reply. If they have a face or full body pic then you can do worse than 'You're beautiful'. If they request a code word, use it. If they ask for a joke, send them a joke.

The men who are the most successful with me have obviously read my profile, include a face pic if necessary, and let me know when they are free and where they can meet me if I find them attractive. Vague or rude (as in nasty rude, not nice rude) messages tend to get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slowly, slowly catchy monkey my friend!

You've been here 2 weeks and your status is already bemoaning how long it takes to get verified. Patience is a virtue on here.

Keep positive, be respectful, make sure you're matched to those you contact and I'm sure you'll be rewarded!

Good luck, I hope Fab works well for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slowly, slowly catchy monkey my friend!

You've been here 2 weeks and your status is already bemoaning how long it takes to get verified. Patience is a virtue on here.

Keep positive, be respectful, make sure you're matched to those you contact and I'm sure you'll be rewarded!

Good luck, I hope Fab works well for you"

Ah yeah that thing about the verification was my PHOTO verification from posting to it being verified, I can see where the confusion lay though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said , patience goes a long way and not being pushy. Just show you've read the profile - referring to it in some way. A copy and paste message stands out like a sore thumb.

If your message gets deleted, don't take it personally. It's not a reflection on you. Sometimes getting a response can be just sending the right message at the right time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm always reluctant to reply to these in case I get a message from the OP, but willing to risk it.

Read the profile. That will give you some ideas what will attract a reply. If they have a face or full body pic then you can do worse than 'You're beautiful'. If they request a code word, use it. If they ask for a joke, send them a joke.

The men who are the most successful with me have obviously read my profile, include a face pic if necessary, and let me know when they are free and where they can meet me if I find them attractive. Vague or rude (as in nasty rude, not nice rude) messages tend to get ignored."

As lovely as you are Leeds is a bit of a drive lol.

Thanks for that ill keep it in mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!"

Ok thanks, don't apologise, it was me who wrote it lol is it realy that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!

Ok thanks, don't apologise, it was me who wrote it lol is it realy that bad?"

I think so but others may disagree. My opinion and those people I know and have spoken to agree that swinging is different from casual sex. So the fact you are stating you are here for one thing only doesn't sit well with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!

Ok thanks, don't apologise, it was me who wrote it lol is it realy that bad?"

It's a bit forthright, but who am I to say, I hardly ever get a reply or message so mine mustn't be that good!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!

Ok thanks, don't apologise, it was me who wrote it lol is it realy that bad?"

I don't think so. As Wyrd said above just make sure you read profiles and even if you think you are a perfect match you might still get turned down as we can't all meet everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said , patience goes a long way and not being pushy. Just show you've read the profile - referring to it in some way. A copy and paste message stands out like a sore thumb.

If your message gets deleted, don't take it personally. It's not a reflection on you. Sometimes getting a response can be just sending the right message at the right time. "

My only meet came from doing just that!

More right time than right man probably!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok I better look at my profile before I start messaging I'm coming off a bit arogant there lol, don't know what I was thinking, ill try again tomorrow lol

Thanks guys

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Omg....hope you fund somebody on your wave length but I thought the context of your profile was appalling. Sorry!!

Ok thanks, don't apologise, it was me who wrote it lol is it realy that bad?"

No, its honest. I would be tempted to put the same truthfully but it might attract the wrong sort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I better look at my profile before I start messaging I'm coming off a bit arogant there lol, don't know what I was thinking, ill try again tomorrow lol

Thanks guys"

It's a fine line between cheeky cockiness and arrogance, I went with boring! Lol.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I posted earlier, a lot lol and this evening I'm going to be messaging a few women I'm interested in meeting, I'm so new to this, any advise, do's and dont's on that first contact, what to put in that bloody subject box, I don't think "hi" is going to get me noticed compared with the thousand other mails that single females get."

1 Put a good avatar pic up

2 Put another good pic up

3 Put another good pic up

4....you get the drift?

Women get inundated on here, without pics your chances are slim.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry, but nothing on your current profile would attract me in the slightest.

To me it sounds pretty crass, you have no pics and your whiny status after 2 weeks, is a total turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like how you've worded your profile! It's straight to the point and there's no chance of confusion!

Good luck and hope you get plenty of fun!

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

Well, the gut reaction is it's straight to the point and honest. (At least I bloody hope so because I would hate to know what that would hide! )

You don't generally get so much unvarnished truth here so it may surprise some people, but those who are looking for guys that know what they want may be interested in a 'Bull'ish attitude.

If its you, I say stick with it, being different could give you a real edge.

But for Gods sake get some decent pics up, the face can be hidden, but show the body not just 40 shots of a cock.

Good luck.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You have VERY slim chances without any pics at all....Most ladies will automatically delete the first message......if you get over that hurdle there is then the 'can't accommodate' - it will be assumed that you are attached, and the lack of photos will back up this assumption.

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