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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Hi There

I am a new guy to the scene.

I have decided to come here as I am not looking for a relationship in the real world right now but do want to pursue and expand my sexual development after a while of not doing so!

I would appreciate any comments about my profile to help improve it but I would say that I am not going to bullshit on my profile.

I only do honesty and openness, I have a couple of personal issues (Don't we all!) but nothing sinister or worrisome, I will tell all if you want to know.

If I say something you don't like I will not take offence if you let me know and I will happily learn and adjust to suit you.

If you don't answer my emails I will not hassle you.

There are other things I may be open to that are not listed here as I am keen to expand and grow myself.

As I do not have much experience in this world I am looking for coaches/mentors to assist me while I work this site out.

I'd appreciate your thoughts and feedback folks.

Ok - cue the trolls LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sits back with the popcorn

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not a troll but will say what I think. If you're happy to be clean shaven, maybe show a pic of you clean shaved, read and take notice of the other similar threads offering advice, I think most ladies on here are clean so a bit weird stating that and other than that quite reasonable. Being a nosey bastard, I'd like to know about the issues who have.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

And this bit...."I'm not comfortable enough to goto a club on my own yet but perhaps the right friendly folks would change that!...."

My opinion is that if you're not confident enough to go to a club on your own, some people might think you lack confidence to get naked with relative strangers and have sex with them. After all, which is more 'unusual'?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello and welcome.

I can't see a great deal about your profile that I would change.

I always tell the truth too and I'm not a troll either.

What I would say is that to me you come across as willing to change to suit other people. For me a man who knows his own mind and is happy with it is much more of a turn on than a man who will alter just because I say so. An example? You shave your facial hair to suit a lady on Monday only to be contacted on Tuesday by a lady who wants to meet you that night WITH facial hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi and welcome .

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues "

What?!?! I've been sitting bouncing up and down waiting!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues

What?!?! I've been sitting bouncing up and down waiting!! "

bouncing up and down on what!? I've told you about that spacehopper with the dildo attached before

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues

What?!?! I've been sitting bouncing up and down waiting!!

bouncing up and down on what!? I've told you about that spacehopper with the dildo attached before "

I don't like things up my arse thank you!! Although I'd lie to see a couple of bi ladies using a spacehoppers two handles

(sorry, OP - ignore me )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues

What?!?! I've been sitting bouncing up and down waiting!! "

I'm a nosy bugger. Do tell

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh and ps I don't think you need to mention personal issues

What?!?! I've been sitting bouncing up and down waiting!!

bouncing up and down on what!? I've told you about that spacehopper with the dildo attached before

I don't like things up my arse thank you!! Although I'd lie to see a couple of bi ladies using a spacehoppers two handles

(sorry, OP - ignore me )"

Steve! I think the op is ignoring us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks decent. That makes a change from the usual sort you get asking for advice.

I think as already said on here you need to stay true to yourself...don't try to change to be "all things to all (wo)men".

Clubs are a good place to start...so swallow hard and go for it....socials too if any going on in your area...or organise one yourself?

The usual comments are about "hundreds" of men here for every woman.....don't swallow those stats myself as my success here would belie it being so bad....but you do need to be prepared to make an effort and to have some patience...or so it seems.

I wish I knew what it was specifically that has helped me pass 200 verifications....I'd gladly share if I knew. It dies seem you have a sensible head so good luck to you on your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to an organised social to get known and show you're genuine, can easily get half a dozen plus veri's in one hit, have a good laugh doing it and hopefully make some contacts to meet one to one with.

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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"And this bit...."I'm not comfortable enough to goto a club on my own yet but perhaps the right friendly folks would change that!...."

My opinion is that if you're not confident enough to go to a club on your own, some people might think you lack confidence to get naked with relative strangers and have sex with them. After all, which is more 'unusual'? "

I think people are different about what they are and are not comfortable with. I would feel more comfortable in more private surroundings with a few people I had already gotten to know a bit than on my colin todd in a place with people I don't know at all...

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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Hello and welcome.

I can't see a great deal about your profile that I would change.

I always tell the truth too and I'm not a troll either.

What I would say is that to me you come across as willing to change to suit other people. For me a man who knows his own mind and is happy with it is much more of a turn on than a man who will alter just because I say so. An example? You shave your facial hair to suit a lady on Monday only to be contacted on Tuesday by a lady who wants to meet you that night WITH facial hair. "

I see what you're saying. The facial hair does come and go anyway though just tends to be there more often than not lately

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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Thanks for your feedback people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep the facial hair x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks for your feedback people! "

You made no comment on the two imaginary bi ladies bouncing up and down on the space hopper handles...

Rather than a club then, take the advice above and get yourself to a social and happy swinging

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"And this bit...."I'm not comfortable enough to goto a club on my own yet but perhaps the right friendly folks would change that!...."

My opinion is that if you're not confident enough to go to a club on your own, some people might think you lack confidence to get naked with relative strangers and have sex with them. After all, which is more 'unusual'?

I think people are different about what they are and are not comfortable with. I would feel more comfortable in more private surroundings with a few people I had already gotten to know a bit than on my colin todd in a place with people I don't know at all... "

So even a social is out? I'm a single female and I have travelled up and down the country on my own going to some!

I like my man to be confident so if a social event overcomes you, then that is something you need to work on. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"And this bit...."I'm not comfortable enough to goto a club on my own yet but perhaps the right friendly folks would change that!...."

My opinion is that if you're not confident enough to go to a club on your own, some people might think you lack confidence to

So even a social is out? I'm a single female and I have travelled up and down the country on my own going to some!

I like my man to be confident so if a social event overcomes you, then that is something you need to work on. Sorry if that sounds harsh."

I wouldn't rule it out. A social maybe the way to go

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would say lurk in the shadows waiting for an opportunity to prey on the vulnerable!

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By *Kopenmind OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"I would say lurk in the shadows waiting for an opportunity to prey on the vulnerable!

"

The judge says I can't do that anymore....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My words of advice are:

1. Read profiles

2. Read profiles

3. Read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi and welcome to the site.

Nice to read a good profile for a change. The only thing(s) I woudd change or add is that don't change your facial hair to suit other people - just be your self and add some body shots - not necessarily cock pics, but a torso and wearing underpants to leave to the imagination I find very sexy.

P

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"My words of advice are:

1. Read profiles

2. Read profiles

3. Read profiles"

Won't ensure you get someone to agree to meet you though.

You could read profiles from now until the end of time and not get a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My words of advice are:

1. Read profiles

2. Read profiles

3. Read profiles

Won't ensure you get someone to agree to meet you though.

You could read profiles from now until the end of time and not get a meet!

"
I know its a cock fest for women lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My words of advice are:

1. Read profiles

2. Read profiles

3. Read profiles

Won't ensure you get someone to agree to meet you though.

You could read profiles from now until the end of time and not get a meet!

But not reading them will guarantee you will not get a meet.

I know its a cock fest for women lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the swinging desert that is Milton Keynes.

However there are a few clubs within an hours drive from MK which run regular nights for singles. Suck it up and go most have a bar area for you to go to and treat it like a social anyway.

Clubs opened so many doors in terms of meeting people and party invites. They are a simple way in to the lifestyle.

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