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Am I a Proper Swinger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

Or a bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

Go to a club!! You'll find it much easier good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should have said i can only play on second meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You go at your own pace and what feels comfortable to you

Lots of people want to get to know people beforehand,don't let it stress you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There are no rules to say you have to play on a first meet or second. Do whatever works for you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

we don't play on first meets...ever. The trick is to not give a flying doughnut about what anyone else thinks you are and do what you want to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? Or a bloke "
lol yea

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Just add in to your profile that you prefer a social meet first as you don't play on first meets, I've seen it on plenty of profiles before and it will save people that prefer to get straight down to it messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

lots dont play at first meets your probably getting turned down cos you cant accommodate and fems assume yr in a relationship or married and cheating lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? we don't play on first meets...ever. The trick is to not give a flying doughnut about what anyone else thinks you are and do what you want to do "
too right, just seems the people ive had meets with want to jump straight into play.. Wasnt sure if that was the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

Who is a 'proper swinger' and does it matter anyway?

Make sure your initial chat makes it clear you only socialise on first meet. Lots of people will find this reassuring I would have thought. Builds up a nice feeling of anticipation for next time.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this?

we don't play on first meets...ever. The trick is to not give a flying doughnut about what anyone else thinks you are and do what you want to do "

yep got it in one!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this?

we don't play on first meets...ever. The trick is to not give a flying doughnut about what anyone else thinks you are and do what you want to do

too right, just seems the people ive had meets with want to jump straight into play.. Wasnt sure if that was the norm"

it is for some and not for others and you will at times read opinions for and against both in the forums. The only opinions that are important when it comes to things like that are yours and your potential play mates.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this?

we don't play on first meets...ever. The trick is to not give a flying doughnut about what anyone else thinks you are and do what you want to do "

yep got it in one!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? lots dont play at first meets your probably getting turned down cos you cant accommodate and fems assume yr in a relationship or married and cheating lol "
i understand about no accomodating, the meets i do get involve playing on first meet.. Sometimes just after going through the front door

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


" Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

not sure we'd want too play on first meet... maybe if we all got on then yes but would much prefer asocial meet first.... each to their own and you have to feel right... ng would never do anything she half felt was wrong..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walks in on the thread , and walks straight back out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tips to check if you are a swinger. You don't just want 1-2-1 meets, you are interested in 3somes, 4somes, or group sex, or you go to clubs or parties or outdoor sex or any other non boringly straight* type of sex.

*note, straight does not indicate heterosexuality but mundane conformist behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always insist on a social meet first, and wouldn't play on a first meet.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous. "
or a hedonist,

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous. or a hedonist, "

Yes I prefer that.

My name is Peach_Pitt and I'm an hedonist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous. or a hedonist, "

I'm a prev - nice arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous. "

that's good, try the next step to hedonism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

a lot don't play on first meets and why should they. Granted some will turn you down on this but most won't so it shouldn't be the biggest stumbling block you will have in getting a meet.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Out-dated form of meet an era of contact magazine .with computer and smart-phones.you can verify someone instantly either by webcam or any other form.As for me I won't meet for the so called ( let see if there's chemistry syndrome) very off putting. I don't suggest you shag any tom dick and Harry. these days alot of guy's won't put up with that.

Sorry .good luck with your meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this? "

Fuck knows what you are fella but you dont need a label to fuck and suck and you dont have to do either till you have met someone only a saddo would say 100% yes till they have eyeballed and chatted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder where the OP finds all these people that wanna shag on the first meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder where the OP finds all these people that wanna shag on the first meet? "

We do exist

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"I ask myself this and have come to the conclusion that I'm not a swinger; I'm promiscuous. or a hedonist,

I'm a prev - nice arse "

Come get it, nice legs.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My Harry Potter invisibility cloak actually works!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are no rules to say you have to play on a first meet or second. Do whatever works for you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you fessed up to being married? That may help as on here honesty is all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tried arranging meets but have been turened down as I cant really play on first meets.. At least until i get to know them.. Am i swinger or doomed to fail at this?

Who is a 'proper swinger' and does it matter anyway?

Make sure your initial chat makes it clear you only socialise on first meet. Lots of people will find this reassuring I would have thought. Builds up a nice feeling of anticipation for next time."

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