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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Not meaning to sound superior or to down play the erotic excitement....

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Not meaning to sound superior or to down play the erotic excitement.... "
It would seem that on reflection 'Yes'

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not meaning to sound superior or to down play the erotic excitement.... It would seem that on reflection 'Yes'"

Or maybe people aren't interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

"

I would guess most people that enjoy bdsm and the.'darker side' of swinging are on fetish sites, maybe try one of those

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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

Add me to your mailing list. We may be interesting depending on when and where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add us too please xx

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

if it was london based then i'd be interested but west midlands is probably too far.

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

Definitely a strong interest in bdsm with a little experience and wanting more!

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Not meaning to sound superior or to down play the erotic excitement.... It would seem that on reflection 'Yes'

Or maybe people aren't interested?"
That is possible. Maybe we've missed the point, our maybe not we aren't your cup of jo....many thanks for your input though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please add me to any party details x

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"if it was london based then i'd be interested but west midlands is probably too far."
From previous experience London has a lot to offer...on reflection we're trying achieve a balance where experience adds ease, pace of mind, a valued benefit from excitement, to conclude in a thrill.

Any suggestions you may have would be invaluable..Thanks for thought

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Please add me to any party details x"
Most definitely, perhaps forwarding an update further and near to a definate date & time?

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Definitely a strong interest in bdsm with a little experience and wanting more!"
likewise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the BDSM and vanilla side - I am quote sure there are many more on here but sometimes it is difficult to tell

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

There are quite a few of us here.

We have our feet planted firmly in both, but because of that find that we dont fit perfectly in either.

Fetishers dont dont get swingers and generally swingers dont get the bdsm scene.

we have been to a couple of parties with a bdsm theme and loved it.

Ideally there shoukd be a section of fab devoted to "dark swinging" as you so perfectly described it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not meaning to sound superior or to down play the erotic excitement.... It would seem that on reflection 'Yes'

Or maybe people aren't interested?"

I'm glad some are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play on both scenes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it was london based then i'd be interested but west midlands is probably too far."

bsdam scene in the mids is huge

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

We are a Domme/sub couple who enjoy swinging. Also on the popular fet site

Pandora

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We enjoy both.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

love both

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

Always interested around London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add us please for the mids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have just started looking into the scene a little as it appeals to us both

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

Oh yes, and we can g'tee they v much know their stuff. Always a pleasure, mind and body. Ps we are out for fun in mids this wed. Maybe chams or a hotel in coventry. Say hello, let's see what we can fix up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

"

There are a few it was one couple I wont name who got me on here who are into both scenes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have arrived here from the Fetish/BDSM Scene. I retain some interest in Fet, but not BDSM, now.

Yes, some people do both - just don't tell anyone...? OK....??

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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago

Wallasey

I am from the fet side meet so many people who did both i thought i would join fab to take a look and never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am from the fet side meet so many people who did both i thought i would join fab to take a look and never looked back"

The Fetish Police will be after us both now.... Run.... Lols...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a dabble here and there

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Add me too please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having been searching for a domme but there all prodomme on here ,and paying for it would take the fun out of it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in both camps. And help out with a club event that caters for just this x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a Fet/Bdsm venue we find there is a few on here who like both the scenes and crossing over them.

Good luck and you would always be welcome to come give us a visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"having been searching for a domme but there all prodomme on here ,and paying for it would take the fun out of it for me "

No...they aren't. Keep looking and im sure you will find someone. Although I have been amazed at how many women profess to be sub on here. I blame that 50 shades tosh.

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By *ollardFoxandHoundCouple
over a year ago

Ourous Chester rightnow.

We enjoy both but bdsm always takes priority for us...Fab gives us the best of both worlds and we can't ask for better. ..plenty more like us on here...just a bit cloaked is all. The Unit as said caters for both sides which makes it so popular.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Oh yes, and we can g'tee they v much know their stuff. Always a pleasure, mind and body. Ps we are out for fun in mids this wed. Maybe chams or a hotel in coventry. Say hello, let's see what we can fix up! "
Good to hear from you, be good to fix a set or two, perhaps soon.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

For those in both camps, as are we...coming from a strictly multitude of vanilla experiences, with a dabble in the BDSM Arena here and there....we appreciate the complexity of that understanding. This present idea started to take shape in the usually way, some talk, a pen, and of course, a napkin...well we had to pierce our dignity.

For those wishing you be added, consider it done...and look out in your ib, for notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the name suggests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our bdsm basic event is ideal for them that are new and not sure what it entails.

We start at the basic from etiquette, then go through floggers and how to use them plus other impact toys.

Also a little basic rope and wax play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be in heaven if I was part of a swinging bdsm couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be in heaven if I was part of a swinging bdsm couple."

Or just a Couple....

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We'd be interested, always on the mission to learn more.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

We are a couple who enjoy meeting / swinging. Also on the popular spanking site.

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By *mandaKnightleyTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

"

Since undergoing something of a change over 10 years ago I have found it difficult to secure fulltime employment. And if you don't have a regular income, the club scene where a lot of the fun takes place, is a closed shop. Being single hasn't opened many doors either. I joined Fab hoping that I would find people linked into BDSM networks. It hasn't worked for me yet. But I've clearly been looking in the wrong places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play in both

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By *oonshadowsCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

There are a fair few couples on here with feet in both camps but try mentioning it on the main fet site and you'll get way more of a slating than on here.

Several clubs and party nights have tried mixing the two over the years although numbers can be difficult. The Kage at Partners was set up with a more sexual bias and Townhouse regularly runs successful events that mix swinging and BDSM. Try having a chat with the organisers of those and good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be interested

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"There are a fair few couples on here with feet in both camps but try mentioning it on the main fet site and you'll get way more of a slating than on here.

Several clubs and party nights have tried mixing the two over the years although numbers can be difficult. The Kage at Partners was set up with a more sexual bias and Townhouse regularly runs successful events that mix swinging and BDSM. Try having a chat with the organisers of those and good luck xx"
We've made some enquiries at Townhouse and had a good response from them...we'll be leading off with a quarterly themed event to coincide with pre & post holiday seasons.

Hope this goes further in clarifying matters.

Many thanks

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

Since undergoing something of a change over 10 years ago I have found it difficult to secure fulltime employment. And if you don't have a regular income, the club scene where a lot of the fun takes place, is a closed shop. Being single hasn't opened many doors either. I joined Fab hoping that I would find people linked into BDSM networks. It hasn't worked for me yet. But I've clearly been looking in the wrong places. "
Not sure if you're on the same divination as we are, however, we're confident that such matters, will be clearer.

We trust that you are now in the BDSM scene, if not, what are you seeking..

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By *mandaKnightleyTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

Since undergoing something of a change over 10 years ago I have found it difficult to secure fulltime employment. And if you don't have a regular income, the club scene where a lot of the fun takes place, is a closed shop. Being single hasn't opened many doors either. I joined Fab hoping that I would find people linked into BDSM networks. It hasn't worked for me yet. But I've clearly been looking in the wrong places. Not sure if you're on the same divination as we are, however, we're confident that such matters, will be clearer.

We trust that you are now in the BDSM scene, if not, what are you seeking.. "

Well here's the bit I removed from my original profile. It quickly become clear that a lot of swingers are put off by kink.


""It won't surprise you to know that I have my kinks. These are reflected in fantasies in which master/mistress and slave relationships feature heavily. I have a [now not so] secret desire to be a collared slave to a dominant couple who will really stretch my boundaries.

Enforced chastity, heavy restraint and (mild) cp are a huge turn on, as is the humiliation of being compelled to provide sexual services in a group setting. I am an exhibitionist by nature; I love to perform. Anyone who can arrange a starring role for me in a bukkake party and/or movie making goes to the top of my list.""

Yes there's a lot of slut in there to go with the (playful/disobedient) sub. As for scene, I have a FL profile, but the site isn't particularly user friendly, especially if you're using a smartphone to access the net most of the time. That's where I'm at right now. Anyway just putting it out there!!!

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Do consider adding my name to your distribution list for future events.

Doctor Nasty

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Not planning on anything in our part of the world, from the sound of it, which is a shame as we are both very intrigued by this at the moment, but a bit clueless too. Will just have to feel our way, as it were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eye brow wiggle..did someone mention...bdsm..weg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beats me

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East


"Not planning on anything in our part of the world, from the sound of it, which is a shame as we are both very intrigued by this at the moment, but a bit clueless too. Will just have to feel our way, as it were."
... plenty in our part of world .. ie north east ... last time I looked mackemland still free from quarantine ... lol so p.m. us and find out re the bdsm...

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Do consider adding my name to your distribution list for future events.

Doctor Nasty"

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Not planning on anything in our part of the world, from the sound of it, which is a shame as we are both very intrigued by this at the moment, but a bit clueless too. Will just have to feel our way, as it were."
It's not an impossibility, however if you're willing to engage, from just this posting, you can see that there is numerous interest..possibilities are therefore endless added.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Eye brow wiggle..did someone mention...bdsm..weg"
Indeed

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Not planning on anything in our part of the world, from the sound of it, which is a shame as we are both very intrigued by this at the moment, but a bit clueless too. Will just have to feel our way, as it were. ... plenty in our part of world .. ie north east ... last time I looked mackemland still free from quarantine ... lol so p.m. us and find out re the bdsm... "
The connections are endless, and very possible...we favour this very much

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

Since undergoing something of a change over 10 years ago I have found it difficult to secure fulltime employment. And if you don't have a regular income, the club scene where a lot of the fun takes place, is a closed shop. Being single hasn't opened many doors either. I joined Fab hoping that I would find people linked into BDSM networks. It hasn't worked for me yet. But I've clearly been looking in the wrong places. Not sure if you're on the same divination as we are, however, we're confident that such matters, will be clearer.

We trust that you are now in the BDSM scene, if not, what are you seeking..

Well here's the bit I removed from my original profile. It quickly become clear that a lot of swingers are put off by kink.

"It won't surprise you to know that I have my kinks. These are reflected in fantasies in which master/mistress and slave relationships feature heavily. I have a [now not so] secret desire to be a collared slave to a dominant couple who will really stretch my boundaries.

Enforced chastity, heavy restraint and (mild) cp are a huge turn on, as is the humiliation of being compelled to provide sexual services in a group setting. I am an exhibitionist by nature; I love to perform. Anyone who can arrange a starring role for me in a bukkake party and/or movie making goes to the top of my list."

Yes there's a lot of slut in there to go with the (playful/disobedient) sub. As for scene, I have a FL profile, but the site isn't particularly user friendly, especially if you're using a smartphone to access the net most of the time. That's where I'm at right now. Anyway just putting it out there!!! "
Well that opened the subject up. Clearly there is much thought and planning.

Have you began your research or...

Has this fantasy been played out in any scenario?

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By *mandaKnightleyTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley

Now that would be telling

I made the effort to update my profile on another site which is possibly more in tune with this kind of thing. It should be pretty easy to find.

I've not really had the opportunity to follow up since I registered there a few months ago. There are many competing demands on my time. Although I only work part time, outside of that I'm heavily committed in the voluntary and community sector, the 'community" in this case is usually characterised by the letters LGBT.

But no I haven't acted it out yet. If I do something, I do it properly. And I really need to discover what I'm letting myself in for. Which is why I want to take the opportunity to learn from those who have more experience in such matters. What I'm contemplating is a far cry from a brief flirtation with the scene over ten years ago in Essex and East London when I spent a little time with a pro domme.

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By *ot4ujoWoman
over a year ago

Eccles

I dabble in both sides , always thought of myself as. Sub but after a few trips to Bdsm events at the gatehouse defiantly like switching .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dabble in both. . I even have a sub. . love nothing more than fun in all guises. . xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a very big need for a BDSM home on this site.

Sadist here looking for my sub partner.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Recently started using restraints and spanking with a friend. Now starting to get interested in doing knots/rope work.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Now that would be telling

I made the effort to update my profile on another site which is possibly more in tune with this kind of thing. It should be pretty easy to find.

I've not really had the opportunity to follow up since I registered there a few months ago. There are many competing demands on my time. Although I only work part time, outside of that I'm heavily committed in the voluntary and community sector, the 'community" in this case is usually characterised by the letters LGBT.

But no I haven't acted it out yet. If I do something, I do it properly. And I really need to discover what I'm letting myself in for. Which is why I want to take the opportunity to learn from those who have more experience in such matters. What I'm contemplating is a far cry from a brief flirtation with the scene over ten years ago in Essex and East London when I spent a little time with a pro domme.

"
Very enlightening...any forward plans to see the actual?

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"I dabble in both sides , always thought of myself as. Sub but after a few trips to Bdsm events at the gatehouse defiantly like switching . "
Interesting concept are doing research or have you gone past that point?

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Recently started using restraints and spanking with a friend. Now starting to get interested in doing knots/rope work."

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"I dabble in both sides , always thought of myself as. Sub but after a few trips to Bdsm events at the gatehouse defiantly like switching . Interesting concept are doing research or have you gone past that point? "
'are you'

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Dabble in both. . I even have a sub. . love nothing more than fun in all guises. . xxx"
We appreciate you appetite for discovery...keeping you posted.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

There are a few it was one couple I wont name who got me on here who are into both scenes."
So what about you and your exploits, which area intrigues you most presently?

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By *mandaKnightleyTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley


"But no I haven't acted it out yet. If I do something, I do it properly. And I really need to discover what I'm letting myself in for. Which is why I want to take the opportunity to learn from those who have more experience in such matters. What I'm contemplating is a far cry from a brief flirtation with the scene over ten years ago in Essex and East London when I spent a little time with a pro domme.

"

Very enlightening...any forward plans to see the actual?"

With me, research comes before planning. But yes, it is definitely something I intend to take forward. However that isn't something I can easily do on my own!!! So a key part of this is about finding people I can trust.

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By *oonshadowsCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes


"With me, research comes before planning. But yes, it is definitely something I intend to take forward. However that isn't something I can easily do on my own!!! So a key part of this is about finding people I can trust. "

I know it's Manchester so a bit of a hike but look up S M Dykes - a very supportive community and people from all over the world with a range of gender and sexual identifications attend the yearly conference in May which has some excellent workshops as well as the odd play party x have fun exploring x

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By *mandaKnightleyTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley


"I know it's Manchester so a bit of a hike but look up S M Dykes - a very supportive community and people from all over the world with a range of gender and sexual identifications attend the yearly conference in May which has some excellent workshops as well as the odd play party x have fun exploring x"

Thank you for that. I think I may take a vacation in May. And I may even take a side-trip to Blackpool while I'm in the North-West. This thread seems to be opening up a range of possibilities.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

There are quite a few with interests in both camps, they just choose not to advertise the fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy and rather pleased to say I'm now 'owned' and in a fantastic part time relationship with my mistress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy and rather pleased to say I'm now 'owned' and in a fantastic part time relationship with my mistress. "

Congratulations..!! I wish you and your Mistress all the very best...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are quite a few with interests in both camps, they just choose not to advertise the fact. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eye brow wiggle...did someone mention bdsm

Their can be a crossover between bdsm lifestylers and those who swing, but it takes an open mind. Personally, l don't get " swinging " but each to their own.

Townhouse in Liverpool held a 50 shades event, where swingers were invited to attend. It was an excellent night. The venue owners organised an excellent chance for people to sit/chat/mingle/watch etc..demo's and explore if they wished.

I demonstrated fire play, some were shocked, many were intquisitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy and rather pleased to say I'm now 'owned' and in a fantastic part time relationship with my mistress.

Congratulations..!! I wish you and your Mistress all the very best... "

Thank you. I've looked for this for many years. Finally met someone who's needs match mine and who has the right experience and the tools to apply it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy and rather pleased to say I'm now 'owned' and in a fantastic part time relationship with my mistress.

Congratulations..!! I wish you and your Mistress all the very best... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep us updated please. Very interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are quite a few with interests in both camps, they just choose not to advertise the fact.

"

i choose to not to mix the two

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By *ornybifemcplCouple
over a year ago

Waterlooville

We have had our feet in both camps for over 10 years, and love it! We just tell the Fet friends this is how we work and they generally accept it. Swingers do tend to run away more, but those that ask more are worth it! So any event, anywhere in the country where it mixes we will try! So please let us know details as you get them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bdsm but I don't swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore bdsm, but I'm currently single and prefer to play with people I know and trust. That said I am still intrigued to find out more, especially as it increases the chance of finding someone compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I adore bdsm, but I'm currently single and prefer to play with people I know and trust. That said I am still intrigued to find out more, especially as it increases the chance of finding someone compatible "

im the same x

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I like both... Alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy some good BDSM fun as a dominant. Would be interested in any get togethers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love bdsm but I don't swing"

But this is a swing site. How very dare you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love bdsm but I don't swing

But this is a swing site. How very dare you! "

Hehe oh I'm sorry! I'll go

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Why are they things that should be considered separately? We don't know a lot about the bdsm side (other than we enjoy what we know of it), but really curious as to why there seems to be such a definite line drawn between the two as this thread implies. Is swinging viewed dimly by bdsm people, and vice versa? Apologies if this is a daft question!

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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

No such thing as a daft question.

By some it is and visa versa. There are as many different ways of doing things and thinking about things as there are people on the site. As long as it works for the people involved in the relationship it shouldn't mater how others judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add me to the list. I go to a decent amount of fetish clubs and private parties with various themes in the West Midlands and would be interested to hear of anything starting up that had more of a swinging feel to it.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

This is fantastic news, we hope you are truly fulfilled from here on

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

On the contrary. There are some whom have thought this. we feel that each has its own merit...we are mot implying that there is a vast difference, however, feel the need to gain and gauge all to response to ideas going forward....to include, not to exclude differences, Thus the making of a wider choice and a massive eventful experience for All.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Point noted

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

A view that we'll happily support

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Hey Thanks J&c, we hope you're well.

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

Count us in mid jan onwards. Serious play overdue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be my age, but this thread is getting seriously confusing....!!

To clarify my position - I have feet in both camps, or one foot in each camp..! Sexy Fet if you like.. Or Swing with BDSM ..?

Would certainly consider a Swing/BDSM/Sexy Fet West Mids type event, in the New Year....

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

"

We do. Also on a popular fet site. So would be very interested.

Pandora

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Ive had feet in both camps for many years.Ive meet a few on this site who do as well.Had a small party at the weekend with two ladies who now like the dark side as well.

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH


"Are there many couples with feet in both camps.

We're looking to have a series of parties..in the new year..they will be themed..for both dark fabbers and bdsm lovers.

We're not revolutionary nor looking for unsolicited attention, however, while we enjoy the scene we feel the mental constraint of swinging.

Does anyone else follow our efforts?

"

We do. Also on a popular fet site. So would be very interested.

Pandora

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We use both using bdsm to enhance sex!

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

The time has come!

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London


"I'd be in heaven if I was part of a swinging bdsm couple."

Precisely what I am looking for too. So many male's talk the talk but that's it.

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By *ornado_JonesMan
over a year ago

Harwich

Yeah, another one for both camps, although I generally sit on the kinked side of the fence! I dunno, it just strikes me (and my collective down here in the dirty deep south) the UK seems to be stuck in the 70s where both BDSM and 'Swinging' are concerned.. All about the seedy, dodgy clubs & shagging in a car park... It really is about time both camps got their act together and bring the sexy back... Like our amigos in the Netherlands are starting to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've recently started our journey into bdsm and although not strayed too far into in yet are a dom/sub cuckold couple. Its not been difficult finding people just getting them to understand us or when we've had a few meets where we've incorporated the style of play we want been disappointed as they've not been able to live up to their boasts.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm into both scenes....

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Not sure if this has been said before, but there tends to be a lot of snobbery from bdsm players towards swingers and there can be ill feeling visa versa.

I have been a Pro Dominant for 15 years and love the BDSM lifestyle. BUT I am also a swinger and proud! I don't really bring BDSM into swinging as I like to keep the 2 separate but if I do, then simple stuff like some good tying, tease, sensation play is good. Female Dominance is a huge turn on for a lot of guys and indeed bisexual/lesbian females and I found that I have fallen into 'role' sometimes without meaning to!

There are many swingers who just don't 'get' BDSM and are even afraid of it! This is why we run our 50 shades nights. I don't like to see 2 camps divided when so much fun could be had!! lol They are VERY popular nights and we have been running them for about 2 years. Swingers who are curious about BDSM come along to watch demos, ask questions and watch real BDSM play. They can get involved if they want and we chat about basic etiquette and how they can incorporate simple BDSM into their play to enhance their already wonderful sex lives. It culminates in a very horny, insightful night and as you would guess, everyone is scrambling for playspace as the whole thing gets them heated up!! lol

Our mainstream BDSM nights are Fetish led but we welcome swingers. This is to break down any barriers between the 2. Some venues do not allow sexual contact or nudity on BDSM nights....I just don't get it! As a Pro, then yes, no sexual contact, but socially, BDSM can be very sexual.

I would love to see more of a cross over between BDSM nd swinging. Lets face it, if you have ever worn a blindfold while having sex, then you have experienced basic BDSM play...you have submitted. It's wonderful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I agree with all of the above, I think a visit to the Townhouse may be in order, sooner rather than later.

This is exactly where my new partner and I are at. Definitely into the Fet/BDSM but with sexy, Swinging tendencies ..!!

Best check the Townhouse website next then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some BDSM folk view swinging poorly but plenty mix it to whatever level they choose...Im a bit of an BDSM 'evangelist'...I used to hsow guys in swinging clubs a few basics...most were up for it

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

Iron, looking forward to letting the darkside rule, next wed???

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille


"Iron, looking forward to letting the darkside rule, next wed???

"
Happy to let it show, let out show, let it show.

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

Dark Wednesday

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By *r and Mrs BiteMeCouple
over a year ago

Belbroughton, Stourbridge

Feet in both camps here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find both camps can be as bad as each other. tit for tat.

I rarely mix the two and that causes more issues than the fact im a swinger and into bdsm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are into a bit of BDSM every now and again to keep the spice up it's not something we do every time, but when we do its a massive turn on C x

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

im a sub have been since I was 15 if its in Birmingham let me know

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

Playing pm

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Try looking at Club Atlantis Evolution website swingers and fetish events

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Owned sub here

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Many thanks, you obviuosly missed the whole thread. Bless you.

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

Most determinately, looking forward to a fulfilling time

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By *roncoversserene OP   Couple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

It is pleasure to make your acquaintance, expand if you may....

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