FabSwingers.com forum: Loss of libido

By *PLips OP Couple
over a year ago

Stroud

Starting to get concerned my wife has lost her libido, what can I/we do to get it back, can anyone help !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try talking to her instead of broadcasting her potential problem publicly.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Try talking to her instead of broadcasting her potential problem publicly.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Log off here and focus on her, talk, rediscover each other, suss out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk to her, discuss any problems or reasons! has there been any factors you can see that may be causing it that need addressing?

failing all that ^^^ jagermeister

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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"talk to her, discuss any problems or reasons! has there been any factors you can see that may be causing it that need addressing?

failing all that ^^^ jagermeister

And Vodka.

Only kidding. Just talk it through. But don't get cross with her. It happens for a lot of reasons. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are other aspects of your relationship with her...?

How is her work life balance...?

Does she do much exercise...?

How is her diet...?

Be gentle, loving and supportive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to talk to your wife and find out if there is something troubling her.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

Log off, go out and do something fun and have a laugh together

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By *roncoverssereneCouple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

"Try talking to her instead of broadcasting her potential problem publicly.

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By *roncoverssereneCouple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

"talk to her, discuss any problems or reasons! has there been any factors you can see that may be causing it that need addressing?

failing all that ^^^ jagermeister

And Vodka.

Only kidding. Just talk it through. But don't get cross with her. It happens for a lot of reasons. X"

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Maybe get her off the pill and you go and get the snip instead ?

Jane x

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Her libido might be fine.

She might have gone off those who make her most private emotions public knowledge.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"Starting to get concerned my wife has lost her libido, what can I/we do to get it back, can anyone help ! "

is she on medication? some cause loss of libido

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By *erseyridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

try going out with her ,as others have sed being on here wont help her confidence ,,make her feel loved n wanted ,take over doing sum chores pamper her ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Step back from fab and spend some time getting to know each other again, date her, spoil her, make her feel sexy again

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Maybe get her off the pill and you go and get the snip instead ?

Jane x"

Did this work for you?

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"Starting to get concerned my wife has lost her libido, what can I/we do to get it back, can anyone help ! "

Try a really romantic scenario go to a bar and chat her up.

If that does not work trade in for a younger model

No just work at it without getting stressed up about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As well as the above advice don't make a big deal over it. Give her time to find it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make her a cup of tea. Pauline Fowler on eastenders swore by a nice cup of tea as the answer to everything

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Her libido might be fine.

She might have gone off those who make her most private emotions public knowledge."

Well said!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Surprised by the responses here. Where is any advice at all? You have all presumed he is sneaking around, when they may just be an open couple, and he is asking for ideas!!! Fuck! A bloke asking/taking interest in his wife! Drown it, burrrn it, cast it out with pitch forks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surprised by the responses here. Where is any advice at all? You have all presumed he is sneaking around, when they may just be an open couple, and he is asking for ideas!!! Fuck! A bloke asking/taking interest in his wife! Drown it, burrrn it, cast it out with pitch forks!!!

Who suggested he was sneaking around?? Many said that he is better off talking to her , sooner than asking on here and plenty more said that making a fuss of her could be the way forward

All good advice as we dont know of the reasons! You sound angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

?can you read? Everyone gave advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he commented on the wrong post cos mr angry hasnt read this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should actually read the responses before you make a comment like this! People have given some very good advise to the OP and no one has suggested that he is sneaking around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have dips and low times when tiredness and worries take over. As others have said, the only way to find out is communication. I'm sure she will appreciate your concern.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Who suggested he was sneaking around?? Many said that he is better off talking to her , sooner than asking on here and plenty more said that making a fuss of her could be the way forward

All good advice as we dont know of the reasons! You sound angry

?can you read? Everyone gave advice"

"I think he commented on the wrong post cos mr angry hasnt read this thread

Maybe you should actually read the responses before you make a comment like this! People have given some very good advise to the OP and no one has suggested that he is sneaking around. "

MAYBE... people just shouldn't assume that he is talking behind his partner back. As that is pretty much the crux of all the responses.

I do not see how "maybe you should start talking to her and stop chatting away on here" type responses, in anyway help. Essentially you are voting him in as the guilty party, that he is directly responsible for her sex drive. The guy is making a simple enquiry!

I am wondering if all women are somehow mules to men or something? Is it at all possible some of you do actually take sex into your own hands occasionally????????????

(hint it's a swinging site - and this is in support and advice)

Try horny goats OP, a decent multi vitamin, decent varied diet, good sleep, Ginseng - there are a fair few supplements if you want to go down that route. Obviously a Dr might be a good option too. As well as mixing it up, taking time and having a chat.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've lost mine now and again on here, I wouldn't worry about it too much, it's not like my area is full of respectful good looking guys.....

On a serious note, it does happen, but it will come back as long as there is no pressure, well it did for me, so fingers crossed

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Talk it through with your partner

We all have these times in our life where stress & worry take over

I know from past experience but be open & honest & most of all understanding & I'm sure you will both be fine

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

It's a couples profile, so presumably they are asking for advice......as usual, the know better than everyone else's, jump right in with their assumptions.

I,m sorry I have no advice, but I hope you both work through it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who suggested he was sneaking around?? Many said that he is better off talking to her , sooner than asking on here and plenty more said that making a fuss of her could be the way forward

All good advice as we dont know of the reasons! You sound angry

?can you read? Everyone gave advice

I think he commented on the wrong post cos mr angry hasnt read this thread

Maybe you should actually read the responses before you make a comment like this! People have given some very good advise to the OP and no one has suggested that he is sneaking around.

MAYBE... people just shouldn't assume that he is talking behind his partner back. As that is pretty much the crux of all the responses.

I am wondering if all women are somehow mules to men or something? Is it at all possible some of you do actually take sex into your own hands occasionally????????????

(hint it's a swinging site - and this is in support and advice)

horny goat is a natural testosterone booster, its his wife he is talking about, MAYBE you didn't read that bit either and just PRESUMED that aswell, you are digging an even bigger hole with your ranty anger, x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"It's a couples profile, so presumably they are asking for advice......as usual, the know better than everyone else's, jump right in with their assumptions.

I,m sorry I have no advice, but I hope you both work through it

8 comments made pointing to either it being his fault or to stop talking behind the Mrs back. Bloody amazin.

I am going to post a profile review or another question about the best way to to dv/dvp and see if that brings something new to these forums

lol

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You know women take horny goat ?

And ok, I wont be ranty anger, if you stop trying to be the guru of all things sexual. Deal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know women take horny goat ?

And ok, I wont be ranty anger, if you stop trying to be the guru of all things sexual. Deal?"

we cant make a deal with someone that jumps to their own conclusions and hijacks someones thread by slating the advice given and harping on about non existent cheating accusations and then slates the health advice given but hypocritically suggests a test boost to a lady

we are certainly not claiming to be gurus of any kind but after 17 years of our own trials and tribulations we feel that we may have been able to offer a little help

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By *hes_n_snuckCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Both switch off the gadgets. cook a meal together and enjoy each others time together. Worked for us but I know everyone is different hope you two get the fun back

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You know women take horny goat ?

And ok, I wont be ranty anger, if you stop trying to be the guru of all things sexual. Deal?

we are certainly not claiming to be gurus of any kind but after 17 years of our own trials and tribulations we feel that we may have been able to offer a little help

Ummm how have I hijacked someones thread? Opinion is just that! Simply because I dont agree with the belief that 'chatting on a forum will be negligible to their relationship' I am hijacking it? LOL.

What would be seen as a hijack on the other hand is you believing that somehow you are an all seeing eye, not to be reckoned with or disagreed with! NO?

Now as far as assumption. Who has mentioned cheating? Not me. That would be you - assuming again. Wjat I have said is you presume he is sneaking around asking advice. You have jumped to the conclusion of cheating. Dont ask me how as it has got no relevance to the thread at all)

I haven't seen any health advice other than check any meds Mrs may be on - which I haven't disagreed with. Again some kind of assumption by you! As in fact, I said speak to a GP!

And I dont know what tests you are going on about, that I have some how suggested? I have suggested suppliments and diet. Which if you look at Horny Goat Weed - you will see if can help women in menopause! Not that I am seeting your awesome factdom right again.

I will not mention anything about your 17 years of marriage, I bet every 9pm on Saturday has been an event of miraculous proportion. Do you think I lost my virginity yesterday and therefore have nothing to contribute?! Granted, that last paragraph was hijacking a bit (sorry OP), but I felt it necessary, seen as you appear to have a bit of a qualm with whatever suggestion I post, you might as well have something proper now

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Havent you seen the show cheaters with joe greggo? might get it from somewhere else, but lets hope its just a phase and that she get horney soon

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By *mour manchesterCouple
over a year ago

manchester

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Is she on medication..Does she have health problems like underactive thyroid? a real libido killer. That and antidepressants.

Be nice and be patient.

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