FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

meets

Jump to newest
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

Why is it so hard to get a meet?

I have sent numerous polite courteous messages or wink and still have no joy. I am doing something wrong somewhere along the line?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a numbers game, far more men than women. All you can do is try to stand out from the crowd as best you can.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For goodness sake!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about getting off your arse and going to a club?

Your pics are 4 years old. Update them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol here are loads of men and the more that joins the harder its gonna get as women will get even fussier

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ewexperience83Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"Have you thought about getting off your arse and going to a club?

Your pics are 4 years old. Update them"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

That's another thing how rude some people are on the site. I have got off my arse and been to a club in the past

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like it been said a million times mate . If you are not getting meets . Get to socials . Clubs . Get on forums and get known . Because as it stands now . You are just another guy amongst lots and lots of others . Good luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 17/10/14 23:16:59]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's another thing how rude some people are on the site. I have got off my arse and been to a club in the past"

You asked for advice and you got it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

Thanks tosh. Bit awkward after becoming a widower a few years ago not really been much into socialising

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's another thing how rude some people are on the site. I have got off my arse and been to a club in the past"
Yes you have and you got a play and a veri from it . So that answers your question

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

Yeah i did but, I get very nervous in strange places or with strangers don't feel like I'm being myself. I like to have a.good laugh and joke just like the next person but,can't when I feel that way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks tosh. Bit awkward after becoming a widower a few years ago not really been much into socialising "
Its not as hard as some single blokes make it out on here mate . You just need to be different . And get known like i said . Ladies like to meet someone they feel good with and the more they see you at socials clubs and on forums . the more its easier to chat and get your personality across

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

I haven't been just asking to jump into bed with anyone, I've been just asking for a chat or sending a wink cos of my nervousness

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah i did but, I get very nervous in strange places or with strangers don't feel like I'm being myself. I like to have a.good laugh and joke just like the next person but,can't when I feel that way"

Unfortunately you will have to overcome that to have any success on the swinging scene.

Internet swinging is depressing and a tiny part of the scene, you will have higher success rates at clubs and socials.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anderer46 OP   Man
over a year ago

London / Wolverhampton

Appreciate all your comments. Think it's summat that I'm gonna have to try and deal with the best i can

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"Why is it so hard to get a meet?

I have sent numerous polite courteous messages or wink and still have no joy. I am doing something wrong somewhere along the line? "

Hhmmm, you messaged me a week ago and I was nothing but polite and friendly, you asked for access to my face pics, I sent you a friend request so that you could see them but so far you've not accepted, nor have you messaged back, I appreciate that you are shy but you initiated contact, not me.

Doesn't give an impression of you being prepared to put in a little effort in order to talk to someone.

I'm happy to chat if that's what you want, otherwise it's not good coming into the forums and complaining that no-one will talk to you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"For goodness sake!"

yep same thread different day

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For goodness sake!

yep same thread different day "

That little green arrow tells the whole woe x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"For goodness sake!

yep same thread different day

That little green arrow tells the whole woe x "

Little green arrow?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"For goodness sake!

yep same thread different day

That little green arrow tells the whole woe x "

wow I see what you mean this same thread keeps on getting made every so often

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"Little green arrow? "

I've sussed the little green arrow now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Little green arrow?

I've sussed the little green arrow now "

That's good x it can be useful at times

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For goodness sake!

yep same thread different day

That little green arrow tells the whole woe x "

It also says in one of his threads hes is Bi, looking at his profile it says now hes straight but when he wants a man he will find him, now that's a tad confusing to me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Appreciate all your comments. Think it's summat that I'm gonna have to try and deal with the best i can"

Update your pics and smile too. apart from that I can't see too much wrong with it. I'd meet you but you are too far away

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when did it become hard for guys to get meets. Who else loves this sites and doesn't go short of meets?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - did you not get enough advice from your numerous other threads on this subject?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It can be hard for some to get meets.

It can be easy for others.

Effort in = results out.

And let's not forget the simple fact that NOBODY is entitled to a meet, should ever expect one or should blame anything other than themselves (not the site, other people, the 'ratios' on here) for any perceived lack of success.

It's a bloody website (albeit a very good one!). Nothing more - nothing less!

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just my opinion but Surely a " I can't get meets No one talks to me " post is not going to help you get meets. Surely it can only have a negative effect

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I followed the green arrow, and this guy is really a serious moaner and serial whinger who comes over as really desperate and negative, like so many others who weave their woe is me threads, which in this case stretch back over a year. Plenty of positive thoughtful and helpful advice has been batted back or ignored.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I followed the green arrow, and this guy is really a serious moaner and serial whinger who comes over as really desperate and negative, like so many others who weave their woe is me threads, which in this case stretch back over a year. Plenty of positive thoughtful and helpful advice has been batted back or ignored."

Guess some people are just nobs!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm honest about being bisexual. I understand from a previous post you changed from bi to straight? And your status says if you want a man, you'll find him. Why not be honest?

Also, over a year ago, when you said this ....."Well after 19 months of not getting 1 meet and numerous messages, winks and request being ignored by numerous people around the midlands inparticular and few other area's of the uk i have decided to call it a day on here...."

Think on.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top