FabSwingers.com forum: dont understand.....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im feeling at my lowest right now as ppl who i thought were my friends on here who ive met have deleted me as friends because im unable to play not by choice i might add.... id love to play i really would but going through a tough time right now and got fair few hospital visits and treatment to try get through.... i just feel i now have to explain to ppl the exact reasons why i cant play but also feel thats my private life nothing to do with fab... im really not a time waster.... i dont even no why im bothering to type oat here too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try hiding your profile and remove any from your friends list that aren't respecting your decision not too meet? Hope all goes well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They weren't friends in the first place if they did that. Look after yourself and dont worry what people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry misread. They weren't real friends in my opinion. Maybe q break while you sort your health might make it less stressful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They weren't friends in the first place if they did that. Look after yourself and dont worry what people think. "

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"im feeling at my lowest right now as ppl who i thought were my friends on here who ive met have deleted me as friends because im unable to play not by choice i might add.... id love to play i really would but going through a tough time right now and got fair few hospital visits and treatment to try get through.... i just feel i now have to explain to ppl the exact reasons why i cant play but also feel thats my private life nothing to do with fab... im really not a time waster.... i dont even no why im bothering to type oat here too..

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. Hope you resolve your health issues . No need to justify yourself to these so called friends . However I would consider fab contacts to be acquaintances , not true friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hid your profile

Delete the so called friends

Come back when feeling more positive

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nature of this place can be very fickle,you have real friends im sure who can support you

Look after yourself and hope you feel better soon x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

They definitely are not friends! I've got a few friends on here who are JUST FRIENDS and they know that is all it will ever be, but they have never deleted me!

I had a health scare a few months ago, but got good news, and when it happened to me, they wanted regular updates, that is what real friends are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really don't have to explain anything to anyone sweetheart, just look after yourself and do whatever you need to do to get better. We've chatted and flirted on here and you know we'd love to meet you but your health is far more important than anything on here. The people you're talking about are just proving that they are not worth your time and you should just write them off. Hope you feel better soon (big hugs!!)

xxx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Swinging can be very superficial, never let fickle friends upset you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take a negative from it the positive is they've cleaned ur friends list for you. dont think of them as friend just people that run soon as there not gettin any for a while chin up xxx

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am in a bit of a similar situation to you..

some 'friends' will understand.. as long as you let them know. and if they drop you, well thats their loss.

you could explain on your profile, without going into detail. (i.e., say you need a few weeks recovery time, but you are still happy to chat).

You dictate how you use this site, and when or how often.

The people with patience and understanding will be there at the end.. the droppers, you shouldnt even worry about.

Chin up chick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in a bit of a similar situation to you..

some 'friends' will understand.. as long as you let them know. and if they drop you, well thats their loss.

you could explain on your profile, without going into detail. (i.e., say you need a few weeks recovery time, but you are still happy to chat).

You dictate how you use this site, and when or how often.

The people with patience and understanding will be there at the end.. the droppers, you shouldnt even worry about.

Chin up chick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in a bit of a similar situation to you..

some 'friends' will understand.. as long as you let them know. and if they drop you, well thats their loss.

you could explain on your profile, without going into detail. (i.e., say you need a few weeks recovery time, but you are still happy to chat).

You dictate how you use this site, and when or how often.

The people with patience and understanding will be there at the end.. the droppers, you shouldnt even worry about.

Chin up chick

We have had 2 years of shit because of illness,ive never once explained on my profile,I just explained to my friends that I know well and that was all that was needed because they're a great bunch and really supportive,I wasn't and im not concerned about informing the rest of the site

Hope you get better soon too x

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Big hug

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you so much to all of you.... i no deep down there not really friends i havnt posted this for sympathy im a strong girl and determined to get through this..... i think maybe im really upset with the situation because i already feel really low, medication not bringing my spirits up either, not very often i get on here now anyway lol thank you again guys apriciate all comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thank you so much to all of you.... i no deep down there not really friends i havnt posted this for sympathy im a strong girl and determined to get through this..... i think maybe im really upset with the situation because i already feel really low, medication not bringing my spirits up either, not very often i get on here now anyway lol thank you again guys apriciate all comments

Just focus on you and getting yourself well, anyone who cares about you will support you and buoy you up when you are low, those that don't aren't worth your time. Take care

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I'm going through the same thing as health issues prevent me from meeting but the people I've met regularly thankfully have been really understanding. If you're finding they're not then just think fuck em it's their loss

Hope your feeling better soon xx

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