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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long did it take before you knew what you wanted out of swinging?

The man and I keep having conversations about this. I just updated our profile based on experiences we have had. How long did it take for you to decide what you were comfortable with and what you wanted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we have wanted out of it has changed from year to year, we call it evolving

To start with (nearly 10 year ago) it was just for Shaz as she wanted to play with the ladies now and then, now it's all sorts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See, that is kind of what we are dealing with. I am all for playing with other women...but I have zero attraction to most other guys. I feel it is unfair to my fiance though that most couples won't be okay with him joining in on the fun if I am not comfortable with the other man...and finding a single female is so difficult. I am not uncomfortable with him with other women, as long as I am there. I am just not comfortable with other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still evolving. It's difficult on your own to come out of that shell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, that is kind of what we are dealing with. I am all for playing with other women...but I have zero attraction to most other guys. I feel it is unfair to my fiance though that most couples won't be okay with him joining in on the fun if I am not comfortable with the other man...and finding a single female is so difficult. I am not uncomfortable with him with other women, as long as I am there. I am just not comfortable with other men."

LoL you are opposite to what we are, I'm not bothered about joining in, just like to watch Shaz have fun so not what most couples want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off just looking for single ladies. I wanted to play with other girls and while I'm happy for him to do what he likes with another girl too it's taken him some time to come round to the idea of me with another bloke. He's protective over me and wants to make sure I'm not just being used as meat. But we've grown from our experiences and realised we're all in it to enhance our lives and sexual experiences and now meet with couples and enjoy full swap. For us the rule is, nobody gets left out and nobody takes one for the team. However our tastes and standards do differ so we still struggle finding couples we like the look of between us.

I think if you move into soft swap and just say guys only play with own partners and girls can play that might be a step in the right direction for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still learning and trying new things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, that is kind of what we are dealing with. I am all for playing with other women...but I have zero attraction to most other guys. I feel it is unfair to my fiance though that most couples won't be okay with him joining in on the fun if I am not comfortable with the other man...and finding a single female is so difficult. I am not uncomfortable with him with other women, as long as I am there. I am just not comfortable with other men."

Only do what you are both happy with. The soft swap idea is a good one.

Evolving is good but always talk.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

When we first started out, Anita was really worried by the thought of her getting jealous when she saw me with someone else. I on the other hand was not convinced that anyone else would be that interested in me.

When it came down to the reality, things were just fine. There was no jealousy as we were "doing it all together" and no issues with meeting lovely people who wanted to play.

There are definitely couples out there who will fit in with what you desire, especially if you're willing to only swap for girl-girl fun and then stick with your own partners. Many profiles seem to look for this, it could be worth you looking for these types of profile.

Cal x

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"See, that is kind of what we are dealing with. I am all for playing with other women...but I have zero attraction to most other guys. I feel it is unfair to my fiance though that most couples won't be okay with him joining in on the fun if I am not comfortable with the other man...and finding a single female is so difficult. I am not uncomfortable with him with other women, as long as I am there. I am just not comfortable with other men."

We are exactly the same... K doesn't feel comfortable with other guys but T would have no problem if she wanted to. We have tried soft swap and full swap. Soft swap was okay but she just loves playing with the ladies, even more so if T joins in.

Suppose everybody on here is different. All looking for different things and each with their own limits. As long as we all respect each other's limits we will continue to swing and visit FAB.

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

We like soft swap with a twist.

H has a bad back so likes to save penetrative sex for me, but is happy to play with the women up until that point.

Yet he's happy for me to have sex with the guys.

So I guess its a half/full swop

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