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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Look at it this way. We are both 57 would that put you off?

Age does make a difference to a lot of people but not all. Contact people within

your age range and see how you get on.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

I'm gonna sound like a prude, but 18 is very young to be exposed to this strange world lol. Good luck though.

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Ok I'm a guy so not qualified to answer about the attraction of age. For me anyway age doesn't matter as longa s we are all tuned in. However your profile lists loads of friends so clearly they want to know you better. I'm confused as to why you ask.

Hope the ladies answer as you look a normal healthy couple to me.

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Not my thing as your both younger than my kids and don't do it for me but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer older couples but that's our preference x good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer older couples but that's our preference x good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We prefer older couples but that's our preference x good luck x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have an age limit so obviously does to you so you should expect others to have reservations over the age of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age in itself wouldn't put me off, I was sexually advanced at 17, having threesomes and meeting guys around the country (on my own) at their place, how I'm still alive today idk coz never took safety into account, just lucky I never met up with anyone who wanted to harm me!

A lot of people have set themselves age limits though, but I'm sure there's loads of people on here around your age who would be interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah we do have an age limit on our profile, I just feel as though age is an issue with a lot of people on here.. Don't get me wrong, we aren't going to judge people on their age, me especially, I like talking to people of any age (I'm a conversationist) I just feel as though people may be put off due to the fact they may feel that we aren't mature enough both mentally and physically. I do appreciate all of your comments though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

Its a bit of a silly question to ask when you have 18 to 30 on your profile. I think you already know the answer to this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given

Its a bit of a silly question to ask when you have 18 to 30 on your profile. I think you already know the answer to this one. "

Only changed that preference a short while ago and the reason for that was just to see if it changed any sort of responses after someone told me updating things on the profile often is noticed.. Like a I mentioned earlier on in the thread, age doesn't matter especially when I talk to people on here of all ages it was more intended for people to answer in the sense of if people saw our ages (not their age) and let me know if they may have been put off for whatever reason

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Yeah we do have an age limit on our profile, I just feel as though age is an issue with a lot of people on here.. Don't get me wrong, we aren't going to judge people on their age, me especially, I like talking to people of any age (I'm a conversationist) I just feel as though people may be put off due to the fact they may feel that we aren't mature enough both mentally and physically. I do appreciate all of your comments though "
. Should not matter as different people have different preferences . As you have age restrictions on your profile for 18 to 30 people outside this range will not contact you and as such you may be missing out on some experienced meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

It wouldn't put me or my partner off however there are many on here that won't play with people the same age or younger than their offspring so that will go against you. Another observation I have made is many women on here believe that people your age should not even be on the scene and you should be out getting your kicks in the real world.

My partner and I joined the site when she was 19, we had many negative comments but we have met and continue to meet people of all ages. You just have to work your way through the chaff.

(Stenandmorrigan)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile wording could also put a lot of ladies off especially ones that have children of their own. Your partner is 18 yet you say you have been together for 4 years can you see a problem with that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given

It wouldn't put me or my partner off however there are many on here that won't play with people the same age or younger than their offspring so that will go against you. Another observation I have made is many women on here believe that people your age should not even be on the scene and you should be out getting your kicks in the real world.

My partner and I joined the site when she was 19, we had many negative comments but we have met and continue to meet people of all ages. You just have to work your way through the chaff.

(Stenandmorrigan) "

Appreciate your views bud! Especially as like you say, your partner was of a young age too when you joined.. As a young couple, we do get our kicks away from fab too.. We have met people away from fab, one night stands after a night on the town etc. But due to both of our busy schedules, we find fab a useful tool as our socialising time is restricted due to higher priorities!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And no not really.. As most people say when it comes to the ones they love, its not about how old your partner is, we have been together 4 years and yeah, we are very much in love and have been for a long time.. Its like a woman of 18 marrying a 63 year old.. Some might say wrong but if they're in love and want to be together, should it be frowned upon? I can see where you're coming from but can you see where I'm coming from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given

It wouldn't put me or my partner off however there are many on here that won't play with people the same age or younger than their offspring so that will go against you. Another observation I have made is many women on here believe that people your age should not even be on the scene and you should be out getting your kicks in the real world.

My partner and I joined the site when she was 19, we had many negative comments but we have met and continue to meet people of all ages. You just have to work your way through the chaff.

(Stenandmorrigan)

Appreciate your views bud! Especially as like you say, your partner was of a young age too when you joined.. As a young couple, we do get our kicks away from fab too.. We have met people away from fab, one night stands after a night on the town etc. But due to both of our busy schedules, we find fab a useful tool as our socialising time is restricted due to higher priorities! "

Those opinions are not ours but ones we have experienced in the years we have been on here. As far as we are concerned as long as everyone is leagal and has their eye wide open then there is no issue.

This is not a view shared by other on fab especially your target audience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get you! I have altered our profile text sleightly and hope that makes a difference! I do appreciate your response though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Although it's not mentioned in your profile, you say you've together 4 years. That would make the female 14 when you got together and the male 18. Whilst it might have been totally innocent, not many people will see it that way.

Now you're older that age gap doesn't matter, but for some it would.

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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo


"Not my thing as your both younger than my kids and don't do it for me but each to their own"

Same thing here, I have upper and lower age limits coz I don't want to be considering having sex with someone either the ages of my kids or my parents ... yuk (my preference)

But, as has been said by previous posters, just go with what you're comfortable with and enjoy yourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children so the not wanting to meet people the same age as your kids doesn't apply to me. I do, however, like to meet with people I feel I have some connection with, however tenuous, and that tends to come from having things in common, shared cultural references, similar experiences. I've never been able to feel that with people of your age, so wouldn't ever consider meeting them. The way your profile reads just reinforces that opinion. Still, there's someone for every one and I'm sure you'll find people to play with

Jane

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Age to me is just a number xx

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

There are all sorts of ages on here so I wouldn't worry. My personal preference is for older women. People like different things so I'm sure you will find some fun

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I could be wrong here, but when reading your profile, there seems to be a lot of bias towards you and what you are getting out of this, the language you use, "I" and 'She" doesn't make it sound like a partnership, try re-writing and using "we" more to say what you are both looking for and what you both want out of this.

I would also remove the comment about you being lonely when she works shift, again, it gives the impression your existence on here is more about you than her.

So age might not be the problem, it could simply be what you have written. Age shouldn't be a barrier as long as all are happy, sex appeal is more important.

Just constructive criticism that you might want to take on board or not. But good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's not your age necessarily that would out us off but your profile seems very male led which is unusual here and will put a lot of people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could be wrong here, but when reading your profile, there seems to be a lot of bias towards you and what you are getting out of this, the language you use, "I" and 'She" doesn't make it sound like a partnership, try re-writing and using "we" more to say what you are both looking for and what you both want out of this.

I would also remove the comment about you being lonely when she works shift, again, it gives the impression your existence on here is more about you than her.

So age might not be the problem, it could simply be what you have written. Age shouldn't be a barrier as long as all are happy, sex appeal is more important.

Just constructive criticism that you might want to take on board or not. But good luck."

this is what I was saying it's just he said it better! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is of little issue to me so long as there's a mutual attraction (and its legal, obviously). Case in point, I'm currently interested in swinging with a lady in her 60s or older, but there's sadly few on here.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"Look at it this way. We are both 57 would that put you off?

Age does make a difference to a lot of people but not all. Contact people within

your age range and see how you get on.

Good luck"

I think this is a top reply.

Like others have said, this is why we meet in clubs. Age becomes less of an issue when you laughing and "connecting" with someone.

When we started swinging we said "no one under 25 or over 45".... Our first meet ever was with a 21(f) and 47(m) and we still talk about it.

We just scrapped the age thing after that, don't even ask people - if we click, then great.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at it this way. We are both 57 would that put you off?

Age does make a difference to a lot of people but not all. Contact people within

your age range and see how you get on.

Good luck

I think this is a top reply.

Like others have said, this is why we meet in clubs. Age becomes less of an issue when you laughing and "connecting" with someone.

When we started swinging we said "no one under 25 or over 45".... Our first meet ever was with a 21(f) and 47(m) and we still talk about it.

We just scrapped the age thing after that, don't even ask people - if we click, then great.

D"

Totally with you there, we have played with 18 year olds to 70 year olds!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

As you have an age limit of 30 I would assume older puts you off otherwise you wouldn't have put it. But in general people with parents or children tend to feel uncomfortable at times playing with people of their age so for some it will put them off.

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Age is no problem for us. It all comes down to the profile. I ( Mr) is very proactive at contacting people. Very few people we haven't approached unless they rule us in the profile.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wish I had your confidence when I was your age!

Nice one! Just go with the flow, push your boundaries, and have the best time together!

When I'm older, in a care home, I want to be able to look in my wife's (hopefully) eyes with a little twinkle!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I just wish I had your confidence when I was your age!

Nice one! Just go with the flow, push your boundaries, and have the best time together!

When I'm older, in a care home, I want to be able to look in my wife's (hopefully) eyes with a little twinkle!"

That's what we say. We want to sit in the old folks home and look at our photo album grinning.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Short answer yes. I know for a fact that we would not look to okay with a teenager. However when we went to a club the Mrs was flirting with a lady and it was only afterwards she asked her age. 19. You can write any age you like. But just bear in mind it's a dangerous game to play as people don't like to be trapped outside their limits that they have for a reason.

The point is there are swinging situations were you don't have to declare your age and people take you as you are. We have played outside our age limits but always in ignorance.

So there be an option to leave your age blank?

I get why the op has changed their limits as they may have got advice that those who put 18 to 99 get less meets as they are seen as not picky enough and mire like anyone will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

If you want to fuck my 50yr old wife I will happily fuck your 18yr old girlfriend. Wouldn't dream of disappointing you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number in life its if u find the ppl attractive sexualy

just an idea start with ur age group then move on sp 20 to 30 etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smoking is put off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet older people its a pref of mine for older guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would worry us!!! are you experienced enough to offer anything to others,,and is the green eyed jealous monster going to rear its ugly head..or is one or the other of you going to find someone you fancy more!!!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Look at it this way. We are both 57 would that put you off?

Age does make a difference to a lot of people but not all. Contact people within

your age range and see how you get on.

Good luck"

this!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay well first off, apologies to all the people seemingly giving shit to the BOTH of us! Wasn't looking to be ridiculed on this thread!

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We are not the most experienced in this sort of thing so yeah..

Its something we set up as a delve into the unknown, vast world of others who may be looking for the same sort of thing we are. Yeah okay, the age limit thing changed as to some of the messages and responses we had (nothing against younger looking for older or older looking for younger) like some have said, it's a personal preference.

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I own a business and amy does work night shifts (sorry if that doesn't sit well with some people) its just the way it is. We have busy lives away from this site but its not going to stop us looking. Amy is looking but left me to do a lot of the talking and searching (just to see what's on here and test the water a little) I would not arrange or do anything behine her back! I love her with all of my heart and would never be so deceptive. So in a nut shell, if some of you have problems with us being here that's a "personal preference" and would appreciate it if you could have the decency to not make us feel out of place and undereducated or immature. Oh and as for the "terrible lighting" on the pictures, sorry for not being photoshop warriors or professional photographers

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But a big thank you to those with positive comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay well first off, apologies to all the people seemingly giving shit to the BOTH of us! Wasn't looking to be ridiculed on this thread!

*Paragraph Spacing*

We are not the most experienced in this sort of thing so yeah..

Its something we set up as a delve into the unknown, vast world of others who may be looking for the same sort of thing we are. Yeah okay, the age limit thing changed as to some of the messages and responses we had (nothing against younger looking for older or older looking for younger) like some have said, it's a personal preference.

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I own a business and amy does work night shifts (sorry if that doesn't sit well with some people) its just the way it is. We have busy lives away from this site but its not going to stop us looking. Amy is looking but left me to do a lot of the talking and searching (just to see what's on here and test the water a little) I would not arrange or do anything behine her back! I love her with all of my heart and would never be so deceptive. So in a nut shell, if some of you have problems with us being here that's a "personal preference" and would appreciate it if you could have the decency to not make us feel out of place and undereducated or immature. Oh and as for the "terrible lighting" on the pictures, sorry for not being photoshop warriors or professional photographers

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But a big thank you to those with positive comments "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay well first off, apologies to all the people seemingly giving shit to the BOTH of us! Wasn't looking to be ridiculed on this thread!

*Paragraph Spacing*

We are not the most experienced in this sort of thing so yeah..

Its something we set up as a delve into the unknown, vast world of others who may be looking for the same sort of thing we are. Yeah okay, the age limit thing changed as to some of the messages and responses we had (nothing against younger looking for older or older looking for younger) like some have said, it's a personal preference.

*Paragraph Spacing*

I own a business and amy does work night shifts (sorry if that doesn't sit well with some people) its just the way it is. We have busy lives away from this site but its not going to stop us looking. Amy is looking but left me to do a lot of the talking and searching (just to see what's on here and test the water a little) I would not arrange or do anything behine her back! I love her with all of my heart and would never be so deceptive. So in a nut shell, if some of you have problems with us being here that's a "personal preference" and would appreciate it if you could have the decency to not make us feel out of place and undereducated or immature. Oh and as for the "terrible lighting" on the pictures, sorry for not being photoshop warriors or professional photographers

*Paragraph Spacing*

But a big thank you to those with positive comments "

I shall add to the positive then with this comment you have made

'I love her with all of my heart'

What a lovely thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given "

Your ages are to young for me but then I am above your preferred age range so goes to show we all have preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's not the age, maybe it could be the profile text? You don't need to say what you do for a living or how much you love your family coz both are completely irrelevant to swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe it's not the age, maybe it could be the profile text? You don't need to say what you do for a living or how much you love your family coz both are completely irrelevant to swinging"

Noted BUT, if you're going to say what's irrelevant to swinging, wouldn't your profile text imply the same? Just out of curiosity, your profile says "arranging socials" but then further down states no meets, socials or anything of that sort? not being an arse but if people don't like our profile text, look at it, don't take it on board and then find someone else to talk to who maybe fits your bill

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ladies, me and my girlfriend are on this site, I'm 21 and amy is 18.. Could our age be putting you off? Educate me please!!! I won't be offended to the advice and comments given

Your ages are to young for me but then I am above your preferred age range so goes to show we all have preferences"

Precicely! Yes, we have changed our preferences due to lots of older people messaging (which stated, is NOT the problem) me personally (him) I like speaking to anyone of any age and any gender on here! The reason I started this thread was to get a feel from others on their views and if OUR age would be a problem for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it's not the age, maybe it could be the profile text? You don't need to say what you do for a living or how much you love your family coz both are completely irrelevant to swinging

Noted BUT, if you're going to say what's irrelevant to swinging, wouldn't your profile text imply the same? Just out of curiosity, your profile says "arranging socials" but then further down states no meets, socials or anything of that sort? not being an arse but if people don't like our profile text, look at it, don't take it on board and then find someone else to talk to who maybe fits your bill "

What I mean is I won't meet one on one but still organise parties/socials, I just don't take part in the sex side of things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean? "

I hope you've reported those who've pm'd you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me. I would fuck anyone between 18 and 93 cos I am one horney guy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean?

I hope you've reported those who've pm'd you "

Honestly.. Nope! Because that would just make me as bad as them.. We would just prefer people who have negative comments to keep them to themselves because it would seem they have mistaken us for people who give a shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said before Your target audience is tiny, a single bi lady under 30. After 10 months it looks like there is not anyone in your area that fits the bill. This may be because of your age or other things.

I believe you will struggle to find what your looking for on fab, you will have better luck in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean? "

I do see what you mean.

I did meet till I met my boyfriend, now I don't need to meet, yes he knows I'm on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean?

I hope you've reported those who've pm'd you

Honestly.. Nope! Because that would just make me as bad as them.. We would just prefer people who have negative comments to keep them to themselves because it would seem they have mistaken us for people who give a shit "

No it wouldn't but like you say, who gives a shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh I see.. Now just like people have been doing to us, I could argue that and say "well, wouldn't that defy the point of a swinging site if you don't take part in the sex side of things?" I know that comment would have no impact on the reason why you're hear but when we get PM's and thread comments with people sniping, it really disheartens the both of us, me especially! I'm made to feel like its wrong due to OTHER PEOPLES opinions. Me personally, I have nothing to say to you about the reasons you're on here but can you see what I mean?

I hope you've reported those who've pm'd you

Honestly.. Nope! Because that would just make me as bad as them.. We would just prefer people who have negative comments to keep them to themselves because it would seem they have mistaken us for people who give a shit "

it's fab members responsibility to report rule breakers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well misskinkyboots, look above ^^^ it would appear someone else has something negative to say!

Yes, so we are looking for something in specific, you have a problem with that? Don't you think that some women searching for a MM couple under the age of 35 is wrong for putting that as their preference? It may be unlikely but, how the fuck do you know until you look? If you can answer me that then fine and STOP mentioning OUR age! Is our age a problem to YOU? If so, fine.. We couldn't really give a shit to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your question was is age an issue is that not correct?

You have very specific paramiters that you require for a meet.

These are not negative comments just facts.

There are dozens of threads about couples looking for single bi girls, they are incredibly rare and a higher percentage are older than 30.

Facts not negative comments.

As a couple we have over 4 years experience and as a single male I have over 10 years experience on the swinging scene. Simply put yes your age will go against you as will your target age group.

Just giving you facts, if you feel that it's negative then unfortunately there is nothing we can do to help.

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over a year ago


"Well misskinkyboots, look above ^^^ it would appear someone else has something negative to say!

Yes, so we are looking for something in specific, you have a problem with that? Don't you think that some women searching for a MM couple under the age of 35 is wrong for putting that as their preference? It may be unlikely but, how the fuck do you know until you look? If you can answer me that then fine and STOP mentioning OUR age! Is our age a problem to YOU? If so, fine.. We couldn't really give a shit to be fair "

Not once did I say any of your criteria were wrong or that there was I had a problem with it. Any search criteria will narrow down your opertunities in getting meets that's a fact.

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over a year ago


"Well misskinkyboots, look above ^^^ it would appear someone else has something negative to say!

Yes, so we are looking for something in specific, you have a problem with that? Don't you think that some women searching for a MM couple under the age of 35 is wrong for putting that as their preference? It may be unlikely but, how the fuck do you know until you look? If you can answer me that then fine and STOP mentioning OUR age! Is our age a problem to YOU? If so, fine.. We couldn't really give a shit to be fair

Not once did I say any of your criteria were wrong or that there was I had a problem with it. Any search criteria will narrow down your opertunities in getting meets that's a fact."

They're not talking to you Sten they seem to be talking wholly to me, I haven't read all the comments on the thread as I've been here long enough to know they can deteriorate yet they've directed their vitriol to me and yet I haven't been rude to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well misskinkyboots, look above ^^^ it would appear someone else has something negative to say!

Yes, so we are looking for something in specific, you have a problem with that? Don't you think that some women searching for a MM couple under the age of 35 is wrong for putting that as their preference? It may be unlikely but, how the fuck do you know until you look? If you can answer me that then fine and STOP mentioning OUR age! Is our age a problem to YOU? If so, fine.. We couldn't really give a shit to be fair

Not once did I say any of your criteria were wrong or that there was I had a problem with it. Any search criteria will narrow down your opertunities in getting meets that's a fact.

They're not talking to you Sten they seem to be talking wholly to me, I haven't read all the comments on the thread as I've been here long enough to know they can deteriorate yet they've directed their vitriol to me and yet I haven't been rude to them "

unfortunately as you know by now often people don't like the answers they get to their posts, especially when asking for advise. You have tried to give them advise from a single woman's point of view but to no avail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well misskinkyboots, look above ^^^ it would appear someone else has something negative to say!

Yes, so we are looking for something in specific, you have a problem with that? Don't you think that some women searching for a MM couple under the age of 35 is wrong for putting that as their preference? It may be unlikely but, how the fuck do you know until you look? If you can answer me that then fine and STOP mentioning OUR age! Is our age a problem to YOU? If so, fine.. We couldn't really give a shit to be fair

Not once did I say any of your criteria were wrong or that there was I had a problem with it. Any search criteria will narrow down your opertunities in getting meets that's a fact.

They're not talking to you Sten they seem to be talking wholly to me, I haven't read all the comments on the thread as I've been here long enough to know they can deteriorate yet they've directed their vitriol to me and yet I haven't been rude to them

unfortunately as you know by now often people don't like the answers they get to their posts, especially when asking for advise. You have tried to give them advise from a single woman's point of view but to no avail. "

Yep as was trying to be nice too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Misskinkyboots, it was not directed to you in the slightest. So please, don't take it personally.

Sten, the comments were more directed to you. After reading back through the comments, allow me to apologise for misinterpreting your comments, just in the heat of the moment and after reading some earlier comments from others (which were negative) I guess I got a little caught up. I can see where you're coming from

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over a year ago


"Misskinkyboots, it was not directed to you in the slightest. So please, don't take it personally.

Sten, the comments were more directed to you. After reading back through the comments, allow me to apologise for misinterpreting your comments, just in the heat of the moment and after reading some earlier comments from others (which were negative) I guess I got a little caught up. I can see where you're coming from

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Apology accepted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Misskinkyboots, it was not directed to you in the slightest. So please, don't take it personally.

Sten, the comments were more directed to you. After reading back through the comments, allow me to apologise for misinterpreting your comments, just in the heat of the moment and after reading some earlier comments from others (which were negative) I guess I got a little caught up. I can see where you're coming from

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No worries it's hard to find specific things. Have a look back through the thread though, some single ladies have commented they may be outside your age preferance but you might be able to chat with them to find out a bit about what attracts them to couples.

Wish you all the best in your hunt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks sten and thanks misskinkyboots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number! I had a busy work schedule when I was younger and didn't have this site to help my desire to explore my sexual side, wish I did. You seem mature from how you have posted comments on here to me. Like most who've posted on her my opinion doesn't really matter but positive comments can help your confidence so you can use this site as positively as you can.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I weigh everyone up on their own merits, your profile and status would put me off straight away unfortunately, I know you feel like you've had some flak on here or by pm but to anyone looking at your profile it just comes across as a bad attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling people to get fucked or fuck off twice in your profile/status would immediately put us off, nothing to do with your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will sound old now but I'd hope if my son or daughter asked advice on anything that they would respect the people whose opinions they asked, regardless of whether they liked the responses

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

May be a "bad attitude" but after trying our best to render our profile "suitable" to those who had things to say, now, we really couldn't care! Maybe our attitude has changed due to how people ridiculed us and did nothing but give us shit for creating a profile, looking for something specific. If none of you can cater for that, comments appreciated but hey, hope you do find something you're looking for IN SPECIFIC.. Maybe I will scroll through fab and mock every person who has a profile WE don't like and see how it makes them feel.. Sure I could find a typo or something to mock them over

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And I think we can leave it there

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