FabSwingers.com forum: Nobody wants to meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been on here for a fair while now and in all that time i have had one meet.

This was great and would love to meet more people, but no one replies to my emails nor does anyone want to meet or even chat.

I send full personal emails not some copy and paste or 'fancy a fuck' and yet still completely ignored.

Is there something wrong with or off putting with my profile.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as usual stop whinging check for events and get to some socials or parties.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

It may be because you prefer bareback? You say you're infertile but how on earth do you prove that? Doesn't stop the spread of STD's either! On the whole you're profile is a little negative too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks ok,but i think possibly your sge wont be helping you...

I would say to you,before sending email check you are in their age range,check they are looking for single guys,if you smoke will they meet smokers?

Basic things like that make all the differance,im not swinging at the moment,couldnt make it any clearer on our profile but still getting emails asking to meet now,they get deleted so make sure you read profiles first x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

have made a few changes, does it read any better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also you say you prefere to meet over 35's,sorry but a lot of people wont meet people young enough to be their son/daughter x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like to see pics too,not just cock shots x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for advice, have made changes and hope it is more appealing now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is probably a bit rich coming from me as my profile is rubbish but...you did ask.

In my humble...to me,it reads a bit like because you prefer to meet older ladies that you are doing them a favour..."believe it or not..." it sounds a bit "preachy" in parts.

Though,judging by your friends list,you are having no trouble chatting with people which is only way to get to know

if you get on with someone.I don't think

any profile really means too much you don't know what people are like til you talk anyway.Also putting four verifications from same person looks a bit odd to me.

Still,like I said,there's probably no worse profile than mine but it's basically same as when I joined...it's the messages you send that's important I think.

Having said all that feel free to tell me to stick my opinions if you want...lots do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you everyone appreciate the advice and all taken on board

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

There may be another thing that you need to address, and that is the perception that a 21y.o. ought to be able to get what he is after in vanilla street on a Friday or Saturday night. You need to convince the reader of why they should respond to you when the girls in the pubs and clubs are not satisfying you. Or worse still, the worry may be that you are not satisfying them.

In reality, you mat be a great "hit" in the pubs and clubs around you, but what is reality and what are people's concerns and perceptions may be poles apart, and I think that is something that you need to think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sounds a bit insulting to suggest that people,any people,use this site because they can't get it anywhere else...that would be to miss the whole point.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would also ask why your doing this instead of going clubbing which is the normal way at that age to get laid(or it was when I was that age)

If it is because your shy and find it uncomfy for example then you will find it the same on here. If your personality means that in clubs etc you dont click with the ladies I feel you will find the same thing on here.

Some older ladies want to meet a young studd to fook her silly but coming from a late 30s woman I cant imagine anything more horrible than a young man who hasnt a clue how to please a mature lady as hasnt the experience or maturity to know how.

I prefer to meet someone of a similar age who has energy and the skill to go with it that normally maturity and experience of knowledge brings.

Good luck tho, but deffinately get posting on the forums and get yourself to socials x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The girl is right, your choice to play bareback but for many of us it means a complete "no no" so restricts your chances, in our case we block not only the person that plays bareback but everyone on thier verification list and everyone on thier friends list.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

So I'm reading it *after* you've made a bunch of suggested changes?

And you still have two different ages....

OK, seriously...you have a friends list 3 times the length of mine. Why aren't these people willing to meet you? Do you chat to them all regularly - keep in touch with what's new, or even *gasp* ask them for advice?

A cynical person *could* suggest that your friends list is just a list of people who let you look at their private gallery, hence the large size and lack of meeting.

Does the one lady you have met (who is clearly enthusiastic about your performance) have any contacts she could, er....pass you on to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not meet the people on your friends list? If they wont agree to meet you, are they really your friends?

The real reason though, is that you are one of "hundreds" of guys prospecting on here. Couples and single ladies can afford to be as choosy as they wish.

Best of luck though

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Follow up - you could have returned her verification!!!

(there is a chance you did and she's just not showing it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it sounds a bit insulting to suggest that people,any people,use this site because they can't get it anywhere else...that would be to miss the whole point."

But a lot of guys do come on here thinking they can get an easy shag and go to swinger clubs. I am a plus size lady and if I go to pub or vanilla club guys would not look at me twice or I come in second place against my skinny friends and yes you guys know what im talking about go for the fat bird because they are easy or grateful to get the girl. And some of the young guys I chat to on here would not look twice at me in a pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it sounds a bit insulting to suggest that people,any people,use this site because they can't get it anywhere else...that would be to miss the whole point.

I totally agree that is what some men who come on think...but you'll get idiots anywhere else too.What I meant was the majority of people aren't here as a "last resort" rather it's a place to play without any commitment,or need to lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with Shaz,most guys join the site thinking they are going to get lucky every night of the week because the women will be gratefull for a shag when infact it couldnt be any further from the truth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then they are shocked and start whinging when we turn them down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it isn't "Most"...if it were then there would only be a handful of men on here that got to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a shag every night of the week lol jeez be walking like john wayne,deffo not my thing im fussy who i meet !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a shag every night of the week lol jeez be walking like john wayne,deffo not my thing im fussy who i meet !!"

Hope you aren't TOO fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got time for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i got time for you xxx

Going off to pub now with a spring in my step and a song in my heart xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"a shag every night of the week lol jeez be walking even more like john wayne"

Good point...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see I have a problem with "rate my profile" threads like these and i'll tell you why....

it looks like you have adapted your profile to be "more alluring" however doing this has also had effect of omitting information...

I'll give you an example.....

somewhere in the old profile reading the other peoples comments, it must of said at one point that you liked bareback.... you have taken that out...

its just as well i did some back reading because if I was a potential playmate how would I have known otherwise... I wouldn't

and again.... it must of have said at one point that you liked over 35's.... but again you have taken that out! again if i was a potential playmate how would you know.... you wouldn't....

The point being that it is that I am not going to help people in future because I think we are going more and more down the road of people in profiles telling you what you think they may want to hear... but leaving out information that may hinder what they are truely looking for because it "affects there chances"

not having a go at you personally OP, more and more people do it as well... there are ways of being sensible and telling people the truth rather than just thinking of getting there leg over...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"The girl is right, your choice to play bareback but for many of us it means a complete "no no" so restricts your chances, in our case we block not only the person that plays bareback but everyone on thier verification list and everyone on thier friends list."

ooooh 6 degrees... interesting.... let me give you a senario jed......

I know a couple and have talked the them for years, seen them in clubs actually... they play bareback....

would I verify them as genuine??? absolutely!! salt of the earth people

would I play with them??? absolutely not, just not my thing.....

"someone" is forgetting that not all verifications are play meets... a lot of them are socially.....

so if you met a lovely couple at a social for example... would you not verify them as being genuine... remember it not all about the play... just remember the word "genuine"

I could verify half the scottish people heck met tons of them at socials.... I'd hate to think of my friends and there friends friends being judged on my actions especially if you don't know them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"see I have a problem with "rate my profile" threads like these and i'll tell you why....

it looks like you have adapted your profile to be "more alluring" however doing this has also had effect of omitting information...

I'll give you an example.....

somewhere in the old profile reading the other peoples comments, it must of said at one point that you liked bareback.... you have taken that out...

its just as well i did some back reading because if I was a potential playmate how would I have known otherwise... I wouldn't

and again.... it must of have said at one point that you liked over 35's.... but again you have taken that out! again if i was a potential playmate how would you know.... you wouldn't....

not having a go at you personally OP, more and more people do it as well... there are ways of being sensible and telling people the truth rather than just thinking of getting there leg over...

Totally agree with all of the above...but would suggest to people who think of doing the same...as said being honest may well reduce the number of meets you are likely to get BUT the ones you do get are MUCH more likely to be more enjoyable and more _ruitful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as said being honest may well reduce the number of meets you are likely to get BUT the ones you do get are MUCH more likely to be more enjoyable and more _ruitful"

yep we had two meets that just didn't work for us because the other parties had basically not been truthful before we met them. So we would rather have less meets and better quality ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would also ask why your doing this instead of going clubbing which is the normal way at that age to get laid(or it was when I was that age)

I prefer to meet someone of a similar age who has energy and the skill to go with it that normally maturity and experience of knowledge brings.

Good luck tho, but deffinately get posting on the forums and get yourself to socials x"

Im with you there, would never meet anyone similar age to my kids, i prefer my own age, body and mind with experience, cant see what a young boy has to offer at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabio your 100% correct, most of my verification on my old profile were for people we had met at clubs and not played with so I understand totally what you are saying, you may not have played with the person that plays bareback and I respect that, but there is no way we can know who did and who didn't, personally and this is only the way we work and not something we think suits many or everybody ...... we don't take chances, if in doubt kick it out is our policy, it is a policy that has kept us "clear" for 10 years of swinging. So yes we will continue to block and we will continue to miss out on some nice people that we could have trusted but it's just our way.

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