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By *ampWithABrain OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm just in having waited (but had tea in costa too) for over an hour for someone who has now blocked me?! My first 'timewaster'? Felt like such an idiot!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

onwards and upwards....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have a Kindle just so it doesn't look like I've been stood up in various venues. Next time, take a book.

PS welcome to the 'been stood up then blocked' club. We have coffee mornings every other month, and I'll send you the secret handshake.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... I wouldn't have waited over an hour if I hadn't had a text or something to advise the person was going to be late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a pain, we have had a it the odd time in the past.

I think some want to get into the scene but when it comes to it just bottle it, even then though a quick text to say so would be the polite thing to do.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the tea like in Costa? I wouldn't have waited that long unless I was enjoying my tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was happy in Costa's with a coffee & a kindle then I too would have waited until I finished my drink.

Put it down to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an idiot. Look out for his 'why cant I get a meet' thread coming soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the tea like in Costa? I wouldn't have waited that long unless I was enjoying my tea "

They do a fantastic toasted current teacake in there.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

It's such a shame that this sort of thing happens. Presume it was someone you didn't know. There are lots of theories about this but perhaps the other person was too anxious to go through with it.

We realise how lucky we are. We always meet new people as a couple and apart from two parties always in clubs, which are in good supply in this area. I would hope that you would be made very welcome at your local club if you haven't already been. Better luck next time. DJ

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

He/she is an idiot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably longer than I would have waited. Certainly with no call or text to say someone was going to be late.

Rack one up to experience. If you've still got the emails on here confirming you were meeting you can report the no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss, but I wouldn't of personally waited that long. I would wait about 15 mins without a text saying why they are late. I hate lateness full stop

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By *ampWithABrain OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have a Kindle just so it doesn't look like I've been stood up in various venues. Next time, take a book.

PS welcome to the 'been stood up then blocked' club. We have coffee mornings every other month, and I'll send you the secret handshake. "

Thank u for the welcome, I had my phone so browsed Facebook plus I have kindle app but I did feel like an unattractive plum!!

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By *ampWithABrain OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What's the tea like in Costa? I wouldn't have waited that long unless I was enjoying my tea "

I have the earl grey as I like it, be good if they had lemon too though

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By *ampWithABrain OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What an idiot. Look out for his 'why cant I get a meet' thread coming soon."

Yea exactly

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By *ampWithABrain OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Think I was thrown as so far had mainly good experiences. Inc club nights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe just a bad case of cold feet & then felt like silly so blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Person is still a doofus

Yes, this rankles me somewhat as I was stood up twice in 3 days. A total 5 hours.

This was with in the first week of coming (back) to the site. I've learned since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What an idiot. Look out for his 'why cant I get a meet' thread coming soon.

Yea exactly "

Some people just don't have the balls to go through with it. Fantasists.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"ps... I wouldn't have waited over an hour if I hadn't had a text or something to advise the person was going to be late"

A man after my own heart. I always make them know I don't pause. I meet outside Costa, if they're not there I don't break my step. Never had a no show.

Don't know why people leave others hanging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like Costa,I'd have been quite happy having some time to myself

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By *ames blackMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"ps...

A man after my own heart. I always make them know I don't pause. I meet outside Costa, if they're not there I don't break my step. Never had a no show.

!"

Nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just in having waited (but had tea in costa too) for over an hour for someone who has now blocked me?! My first 'timewaster'? Felt like such an idiot!!"

What a complete idiot.....definitely his loss for not turning up to meet you. From your profile, you look absolutely gorgeous......it's a shame you are so far north

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Commiserations. It is a blow to the ego however there are so many better people here who will turn up and who are nice. As others have said, time to move on. I would not wait an hour- not unless I had received a message explaining the delay.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"ps... I wouldn't have waited over an hour if I hadn't had a text or something to advise the person was going to be late"

us neither we give them 15 mins at best, they always have our mobile mumber and there are few locations where you are out of signal for more than ten mins around here and if their battery is flat then it says to us "what else are they gonna fail at" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss, least you got to enjoy a Costa. I love people watching. You can sit outside my local Costa and watch the world go by, so I would have been quite happy for an hour. Just put it down to experience, today is another day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?"

Not everybody wants to give there numbers out. I dont! Surely if they have confirmed via here that they are going to meet then they should st least turn up. Confirm via text or kik and you have no proof to report them as a no show.

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport


"His loss, least you got to enjoy a Costa. I love people watching. You can sit outside my local Costa and watch the world go by, so I would have been quite happy for an hour. Just put it down to experience, today is another day. "

People watching is something im getting good at after being stood up for my last 3 social meets. And I agree that it is his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - definitely his loss - you are lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

Not everybody wants to give there numbers out. I dont! Surely if they have confirmed via here that they are going to meet then they should st least turn up. Confirm via text or kik and you have no proof to report them as a no show. "

I prefer to exchange numbers if someone is running late or has a problem and has no internet connection. Letting you know can be a problem.

But I understand people may not want to swap numbers. But it's just a little check I like to make.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?"

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him. "

People will always waste other peoples time. I just think people arr less likely to say on the day they are coming and then not turn up.

I have spoke to two people on here that started behaving out of character on the days leading up to the meet. Gut instinct told me it was not going to happen.

Both times it never did without the phone call/text I may have been sitting in Starbucks. Both times they never replied and came out with a half cut excuse a day or two later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a Kindle just so it doesn't look like I've been stood up in various venues. Next time, take a book.

PS welcome to the 'been stood up then blocked' club. We have coffee mornings every other month, and I'll send you the secret handshake. "

haha can we join

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

an hour is a bit long.

didn't you swap phone numbers beforehand? thats the sensible thing to do, so you can txt or call them after 10 mins.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him. "

thats not why you get a number, its so you don't have to sit around wondering.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him.

thats not why you get a number, its so you don't have to sit around wondering."

What happens if they don't reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him. "

Thats drastic action for not wanting to meet someone

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By *tockport_slutWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Costa do a nice carrot cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him.

thats not why you get a number, its so you don't have to sit around wondering.

What happens if they don't reply?"

If it's someone I have never met on the morning of the meet I would text.

Just checking we are still on for later. Of I got no reply. I would assume it's off till I hear otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you swap numbers OP and confirm on the day, it was still happening?

I find that if a bloke has decided he isn't going to turn up, no amount of texts or phone calls will help him see how bad his behaviour is. I had one guy actually cancel his phone account once. Very weird getting my texts returned while I was on my way to meet him.

thats not why you get a number, its so you don't have to sit around wondering.

What happens if they don't reply?

If it's someone I have never met on the morning of the meet I would text.

Just checking we are still on for later. Of I got no reply. I would assume it's off till I hear otherwise."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Costa do a nice carrot cake "

I prefer the lemon drizzle cake myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the tea like in Costa? I wouldn't have waited that long unless I was enjoying my tea

I have the earl grey as I like it, be good if they had lemon too though "

Yes I hate when they only offer milk with Earl Grey - it needs lemon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An hour seems longer than I'd have waited, but a Costa is a place fine to be by yourself.

Perhaps getting a number may increase their commitment slightly more / help out time wasters, but obviously people can still ignore you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If it's someone I have never met on the morning of the meet I would text.

Just checking we are still on for later. Of I got no reply. I would assume it's off till I hear otherwise.

This "

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think I was thrown as so far had mainly good experiences. Inc club nights"

I give 20 minutes and I get a coffee when I arrive. I don't use costa. man's a idiot

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Or instead of exchangings numbers, use kik. Also handy if they do actually turn up and your not interested in them so you don't get any harassing calls from them.

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