FabSwingers.com forum: TV Documentary interview

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My wife and I have been invited to be interviewed for a documentary about UK webcam couples, which we have agreed to, however our dilemma is wether to have our faces and any distinctive marks blocked out for anonymity, or just be brave enough to be seen, at the risk of family seeing us on Tv lol

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Maintain as much anonymity as you can. The programme makers will have an agenda and will edit your interview to fit that, great if they show you in a good light but not so great if they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife and I have been invited to be interviewed for a documentary about UK webcam couples, which we have agreed to, however our dilemma is wether to have our faces and any distinctive marks blocked out for anonymity, or just be brave enough to be seen, at the risk of family seeing us on Tv lol

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."

Do you want the attention, to be noticed or not? Personally I like a little anonymity but think long and hard before you give it up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah that's our thinking. The attention would be pretty cool, but for how long? That being said I don't tend to remember people I see in a one off documentary, only a serial show, or something daily like news etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be persuaded to do what the people on the channel 4 programme about dogging did last year. They had them Wearing animal masks and it didn't do them any favours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you get invited to do this?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" The attention would be pretty cool, but for how long? "

For as long as your family, neighbours, employers, colleagues etc remember...

And although it might be a one-off documentary these sort of 'scandalous' documentaries often get repeated - I think the daft dogging one that someone else has mentioned has been shown about 3 times now?

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

and google never forgets. Well unless your rich enough to employ good lawyers.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Personally I wouldn't agree to be interviewed on television under any circumstances, not even a vox pop in the street. I don't know enough about anything for any one to want me as an expert either.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."

It won't be a documentary, it will be an exercise in how much money they can get for editing something that will get massive viewing. A bit like one born every minute. They won't show honest truth and opinion, just stuff that makes the viewing public feel (insert extreme emotion here).

It will go one of two ways; you will be vilified or celebrated but I know which one I'll put my money on.

It will also cause a massive influx of wannabes and journalists to Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We aren't planning on mentioning Fab, well not unless the site owners want a plug lol. We were contacted through our profile on a site where we get paid for having sex on cam lol. Won't mention it by name but sure some of you know it.

The issue with family finding out what we do is somewhat of a worry but I guess we are both suckers for a bit of minor celebrity so it's a tough call haha.

Thanks for all the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" The attention would be pretty cool, but for how long?

For as long as your family, neighbours, employers, colleagues etc remember...

funny tho wasn't it

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

Fgs, be as anonymous as possible. This will come back to haunt you.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

pssttt ..whats the site where you get fucked on cam ?

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

"Fgs, be as anonymous as possible. This will come back to haunt you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We aren't planning on mentioning Fab, well not unless the site owners want a plug lol. We were contacted through our profile on a site where we get paid for having sex on cam lol. Won't mention it by name but sure some of you know it.

The issue with family finding out what we do is somewhat of a worry but I guess we are both suckers for a bit of minor celebrity so it's a tough call haha.

Thanks for all the advice

I don't mean this in a rude way but don't let your desire for celebrity over rule your common sense. It's a fair bet that you will be portrayed negatively even ridiculed and it could affect your life on ways you haven't even thought of yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain as much anonymity as you can. The programme makers will have an agenda and will edit your interview to fit that, great if they show you in a good light but not so great if they don't."

Totally agree with this especially if it's for ch4!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And Fake profiles and all the Nutters,kids making profiles,and the wanabes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

I 2nd that. Once a reporter always will be, they hound til they get a dam good story, no matter who the hurt on the way. Dnt Do it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I maybe wrong but surely if any of your family watch such a documentary, they are not going to be shocked anyway ?

I only watch documentaries that interest me so would assume your immediate family do likewise.

Sounds like you've already made up your minds also so good luck with that, I think you may need it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I maybe wrong but surely if any of your family watch such a documentary, they are not going to be shocked anyway ?

I only watch documentaries that interest me so would assume your immediate family do likewise.

Sounds like you've already made up your minds also so good luck with that, I think you may need it "

I think that what you might find interesting and amusing if a total stranger is doing it may not be quite as funny if it's your son, daughter, mum or dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I maybe wrong but surely if any of your family watch such a documentary, they are not going to be shocked anyway ?

I only watch documentaries that interest me so would assume your immediate family do likewise.

Sounds like you've already made up your minds also so good luck with that, I think you may need it "

Not necessarily, my friend texted me one evening and said turn on Channel whatever it was. It was the dogging documentary. I watched out of morbid curiosity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain as much anonymity as you can. The programme makers will have an agenda and will edit your interview to fit that, great if they show you in a good light but not so great if they don't."

This is bang on the money. I wouldn't trust any documentary maker to provide a sympathetic or even accurate view unless they were independent and they themselves stemmed from the very community/niche they seeked to portray. The mainstream doesn't understand what is alternative and doesn't want to, the reason why programme makers are drawn to these extreme or titillating subjects is to get more views (modern-day freak show element), not to educate or familiarise the audience with what is unusual.

If you want to boost your exposure, keep your faces/identifying marks covered but make sure that the handle/username you use on the cam site is clearly displayed or spoken of. So those interested may seek you out, you'll get more views on your shows and hopefully more tips/money for them also - that's free advertising, and you stand to gain from it. But chucking in your real identity, I can't see how this would benefit you (even as the exhibitionist couple you so obviously are!). It is not just neighbours and family, it's also the disapproving public - surely nobody needs that kind of attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I'd ever want to be involved in but each to their own.

I just hope it doesn't stir up too much media interest and spoil things for everyone else.

I'd hate to go to a club to then see myself on telly going in or coming out.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."
John replying. A few things that I would be wary about if you go ahead with this ,check what you are signing contract wise as the producers will be able to sell or use any images of you to who ever they like ,they will edit it for entertainment value and will try to get into your every day lives. Some friends of mine have done documentaries and regretted doing them as their private lives were blown apart by having a camera thrust in their faces 24/7 ,so make sure you are both happy with what the propose before you sign on the dotted line. Good luck with what ever you decide. And remember you can choose your friends but you can`t replace your family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain as much anonymity as you can. The programme makers will have an agenda and will edit your interview to fit that, great if they show you in a good light but not so great if they don't."

I totally agree, once you've done the interview your at the mercy of the editors who can make you look stupid sad or funny , don't place you're trust in them ... You may regret it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some years ago a friend of mine agreed for her 15 year old daughter to be part of a documentary on teenagers. The documentary was edited to make my friend's daughter look promiscuous. At the screening there was so much free hospitity the programme shown was a blur for my friend. I attended and did not drink and I was outraged by the depiction. However there was no right to have the programme changed. When shown on tv the newspapers had a field day. I agree with the advice not to take part as most of the documentary makers have an agenda. Even if you are anonymous they can still make you look stupid. If you wanted to do it then get them to pay for a media lawyer to 'review the contract on your behalf. But my view is never sup with the devil even with a long spoon. Regards

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

To above poster's advice.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Maintain as much anonymity as you can. The programme makers will have an agenda and will edit your interview to fit that, great if they show you in a good light but not so great if they don't.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I agree on not using masks similar to the dogging show.

But unless you get anything from losing your anonimity then choose anonymous. Preferably filmed in a building that's not connected to you. Not upsetting some family would be my priority.

People talk about who they recognize on tv and stories get twisted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends of ours were caught out at a party and was photographed through a window which ended up on the local Facebook spotted page for their area, this was followed by pages of nasty malicious comments including people in their street, school and work etc. they endured weeks of online abuse that ended with police action against the perpetrators and now they are no longer playing due to a small minded minority intent on causing them suffering. while they hurt no one doing what Were all here doing people will view it diffrently so I'd tred very carefully with your identity

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Channel 4 are known for their biased editing! A friend of mine agreed to be interviewed on a report about unemployment . Easy , simple, to show how job centres help people back to work etc .... No! They portrayed this person as a long term outta work low life with mental health problems and learning difficulties FFS!

First my friend knew of their new persona was watching it on tv! Devestated wasn't the word!. Friends n family knew it was a load of bullshit, but really put that person thro hell. A complaint was swiftly made , but damage already done.

You could be interviewd by 4 different people ... All would put their own spin on it and total oposite to what you want to come across like ... Be aware and if you do it ... Ask to see the end product before it aired! Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im cynical enough to think that any documentary is just to fuel public "curiosity" so that they can heap scorn on someone outside of the social norms and feel better about their own sirdid little secrets.

The outrage bus is ready for boarding...

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

when I was a young lad of about 22 I had full sex with a stripper on stage in front of about 150 workmates, they still mentioned it 10yrs later. please stay anonymous or you'll never live it down, especially if they show you in a negative light. I'm so glad there was no internet back in those days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When will it be screened so we can all tune in and watch ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay as anonymous as possible. Once they have the footage you have no control over what they will do with it and how they will portray you. BBC did a hatchet job on the Queen and got told off a little while back remember?

Similar to an earlier post a friend was in a documentary about Inrernet addiction. His specific problem was online poker however by time the programme aired it had somehow morphed into internet porn addiction of course.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."

No matter what you are told by the TV researchers or how you feel you may be able to handle it... You cannot imagine how much abuse and intrusion into your personal life you will get if you are recognised. Work colleagues, parents of the friends of your kids, neighbours and even people in the local shops. We have seen already how some people can become obsessed (troll woman) and you will generate local enemies who will hound you obsessively.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

"Don't be persuaded to do what the people on the channel 4 programme about dogging did last year. They had them Wearing animal masks and it didn't do them any favours "
did get Kevin a deal with links lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheer fact is all tv progeammes no matter what they are about are all focussed around one thing - RATINGS! They will show you in the worst and most emotional provoking way possible. Look at programmes like benefit street they only show the worst of the worst because they know it gets under peoples skins and gets then talking, therefore getting ratings. I personally wouldnt do it as Id see it as a mistake that will be able to haunt you forever, its why (although id love to) have never made a sex tape or allowed people to take pics of me (even exes) on meets etc, however its not my choice its yours all I will say is since your going ahead with it is Good luck you will need it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were on a programme (nothing to do with sex or swinging) it was edited so much, nothing like the day we actually had, it has been repeated so many times and the stick we get for it, doesn't go away

God help you if it's a sex programme, your 15 mins of fame lasts a lot longer and will come back to haunt you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's known as the "idiot box" for good reason .

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We are plastered all over the net due to our jobs which dont bother us otherwise we wouldn't do it, doing tv interviews or documentary is another thing though as they edit the material into something completely different.

One of our friends Cathy Barry agreed to do a talk show years ago and regretted it so think first, when our antics came out in the papers we lost our jobs and had to lay low for about a year while everyone including family accepted it...don't do it guys.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Be very very carefull, things get twisted etc. also if you do cam work for money then be ready for a visit from the tax man! A friend of ours did a documentary, nothing to do with swinging and a couple of weeks after it aired he had both the Tax and Vat man on his case!! Low profile is always best!

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Be very very carefull, things get twisted etc. also if you do cam work for money then be ready for a visit from the tax man! A friend of ours did a documentary, nothing to do with swinging and a couple of weeks after it aired he had both the Tax and Vat man on his case!! Low profile is always best! "

The above statement is very true as we ourselves were raided by police and tax officers about 2 years ago, everything we do is legal and through the books so within 30 mins they were leaving red faced but if we didn't pay tax or have record of what we did we would have been fucked.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stay unknown i think - you have the option then to out yourselves publicly at a later date if you want - but once its done thats it - otherwise enjoy the hour of glory

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

If you want to know how they twist things you should have read an article in The Sub newspaper titled "The Suntans of Swing".

"Sun investigates sleazy holidays"

"BRAZEN Brits are flocking to swingers’ holidays abroad in a disturbing underground trend we can reveal after being given exclusive access to a sun-and-sex hotel. "

Thats just the strapline and the first paragraph. Thats what the nedia think and such sensationalism is what sells, they will make you look bad.

When I did sales training a lot of years ago I was told "dont sell the features or the benifits, sell the sizzle" and they will make it sizzle like youve never seen before

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."
. Best to remember that the TV programme will have no intererest in your future , their only interest will be in the viewers and making it as interesting as possible. I would not trust any journalist or TV producer in this situation. You could end up having family and friends sniggering at you or losing your jobs . Best avoided , but you seem keen to participate .

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By *eepster69Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

Well I've been asked to appear on Strictly benefit street swinging on ice and proud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen two documentaries of things I know about. One was my town and one was a favorite holiday destination in Wales. Both documentaries were not factual and painted in a very bad light. Yet the people on the documentaries seemed willing to participate. And that's because they were probably led to believe it wasn't going to be portrayed that way.

Don't do it.

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By *ugarNspicecplCouple
over a year ago

SCUNTHORPE

Not worried about friends as most of our friends know we do webcam sex and swing lol."

Don't show your faces

they can be brutal with the editing and may put you in a very bad light, just not worth it

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

"Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!"

and if you do appear , please do not mention this site, there's enough dreamers here already, ..Connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!

and if you do appear , please do not mention this site, there's enough dreamers here already, ..Connie xx

This!! Enough time-wasters already!!

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!

and if you do appear , please do not mention this site, there's enough dreamers here already, ..Connie xx

This!! Enough time-wasters already!!

Agreed

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just don't do it is the best advice anyone can give, really!

and if you do appear , please do not mention this site, there's enough dreamers here already, ..Connie xx

Couldn't agree more! Compromise your own confidentiality if you must but not ours

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