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By *erseyriders OP   Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

LADIES IF U FOUND A UN WANTED LUMP IN INTIMATE AREA ,,WUD U WANT A FEMALE DOCTOR 2 EXAMINE U ,OR MALE DOCTOR ,,THIS ISNT A JOKE IN ANY WAY ,,SO SERIOUS REPLYS PLEASE ,,THANX IN ADVANCE [FEM]

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By *ady G and GTCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

If I was concerned about it I wouldn't be bothered who examined me. Hope you get it checked out, its probably nothing but better to know than worry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't care what sex they were, I would be more interested in finding out the diagnosis. Go to the docs, there is nothing to be embarrassed about, they have seen it all before. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't care as long as they do their job and sort it out ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't care what sex they were, I would be more interested in finding out the diagnosis. Go to the docs, there is nothing to be embarrassed about, they have seen it all before. Good luck"

Absolutely! You can ask for a chaperone and have a female nurse in with you during the examination if you are feeling a bit unsure. Don't ignore lumps, it's not worth risking your health because of embarrassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the GP practice for a specific gender if there is more than one doctor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt matter. you need to get checked out. Female nurses do smear tests and to be honest I prefer that to a male. But in the end your health is priority. good luck xx

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By *erseyriders OP   Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me if it was a male or female dr, if it's something that's needs checking urgently then I would be grateful to get it seen to quickly by either sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LADIES IF U FOUND A UN WANTED LUMP IN INTIMATE AREA ,,WUD U WANT A FEMALE DOCTOR 2 EXAMINE U ,OR MALE DOCTOR ,,THIS ISNT A JOKE IN ANY WAY ,,SO SERIOUS REPLYS PLEASE ,,THANX IN ADVANCE [FEM] "

Any doc! If it's unwanted I wouldn't care if it was a medically trained chimp.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

I don't think they can refuse to let you have someone in with you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

Take a friend in with you if you're concerned. Is it the specialist who's male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

Is there more than one hospital in your area ? if so, ask if there are female consultants in oncology in a another hospital. Then ask to be referred to that hospital. You have choices now in where you are treated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

It's normally a male consultant with female nurses, or take a good friend with you.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't mind to be honest as some male doctors can be more sympathetic, though in this day and age, you will more than likely have a female nurse in attendance as well!

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By *erseyriders OP   Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

I have massive panic attacks wen out of my comfort zone ,,wich make me black out after being attacked ,,,,its hard 2 explain ....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'll be honest if I needed to see an oncologist their gender would be the last thing on my mind.

However I know that this is a real concern for many women. Op what is it you're concerned about in particular in as far as seeing a male is concerned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

You have the right to ask for a chaperone and they're obliged to provide one,no male Dr that I know would examine a female without asking for a chaperone or asking if you want one

I hope it all turns out ok x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have massive panic attacks wen out of my comfort zone ,,wich make me black out after being attacked ,,,,its hard 2 explain ...."

You don't need to explain, it's understandable. Do you feel able to tell the hospital this?

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I would see either if it was urgent, there is normally a nurse as well. A doctor also has to protect himself. I've never heard of not being able to take a friend. Please go to your appointment and good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a female dr a few weeks ago and she asked me if I would like a chaperone before she examined me. I didn't feel the need for one. Luckily I've never felt uncomfortable where medical examinations are needed. Ring ahead of your appointment and explain that you would like a chaperone present, you will not be refused this request x

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By *erseyriders OP   Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,"

Can't your partner go with you? Mom? Friend? If I lived nearer I would come with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,

It's normally a male consultant with female nurses, or take a good friend with you. "

I'm sure there are plenty of female Consultants too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,"

Strange....seen a few docs lately and there's always a female nurse present. .. Insist upon it xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,"

Well you know you're not being silly and

we know you're not being silly.

Good luck

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By *erseyriders OP   Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

thank u ,,my familylive to far away ,,n my real best friend passed away ,,,my partner is takin time off work 2 look after my dogs,, since being attacked I take my dogs everywhere with me ,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,"

Speak to your hospitals patient advice liason service about this because you are entitled to have a chaperone,that nurse is very wrong to tell you you're being silly

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm local to you and have had a number of hospital visits the last couple of months which have required internal investigations. Each time I have been offered a chaperon or a friend to attend and where I required a procedure I had two female nurses and a male consultant.

It is something you just need to keep asking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with the others on this. I wouldn't bother if it was male or female, would just want it checked out sweetie.

You can often ask for a female nurse if it is a male doctor and you are uncomfortable. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thank u ,,my familylive to far away ,,n my real best friend passed away ,,,my partner is takin time off work 2 look after my dogs,, since being attacked I take my dogs everywhere with me ,,,,"

Are your dogs not able to be left alone for a few hours while your partner goes with you? Do you have a good neighbour who you could take? As honeypot suggested, contact PALS and explain the situation to them. Do they have a female vicar,hospitals always have a chaplain on site xxx

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Actually the information you have been given is wrong. I am from your area and worked in all of the local hospitals. It is the hospital policy to have at least a female HCA in the room when you are being examined by a male. This HAS to be in place for muslim women especially but doctors will often insist on this anyway to cover themselves for false accusation.

Just go along and when you get there, say that you understand there will be a female member of staff in the room if I am to be seen by a male doctor? If anyone argues with this, which they won't, tell them that it is actually your right and Trust policy to provide this service and if you were Muslim this is a human right.

You should be fine though honey xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"consultant oncologist is male ,,,nurse rang me today n I tried 2 explain things 2 her ,,,,in her kind sweet way she basicly sed I was being vry silly n they cant always garuntee sum 1 wud b available 2 go in with me ,,,thank u all 4 ur sincere kindness n best wishes ,,vry much appreciated ,,,,"

You're not being silly & I am sure somewhere in the building they can find a female to chaperone you. Be firm but calm in your approach.

good luck xx

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By *itzWoman
over a year ago

south wales

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By *itzWoman
over a year ago

south wales

Consultants have too much to lose professionally to examine a patient without a witness, usually a nurse or a healthcare assistant, especially a male Consultant examining a females genital area. You are well within your rights to insist on a nurse being present if he does try to go ahead with the examination without a chaperone. The nurse you spoke to was obviously trying to play down your fears, but unfortunately did it in the wrong way. Dont worry. Best of luck with the diagnosis and so sorry you have suffered so much from your attack. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's normally a male consultant with female nurses "

That's a big sweeping generalisation!

Anywho - take a friend with you. If you've been given an appointment already I'd advise sticking with it and taking a "safe person" with you if you're unsure. A re-referral to somewhere with a female consultant would take more time on top, whereas it sounds like you're near enough ready to be seen through this referral. Being seen in a timely manner is important for these issues. Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAVE BEEn n seen my own doctor she sent request 2 oncology n they say ive got 2 c male doctor ,,n they dnt do chaperone either ,,,"

they have to chaperone.. All male doctors that are examining you intimately have to.. Code of ethics.. If they don't, its within your right to refuse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi...if your gp surgery is like mist on the wirral then there is a good mix of male n female drs. ive had problems in the past and tbh it was last thing on my mibd. i just wanted it dealt with asap. i had female dr just because she happened to be on duty day of my appt. but then the consultznt at the hospital was male. at the end of the day these are professionals that are use to dealing with lots of things like this day in day out. Arrowe Park was brilliant with me...but drop in centres are in wallasey and st caths near to where you are. go love...you will be fine. xx

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Either should make no difference

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Contact the Patient Advice and Liason people. They're at every hospital and this is the kind of dilemma they are there for.

I've got a number for the one in the hospital near you and I'll Pm you.

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By *ngie1962Couple
over a year ago

Bedford

If it's a male dr they normally have a nurse in with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"LADIES IF U FOUND A UN WANTED LUMP IN INTIMATE AREA ,,WUD U WANT A FEMALE DOCTOR 2 EXAMINE U ,OR MALE DOCTOR ,,THIS ISNT A JOKE IN ANY WAY ,,SO SERIOUS REPLYS PLEASE ,,THANX IN ADVANCE [FEM] "

The most qualified person no matter what gender for me.

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