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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, new to the site and finding it rather difficult to get any replies, responses, from anybody.

I'm attracted to older women, appreciate it's not everybody's thing.

I'm a totally reliable, respectful person but must be going wrong somewhere.

Any help/advice would be much appreciated...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Welcome to fan. 7 days is almost nothing on fab to expect much to happen. Keep at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sure you will get offers some women like a younger guy

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Interact with people in the forum, get to know them and have a laugh. Look out for organised socials and join in where you can.

Maybe think about how you are trying to sell yourself with your pics. Out of the thousands of blokes on here, would you answer someone with just a pic of their cock if you were a woman?

Also, it takes a while. Give it chance you have only been here 7 days. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 days is nothing, patient is a virtue lol.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Go to socials etc. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies. Appreciate the advice. Will definitely interact more and see where it goes. Patience is a gift i was blessed with

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

your profile seems good, the only further suggestion I would make is post a couple of pictures, you don't need to show your face

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

No avatar to me means not worth me even checking out his profile.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No pic = no contact

Patience = meets

Meets = lots of body contact

Lots of body contact = patience

Meets = no pics

Or something like that anyway

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"No pic = no contact

Patience = meets

Meets = lots of body contact

Lots of body contact = patience

Meets = no pics

Or something like that anyway "

feeling grotty

now confused. But I think I agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No pic = no contact

Patience = meets

Meets = lots of body contact

Lots of body contact = patience

Meets = no pics

Or something like that anyway

feeling grotty

now confused. But I think I agree x"
Heard a torso pic are a favourite to use

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay see your point, will get an avatar added. Thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't call them the older woman might help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again. Another whine from a one week wonder with a brief, non-descript profile and one cock pic.......jeeeez!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Here we go again. Another whine from a one week wonder with a brief, non-descript profile and one cock pic.......jeeeez!"

Wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

number 1 thing you need to do is.....

Upload a photo for your avatar, so many woman delete the 'shadow man' ~ a sexy torso pic is always a good place to start, black & white is cool.

The hot guy I'm chatting with at the moment caught my eye because his avatar was lush

good luck x

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"number 1 thing you need to do is.....

Upload a photo for your avatar, so many woman delete the 'shadow man' ~ a sexy torso pic is always a good place to start, black & white is cool.

The hot guy I'm chatting with at the moment caught my eye because his avatar was lush

Agree! very few ladies will reply to 'avatar man' and unless you attach a pic of something other than your cock to your first message, I'm afraid you have virtually no chance!

Remember. ....effort in = rewards out!!!

good luck x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aside from a bit of nit picking; get rid of very in front of professional (what makes you very? And who cares) and re-word 'My preference is for older people than myself.' to 'My preference is for people older than myself', its refreshing to see a newbie actually bother to take time to write something but I do agree you need some more pictures and us ladies like a nice bum picture

On the subject of bums, you have put 'nice arses' maybe elaborate on that.

Welcome to Fab though and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. Another whine from a one week wonder with a brief, non-descript profile and one cock pic.......jeeeez!

Wow! "

he did not whine just asked advice!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. Another whine from a one week wonder with a brief, non-descript profile and one cock pic.......jeeeez!"

How very superior!

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By *onderTongueMan
over a year ago

Bury

Don't expect to get any responses...so any you do get will be seen as a bonus!

Might be worth trying to get to clubs / socials. I know this depends on location.

Oh and it helps to become bitter and spiteful like I have, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"number 1 thing you need to do is.....

Upload a photo for your avatar, so many woman delete the 'shadow man' ~ a sexy torso pic is always a good place to start, black & white is cool.

The hot guy I'm chatting with at the moment caught my eye because his avatar was lush

Agree! very few ladies will reply to 'avatar man' and unless you attach a pic of something other than your cock to your first message, I'm afraid you have virtually no chance!

Remember. ....effort in = rewards out!!!

good luck x"

This and give it time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again for tips, feedback and advice. I'm going to make a few changes and tweeks to the profile, and I'm hoping to go to a social event next week.

It's good to see so many people willing to help and point you on the right track.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks again for tips, feedback and advice. I'm going to make a few changes and tweeks to the profile, and I'm hoping to go to a social event next week.

It's good to see so many people willing to help and point you on the right track."

Yes what they have all said. I wouldnt describe you as curvy either you look fairly slim to me. good luck

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Good to see you have an avatar on now. I question if you would actually meet someone who is 70 though. I am 42 and I sure as hell wouldn't. My dad is 70 and someone of a similar age to my parents is a sickening thought to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, new to the site and finding it rather difficult to get any replies, responses, from anybody.

I'm attracted to older women, appreciate it's not everybody's thing.

I'm a totally reliable, respectful person but must be going wrong somewhere.

Any help/advice would be much appreciated..."

Advice I love giving advice about dating not swinging as I presume this guy is after a long term relationship as at 30 it's easy to get casual sex if you don't smell or have a severe personality disorder in real life

I noted that you were 30 and you were after women older than you , how much older is the question.

your 30 why waste your time online, juggling with the 1,000s and 1,0000s of other single guys. Get a mate and go to town a pub, club etc you get one to one interaction, the girl has all your attention, can see you none of this messaging back and forth looking to see what you like whilst competing with the other guys messaging her .

The mix of girls online compared to the mix in a pub is totally different . The background is different , women in town do not have 100 people in a queue trying to chat them up and do not have a few guys chatting to them at one time and pick the best one.

If you can't pull a girl in real life who is out happy having fun , with none of the stress of kids and work . At least you know that the time may be right. What can go wrong on a night out , we'll you have never seen a woman punching a guy for talking to her

What can go wrong when you message a girl on the net , she is at work had deleted message because boss came in. Her kids threw a tantrum , and had 200 messages since yours and deleted it .

Women like confident guys who they generally know is too good for them , men always go for the easy option . Work it out for yourself where you have the most competiton

I always chat up 25 to 35 year olds when single and if online would go for 30 to 40 year olds.i am a womanizer and always have been .

I always go for the better looking slimmer and we'll dressed girl , and yes I am a shallow and go for looks rather than personality

If the reason you look online is because you are shy approaching women practice on shop assistants they have to be polite to you they get paid for it have a flirt and tease , if you can get them to laugh or try to hit you jokingly ,

The moral is even if you can arrange a meet online it won't go far if you can't interact offline . If you have not got the skills to sleep with a girl from real life chances are you won't do it here as I have just pointed out the competition is way much higher .

I am right in my single days I used to date etc women from real life, dating sites and here . My highest success rate was real life , followed by dating sites , then here, which was 0

Good luck let us know how you get on . I have given some advice on how to behave on dates , have look at my previous dates for some expert advice that works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A study on feminine interest and subsequent shunning or "What do you expect from meeeee!"

Check out my post in the above forum post on how to behave on a date that works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. Another whine from a one week wonder with a brief, non-descript profile and one cock pic.......jeeeez!"

I don't think he's whining at all. Everyone has to start somewhere and build their confidence.

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