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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you read all the other twenty million threads like this you'll get the general idea and save us all typing the same stuff all over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience,forum chat,socials n clubs is the way ahead as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

Same reason why it used to be so hard to get a furby at Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

We have arranged 3 meets with single guys recently to just meet me... ( Cali) and all have made their excuses at the last minute. So that doesn't help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

There are as many reasons are there are people who don't meet single guys. their reasons are individual, varied and legitimate.

We don't meet them because generally, have nothing against them and haven't really been messed around by any although we have friends who have...but then equally have friends who've been messed about by couples and single females too...

I'm uninterested in getting fucked by a random single man and therefore can't see what they could add to our sex...have we gone outside of that? Yes-when the mood takes me at a club or a party but we don't go looking for them here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

We have arranged 3 meets with single guys recently to just meet me... ( Cali) and all have made their excuses at the last minute. So that doesn't help "

I had two who were gagging for a meet yesterday. Definitely be there. Both no shows. That's why I only meet in clubs at least if they dont show you have a good chance of fun. Too many fantasists on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you read all the other twenty million threads like this you'll get the general idea and save us all typing the same stuff all over again. "

lol true that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same with me I am 59 can not get a meet. Thinking it must be me

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

what were your expectations when you joined up ?

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I,m 60 and i do ok it helps if you can accommadate or people think you are playing away and cheating, be patient send nice messages and DON,T be nasty if its a no thank.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Same with me I am 59 can not get a meet. Thinking it must be me "

I am same age but in a couple of weeks will be 60 then it might get better but I doubt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50% of my veris are from guys that have met me after ive been let down by other single guys. With the odds being nothing more than a coin flip is it really surprising that guys get a bad reputation on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

We have arranged 3 meets with single guys recently to just meet me... ( Cali) and all have made their excuses at the last minute. So that doesn't help

I had two who were gagging for a meet yesterday. Definitely be there. Both no shows. That's why I only meet in clubs at least if they dont show you have a good chance of fun. Too many fantasists on here."
I'll turn up to meet you xx lee

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By *ala.malaMan
over a year ago

poole

I'm new here but after 1 week i certainly can't complain.

You get out what you put in i reckon...lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm new here but after 1 week i certainly can't complain.

You get out what you put in i reckon...lol"
lots of guys get meets, it tends to be the ones that are pro active. Get yourself known even if its just posting on the forums for now.

Its not other guys that give you a bad name if people judge on others behaviour its up to them.

I don't think I get judged the same as the deranged bunnyboilers that are on here.

Get yourself known as your own person

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

So many couples I have met say they have been let down by single males, which has always seemed amazing to me. We have to accept that on this site there are timewasters, folks who go through the motions and make arangements but that's want gives them the kicks, and never intend meeting.

Men pretend to be cpls or even women again for kicks only oen would assume.

If somoene has been on over a year, has no verifications, green tick or whatever, its safe to say they are unlikely to eevr meet.

I have been swingign 14 years, yes it's stil not easy to get meets, but work at it, be friendly and reliable and the rwewards follow.

I am open to offers East Mids Sat 27th too, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ratio is 100 men to 1 woman, send hundreds of email to get a bite

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"If you read all the other twenty million threads like this you'll get the general idea and save us all typing the same stuff all over again. "

Thank you! Saves typing exactly the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if you message when you have a boner it comes across in your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I,m 60 and i do ok it helps if you can accommadate or people think you are playing away and cheating, be patient send nice messages and DON,T be nasty if its a no thank. "

67 here and I agree, well has worked for me so far lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "
Its not

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I'm new here but after 1 week i certainly can't complain.

You get out what you put in i reckon...lol lots of guys get meets, it tends to be the ones that are pro active. Get yourself known even if its just posting on the forums for now.

Its not other guys that give you a bad name if people judge on others behaviour its up to them.

I don't think I get judged the same as the deranged bunnyboilers that are on here.

Get yourself known as your own person

"

I totally agree with this and get so fed up with reading whiny posts that blame the bad behaviour or rudeness of other single men for the posters' lack of success on here.

You create your own opportunities and success by following common sense rules that are spelled out hundreds of times by patient posters on here, and by being pro-active, not by sitting back and expecting action to come to you.

Effort=reward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here Its not "

Hiiiii Tosh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here Its not

Hiiiii Tosh "
Hey gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

because they spend too much time on forums asking why???

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

have you read some of the single guys profiles, ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet single guys but only once we decide that he is what we are looking for ,may chat for awhile till we meet ,,never met anyone who messages fancy a fuck tonight ,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

Same reason why it used to be so hard to get a furby at Christmas.

"

Everyone wants one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

Same reason why it used to be so hard to get a furby at Christmas.

"

My daughter got a furby years ago for Christmas easily enough but can i get a single man? Like fuck can I

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I posted this earlier on a thread by someone saying age was a problem (young - not old!), but it applies to single guys, single females and couples too!

"Fab, or any internet based contact site, isn't a fair, even playing field. It's not somewhere where equal rights rule, you are entitled to anything or there are rules dictating that all are given the same opportunities.

It's a frigging website where people who are attracted and interested in others can contact each other to see if they'd like to meet socially or sexually.

Nothing more - nothing less!

Joining guarantees nothing, entitles you to nothing and there should be an expectancy level of pretty much fuck all!

There are things you can't control.

Age, gender, couple/single status, location, ethnicity, sexuality, the body you currently possess, your personal preferences, interests and tastes.

Nor can you control any of the above in others.

Some will be of interest to you - you will be of interest to some.

The only thing you can control is the way you portray yourself and how you interact, both virtually and in real life should you find yourself face to face.

Young, old, fat, thin, average, stunning - we are all entitled to nothing and if by joining up anyone feels they are, then disappointment is likely to follow.

Concentrate on what you can influence. Not what you can't."

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

It isn't.... I for one am sick of all of these repeated posts.

I did get an insight tho the other night. Was lying on sofa with my friend Loz - an ex fab member....(she left because of all the inane mithering by thousands of idiots who can't put any effort in and /or can't read).

She put a profile on POF just to test the water.

Same result. Thousands of messages from no heads from all points of the compass, out of age range, clearly married/attached and pretending to be single.

She gave them all the same advice.....go and join fabswingers.

So actually it's all her fault you see!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have you read some of the single guys profiles, ?"

The difference between women/ couple and single guy profiles is huge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

Same reason why it used to be so hard to get a furby at Christmas.

My daughter got a furby years ago for Christmas easily enough but can i get a single man? Like fuck can I "

Very few of us single men on here tho.....we have to share ourselves around. Your turn will come soon my dear!

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem "

more like 100 -1 unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get promises, no follow through lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately"

Might be true of MEN on here...not of SINGLE men tho. Once you out the fakes, the dreamers, the no-hopers, the time-wasters and the total tossers....then those few of us left do very well thank you very much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately"

Wasn't a test done recently and it was more like 7 to 1....so still a disparity but not as high as you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately

Wasn't a test done recently and it was more like 7 to 1....so still a disparity but not as high as you think."

Who did the "test" was it scientific?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately

Wasn't a test done recently and it was more like 7 to 1....so still a disparity but not as high as you think.

Who did the "test" was it scientific?"
no we just did a total search on the site of single men and single women

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately

Wasn't a test done recently and it was more like 7 to 1....so still a disparity but not as high as you think."

Wow, I'd certainly hope for 7 to 1 odds especially in London!

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By *ala.malaMan
over a year ago

poole

well im single

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By *ala.malaMan
over a year ago

poole


"I get promises, no follow through lol "

i promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guy threads go on for ever and ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you read all the other twenty million threads like this you'll get the general idea and save us all typing the same stuff all over again. "

^this.

Seriously, do a search. I, personally, have posted to so many practically identical threads on the subject over the past two weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if you message when you have a boner it comes across in your message.

"

Well that's me knackered then, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have you read some of the single guys profiles, ?

The difference between women/ couple and single guy profiles is huge!"

Yeah true the single guy rarely has a list of demands.

Hmmm maybe that's where blokes arw going wrong.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here "

It's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so.hard for single guys to get meets on here

It's not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same with me I am 59 can not get a meet. Thinking it must be me "
Your just one of the twenty million get in the queue..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratio is 100 men to 1 woman, send hundreds of email to get a bite "
sounds like you need more groundbait out I used to be a fishermen

Once sometimes It made a difference Other times It did,nt and depended where

I fished the one,s worth catching/meeting are the one,s

Worth waiting for you,ll find that

Out in life....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if you message when you have a boner it comes across in your message.

"

This ^^^

We meet single men but only at clubs now as we've been let down so many times. Horny when they message & arrange then bottle out at the last minute. If we get a "I'm full of cum" "I want to stick my cock between your tits" "I've got a hotel room come & visit me now" style message we don't even bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue ! A nice introductory message is always good, rather than 'hi love fancy a shag' lol

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By *ittall2020Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Depends a lot on where you are too, I think going to clubs & socials sounds like a much better approach but around here the nearest clubs are about a 200 mile round trip while the local social doesn't allow single males. I also do bear in mind that any in-shape couple or lady is going to get loads of offers and on average some of those will be from very good looking young guys. Personally, I've found for finding single ladies POF is much more successful, while for couples (with rare but very nice exceptions) it's usually just so much hassle to get a meet, so I've pretty much given up with that over the last few months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men outnumber single ladies by something like 50 to 1, thats partly the problem

more like 100 -1 unfortunately

Might be true of MEN on here...not of SINGLE men tho. Once you out the fakes, the dreamers, the no-hopers, the time-wasters and the total tossers....then those few of us left do very well thank you very much!"

Exactly!

OP go through the millions of other threads on the same subject and take the advice posted in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratio is 100 men to 1 woman, send hundreds of email to get a bite sounds like you need more groundbait out I used to be a fishermen

Once sometimes It made a difference Other times It did,nt and depended where

I fished the one,s worth catching/meeting are the one,s

Worth waiting for you,ll find that

Out in life.... "
YEs I might try a some new worms out for bate lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single straight man. Patience is needed on (FAB).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I posted this earlier on a thread by someone saying age was a problem (young - not old!), but it applies to single guys, single females and couples too!

"Fab, or any internet based contact site, isn't a fair, even playing field. It's not somewhere where equal rights rule, you are entitled to anything or there are rules dictating that all are given the same opportunities.

It's a frigging website where people who are attracted and interested in others can contact each other to see if they'd like to meet socially or sexually.

Nothing more - nothing less!

Joining guarantees nothing, entitles you to nothing and there should be an expectancy level of pretty much fuck all!

There are things you can't control.

Age, gender, couple/single status, location, ethnicity, sexuality, the body you currently possess, your personal preferences, interests and tastes.

Nor can you control any of the above in others.

Some will be of interest to you - you will be of interest to some.

The only thing you can control is the way you portray yourself and how you interact, both virtually and in real life should you find yourself face to face.

Young, old, fat, thin, average, stunning - we are all entitled to nothing and if by joining up anyone feels they are, then disappointment is likely to follow.

Concentrate on what you can influence. Not what you can't."

A

"

Very well put!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratio is 100 men to 1 woman, send hundreds of email to get a bite sounds like you need more groundbait out I used to be a fishermen

Once sometimes It made a difference Other times It did,nt and depended where

I fished the one,s worth catching/meeting are the one,s

Worth waiting for you,ll find that

Out in life.... YEs I might try a some new worms out for bate lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends a lot on where you are too, I think going to clubs & socials sounds like a much better approach but around here the nearest clubs are about a 200 mile round trip while the local social doesn't allow single males. I also do bear in mind that any in-shape couple or lady is going to get loads of offers and on average some of those will be from very good looking young guys. Personally, I've found for finding single ladies POF is much more successful, while for couples (with rare but very nice exceptions) it's usually just so much hassle to get a meet, so I've pretty much given up with that over the last few months. "

Out of shape lady here and I still get loads of offers......just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all the single men are hiding somewhere.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I think all the single men are hiding somewhere. "

Stand by for the barrage of private messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its hard, just read people's profiles, be polite, don't jump straight into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think all the single men are hiding somewhere.

Stand by for the barrage of private messages!"

Haha

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Depends a lot on where you are too, I think going to clubs & socials sounds like a much better approach but around here the nearest clubs are about a 200 mile round trip while the local social doesn't allow single males. I also do bear in mind that any in-shape couple or lady is going to get loads of offers and on average some of those will be from very good looking young guys. Personally, I've found for finding single ladies POF is much more successful, while for couples (with rare but very nice exceptions) it's usually just so much hassle to get a meet, so I've pretty much given up with that over the last few months.

Out of shape lady here and I still get loads of offers......just saying "

Grossly overweight, old with a bad attitude: I could meet every day if I wished...just saying too!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Not hiding,.. but when I tell a lady I CAN accomodate, she thinks "too good to be true" and runs for the hills!

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