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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been on here a little over a month now, by no means am I EXPECTING a meet because I've been here more than 2 minutes but I do wonder what I can do differently?

I always approach people as nicely as possible and make sure their profile preferences don't rule me out but still 99% of my messages get ignored.

Help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks ok mate but you have to remember there's about 30 horny guys for every 1 woman here, and some of the women profiles are fake with gay guys hiding behind them looking for pics. It's not easy but definitely pays off if you keep at it. Best to look at the verifications more than just the pics sometime too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Pics

One arty cock shot

No socks / toilets / dirty underwear or too many selifes in the bathroom

No sky remotes or Lynx Cans

Have a nice bottom / hairy chest / smooth chest / rugby player thighs

Optional face pic

Work on your profile text

Work out what you want

Go to clubs

Go to Socials

Give in and go down the pub

Don't feel entitled

Dot get angry / annoyed / upset / frustrated

Join in the forums

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I think that covers it.

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*Some advice is contradictory - so is the world of swinging. Get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for the advice guys, will keep at it. Can I ask, what is you're opening line in a message? Mine is always "how are you/ are you ok" etc and I know it's so dull lol but cannot think of any other way without sounding creepy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd read that the ration of men to women was closer to 100 to 1, but you get the general idea - There are a lot more of us, so they can afford to be choosy.

There's nothing really disastrous about your profile, but it could perhaps use a polish.

I'd lose the bit about sending friend requests, and stop sending them out randomly - such a practice is only likely to get you blocked.

I read so many profiles that specifically state that random friend requests will not be accepted which indicates that it is a growing trend which is irritating the heck out of people.

Your best approach, is to send a message with your pictures attached to it. You stand a better chance that way.

Just a couple of other points.

Firstly, you can not accommodate. While this isn't really a problem, you really should explain why. You have to think how womens minds work. 'Are you married and cheating on a wife?' is what they'll all be thinking.

Secondly, get some better pictures up. The one you have is quite artsy, but think about the impression you're giving to a visitor to your profile. A lack of pictures just has them heading to the next guy.

If you can, get a face pic up. Some people aren't comfortable doing this, and if you're the same, keep them in private, but explain why!

Lastly, you've been here a month. Takes a lot of guys around 6 months to get their first meet, so be patient.

Above all, be honest on your profile.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Useful advice thanks mate, will definitely get more pics and a better profile pic I see what you mean, maybe a torso or such.

As for face pics I have them as friend only which is why I send out requests but now you mention it I understand it doesn't help the cause I suppose it makes them do the work (which they won't as like you say it's like 100to1)

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Cheers for the advice guys, will keep at it. Can I ask, what is you're opening line in a message? Mine is always "how are you/ are you ok" etc and I know it's so dull lol but cannot think of any other way without sounding creepy!"

How are you type messages are booorriiinnggg! Make a bit more effort. Maybe something along the lines of 'hi, your profile really caught my eye because....' or something like that. Make sure you have read the profile and refer to something out of it in your message. It goes a long way if a lady knows that you have taken the time to personalise the message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cheers for the advice guys, will keep at it. Can I ask, what is you're opening line in a message? Mine is always "how are you/ are you ok" etc and I know it's so dull lol but cannot think of any other way without sounding creepy!

How are you type messages are booorriiinnggg! Make a bit more effort. Maybe something along the lines of 'hi, your profile really caught my eye because....' or something like that. Make sure you have read the profile and refer to something out of it in your message. It goes a long way if a lady knows that you have taken the time to personalise the message "

I know and I do try but sometimes there profile doesn't give enough away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your pics out of "friends only" lol.....I can't see what you look like

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Cheers for the advice guys, will keep at it. Can I ask, what is you're opening line in a message? Mine is always "how are you/ are you ok" etc and I know it's so dull lol but cannot think of any other way without sounding creepy!

How are you type messages are booorriiinnggg! Make a bit more effort. Maybe something along the lines of 'hi, your profile really caught my eye because....' or something like that. Make sure you have read the profile and refer to something out of it in your message. It goes a long way if a lady knows that you have taken the time to personalise the message "

^^^^^This, there is plenty of information on my profile and I still just get the Hi, how are you messages?

So boring and end up deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers for the advice guys, will keep at it. Can I ask, what is you're opening line in a message? Mine is always "how are you/ are you ok" etc and I know it's so dull lol but cannot think of any other way without sounding creepy!"

"Good afternoon,

My name is ______"

Etc. Etc.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yep some good advice you've been given. A face pic with first message is good. Make it clear you haven't just picked her at random, mention what made her stand out for you. Don't submit friend requests without checking first - I hate that it gets deleted immediately. U should know and I know I'm not the only woman that's had this - that if we're not interested we'll probably just delete message. It's not being rude it's because of all the idiots who won't take no for an answer/send aggressive messages in response to a 'thanks but no thanks' I started off replying to every message but it's just not worth the sometimes vile response we get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take your pics out of "friends only" lol.....I can't see what you look like "

Feel free to add me.

And thanks guys It's good to hear it from a woman's perspective

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