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By *exyglasgowcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

Clarkston

We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't plan, just flow

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area


"Don't plan, just flow"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always just flowed for us apart from one time when a couple asked to swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we used to chat to people about this before we had done it - how do you know when ? who goes where? do you say this? - it really just happens so we never think it through now - one of those see it to believe it things with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With couples we generally begin the night sitting next to the opposite persons partner... then things flow naturally. With MMF everyone needs to have a sense of evenness and ensure they spend roughly equal time on each job in hand. That's the way we do it anyway. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet and have a cuppa and a chat. With couples we talk about what their experiences are and what they like. With groups of men we do much the same.

When the time seems right we ask directly if they want to play and what they like and don't like. In our view we are all there for the same reason so a little straight talk is not wrong. They are all offered a chance to leave but as yet none have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when its run out

him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With couples we generally begin the night sitting next to the opposite persons partner... then things flow naturally. With MMF everyone needs to have a sense of evenness and ensure they spend roughly equal time on each job in hand. That's the way we do it anyway. Xx"

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

When your getting the best deal , and if there better than yours DONT SWAP BACK .,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned? "

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?"

we love mff - it never feels like one is out of things except him when us girls playing - he copes with this well enough as hes never far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?

we love mff - it never feels like one is out of things except him when us girls playing - he copes with this well enough as hes never far away "
I would hate being left out, would be terrible having to watch 2 women and wait my turn

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

When you hear the words"here , mate, can I have a go on your mrs

Joke joke lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a referee and a whistle to signal change of ends

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By *ozzytruck69Couple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Hull

lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?

we love mff - it never feels like one is out of things except him when us girls playing - he copes with this well enough as hes never far away "

See I think with mff there is much more scope for someone to be left out.. x

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By *est-coupleMan
over a year ago

Southwick (near Trowbridge)

Definitely go with flow - if it's going to happen someone will make a move when their curiosity exceeds their inhibitions.

We tend to start by pleasuring each other, with the other couple doing the same, and the walk across the floor usually comes within 5 minutes, and certainly before we've lost all of out clothes. After that it's not long until we're all in the bedroom or on the living-room carpet!

Enjoy! It's fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recon when sex becomes boring between the couple maibe lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play a card game or something with forfeits. That always breaks the ice for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recon when sex becomes boring between the couple maibe lol."

Misunderstood the OP.?

As most say...just go with the flow/play it by ear/ take it as it comes....and all those other cliches...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Play a card game or something with forfeits. That always breaks the ice for us."

Strip Scrabble is a good ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recon when sex becomes boring between the couple maibe lol.

Misunderstood the OP.?

As most say...just go with the flow/play it by ear/ take it as it comes....and all those other cliches..."
Yes I did there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?

we love mff - it never feels like one is out of things except him when us girls playing - he copes with this well enough as hes never far away I would hate being left out, would be terrible having to watch 2 women and wait my turn "

hard life eh hahaha - we love it - tngle of arms legs - people sat on faces - lovely time -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned?

You know what, my girl wants a MFF and she asked me this the other day...

I'm actually interested to know how this works.... Serving my girl and not "Overserving" the other?

we love mff - it never feels like one is out of things except him when us girls playing - he copes with this well enough as hes never far away

See I think with mff there is much more scope for someone to be left out.. x"

its never happpened - us ladies play he watches = he loves that bit but soon gets involved - ive never been left watching him and the fem or her just watching us - maybe we been lucky

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

In a group situation it always helps to have a guy in a lifeguard high seat with a megaphone and a stopwatch ready to shout "come in number three, your time is up"!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would discuss it before a meet! I like to know boundaries beforehand

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By *exyglasgowcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

Clarkston

After reading the comments I'm thinking games with sexual forfeits sounds like a fun exciting way of breaking the ice.

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By *exyglasgowcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

Clarkston


"In a group situation it always helps to have a guy in a lifeguard high seat with a megaphone and a stopwatch ready to shout "come in number three, your time is up"!

A"

It won't be David hasslehoff will it? I couldn't cope with that.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"In a group situation it always helps to have a guy in a lifeguard high seat with a megaphone and a stopwatch ready to shout "come in number three, your time is up"!

A

It won't be David hasslehoff will it? I couldn't cope with that. "

You could put in a request for Erika Eleniak or Pammy - but pretty sure they've retired their red swimsuits.

The Hoff however.......well - have you seen Piranha 3DD?

A

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By *alldarkhandsomedaveMan
over a year ago

Derby


"In a group situation it always helps to have a guy in a lifeguard high seat with a megaphone and a stopwatch ready to shout "come in number three, your time is up"!

A

It won't be David hasslehoff will it? I couldn't cope with that.

You could put in a request for Erika Eleniak or Pammy - but pretty sure they've retired their red swimsuits.

The Hoff however.......well - have you seen Piranha 3DD?

A"

I was always more of a Yasmine Bleath kinda guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We meet and have a cuppa and a chat. With couples we talk about what their experiences are and what they like. With groups of men we do much the same.

When the time seems right we ask directly if they want to play and what they like and don't like. In our view we are all there for the same reason so a little straight talk is not wrong. They are all offered a chance to leave but as yet none have. "

Spot on - pretty much how we see it. Sometimes someone just has to take the plunge and initiate things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't done the couple swap or mmf yet but we're wondering how you know when to swap partners or if in a mmf swap ends? Does it just happen naturally or is it pre-planned? "

Yeah, it just happens. Youll usually be next to the other couple and someone will start stroking a member of the othee couple and then bam. Before you know it youre hanging out the back of someone you met two hours previoisly.

Ps shame youre not closer. Very nice pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tend to plan too much - as most people are saying on here just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our 1st mmf john blindfolded me and then invited the guy up... let him shower and then come in and massage me before john took the lead and told the guy what he could or couldn't do... All without the other guy talking and when he left

.. my god the sex was our of this world...It was such a great build up and twinned with my complete and utter reliance and trust jyst made me cum and squirt so intense... would highly recommend this scenario

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Go with the flow.. If your new to this then I would suggest a good club. The is a lot of pressure in your first few meetings and if they don't go well it could ruin the whole experience. Go to a good club that gets good reviews and don't plan to do anything. If you find the right couple or single it will happen.. We have been to club where we have played with people we have never even spoken to be fore and after... Seems strange when you think about it but when you are in a room full of couple things happen.. Others we have chatted to for ages before playing...

The good thing is if someone does not take your fancy there are plenty of others...

Plan on doing nothing on your first visit and if anything happens it is a bonus.

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