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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all , I have been on the site for a couple of months now and really want to meet with a couple, problem is, I have never been with one before and basically am a bit shy etc.

Can any couples help me out with advice or any single males that have been with couples got any words of wisdom?

Also if a couple see's this post and fancies schooling a young man please inbox me

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're being a little harsh on him there.

Admission of inexperience is honest and may be endearing.

My Mrs liked the less experienced and less cocky guys as she liked to feel in control.

My advice is speak with them like your friends, address them both, and let them know you'd like to follow their lead.

Good luck

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me"

I think that's rubbish... sorry.

To the OP... I think being yourself is the best way. There's nothing wrong with being honest. Trying to be someone you're not is never attractive and I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for advice on something that's new to you. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me

I think that's rubbish... sorry.

To the OP... I think being yourself is the best way. There's nothing wrong with being honest. Trying to be someone you're not is never attractive and I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for advice on something that's new to you. Good luck. "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met a couple of couples before and they made me relaxed i was nervous at 1st but after you start chatting your right then the playtime will come you'll know when

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area


"Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me"

Perfect answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through our experience of single males we have met some great ones and remain that way as friends.

What I would say through our experience too, is always remember there is two, not just the female.

We had a couple of single males that didn't respect that and had to go.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not really trying to sell myself, and being honest is the best way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much for help, think i need to send a message to a couple, i am pretty respectful so would always address the couple and not just the female half x

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me

I think that's rubbish... sorry.

To the OP... I think being yourself is the best way. There's nothing wrong with being honest. Trying to be someone you're not is never attractive and I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for advice on something that's new to you. Good luck. "

You don't have to say sorry, The OP asked for advise, I gave him some. I wasn't trying to rubbish him in anyway, I agree being yourself is the best way, I am funny (although not all would agree)And if any of the couples that I have met read this, they would say yes, we had a laugh with this guy.

Agree, you should always involve the male half of the couple in conversation or messages, this goes a long way. It would be a very boring world if we were all the same.

To the OP, I meant no offence to you, just a bit of friendly advise

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its more down to luck as the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and take into consideration, couples mass delete their inboxes, so you have time it very correct lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advise

Delete this thread, you aint selling yourself very good by what it says.

Be confident, but don't come over as being arrogant, being funny and try and make people think "hey this guy seems ok and could be fun to be with" helps, well it does for me"

This is good advice. We never pick shy boys. They no show or run!

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish. "

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

"

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

"
hey mate you always get some dickhead on here who's a keyboard warrior bet they wouldn't say it to your face fuck them

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By *iverscuMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

I would just be honest with them. That's the way it should be, I'm sure they will guide you. Good luck

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

hey mate you always get some dickhead on here who's a keyboard warrior bet they wouldn't say it to your face fuck them "

Who is this directed at??????

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

"

I kinda read the 'schooling' part as a little tongue in cheek more than anything else. It just came over as a shy guy looking for some tips from the more experienced.

No offense taken... it's good to blether.

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I kinda read the 'schooling' part as a little tongue in cheek more than anything else. It just came over as a shy guy looking for some tips from the more experienced.

No offense taken... it's good to blether. "

I tried to give him some, don't think he appreciated them though

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

"

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!! "

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I kinda read the 'schooling' part as a little tongue in cheek more than anything else. It just came over as a shy guy looking for some tips from the more experienced.

No offense taken... it's good to blether. "

you sound like a smart women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

hey mate you always get some dickhead on here who's a keyboard warrior bet they wouldn't say it to your face fuck them "

How NOT to do it

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Mr S,

I actually was the same as you when I first decided that I wanted to meet couples. I am happy to say that I have now met several couples and really enjoy it.

What works for me is firstly exchange a few emails (not hundreds possibly a dozen maybe) so you can get the feel whether you like the sound of each other. Then exchange numbers and chat rather than continuous texting.

I prefer to meet for a no strings attached meet first, however on 3 occasions we have ended up playing on first meet

Essentially there are no hard, fast rules. Just be yourself, don't pretend to be someone you are not and you will get there. You sometimes have to be patient though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am too honest for my own good

but a few Women who do chat to me say its one of my qualities

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

you sound like a smart women "

Why thank you kind sir!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

you sound like a smart women

Why thank you kind sir! "

You are very welcome

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By *onderTongueMan
over a year ago

Bury

I hope you got the advice you wanted.... In between the debate you seem to have started!

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said"

Laughable

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said"

Sorry but I thought his advice was fine. Even if it wasn't, it's a forum - you asked for opinions and then tell him he shouldn't have bothered?

We wouldn't meet you based on your comments and replies above. That's meant as constructive advise. So, based on that, had you followed the advise of his, you'd be doing better..... The irony eh???

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its more down to luck as the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and take into consideration, couples mass delete their inboxes, so you have time it very correct lol "

I totally disagree sorry xx

Personally when we were meeting guys we both read 1st messages and checked out their profile before we decided on chatting or saying no thanks.....

O.P I love the fact you ask for advice as it shows you are not just an 'every holes a goal' guy !

I agree that respecting both fem and male as for us we must both be happy xx Alabama

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Be yourself and if people like you for you then don't be afraid to ask for clarification in advance. I met a lovely guy fairly recently but decided to meet him as part of a couple since I was already planning on seeing my BF the only weekend we were both free (we've since set up a couples account). I liked him and probably would have met him on my own if schedules had worked out but since that wasn't doable we discussed things beforehand. It was (I think) his first meet on here so the BF left me on my own to meet him and by the time he got back we were well underway so joining in wasn't an issue by then. Everyone has to start somewhere and as long as you're honest and upfront about expectations and don't let the nerves overtake you, you'll do fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said

Sorry but I thought his advice was fine. Even if it wasn't, it's a forum - you asked for opinions and then tell him he shouldn't have bothered?

We wouldn't meet you based on your comments and replies above. That's meant as constructive advise. So, based on that, had you followed the advise of his, you'd be doing better..... The irony eh???

D"

I didn't ask if you would meet me so that's fine, was just asking generally for any tips, telling me to delete the post isn't being constructive and ain't being helpful, you can keep your constructive advice, thanks though x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its more down to luck as the ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and take into consideration, couples mass delete their inboxes, so you have time it very correct lol

I totally disagree sorry xx

Personally when we were meeting guys we both read 1st messages and checked out their profile before we decided on chatting or saying no thanks.....

O.P I love the fact you ask for advice as it shows you are not just an 'every holes a goal' guy !

I agree that respecting both fem and male as for us we must both be happy xx Alabama "

Thank you Alabama, I thought it best x I am far from a every hole a goal kind of guy lol x

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said

Sorry but I thought his advice was fine. Even if it wasn't, it's a forum - you asked for opinions and then tell him he shouldn't have bothered?

We wouldn't meet you based on your comments and replies above. That's meant as constructive advise. So, based on that, had you followed the advise of his, you'd be doing better..... The irony eh???

D

I didn't ask if you would meet me so that's fine, was just asking generally for any tips, telling me to delete the post isn't being constructive and ain't being helpful, you can keep your constructive advice, thanks though x "

Laughable

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Hi all , I have been on the site for a couple of months now and really want to meet with a couple, problem is, I have never been with one before and basically am a bit shy etc.

Can any couples help me out with advice or any single males that have been with couples got any words of wisdom?

Hi John here it is natural for you to feel nervous planning to do something for the first time ,we have met a couple of guys who were very nervous and one almost backed out I spoke to him man to man and told him look we are only meeting for a drink and be your self we will see where it goes from there . This relaxed the guy so the 3 of us met for a drink got to know a little about each other discussed boundaries and what we all liked and we then went off to play with no plan in mind we all just went with the flow no pressure and had a great time. So my advice is set up a social meet be yourself pay both parties you meet attention be respectful and enjoy

Also if a couple see's this post and fancies schooling a young man please inbox me "

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Hi all , I have been on the site for a couple of months now and really want to meet with a couple, problem is, I have never been with one before and basically am a bit shy etc.

Can any couples help me out with advice or any single males that have been with couples got any words of wisdom?

Hi John here it is natural for you to feel nervous planning to do something for the first time ,we have met a couple of guys who were very nervous and one almost backed out I spoke to him man to man and told him look we are only meeting for a drink and be your self we will see where it goes from there . This relaxed the guy so the 3 of us met for a drink got to know a little about each other discussed boundaries and what we all liked and we then went off to play with no plan in mind we all just went with the flow no pressure and had a great time. So my advice is set up a social meet be yourself pay both parties you meet attention be respectful and enjoy

Also if a couple see's this post and fancies schooling a young man please inbox me "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lillyjohny I have tried messaging but out of your age range? Can you message me x

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"To clarify... I meant the deleting thread part being rubbish.

Cool, But don't you agree it could have been written a lot better.

Again no offence intended.

Let me put it this way, If I were the male half of a couple, and I read it.

I might be thinking, no thanks, this guy comes across as someone straight out of college who wants someone to show him what to do.

I have had experience with couples, but I'm not professing to be a world authority on the subject. In fact I don't mind admitting that I don't get it right every time, in fact one of my early meets turned into a disaster because I read the signs wrong.

In essence I think the word "schooling" shouldn't have been used.

I am quite happy with what i wrote thanks, i am not a drip, just a bit shy.

And i am not asking to be taught how to, just merely asking for a bit of help or information.

I am glad you have experience with couples, shame you couldn't have been more helpful.

You asked for advise, I gave you some, all of which were in good faith, you don't have to take it fella.

Read what some of the couples have written, are they being unhelpful as well!!!

if that's your adviCe mate should have kept it in your head, I have had some nice messages from people giving me a few tips which i am very grateful for.

Oh thanks for letting me know i don't have to take your advice though, probably best thing you have said

Sorry but I thought his advice was fine. Even if it wasn't, it's a forum - you asked for opinions and then tell him he shouldn't have bothered?

We wouldn't meet you based on your comments and replies above. That's meant as constructive advise. So, based on that, had you followed the advise of his, you'd be doing better..... The irony eh???

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I didn't ask if you would meet me so that's fine, was just asking generally for any tips, telling me to delete the post isn't being constructive and ain't being helpful, you can keep your constructive advice, thanks though x "

Ok I'll keep my advice to myself.....

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over a year ago

OP if you do meet a couple just be yourself and remember there are two people. Listen to their boundaries and tell them yours, meet socially first to see if you all click!

Good luck

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