FabSwingers.com forum: FEMALES: would you meet me??

By *om4042 OP Man
over a year ago

pontefract

hi not trying to be annoying by posting in here this is my first forum post. but i thought i might finally get some answers right. females would you meet me ? if not could you please give me some reasons as to why i message about 10 girls a day and not one of them replies think iv had about 3 replys and theyv been time wasters and before you start saying it i dont just message them saying 'do you want a fuck' or 'lets meet' i actually explain my age and what im looking for which is someone to chat to and eventually meet when they feel comfortable if you could reply to this post i would be very greatfull thanks. x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

No.

Punctuation.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message.

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By *om4042 OP Man
over a year ago

pontefract

"The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message."

thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message.

thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

I didn't comment on your use of English, I said your profile was sparse. It tells me very little about you and what you're in to/looking for/can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message.

thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

What do you think swinging is? What do you think this site is all about? x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Another no

Profile basic, only tells me you want to tick older woman off your list.

It's not an English test, but writing well and showing a bit of gumption is required by most especially from younger guys as they can be immature.

Look at other male profiles that do well and see the effort they put in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello.

I would immediately be put off by your profile. "Looking for older women because I haven't tried it yet" isn't likely to set many pulses racing.

Put yourself in the position of an older woman who receives a lot of messages and write a profile that you think would make that woman want to meet you.

You're right this isn't a grammar or spelling test but if you get twenty messages the ones you read first. will be the ones that are easiest to decipher.

Finally we come to your age unfortunately at 23 you will need to stand out even more.

It isn't all bad news lots of women like younger men and if you make yourself pleasant in the forums, try a social and maybe a club you will maybe have some luck.

Enjoy!

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By *om4042 OP Man
over a year ago

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i was referring to the first comment and i understand younger lads can be immature thats fair enough. and i had an understanding that swinging was for safe and comfortable fun i have changed my profile now if you would like to check it out and let me know what you think.. thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no from me, You say your straight yet your looking for mm couple..

Need to work on your profile a lot x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It's a no from me, You say your straight yet your looking for mm couple..

Need to work on your profile a lot x"

He simply hasn't set it to who he's really looking for. Just like the age range is still 18-99. And he hasn't ticked any interests.

It all looks like a hastily filled out profile with no real thought behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few more photos showing more of you.

The ladies that don't reply aren't necessarily time wasters. Sometimes the single ladies gets loads of messages a day, yours needs to stand out somehow. Maybe try meeting via socials and clubs.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The pic is a bit grim. And you thought you'd be 'swimming' in women by now?

You may be a genuine bloke, but that doesn't make you irresistible.

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By *om4042 OP Man
over a year ago

pontefract

"It's a no from me, You say your straight yet your looking for mm couple..

Need to work on your profile a lot x

He simply hasn't set it to who he's really looking for. Just like the age range is still 18-99. And he hasn't ticked any interests.

It all looks like a hastily filled out profile with no real thought behind it."
il be honest when i first found this site quiet a while back i just filled in the few blanks and was eager to get looking. and never give the rest of blanks much thought up to now gunna work on my profile abit more now thanks for all your replys. x

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

The phrase "thought I would be swimming in them" would be an instant turn off for me.......it sounds like something from inbetweeners.

Most of the ladies here are intelligent and articulate. Sounding like a desperate teenager or talking about us like a lump of flesh isn't going to get you very much clunge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swimming in them?

Leave your profile exactly as it is. It's perfect.

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By *om4042 OP Man
over a year ago

pontefract

"Swimming in them?

Leave your profile exactly as it is. It's perfect.

i have changed my profile text lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

Would you go up to a woman in a bar and say to her "ask me anything" as an opener?

No, so don't do it in your profile. No one ever will mail you to ask what you want or like.

You need to fill out your profile to sell yourself, what you have to offer a potential partner other than a cock.

And it's not a sex site, it's a swinger site. Just because you're on here doesn't mean you have no standards and will shag anything. And some people are put off by a poorly spelled profile and would delete a message like that too.

And lower tour expectations of what you'll get from the site, as it's actually very little. You've more chance of pulling someone by going out for one night than spending a week of nights sending emails on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the old saying ''get thee to a social event'' would be fitting here - go and banter with some ladies there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Whatever your profile says now your attitude needs to change.

The women here enjoy sex, they have a wide and varied choice of men to enjoy it with and the most successful of those men are the ones who know that women are their equals sexually and not a horde of willing bodies waiting for a man to turn up and service them. Women can tell a guy who thinks like you do a mile off whatever their profile says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi not trying to be annoying by posting in here this is my first forum post. but i thought i might finally get some answers right. females would you meet me ? if not could you please give me some reasons as to why i message about 10 girls a day and not one of them replies think iv had about 3 replys and theyv been time wasters and before you start saying it i dont just message them saying 'do you want a fuck' or 'lets meet' i actually explain my age and what im looking for which is someone to chat to and eventually meet when they feel comfortable if you could reply to this post i would be very greatfull thanks. x "

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By *obbyCock36Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

As always, Fab is searingly honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to be careful what you ask for on here. We are part of the biggest group on here, just be patient and yourself. You may not get a meet in your first year.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

No sorry, from your profile and what ive read here I wouldnt meet you.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

OP..i read all previous posts then looked at your profile. You have no public pictures to entice me (and i don't mean cock pics) and are not displaying you verification(s). If the people who verified you have left the site i'd recommend displaying the summary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swimming in them?

Leave your profile exactly as it is. It's perfect.

If your profile reflects who and what you are then its perfect and you will get the results you deserve on here.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Your profile still needs a little more tweaking: run it through a spell check on word (some women do take notice of these things!); decide what age range you're looking for - do you really want to meet a 99 year old? You say you're 'straight', but have 2 men as your friends?? You can't accommodate? Explain as to why as some may suspect you have a partner at home who doesn't know. Some more pics, preferably a mix of clothed and body shots (I find hidden shots quite sexy!). And explain as other posters have said, what you like and what you can do for other people and without being too graphic.

I'm afraid with your profile and your responses on this thread, I would think twice responding to you. This isn't just a sex site - swinging is more than just the sex and 'timewasters' - everyone has their own take on them, but generally, they're people who don't show up at meets; not people who just reply to messages and then decide you're not for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever your profile says now your attitude needs to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No.

Apart from the fact that you're too young for me, the sort of men I look for are the clever ones who can hold a conversation. It may not be an English exam but typos and grammar and punctuation show a lot more than how clever someone is. To put no care and attention into your profile, the first impression that you want other people to see, is just sloppy. I want to meet people who make the effort to take care of themselves. That includes their profile because it's what I get to see first. If I'm put off by that, they have no hope of enticing me to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of things to consider.

Us single guys outnumber the ladies on here at a ratio of around 100 to 1, so i'm afraid, young man, you really do need to stand out as they can afford to be fussy.

Inviting people to message you for more details just puts people off.

Consider this - you're a woman who gets around 100 messages a day. Do you really have time to be messaging guys who can't be bothered to put more informatiin on their profiles?

You have no pictures on display. Only one response you're gonna get - 'Next!'

What do YOU have to offer?

Why should someone choose YOU?

What can YOU do for them that many others can't or won't.

Try to think about what you would like to know about someone if you were looking at their profile.

You have to consider that you have to engage a woman's mind.

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over a year ago

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By *parkybunnyCouple
over a year ago

Zurich. NOT London.

"No.

This.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Goodness, I think its getting worse.

You've now hit the bland mediocrity nail on the head.

Message you to engage in chat? No chance!

You're profile sounds dull, boring and bland.

Men are in the majority here by a scary amount. Your profile is your shop window - and right now yours is boarded up and pass right by stuff.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"Goodness, I think its getting worse.

You've now hit the bland mediocrity nail on the head.

Message you to engage in chat? No chance!

You're profile sounds dull, boring and bland.

Men are in the majority here by a scary amount. Your profile is your shop window - and right now yours is boarded up and pass right by stuff."

Apart from that its ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either someone has copied your profile text or you have now borrowed it from someone else complete with spelling mistakes!

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

For a start I would advise you against the term "FEMALES" as it sounds quite derogatory. Why not say girls, ladies, or such?

And spelling, punctuation, and grammar are all very important. If you don't know how, then ask for advice from somebody who does!

Polish your profile till it shines out.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

I would not waste my time tbh. Your details are soo bland its unbelievable. If you can't show me what would interest me enough to meet you, why would I bother?

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I agree with what most of the members have replied, but on positive note however, at least you have taken the time to ask how your profile can be improved, and you don't sound like you're too put off by any constructive criticism.

Note the advice of all above, and treat your profile exactly like you would your C.V.

Think of each message you send or reply to as like an interview, because essentially, that's what it is, and if you take time, care and consideration in your communications, you'll do well.

Blast up your best photo of you smiling too.

And finally, all the best.

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Note the advice of all above, and treat your profile exactly like you would your C.V.

Think of each message you send or reply to as like an interview, because essentially, that's what it is, and if you take time, care and consideration in your communications, you'll do well.

Blast up your best photo of you smiling too.

And finally, all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to agree with everything everyone else has said. Too young, too bland and nothing to make you stand out from the other 300+ messages a day I get.

Plus you have one of my pet hates, you say you are really new to this, but have been a member for 8 months now? If you still feel like that, maybe change it to something like 'been on here a while but still getting a feel for the place'?

Overall it just needs a little more personality in it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message.

thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

Sarcasm won't help your case but listening might

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No too young and short. I didn't make it to your blurb.

Good luck on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just into girls lol

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over a year ago

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

no, you are too young, you have no photos except a tiny avatar and your text is just... forgettable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP..i read all previous posts then looked at your profile. You have no public pictures to entice me (and i don't mean cock pics) and are not displaying your verifications."

Exactly. No from us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Overall it just needs a little more personality in it. X"

BINGO!!!!!!

"thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

Sarcasm won't help your case but listening might "

If I ignore the sarcasm of your 'English test' comment and treat it as a question instead

It's not really about your English language abilities and much more about a demonstration of effort.

Someone else has made a comment about thinking about your profile in the same way you would a C.V.

Spot on!!!

I'm sure that when compiling a CV you wouldn't just type the first thing that came into your head, then print it without checking it first, and then sending it off without giving it a proper read through.

The same approach should be taken with your profile.

And if you'll forgive the terminology, you have to remember that it really is a 'numbers game' on fab

But at least you're prepared to come forward and ask for help.

There are many on here that don't and then start whining and complaining about the site rather than looking at their own approach.

You'll get there fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Your opening post is ranty. Poor punctuation and spelling in your profile and it's very basic at that. No pics on view. Profile doesn't stand out.

Look at your own profile from a perspective of 'if I were a female, would I meet me?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no, you are too young, you have no photos except a tiny avatar and your text is just... forgettable."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only picture you have is a cock shot. Your profile is rather sparse. All in all it doesn't look like you've put much thought into your whole profile.

Most women will click on your profile before replying, many before they've even read your message.

thanks for your reply il get onto it and sort a better pic out. i send a face pic with every message i send x and i didnt know a sex site was an english test..

Might wanna read the URL mate

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

1 you're too young for me

2 your profile shows you are inexperienced

3 no public pics

All of these would put me off. But that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your profile no there are no visible pictures and a short average profile. In all honesty there are thousands of more appealing profiles.

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

i'll pass thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol it kinda backfired for the op there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Age, height, no public pics, "banter"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My female friend says 'no because he can't spell properly and if he's too lazy to use a spell check then I think he'd be a lazy sexual partner'.

I told her that was a short-sighted, nay, shallow reason to which she said 'stop reading the bloody forums and get your face back between my legs!' to which I said 'mmmppphhh'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The phrase "thought I would be swimming in them" would be an instant turn off for me.......it sounds like something from inbetweeners.

Most of the ladies here are intelligent and articulate. Sounding like a desperate teenager or talking about us like a lump of flesh isn't going to get you very much clunge

Hahaha. Really tickled me

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"hi not trying to be annoying by posting in here this is my first forum post. "
and on top of all that this is not your 1st forum post so maybe add dishonesty to the collection

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has thoroughly entertained me this post ... Good luck mate

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Too young

Too short

If anyone asks for profile advice on forums I block, if someone can't do it for themselves then it's a massive indication that they have no idea what this site is all about and if they haven't got the gumption to work it out for themselves then I would never be interested and being new to the site is no excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is forum post of the day lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some interesting points on here glad i never asked this question but i wonder what would happen if i did .........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - no

dark melons - make your pic fabbable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP - no

dark melons - make your pic fabbable

thinkive done that im not sure as im either watching downton abbey or wanking ...... or both x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Few more photos showing more of you.

The ladies that don't reply aren't necessarily time wasters. Sometimes the single ladies gets loads of messages a day, yours needs to stand out somehow. Maybe try meeting via socials and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't even read your profile. The fact you had no pictures put me off instantly. There are loads of blokes on here as well, so don't be too hard on yourself. X

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