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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I seem to have completely lost all interest in meeting people via FAB. I still really enjoy going to Chameleons & I'm also looking forward to trying Xstasia soon, but the thought of meeting someone for 1-2-1 fun from the site is leaving me cold.

I pretty much only use the site for the Forum, to see what club or social events are coming up & to say no to people messaging me

Has anyone else been through this?

What did you do to reignite your interest in 1-2-1 meets?

I tried taking a break, it it didn't reignite my 1-2-1 interest.

Any ideas received gratefully oh how I can rediscover my passion for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel the need to? If it doesn't work for you don't do it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Take a longer break. It happened to me in 2007 and I didn't start meeting one on one again til 2010

I love this site, I really do. But trying to get a meet can be infuriating and depressing. There's no reason for us to get jaded about sex so its best to relax and just enjoy the bits that don't piss us off. I will be hiding my profile tomorrow morning and not logging on while I am abroad, just because I need a break. But I have a club visit planned and they are always fun. If club visits and forums are fun for you just stick with them.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I'm the same. 1 to 1 meets just aren't doing it for me at the moment. No messages are sparking my interest enough to answer them, and no profiles are catching my eye enough to want to message people.

I'm going to parties and clubs when I can, and at the moment I'm content with that. If the spark comes back cool, if not I'm not really going to worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you feel the need to? If it doesn't work for you don't do it. "

Because I feel like a bit of a fraud using this site if I'm not particularly interested in meeting anyone. I used to love it, the nervous excitement of a meet.....now the idea just leaves me cold.

I love going to clubs & socials, but the whole meeting strangers on a 1-2-1 basis just doesn't appeal any longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you feel the need to? If it doesn't work for you don't do it.

Because I feel like a bit of a fraud using this site if I'm not particularly interested in meeting anyone. I used to love it, the nervous excitement of a meet.....now the idea just leaves me cold.

I love going to clubs & socials, but the whole meeting strangers on a 1-2-1 basis just doesn't appeal any longer."

Just word your profile to reflect your current position. Many use the site just for the forums. You could even hide your profile for a while.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I'm not looking for one on one meets either but I'm happy to mewt newbies for a drink so they can have their first verification. I'm also happy to help club virgins pop their cherry so long as they know we are mot attending as a couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice ladies and I've updated my profile accordingly.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Thanks for the advice ladies and I've updated my profile accordingly.

"

Be prepared for lots of messages saying 'I've read your profile and would love to meet you'

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks for the advice ladies and I've updated my profile accordingly.

Be prepared for lots of messages saying 'I've read your profile and would love to meet you' "

It's tempting! so is she

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice ladies and I've updated my profile accordingly.

Be prepared for lots of messages saying 'I've read your profile and would love to meet you' "

I'm used to people not reading my profile, par for the course on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

use fab anyway you like - youre not a fraud but there are many here that are - youve been upfront about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do "

stay please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x"

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x "

fab isnt all about meeting up - its about connecting - can be here in the forum, in the chatrooms, just through messaging - so many dont meet - its fine xx

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London

Must admit that I find it difficult getting meets from decent men. All seem to be either bullshitters or lazy or both. All I want is some bloody fun.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I would miss you.

Well your pics anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you feel the need to? If it doesn't work for you don't do it.

Because I feel like a bit of a fraud using this site if I'm not particularly interested in meeting anyone. I used to love it, the nervous excitement of a meet.....now the idea just leaves me cold.

I love going to clubs & socials, but the whole meeting strangers on a 1-2-1 basis just doesn't appeal any longer."

Maybe your looking for more than just souless sex with strangers now ? That happens and is quite understandable

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

I think it's a site for swingers to connect and chat and support and meet.

Not everyone needs to do all of those things... Some never use the forums, some only cam, it's here for you (and others) to use as and when and how you choose.

The frauds are the fake profiles not the real people who input and support others on here.

I mostly meet in clubs, rarely do I meet out of them or 1 to 1's, I'm happy that I can use this site to see events I wish to attend, use the forums and be part of the community.

I feel there's nothing fraudulent at all about you staying here and being part of your community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice ladies and I've updated my profile accordingly.

"

If you take everything off the 'looking for' section you won't show up on searches. It cuts down the mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x "

Stay for the forums and just update your profile. I don't meet on this profile, I rarely get mail, it's great.

I don't feel a fraud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x

Stay for the forums and just update your profile. I don't meet on this profile, I rarely get mail, it's great.

I don't feel a fraud. "

I may do . I may hide for a bit and take a break whilst I concentrate on my illness

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By *mmie2014Man
over a year ago

London

it happens to me too, but I just take a break and start with a new profile and to some extent, a new range of friends and contacts. I would just say be yourself and do or work out what is perfect for you. Good luck.

p.s-I agree with much of what has been said before about the forums: the best part of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x

Stay for the forums and just update your profile. I don't meet on this profile, I rarely get mail, it's great.

I don't feel a fraud.

I may do . I may hide for a bit and take a break whilst I concentrate on my illness "

It's good to have friendly nutters to make you smile. Get well soon. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I am also not meeting . A lot has happened and now I am ill so can't be intimate any more . I still love the clubs so I was going to cancel my account after my birthday party this weekend . But I do enjoy the forums on the evenings when I am bored etc .

It's difficult to know what to do

stay please x

Even though I can't meet ? Feel a bit of a fraud x

Stay for the forums and just update your profile. I don't meet on this profile, I rarely get mail, it's great.

I don't feel a fraud.

I may do . I may hide for a bit and take a break whilst I concentrate on my illness

It's good to have friendly nutters to make you smile. Get well soon. x"

Very true x

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