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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys

Having a good old fashioned moan here. Does any other couples out there have the same problem where one of you may find one or the other half of the couple attractive but your better half doesn't agree with the other half of the couple.

I'm not even too sure if I'm making sense there.

But it's very annoying for us!

Any others have this experience?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

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Haha I'm not angry it just seems to happen every time lol :P and I was wondering do couple ever seem to agree haha

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It happens but nothing to be annoyed about. Unless you are wanting your partner to 'take one for the team'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens but nothing to be annoyed about. Unless you are wanting your partner to 'take one for the team'?"

God no I'd never ask him to do that. We're not annoyed annoyed more so frustrated just has seemed to be the way each and every time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

Haha I'm not angry it just seems to happen every time lol :P and I was wondering do couple ever seem to agree haha"

We have agreed .

Is it every time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

Haha I'm not angry it just seems to happen every time lol :P and I was wondering do couple ever seem to agree haha

We have agreed .

Is it every time?"

Yeah seems to be..For whatever reason ill never know..I was just wondering was it this difficult for everyone else?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

Haha I'm not angry it just seems to happen every time lol :P and I was wondering do couple ever seem to agree haha

We have agreed .

Is it every time?

Yeah seems to be..For whatever reason ill never know..I was just wondering was it this difficult for everyone else? "

It can be quite difficult to find attraction that works four ways. Is it that he doesn't find the lady appealing or he doesn't see eye to eye with the gent?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

Haha I'm not angry it just seems to happen every time lol :P and I was wondering do couple ever seem to agree haha

We have agreed .

Is it every time?

Yeah seems to be..For whatever reason ill never know..I was just wondering was it this difficult for everyone else?

It can be quite difficult to find attraction that works four ways. Is it that he doesn't find the lady appealing or he doesn't see eye to eye with the gent?"

Each or both :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to all of s no doubt we would be more popular but for me lol . But one suggestion for you to consider is a party or club in a group situation you both have more choice of play partners

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens to all of s no doubt we would be more popular but for me lol . But one suggestion for you to consider is a party or club in a group situation you both have more choice of play partners

Xxx"

Haha It the same here with us lol :P

Yeah maybe, that's a great idea thanks a million

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You welcome . We always say we will try everything once to see if we like it pain excluded lol. We hold small intimate party's that have always turned into lovely orgys

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

Yeah we have with yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So where is the pic of the man then op lol just cock shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we know what each other likes - but its simple if one of us not happy it doesnt happen - end of - never fallen out, got angry, frustrated or anything like that over it - no point - its 'our' fun not his or mine alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very common if one of the other couple are fugly......lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk a mile in our shoes as it were

1 young, 1 older

1 slim, 1 fat

1 hairy, 1 smooth

1 likes older guys, 1 likes younger guys

So basically the chance of us

A) finding both of us attractive and

B) both of us finding that person attractive

Is pretty much 1 in a million

We have 6 online profiles and, so far, we have found 1 guy online that fitted the criteria and us his.

We have a much better success rate in saunas thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens we just tend to move on to a couple we both feel happy with, the alternative would be taking one for the team, but we have more than enough respect for each other to ever want or expect each other to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Walk a mile in our shoes as it were

1 young, 1 older

1 slim, 1 fat

1 hairy, 1 smooth

1 likes older guys, 1 likes younger guys

So basically the chance of us

A) finding both of us attractive and

B) both of us finding that person attractive

Is pretty much 1 in a million

We have 6 online profiles and, so far, we have found 1 guy online that fitted the criteria and us his.

We have a much better success rate in saunas thankfully "

Bussy ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So where is the pic of the man then op lol just cock shots "

He's in there is he not? Coulda sworn I made his pics public lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we know what each other likes - but its simple if one of us not happy it doesnt happen - end of - never fallen out, got angry, frustrated or anything like that over it - no point - its 'our' fun not his or mine alone"

Oh I know..I think we're just looking forward to meeting someone and we keep running into walls

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens we just tend to move on to a couple we both feel happy with, the alternative would be taking one for the team, but we have more than enough respect for each other to ever want or expect each other to do that"

Yer right...its the only way for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Walk a mile in our shoes as it were

1 young, 1 older

1 slim, 1 fat

1 hairy, 1 smooth

1 likes older guys, 1 likes younger guys

So basically the chance of us

A) finding both of us attractive and

B) both of us finding that person attractive

Is pretty much 1 in a million

We have 6 online profiles and, so far, we have found 1 guy online that fitted the criteria and us his.

We have a much better success rate in saunas thankfully "

Oooh sounds difficult but still saunas sound fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree about not taking one for the team... I do think that in order to enjoy some success in swinging you probably need to come into it with slightly flexible expectations. Women who don't seem very sexy in a vanilla scenario can suddenly turn into horny sexcats when they get 'switched on'... and it's important for the guy to try and visualise this in the woman in order to figure out if there's gonna be some attraction there. Similarly, men who might first appear a bit odd looking, if given the opportunity to charm and shine, can start to take on a special appeal that lends them a sexual air.

To put it bluntly... if you're looking for the equivalent of 'love at first sight' in swinging you might be sat on the starting line until you pass your own sell by date. Instead it's probably better to approach it as many approach their own love life... as a work in progress with people who might be sexy and might be nice... giving them the opportunity to grow on you.

Just a thought... I'm sure others will disagree lol Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So where is the pic of the man then op lol just cock shots

He's in there is he not? Coulda sworn I made his pics public lol"
Yes he is but just lower body lol.

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By *eniceandromeCouple
over a year ago

Brighouse

Totally agree, we have found that sexyness and compatibility is not always immediately obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often.. then we find someone we both like but they don't like us.....

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

It happens with ourselves most of the time but tend to laugh it off. In our case it's usually Mrs.B that isn't attracted to the male half of the couple in question...us poor men! -Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With us Emily doesnt care about looks she just wants people who make her feel relaxed so attraction isnt an issue and I dont care because I dont play. The only thing thats annoyed us is a couple who turned us down because the fem found me unattractive. Not because of my ego. But because I dont join in so we couldnt understand why that made a difference. Nobody was asking her to play with the ugly guy she said she liked Emily and it was only Emily who she would have played with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

"

N I'm sure other couples would say the same of you too ( op)

Probably mean frustrated !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's a common problem but I don't know why you'd be angry about it really.

N I'm sure other couples would say the same of you too ( op)

Probably mean frustrated ! "

Eh? Do you mean me?

I'm not angry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having 4 people to please doubles the steaks i feel and always one of you ends up maybe taking one for the team so maybe its good you choose alternate lol

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"having 4 people to please doubles the steaks i feel and always one of you ends up maybe taking one for the team so maybe its good you choose alternate lol "
is all very possible and doable! Patience n all that! Depends if one feels they gotta fuck to have a good time! There is more to swinging than the frantic fuck it if it got a pulse! Lol And no one should have to take " one for the team' unless they choose to neither of us ever have and never will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like to find cples at a club and in the hot tub, looks are not enough, we get to chat and find personality more attractive than looks, some not so good looking peeps are very nice to chat too so feel more comfy with them

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