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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone.

I'm part of a married couple with a dull sex life. We've talking about how to spice things up, but don't agree. I would love for us to meet another couple and join them for some group or swapping fun. She isn't keen on inviting someone else in the bedroom as she thinks it could lead to problems for us.

U think she's very stand offish about this because none of the couples we know actually do this and so it's not in her realm of normality. So I'm thinking that if the female of a couple could talk to her, tell her what they get up to etc, then it might help with things.

Would any nearby couples be willing to help with this please?

We live in SW Manchester area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm new to this and haven't yet indulged but if she really isn't stimulated by the thought of another person then I think you are on dodgy ground. If I wasn't willing to try and my oh brought this up, no amount of discussing it would sway me. Sorry, just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is about both of you being totally comfortable with inviting someone into your marriage. It will cause more problems if you push it... Try visiting a club just to have a few drinks, chat to people let your wife see for herself x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I can foresee the conversation at some point in the near future.

'You did WHAT? You went on a swinging site and told a load of strangers about our personal life??? Now you want me to chat to a strange lass about it all????'

Think twice; it's not that close to Christmas that she can't cancel your presents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she doesn't want to do it leave her be if you have to persuade her I fear it will end in tears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your wife is really not wanting to meet other couples or singles then no amount of persuasion is going to make her change her mind!

You say your sex life at home is dull, now I can't speak for all the couples on fab but for most their sex lives are already pretty good and swing to enhance what they already have.

Maybe sort out your relationship and find ways to spice up your sex life between yourself and your wife.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your wife is really not wanting to meet other couples or singles then no amount of persuasion is going to make her change her mind!

You say your sex life at home is dull, now I can't speak for all the couples on fab but for most their sex lives are already pretty good and swing to enhance what they already have.

Maybe sort out your relationship and find ways to spice up your sex life between yourself and your wife.

Good luck "

Most def this

We use this as an added extra, if we are without others, we still have amazing sex .

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Just a thought, why not find someone and build up a genuine email chat relationship. If you are all imaginative it can be a way. I suspect the ladies don't want the unimaginative biological chat tho.

I've built up fantasy scenes with couples and it can become quite personal without being like a physical meet.

If you find out what scenes tickle you both it could spark much more later!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt push it if she isnt wanting it - and how do you know your circle of friends arent - have you chatted with them about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your opinion. Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you. Yes, I think us meeting a couple socially would be the best thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas! "

Sorry you've lost me!

What's Christmas got to do with it?

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Swinging should enhance what a couple have together... Not replace something that in your opinion is lacking... Respect your wife and her desisions... If you unable to communicate and agree on stuff, then doubt strangers will add any insight?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

You only need the one thread.

If your wife says no, respect her wishes and accept it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas!

Sorry you've lost me!

What's Christmas got to do with it? "

Tina mentioned Christmas

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas! "

If you click on "reply and quote" it will show who you are answering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas!

Sorry you've lost me!

What's Christmas got to do with it?

Tina mentioned Christmas"

Thanks ruggers! Sorry didn't see Tina's comment

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

OP does your wife know you are here with a single mans profile?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"

Tina mentioned Christmas

Thanks ruggers! Sorry didn't see Tina's comment "

I see you have the Platinum Membership Nitwit comment's filter

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You're probably right.

But it's still way too early to talk about Christmas!

Sorry you've lost me!

What's Christmas got to do with it?

Tina mentioned Christmas

Thanks ruggers! Sorry didn't see Tina's comment "

I might ban Tina for saying that C word now though

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Yikes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn...I had such a well worded response on the other thread too...

I think you'll find it difficult to find anyone with any integrity who will try and persuade your wife to do something she doesn't appear to want to do and that you want them to give her "a little push" into doing what you want her to do...why would someone want to get involved on that level?

While you say that she apparently knows you're here pursuing your own fantasies, does she know that you refer to her in your profile? I find it enormously disrespectful...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yikes!

Tina don't mention again! Naughty steps are a little cold in the evening "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to ask yourself what is more important your relationship or sex with strangers. Only you know the answer. Trying to persuade your wife to do something she doesnt want to do is v disrespectful.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Damn...I had such a well worded response on the other thread too...

I think you'll find it difficult to find anyone with any integrity who will try and persuade your wife to do something she doesn't appear to want to do and that you want them to give her "a little push" into doing what you want her to do...why would someone want to get involved on that level?

While you say that she apparently knows you're here pursuing your own fantasies, does she know that you refer to her in your profile? I find it enormously disrespectful..."
agree... Where is the respect... Oh my!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear, as everyone has said swinging is about partnership and trust, respect comes in there too. If your partner has no interest in sex with others why try to cadule her into it.

The scene already has enough little ladies pleasing their other halves.

What does she think about your fab profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your wrong pal. Even if she does go along with it to please you, think about the experience the people you meet will get if she's not totally into it

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

I did reply on other post so will say again... Swinging is great for enhancing what a couple already has.. Not to fix something... Are many who would not get involved with a couple where the woman is only doing it to please her hubby.... A couple had to be tight together, total trust and honesty to swing together... Any doubt about any of that and it will wreck your relationship totaly....

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By *otts PervsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"If your wife is really not wanting to meet other couples or singles then no amount of persuasion is going to make her change her mind!

You say your sex life at home is dull, now I can't speak for all the couples on fab but for most their sex lives are already pretty good and swing to enhance what they already have.

Maybe sort out your relationship and find ways to spice up your sex life between yourself and your wife.

Good luck

Most def this

We use this as an added extra, if we are without others, we still have amazing sex ."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all. Thanks for the posts.

I'm not actually trying to push her, mentally or physically. Just thought it would be good for her to talk to women who have been there, got the t shirt, rather than just me. If she still wasn't interested then fair enough, i would respect that. We all need to research things properly before making decisions, right?

Didn't think my first post posted, hence the second thread. Apologies if that upset anyone.

Yes she knows I'm here etc etc.

Ps. Definitely still too early to mention the C word!

Thanks everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone.

I'm part of a married couple with a dull sex life. We've talking about how to spice things up, but don't agree. I would love for us to meet another couple and join them for some group or swapping fun. She isn't keen on inviting someone else in the bedroom as she thinks it could lead to problems for us.

U think she's very stand offish about this because none of the couples we know actually do this and so it's not in her realm of normality. So I'm thinking that if the female of a couple could talk to her, tell her what they get up to etc, then it might help with things.

Would any nearby couples be willing to help with this please?

We live in SW Manchester area."

maybe you should try to find fun things to do together first get her fire lit again before you mix it with others , ask her of any fantasys and promise to help her full fill them what ever they may be , try different positions places and even do it on different days times then you would normally,

find out what floats her boat and work on that, if you make her happy first , then maybe she will be more responsive to your needs

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