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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had our first arranged mmf meet last night with my wife.we were both slightly tipsi and had a great great great sexy fun. but not sure how this morning will be when she gets out of bed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice on what not to do and what to say.thanks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Take her a cup of tea. Tell her you love her and ask her how.she feels about things. Tell her she can be honest and be honest with her.

Ensure that she knows she is your priority.

How do you feel this morning?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and ensure that you listen properly .

Hope it's all ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done a mmf (yet) but I would imagine nothing but praise. "Darling you were wonderful, sexy, amazing, fabulous last night. I love you so much etc etc" and listen to any thing she wants to talk about in relation to it. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you both for your massage s.noted ill make her feel special. Might cook her a breakfast. Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly wouldn't tell her she was great etc. She MMIGHT just wake up full of regret then feel she's letting you down not wanting to repeat it. Wait and let her have the first say. Just a thought...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I honestly wouldn't tell her she was great etc. She MMIGHT just wake up full of regret then feel she's letting you down not wanting to repeat it. Wait and let her have the first say. Just a thought..."

Yes I would be very wary of making her feel that you are treating her well because of what happened. It should never be seen by either party as a sort of reward.system.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks.i think once she us up and about I might just ask her thoughts of what went on and if she was comfortable about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is to tread very carefully. It would be too easy to find yourself enthusing over what happened and planning the next.

I'd suggest you encourage her to be honest with you about how she feels but don't hound her. She needs to mull her feeling over for a few days too now. She might start to regret it later.

Most importantly you need to make sure you still love her. That her feelings are more important to you than any of this. If she's uncomfortable with it now, that you are more than willing to forget it and move on.

Good luck. Hope it's all ok.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks.i think once she us up and about I might just ask her thoughts of what went on and if she was comfortable about it."

It's a two way thing you should share thoughts and discuss how you feel. This will change your relationship, the way both of you handle things over the next few days will decide if it makes it better or not.

Was she reluctant? Is that why you're.concerned'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take her a cup of tea. Tell her you love her and ask her how.she feels about things. Tell her she can be honest and be honest with her.

Ensure that she knows she is your priority.

How do you feel this morning?"

As usual , this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks.no she was 100% up for it as she arranged majority of it.its just the unknown of what to feel this morning lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks.no she was 100% up for it as she arranged majority of it.its just the unknown of what to feel this morning lol"

Ok, good luck to you both have a good day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you feel it went ? Did you chat at last night after she had taken the rogering ¿

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lucky things you. Wish we were just setting out with all the joys of something new. I remember our first times like they were yesterday. Very envious LOL. Good luck with more meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I felt good I enjoyed seeing her naughty side come out.felt a bit inadequate as this guy was extra hung lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean she's not up yet? I would give her a nudge,remind her it's not her birthday everyday,and if she wants to experience 2 cocks again,she had better get in that kitchen n start breakfast,sharpish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks naughty staffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I felt good I enjoyed seeing her naughty side come out.felt a bit inadequate as this guy was extra hung lol."

Ha well imho arrange another meet quickly and wake her up with a smaller guy ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks naughty staffs."

If you click on reply+quote we can see who you're responding to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You mean she's not up yet? I would give her a nudge,remind her it's not her birthday everyday,and if she wants to experience 2 cocks again,she had better get in that kitchen n start breakfast,sharpish. "

best answer yet! Love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks naughty staffs.

If you click on reply+quote we can see who you're responding to "
thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice is to tread very carefully. It would be too easy to find yourself enthusing over what happened and planning the next.

I'd suggest you encourage her to be honest with you about how she feels but don't hound her. She needs to mull her feeling over for a few days too now. She might start to regret it later.

Most importantly you need to make sure you still love her. That her feelings are more important to you than any of this. If she's uncomfortable with it now, that you are more than willing to forget it and move on.

Good luck. Hope it's all ok. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never done mmf but have done mff, shouldn't it come down to who wanted I? If the female wanted it and the male didn't why should he make sure she ok surely it should be the other way around? Of course if it something they both wanted then they should both make each other feel special just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks naughty staffs.

If you click on reply+quote we can see who you're responding to "

I imagine it was the naughty couple from staffs ?

A little imagination gooes a long way lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone iam off now.cheers for you help.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

As usual, I'm hugely impressed by couples who swing and can't think how I'd be in such a situation. Dancing about I imagine and getting told off for being too enthusiastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well is she awake yet????

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"Had our first arranged mmf meet last night with my wife.we were both slightly tipsi and had a great great great sexy fun. but not sure how this morning will be when she gets out of bed."

ask if she wants to join your profile and get verified?

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Well if it was any good

SORE

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks naughty staffs.

If you click on reply+quote we can see who you're responding to

I imagine it was the naughty couple from staffs ?

A little imagination gooes a long way lol"

Yep I guessed that too....just trying to help someone who hasn't posted much before

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

You've got to have a debrief. We've had amazingly good meets and some not so great that stired up all kinds of feelings. We make sure we discuss how we feel and from these discussions have come up with some boundaries which make our swinging journey happier all round. Mrs x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Is the op on the nest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You mean she's not up yet? I would give her a nudge,remind her it's not her birthday everyday,and if she wants to experience 2 cocks again,she had better get in that kitchen n start breakfast,sharpish. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice on what not to do and what to say.thanks."

Sit down and TALK would be a good thing.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

After our first mmf we chatted about our play time I asked Jill how she felt and the smile on her face was enough to know that she was looking forward to the next one

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