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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all,

I will be having my first meet this coming week, and will be hosting.

Do you have any tips and advice you could give me

thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there,

If you are hosting at your home make sure the place is claen and especially the bathroom and toilet (nothing worse then a dirty toilet).

If its evening maybe light a few sented candles nice low soft music, offer them a drink and chat once relaxed then ask if they/her wants to go upstairs, that the rest is fun.

Good luck and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, I am meeting in the day!

so you suggest cleanliness and drinks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes!! I met a guy once at his flat and when i went to the bathroom and saw the mess it put me off having sex with him and made my excuses and left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh right! will check the toilets then haha

Do you have any advice to where sex, and chat should take place?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Unless you are meeting a hardcore couple - a mattress in the front room may not be ideal

Apart from that - don't try too hard - it's not a date

But agree - toilets clean, clean sheets, condoms, lube, maybe a discretely placed bin (for used condoms - we are forever stopping at bus shelters to dump stuff into the public bin) and stock up on DIET drinks as well...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou, why diet drinks?

x

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Ever met a woman who isn't on a diet?

Even the size 6 ones! (mrs new east)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

true!

any tips to soften mood? apart from alcohol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Ever met a woman who isn't on a diet?

Even the size 6 ones! (mrs new east)"

But the non-diet drinks can be worked off during the meet!

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Music - always on in the background - not too loud though

Then talk about meets - how long you been doing this stuff etc

We don't really have any problems getting the party started as we are quite exhibitionist - if we think it is time - we just get our kit off!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sounds great!

what about picture taking and filming?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Always agree up front if pictures are ok - ie before the meet (or do what we do and put it in your profile)

Then normal agreement - no faces no public stuff personal use only AND keep to it etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

okay! thankyou, anymore advice? haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you'll be asking us all to join you next to help out!! lol.

Just relax and enjoy it and as said earlier just chat about mutual things such as swinging laeft of time on the site and some previous meets have a laugh and things will soon get going. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well you are welcome to join haha

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"okay! thankyou, anymore advice? haha"

Yup be yourself! Don't try to do what others would do if it isn't you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bit far to travel to but thanks for the offer. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to be too English Single White Male... nervous, grabby, accidently rough and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the above about being clean and having a clean loo with the seat down but most of all and for fucks sake RELAX

be yourself

Regards

Mike

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Try not to be too English Single White Male... nervous, grabby, accidently rough and so on."

This has made me laugh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try to imagine what Mr Bean would do....and then do just the opposite....unless you are thinking of Sean Bean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okies your first meet ? strange that looks like you had a meet before did you forget that 1

.....

  /       \.* gets bk in coffin*

 |     \

  \.       /.

    \...../

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By *lumsy colinMan
over a year ago

basingstoke

try and enjoy it ????

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"Okies your first meet ? strange that looks like you had a meet before did you forget that 1

.....

  /       \.* gets bk in coffin*

 |     \

  \.       /.

    \...../ "

Luv your coffin..... sounds like you both having a great deal of fun in there!

oh and to the op, seems like his first hosting meet, good luck jump in with both feet! i'm sure you'll enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try not to be too English Single White Male... nervous, grabby, accidently rough and so on.

This has made me laugh.... "

I know... we try not to be stereotyping but dammit, what is it with middle class white men? They seem to be the only sub-section of men that seem to suffer so badly from nerves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try not to be too English Single White Male... nervous, grabby, accidently rough and so on.

This has made me laugh.... "
But it's ohhhh so true.Just Relax and have fun,do whatever you and the others feel comfy with

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We always approach any potential meet with the same attitude.

We never expect sex, but hope to make friends and have a good laugh, if anything else happens thats a bonus.

If you think like that you will soon find that things go really well.

Obviously, dont just sit there chatting all day if you are getting very obvious signals that she/they are up for more lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try not to be too English Single White Male... nervous, grabby, accidently rough and so on.

This has made me laugh....

I know... we try not to be stereotyping but dammit, what is it with middle class white men? They seem to be the only sub-section of men that seem to suffer so badly from nerves!"

The white middle classe white men I play with are nervous...just as I like it, but then it's expected when they walk into my boudouir and note the restraints, gags, strap ons et al waiting for them!!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester


"

The white middle classe white men I play with are nervous...just as I like it, but then it's expected when they walk into my boudouir and note the restraints, gags, strap ons et al waiting for them!! "

I (male half, M) have read your profile preferences and posts many times, and wish, just for a day. I wasn't a married, bi male!

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The white middle classe white men I play with are nervous...just as I like it, but then it's expected when they walk into my boudouir and note the restraints, gags, strap ons et al waiting for them!!

I (male half, M) have read your profile preferences and posts many times, and wish, just for a day. I wasn't a married, bi male!

M x"

Tee hee!! xx

*Waves inflating, vibrating butt plug at M*

...and not ooop north!!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester


"

The white middle classe white men I play with are nervous...just as I like it, but then it's expected when they walk into my boudouir and note the restraints, gags, strap ons et al waiting for them!!

I (male half, M) have read your profile preferences and posts many times, and wish, just for a day. I wasn't a married, bi male!

M x

Tee hee!! xx

*Waves inflating, vibrating butt plug at M*

...and not ooop north!! "

Sigh! I know, there's that too!

I'll just have to dream....oops, pass the tissues!

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