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By *ustcantgetenuf50 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Can anyone advise about dealing with lying about age, not mine the persons iv met. 2 men now have given me false ages, both older than stated, one was 15 years older which he looked every bit, the other 6 years older but looked more like 10. I chatted politely then made my excuses, but I'm curious, is this common. Should I challenge them to change their profile details ? Or leave well alone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie about their age all the time, not just on here.

I think you did all you can which is make your excuses and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See a few of these. We had one guy who said he was 36 but on his profile looked about 50 and in his profile text said he had been a student of massage for over 23 years.

All we did was report it. Nothing happened though as he still comes on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I just don't see the point in lying about your age.

I can understand why some people might do it - i.e. to fit in to the age range of someone they might be interested in, but of course, once past that hurdle, the awkwardness begins.

I don't see it as any different to lying about the size of their cock.

Claiming to be packing 10 inches is all very well, until they actually get a meet only to rock up packing only 5.

As i've always said on the subject of lying - You get found out in the end - Always!!

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By *ustcantgetenuf50 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Thanks I agree with all those answers, it's only themselves they are fooling , cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See a few of these. We had one guy who said he was 36 but on his profile looked about 50 and in his profile text said he had been a student of massage for over 23 years.

All we did was report it. Nothing happened though as he still comes on here. "

Is this more about people using decade old photos then rather than the actual age on the profile. After all when you meet someone in a club it is more about appearance and personality than age and it's a similar thing on here. I find it easier to be flexible on ages than it is on my preferences when it comes to size, looks etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take a leaf out of fabs book. Before a meet I ask for a pic with them holding todays date. Then no surprises.

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By *ustcantgetenuf50 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Mines was meet in person, it was immediately obvious. I'm my part of the country if someone looks old for their age that they must have had a hard paper round, but in this case they weren't even invented lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta say this is our main bug bear we show our true ages and that means our age goes against us with some couples, yet off they pop with peeps who lie about their age claiming to be late 30's

We have never cared about other peoples ages we know most ages stated on here are false , it's about the people.

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By *ustcantgetenuf50 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Do people do this when u ask ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mosses and the tablets spring to mind. It is unfair though as it completely wastes your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont arrange to meet if they dont. Its quite simple.

try it.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

no doubt some will say that us ladies lie about our age i dont ,last year i got contacted by a guy thats on a pay site im on to meet him his fb and a mate

his profile says he's 55 ,it was a daytime meet so i declined however we chatted and it turns out he's 68,obviously has to lie about his age or he wont get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think photos can be sometimes Deceiving. Some people dont take good ones but actually are much better looking in the flesh. Which I a nice surprise.

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

I don't lie about my age,Im 63yr on the 17th of this month, an proud that at my age can still have fun.As a few lady know.I have met ladies who like some guy lie so they can fit in to the right age bracket of people they are interested in.You will get caught out in the end so just be honest from the start.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

im 20 lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Can anyone advise about dealing with lying about age, not mine the persons iv met. 2 men now have given me false ages, both older than stated, one was 15 years older which he looked every bit, the other 6 years older but looked more like 10. I chatted politely then made my excuses, but I'm curious, is this common. Should I challenge them to change their profile details ? Or leave well alone ? "

The fact is some people will always lie about their age, not always about being younger. Had a few men add a few years on...

I wouldn't challenge them or tell them change their profile details. However I would politely excuse myself and leave if I felt they had been dishonest.

It can be tricky to always know for sure as some people age far better than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only lie about other people's!

If I ever get asked by a lady "how old do you think I am" I take 10-15% from what I actually think. This formula seems about right, for avoiding a slap, but without sounding facetious

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I only lie about other people's!

If I ever get asked by a lady "how old do you think I am" I take 10-15% from what I actually think. This formula seems about right, for avoiding a slap, but without sounding facetious "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im seeing it more and more on profiles just to get past filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the accusation the other way that I'm not 28 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has met me under false pretences, then I give them the feedback that it's wrong. It worked to get them a meet? Yes but there won't be a repeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im 20 lol"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have no idea why people lie about their age, the only reason I can think of on here is to get round filters have no idea why people do it in real life. Maybe their trying to convince themselves, just cause you say your a certain age doesn't automatically mean you will look it.

I'd sooner someone say I looked good for 50 then rough as fuck for 40.

Guess its insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone advise about dealing with lying about age, not mine the persons iv met. 2 men now have given me false ages, both older than stated, one was 15 years older which he looked every bit, the other 6 years older but looked more like 10. I chatted politely then made my excuses, but I'm curious, is this common. Should I challenge them to change their profile details ? Or leave well alone ? "
just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie about age, they lie about being single, they lie about permission, they lie about size, they lie about age and they lie about names on profiles etc. You chat on cam before meeting if you are unsure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 46 and look it so wouldn't bother trying to lie about my age even if I wanted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we could knock a few years off our actual ages and nobody would bat an eye - but dont see the point - prefer to look good for our age than ok for a few years less if that makes sense - temptng though when just out of age ranges of some people but weve gotten round that an odd time -

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Yeap some do ... Women as well as men! Can't see the point other than not happy to admit the truth? But some deffinatly forget to add the years they were at school! For sure!

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Some of the strangest messages I have had have been from guys who have said in their first message that they are really 20 years older but changed it on their profile to get through filters. Very honest in a way, but sneaky at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a few couples and women on and off here who have lied about there ages, most only by a couple of years, and again its because of the filters to get round them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People look fools once a meet takes place doing this.

How many people do they think won't walk out.

One lie, but what else are they lying about.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to laugh when they look miles older but the meet usually finishes there.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Age is just a number, but if someone is lying about their age, what else are they're lying about? I challenged someone once on another site about their age in a photo and they went to town on picking my profile to pieces. So best let them get on with it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned 50 a few months ago and have noticed that my messages and winks have declined.

Not sure if the age thing is linked but I have my suspicions,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lowered my age range to lower than my own husbands age because its obvious that people either have really hard lives or they're attempting to knock a decade off without anyone noticing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take a leaf out of fabs book. Before a meet I ask for a pic with them holding todays date. Then no surprises. "

Just ask them to go on cam...

We had a meet years ago and was obviously not up to date pics they sent us, the pics were at least 10 years out of date, they had travelled quite far to meet us we invited them in but made our excuses that we didn't play on first meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask to see a copy of their passport lol.. its just a shag so age doesn't come into it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask to see a copy of their passport lol.. its just a shag so age doesn't come into it lol "

Not to anyone with an "any hole's a goal" mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask to see a copy of their passport lol.. its just a shag so age doesn't come into it lol

Not to anyone with an "any hole's a goal" mentality."
lol fair enough x.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

It disappoints me, having met a gent who said he was 50 when he was nearly 60 and looked it, he was in fact really nice but I couldn't get over the barrier that he had lied, shame really he said it was a vanity thing but I'm honest and expect others to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 44 but I regularly pass for 43.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 32 but look 20 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take a leaf out of fabs book. Before a meet I ask for a pic with them holding todays date. Then no surprises. "
thats a great idea...now im def gunna use that !

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I hate that too. I show my age and always have been honest. If you have to lie to get a meet then its not good.

I met a guy who was 55 and omg he was amazing. Yes I know a different guy at 55 may be more like my dad but just hate the lying.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"Can anyone advise about dealing with lying about age, not mine the persons iv met. 2 men now have given me false ages, both older than stated, one was 15 years older which he looked every bit, the other 6 years older but looked more like 10. I chatted politely then made my excuses, but I'm curious, is this common. Should I challenge them to change their profile details ? Or leave well alone ? "

I know I look older than what I am hard paper round lol but I would never lie about age no point x

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Met quite a few that have told fibs about their age.

I've just recently been told I'm in my early 20s and too young for a club. I've no reason to lie about my age, am 34 this month

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

If someone has pictures on their profile ( even if out of date ) , I judge by these , not what age is on the profile . My decisions are made on other factors such as interests , personality , and how any telephone conversation goes . Because some people can be very judgemental on age , I can understand why some knock a few years off . This does not necessarily mean you have lied about everything else - you would probably need to ensure that all the other criteria on your profile was accurate otherwise you might be left looking very foolish . Comment applies to casual meets , if loking for a marriage partner lying about age would be completely unacceptable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive never understood why ppl lie about age my profile says im 27 because i am lol just hope i dont look older lol havnt lied about my name either it does begin with a D and ppl do call me dee lol i dont lie because i cant i always get caught out so no point haha honesty is best policy in my eyes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone advise about dealing with lying about age, not mine the persons iv met. 2 men now have given me false ages, both older than stated, one was 15 years older which he looked every bit, the other 6 years older but looked more like 10. I chatted politely then made my excuses, but I'm curious, is this common. Should I challenge them to change their profile details ? Or leave well alone ? "

Next time before meeting anybody insist on seeing them on web cam or with a photo holing a newspaper with the date clearly visible. If they ask why be honest sand say you have had meets with people who who claimed to be a lot younger than they actually were. That way you will out the people who lie about age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think it is quite common as I've met a couple of guys who were younger than their profile, one of them said he changed his to under 50 as he'd struggled to get meets and the other one was told when he joined not to put his true age as he would struggle to get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once u have put your age on yer profile u shud not be allowed to change it via edit profile but u can in order to cjat or contact someone out of their age range. We know guts who do n its wrong

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

You can only change it once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very common but most people I've met have been up front about it.. Only thing i lie about is my name and that's for security reasons.. Im so glad that i have too... Been in a few sticky situations that if people were to have known my name, could have easily found me... Im honest and say that sue is my fab name and once I've formed a friendship with people and Im comfortable that my private life is not at risk, i happily divulge my real name.. The only problem with that is my limited friends i know off fab that i have allowed to be part of my life do call me sue in front of my family... I find it funny especially when they realize but i would much prefer them to use sue in front of my family then my real name in a club...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also can't stand it when people put up old pictures or don't update every year or so, looking at some posted 2010 and how old is that pic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit silly really.

In my 125 years of experience I can say you're bound to come a cropper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby took an inch off my height when he filled in the details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen it a few times on profiles where the age is one number & then in the text they say their actual age.....I assume to bypass filters?

I wondered whether me turning 47 would be a problem as 45 is a benchmark figure for some but so far doesn't appear to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always Skype before a meet as to be honest who puts a shit pic of themselves on here or anywhere else for that matter..a 5 mins chat on cam can save a lot of time and money if having to travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

mosses and the tablets spring to mind."

You mean the ones that say "thou shalt not commit adultery" and "thou shalt not covet your neighbour's wife"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am older than the dreams of men, I have dwelt in the dark places and foraged through the souls of the decadent. As each passing season flutters away, I relish the prospect of a new era in swing....

But as they don't have that category, I put down my earth age....

Liars gonna lie

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Guy i previously knew suddenly become 8 years younger over night .When i quizzed him he just said he wanted younger woman and was only way to get their interest .

Some people will just say or do what's going to benifit them to get what they want , others needs be damned. Happens anywhere though not just here. If they feel need to lie to bolster their ego then says all I'd need to know .Rather have the truth .

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

The fake ages seem to start when they reach their 40th birthdays. 90% of the 40+'ers in our inbox look at least 10 years older. Those in their 30's all look about right.

We can understand using a slightly fake age to help hide an identity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fake ages seem to start when they reach their 40th birthdays. 90% of the 40+'ers in our inbox look at least 10 years older. Those in their 30's all look about right.

We can understand using a slightly fake age to help hide an identity."

Our ages are our ages, we get your point x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Can't see any good reason to lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no someone who is saying they are older than they are to get meets. I no this as I have met them previously from another site but I wont verify them because of the lie about the age

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By *C69Man
over a year ago

Nr Doncaster


"Personally I just don't see the point in lying about your age.

I can understand why some people might do it - i.e. to fit in to the age range of someone they might be interested in, but of course, once past that hurdle, the awkwardness begins.

I don't see it as any different to lying about the size of their cock.

Claiming to be packing 10 inches is all very well, until they actually get a meet only to rock up packing only 5.

As i've always said on the subject of lying - You get found out in the end - Always!!"

very well said - no point in lying about age, cock or false pics. Kaz x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"The fake ages seem to start when they reach their 40th birthdays. 90% of the 40+'ers in our inbox look at least 10 years older. Those in their 30's all look about right.

We can understand using a slightly fake age to help hide an identity.

Our ages are our ages, we get your point x"

Totally agree. We're both over 40 and pir recent photos are just that. What you see is what you get with us

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By *ice and SleazyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's the guys that seem to be the worst.We were contacted by a couple where he claimed to be about 5 years younger than My hubby but from pic looked a good 10 years older.

Either he was lying or he'd had a very hard life.

Why do so many people who've not looked after themselves think they can lie their way out of it. Do they really think that just changing their age will make all the difference?

We don't lie about ages. Just up front about it but do ask that people look at our pics first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen it a few times on profiles where the age is one number & then in the text they say their actual age.....I assume to bypass filters?

I wondered whether me turning 47 would be a problem as 45 is a benchmark figure for some but so far doesn't appear to be."

Not necessarily as I have chatted to a few and they had put their year of birth wrong but then couldn't change it and didn't know how to as newbies so I have then told them.

Personally if they were trying to bypass the filters, they really wouldn't put their true age in the text

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

False info about age is normally the lesser of the false info

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