FabSwingers.com forum: How do the ladies feel about swinging with an attached guy ( and the other half doesn't know)

By *ogue78 OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Just curious, my partner doesn't know and I could trot out a million and one reasons on why I'm here, but the short answer is that I love the thrill of a chase and also my imagination on the story forum can get pretty wild.

If I do meet a woman and chat on here, I just assume they have read my profile and so are still happy to be friends and possibly more.

So ladies, and gents, your thoughts?

( yes I know I've opened it for abuse, but hey ho and all that )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't. Even though it's only for sex it just screams disrespect to me. Swinging is about honesty and if you're able to lie and disrespect your partner, whom you supposedly have feelings for, how would you treat a woman that you are only there to fuck and fuck off?

I would never knowingly play with someone attached and lying to their partner about it. But there are plenty on here that don't care.

However if you're just looking for singles, there are plenty of affair seeker websites. There's always the option of clubs, usually a no questions asked kinda environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with PassionFlavour.

What you're talking about is cheating - not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I meet often in the club environment I have to say I'm a bit indifferent.. as I am not stupid.. I know many guys are married and playing away.

My double standard comes with couples on here... I will not play with one half of a couple on here unless it's all together..

I don't tend to ask marital status to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What Passion said.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

How would you feel if your wife was meeting people behind your back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't knowingly play with a guy that's cheating but I've played in clubs so I guess I must have.

Oh ...its called cheating if your partner/wife doesn't know ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging with an attached guy = helping him cheat, not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with PassionFlavour.

What you're talking about is cheating - not swinging."

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

No interest to us.we like swinging not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. No. No. No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not swinging

Had a lovely 'couple' contact us a couple of days ago, but they were not a couple they were cheating on there perspective spouses, so that was a no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indifferent. I've been cheated on in all my long term relationships. Most of the guys I've met on here have turned out to be married/in relationships. My long term fb got married recently, still see each other fairly regularly.

Most blokes are full of bullshit, I just don't get taken in by it anymore.

Hence why I'm on here

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Not for me, that's cheating not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Indifferent. I've been cheated on in all my long term relationships. Most of the guys I've met on here have turned out to be married/in relationships. My long term fb got married recently, still see each other fairly regularly.

Most blokes are full of bullshit, I just don't get taken in by it anymore.

Hence why I'm on here

I definitely agree with your comment about most men are full of shit

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

When I was playing as a single I was married and playing with consent. I would not knowingly meet cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband knows the ins and outs (teehee) of what I'm up to. But I generally don't ask the guys what their position is. Personally though, I've found married guys more respectful of my post meet needs (I.e not to bug me!) whereas I've been unlucky enough to have met some single guys don't get that I won't just drop everything to be with them. Now, I usually tell meets that I don't meet more than once. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging with an attached guy = helping him cheat, not for me

This ^^^

Jules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far far too much hassle for me.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

On here for fun, not to be embroiled in others domestics . If anyone's wishes to cheat then that decision is there's and no odds to me .I just choose not to meet them as plenty of single guys I can meet with out the clock watching and cloak and dagger .

If they are up frount about it then people can make their own choice to mert or not. My objection is the ones who blatantly lie about being single for their own selfish gain.But hey if they have zero qualms about deceiving the person they reportedly love , why would they be honest with random on line lol. Fortunately you can suss them with some questioning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man or woman it's just something we would not do

Swinging as passion said is about total honesty with your partner. Infact we can see how swinging has made cpl more stronger, we love to play but love both of us bring there enjoying each other's experiences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would not do it knowingly. Not our thing understand there are many reasons why someone would do it and not judging.

Just not something we like to be involved in.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I choose not to play with married men or women from the site. However, I do play in clubs, and I don't stop to ask their marital status. But I don't swap numbers or anything in clubs, so I'm less likely to get embroiled in some kind of domestic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try very hard not to but I like i imagine many others still get lied to. The way I feel is that the partner left at home probably knows something and it's probably hurting them more than they will ever let on. Some will kick cheating spouses to the curb, some will stay and feel a little worse everytime it happens... I want to be no part in that. It makes me really sad

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By *usty_n_LustyCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"I agree with PassionFlavour.

What you're talking about is cheating - not swinging."

this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if you've met people from here then I would say you have your answer....

most people will post that they are anti it in a forum thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is focused on men cheating but women play away too; so, just out of interest, would you ladies and couples play with them?

I'm not trying to hijack this thread but just add some balance to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple reason I don't cheat on Mrs N is that not only is she a lovely person and doesn't deserve that sort of treatment and secondly I am such a terrible liar. I'd feel terrible about what I'd done and she'd know i'd been up to something. Women always do.

Cheating destroys trust when you get found out and it's very hard if not impossible to rebuild.

Best thing to do with your partner is to tell them about your needs and if they don't accept then either put up or move on, Cheat if your conscience lets you. Mine certainly wont.

With regards to cheaters we have a fairly pragmatic approach to it. We feel sure we've met guys/girls that are cheating and certainly don't go out of our way to meet them but we don't ask questions and whose to say we are not being lied to as well.

Probs just meet the once, suss em out and then probably decline another meet. As I said we leave it up to their consciences and feel sure their partner will suss out their infidelity eventually.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"I wouldn't. Even though it's only for sex it just screams disrespect to me. Swinging is about honesty and if you're able to lie and disrespect your partner, whom you supposedly have feelings for, how would you treat a woman that you are only there to fuck and fuck off?

I would never knowingly play with someone attached and lying to their partner about it. But there are plenty on here that don't care. "

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By *ogue78 OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I've had meets, and been upfront about it.

And there are quite a few ladies who are doing exactly same as me.

Thanks for all the input peeps

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Big no from us, we are here to swing not cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't knowingly meet someone who is cheating, not respectful at all from either party.

Clubs though, you'll know even less so I guess the answer is most prolific / active swingers will have met attached people?

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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"Just curious, my partner doesn't know and I could trot out a million and one reasons on why I'm here, but the short answer is that I love the thrill of a chase and also my imagination on the story forum can get pretty wild.

If I do meet a woman and chat on here, I just assume they have read my profile and so are still happy to be friends and possibly more.

So ladies, and gents, your thoughts?

( yes I know I've opened it for abuse, but hey ho and all that ) "

There are people on hear that would get off on seting u up.....

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