FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting singles

By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Hi all,

We're not new to the swinging scene but we have never met any single guys or ladies, only couples.

We're always welcoming at parties and clubs but we're not really sure how to go about meeting a single person.

We love the social side of swinging; getting to know people, learn their likes and dislikes over a drink or two.

Is this something you can do easily with a single knowing full well they've come to meet for one reason and one reason only the majority of the time...or is this us purely stereotyping?

We are looking to broaden our horizons and maybe get some singles in for some mmf and ffm fun. We just don't want to do it the wrong way and ruin it for ourselves nor the other party.

Can any of you advise us or tell us some of your own stories.

Thanks

Fay & Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No use to you because of the distance.....but personally as a single I'm happy to meet socially first....often prefer it to see if we all click first.

You will find other singles who feel the same!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

As a single female, I never expect anything from the first meet, I always meet socially first, and nearly every single female I know is the same.

I've had one or two single males that think because we've had coffee, then that's a ticket to have sex, but on the whole males are very happy to meet socially first too.

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Thanks for replying

xxx

I suppose one of my main concerns is that if we meet a couple or a single that there is no chemistry - what if we are all too polite to say so! I wouldn't like to be a disappointment to a person/couple and them feel obliged to stay. On the other hand - if they were to just get up and leave I think that would get to me more...

Does everyone feel this way? xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thanks for replying

xxx

Does everyone feel this way? xx"

We've met plenty of singles.

We approach the same way we do with couples. No interest/attraction on meeting face to face - no play.

There's no reason to look at it differently. It's actually a lot easier to meet singles than couples - men, because lets face it - there's plenty of choice, women (we're not looking for though) less so. But meeting a single there's only one other person in the equation. No 'taking one for the team' if only half a couple interests you.

Do your own searching and send messages, rather than posting a meet, else you'll be too busy with the inbox. Give plenty of notice, exchange numbers early on and make sure you check in regularly before any planned social meet, including the morning of the meet and just before you leave to head to the venue.

It really is simple. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to meet socially if i haven't been speaking to them for long as chemistry is vital to any meet and you can't tell from messaging or even speaking via the phone. .

I've only ever had one meet that i hadn't arranged a social first

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By *AYSAL OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I hope I get the balls to arrange a meet with a single guy... I have started liking men a bit more these days - and there are experiences I want to try! xx

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe

I prefer a social meet first and even if I felt no connection or attraction I would stay and enjoy the evening. I hope the other party would do the same. I would be honest at the end of the social saying they weren't my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(meets) what's that? the only (meats) I get, is the 1's I eat, lol.

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I think you,ll find most single guys and females are happy to have a social meet and see how things goes

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"(meets) what's that? the only (meats) I get, is the 1's I eat, lol."

Don't worry!

It's always hard being a (cough) newbie!

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By *omMLMan
over a year ago

The Centre of the Universe

"(meets) what's that? the only (meats) I get, is the 1's I eat, lol."

What you never beat your meat. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope I get the balls to arrange a meet with a single guy... I have started liking men a bit more these days - and there are experiences I want to try! xx"

Just be yourself get a social or two fixed up then enjoy the experience ?

You've a sense of humour so even if there is no attraction it should be a bit of fun and would make you relax more for the next one ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly meet as a single when meeting privately (with my fb when at a club)

The routine for meeting tends to be the same.

Chat on here. Swap face pics. Social meet and then it's either yes or no. Occasionally, I'm happy to play the same time as the social, but mainly, I'll arrange a play meet at another time.

I always try and make sure that if I'm not what they're looking for, then I wouldn't be in the least bit offended if they say so.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We approach and treat singles the same way as couples. No attraction/chemistry in person, no play. Everyone needs to be happy and feel comfortable.

Some of our best evenings have been with singles.

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