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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies and Gents of the forum

I am a newbie on this site which means that I have no verifications... Few people I tried to contact turned me down because of this... although I totally understand and somewhat agree why they would do this, my dilemma is that without meets I won't get the verifications and vice versa! Is there a way to resolve this vicious circle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

webcam

clubs

socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no, you are fecked

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

Webcams, skype or snapchat works too!

Club socials, there are ways to do it

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"Ladies and Gents of the forum

I am a newbie on this site which means that I have no verifications... Few people I tried to contact turned me down because of this... although I totally understand and somewhat agree why they would do this, my dilemma is that without meets I won't get the verifications and vice versa! Is there a way to resolve this vicious circle? "

OP you've been here over a year are you only logging on ever so often?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

The usual question gets the usual answer........................SOCIALS

'Tis easy to get a veri, what is harder is losing the mindset that as soon as you get a veri you will be knee deep in pussy and having to employ someone to answer your hundreds of messages.

Turn the question around, why are you even trying to arrange meets without getting verified first?

And forget webcam veris, most people ignore them for a single guy.

Don't forget, people won't always tell the truth when knocking you back.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

London Social next weekend. Get yourself along to that, chat to people, don't be a WW and you may get verified. Simples!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies and Gents of the forum

I am a newbie on this site which means that I have no verifications... Few people I tried to contact turned me down because of this... although I totally understand and somewhat agree why they would do this, my dilemma is that without meets I won't get the verifications and vice versa! Is there a way to resolve this vicious circle? "

Firstly welcome to the joys of a single male !

Good advice so far socials !

Just remember it will take time to get the veris you seem to want ?

Try the club scene even if your still new and end up just talking to people it would be time well spent ?

Hope you have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies and Gents of the forum

I am a newbie on this site which means that I have no verifications... Few people I tried to contact turned me down because of this... although I totally understand and somewhat agree why they would do this, my dilemma is that without meets I won't get the verifications and vice versa! Is there a way to resolve this vicious circle?

OP you've been here over a year are you only logging on ever so often?"

I thought that too

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

To be fair.. We joined 6 months ago... Looked around, didn't think it was for us, then came back to it on the same profile last month where we have arranged meets an been let down so no veris for us either... Although this has not been a problem for us as of yet.

Having the profile set up for a long time means very little...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair.. We joined 6 months ago... Looked around, didn't think it was for us, then came back to it on the same profile last month where we have arranged meets an been let down so no veris for us either... Although this has not been a problem for us as of yet.

Having the profile set up for a long time means very little..."

Follow the advice on the thread

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

Thankyou but sorry I wasn't looking for advice??? We've not had any trouble finding interested parties just in fitting it witha tight schedule and working through the time wasters lol

I was merely stating that all these people questioning why he's been here so long without doing anything that he might not have actually *been* here for all this time using the site regularly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankyou but sorry I wasn't looking for advice??? We've not had any trouble finding interested parties just in fitting it witha tight schedule and working through the time wasters lol

I was merely stating that all these people questioning why he's been here so long without doing anything that he might not have actually *been* here for all this time using the site regularly..."

I was stating that you've been here 6 months and have not had a meet yet

Maybe review your selection process and you won't have any time wasters to deal with

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By *ilf61Man
over a year ago

Taunton

To the OP, and anyone else without veri's

I found that the best way was to visit my local club, meet and talk to people, be honest and up front, then maybe get invited to play and the verifications came from that.

It didn't happen overnight, but I now have some very good friends.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Webcams, skype or snapchat works too!

Club socials, there are ways to do it "

I dont use snapchat but doesnt it just show pics or texts? If it does then it would be a fake verification....

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

I did state that I joined 6 months ago and only actually started using it 1 month ago... Which was my whole point :-s that he might not have been using the site the whole time...think we missunderstood each other...

Time wasters can be a factor however long you use the site for or whatever you do?? If they're verified and local, been chatting for ages, is their suggestions to meet for social and they still don't bother don't really get what you mean changing a selection process apart from go to clubs that hubby is too young to attend? Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself photo verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did state that I joined 6 months ago and only actually started using it 1 month ago... Which was my whole point :-s that he might not have been using the site the whole time...think we missunderstood each other...

Time wasters can be a factor however long you use the site for or whatever you do?? If they're verified and local, been chatting for ages, is their suggestions to meet for social and they still don't bother don't really get what you mean changing a selection process apart from go to clubs that hubby is too young to attend? Lol x "

Ohhh ok I missed that bit lol

Some clubs you only have to be 18 to go in lol x

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

Yeah I know

My partners work is seasonal so I'm hoping after the season ends this week we can get free time to explore more haha

Now just need my coil to settle down and stop giving me grief so I can up my game more haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself photo verified "

He already is you can't post unless you are verified one way or another.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Get yourself photo verified

He already is you can't post unless you are verified one way or another. "

Yes you can. Theres a delay on being able to post in the forums for a short while after you join the site, but you dont have to be verified to post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow, what can I say, thanks everyone who took the time to reply... Socials seems to be the most common and practical advice, I shall give that a good try...,

For those who wondered why I had no verifications for someone who has been here so long, this is the second time I join, the first time was a couple of years ago but I almost immediately after that got into a relationship and did not feel comfortable about lying. I am single again and thought I'd give this a try. I am mainly after a 3some experience it a swinging partner, not just after a shag, swingers fascinate me and I would love to meet some....

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