FabSwingers.com forum: waste of time

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If you gp elsewhere, the only difference will be you'll probably being paying for the privilege.

You'll still be you, you'll probably paste the same profile, you'll probably get the se men _iewing you, you'll probably blame that site for your lack of success.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

Ok good luck. Let us know how it goes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What makes you think its going to be better anywhere else?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Because whining constantly is so appealing.

If the site isn't working, then off you pop, don't let us hold you back.

If you're expecting instashag, you're on the wrong site.

Ladies on here don't just drop their knickers because someone messages.

Work on your approach - tailor a decent first message, work on your profile, check your images are up to spec... and then its luck and numbers.

I don't meet very often, some choice and some just life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all? "

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult one mate, most of us guys on here are in need of bucketloads of patience.

Your profile is short and simple, your pics show what I assume people want to see.

If you really do want advice, I'd say don't post comments like that on the forum..It's counter productive at best!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all? "

So what do you want? messages from people who have no intention of meeting?

A million no thanks messages?

Or do you want a pity fuck?

Because none of the 3 are good prospects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your my favourite waste of time

Was a great song by Owen Paul

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Dude, four weeks is nothing,if you are moaning now, just imagine going four months with no meets.

Get out there, try socials and clubs,try to get on the party circuit, get a few veries and you will be surprised how much difference it makes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will be no different on other sites

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Married men dont often do too well on here either

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Dude, four weeks is nothing,if you are moaning now, just imagine going four months with no meets.

Get out there, try socials and clubs,try to get on the party circuit, get a few veries and you will be surprised how much difference it makes."

exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it isn't working for you consider trying a different approach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all? "

Thats not long with out messages, do you mean that no Ladies have messaged you after looking at your very attractive profile?

This is a good site for all, as a single man, and in the high age group I find its a good site

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I've just _iewed your profile 4 times... Feel better now??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm geting the same but think woman on hear are get 100 s ov blokes messages then ever day ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

no offence...people have offered you their time and their advice, and it looks like it went in one ear and out the other....

"time, patience, basic common sense"

4 weeks isn't giving it time

4 weeks shows a distinct lack of patience.......

and as for basic common sense... look at your profile, compare that to most of the people that will reply in this thread...

hand on heart, "would you answer your own?"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm geting the same but think woman on hear are get 100 s ov blokes messages then ever day ?

You've had 4 veri's in 3 weeks. Were you expecting a constant queue of woman?? Lol

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

I quite like it here

Its cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i'm going to go back to a thread you started OP....

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/303797#message_5699377

people offered you help.....

and your last words in that that thread were

"my profile does need a makeover"

5 days ago..... so.... what happened???

sometimes you have to be able to help yourself "help yourself"...

if you can't be bother to help yourself, why should other people take the time out to help you?........

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"
Meow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

Lmao

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants..."

Why does everyone say this? NO DIDNT EXPECT TO BE GETTING SEX EVERYDAY

NO I didn't expect to have women throwing themselves at me.

NO I didn't expect to be fancied by every woman on here,

NO I didn't expect every messege that I sent to be answered.

I know I'm not the most attractive guy in the world. But I'm a nice guy. I'm not abusive. I don't send nasty messeges or copy and paste messeges

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry, but it is not the sites problem but your own!

You've been given so much advise with regards to profile etc and yet you choose to ignore it, but continue to whinge and moan.

So either put the advise given to good use, or yeah just move onto to some where that guarantees you sex on tap

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

I've been here over twelve month's still no meets off here but still trying don't give up,it's still nice to perve over the photo's and cam's.

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

I have been on FAB for 6 months on and off. Spoke to some nice people, and not so nice ones to. I really enjoye the forums. 4 weeks is not long enough all you have done is complain just get over it. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

So that's a nice thing to say is it? Everyone else seems to think so

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I don't understand why your moaning OP, if you don't appeal to people move on.

Writing threads like this is not going to do you any favours.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

looool

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants...

Why does everyone say this? NO DIDNT EXPECT TO BE GETTING SEX EVERYDAY

NO I didn't expect to have women throwing themselves at me.

NO I didn't expect to be fancied by every woman on here,

NO I didn't expect every messege that I sent to be answered.

I know I'm not the most attractive guy in the world. But I'm a nice guy. I'm not abusive. I don't send nasty messeges or copy and paste messeges "

I know it can be disheartening sometimes but people are busy and the male to female ratio on here is insane.

You live near some good clubs and there's often socials so it's less scary than just walking in to a normal night on your own. Get out there and meet people.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol

So that's a nice thing to say is it? Everyone else seems to think so"

I think he was joking. And I'm guessing others thought the same.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

What were your expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol

So that's a nice thing to say is it? Everyone else seems to think so"

only joking buddy... its not easy on here.. i don't put the effort in .. but maybe you need to change your game plan . Or lower your standards lol

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By *TR8HUNTERMan
over a year ago

midlands

Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hit the green arrow on me, find posts that arent ridiculous or sexual, and u will find advice that is repeated and repeated and repeated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

What were your expectations

My expectations where to have some nice chats with some nice people if I got to meet any of them then bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

I'm registered on a few swinging sites. I've only been here a few weeks and no meets yet (although was invited at very short notice to a gangbang which unfortunately I was unable to attend), however I have had a few meets on other sites where I have been a member longer.

Only a handful but if I can eventually get meets (married, small dick and up front about both) then anyone can!

So I know it sounds a cliche but keep on it, remain civil and I'm sure the rewards will come!

Good luck!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants...

Why does everyone say this? NO DIDNT EXPECT TO BE GETTING SEX EVERYDAY

NO I didn't expect to have women throwing themselves at me.

NO I didn't expect to be fancied by every woman on here,

NO I didn't expect every messege that I sent to be answered.

I know I'm not the most attractive guy in the world. But I'm a nice guy. I'm not abusive. I don't send nasty messeges or copy and paste messeges "

Nice is good for relationships

I base it on looks on here then see if they are nice enough, no initial attraction = no chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants...

Why does everyone say this? NO DIDNT EXPECT TO BE GETTING SEX EVERYDAY

NO I didn't expect to have women throwing themselves at me.

NO I didn't expect to be fancied by every woman on here,

NO I didn't expect every messege that I sent to be answered.

I know I'm not the most attractive guy in the world. But I'm a nice guy. I'm not abusive. I don't send nasty messeges or copy and paste messeges

Nice is good for relationships

I base it on looks on here then see if they are nice enough, no initial attraction = no chance "

Nice enough? But nice is for relationships lol

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

What were your expectations

My expectations where to have some nice chats with some nice people if I got to meet any of them then bonus "

Ask yourself, if u got 100 msgs from females would u waste time speakin to the ones u wernt attracted to to find out if they were nice, would u heck u would go for the ones ur attracted to, same way others do also

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included"

I know of no female who couldnt get sex in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop being nice be nasty!!! Nasty is good.

But in a nice way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop being nice be nasty!!! Nasty is good.

But in a nice way.

dont confuse us guys, I just sent a mail that I wanted to spunk on a guys wife face and give her the best sex she's ever had...of course I said please and then Hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop being nice be nasty!!! Nasty is good.

But in a nice way.

dont confuse us guys, I just sent a mail that I wanted to spunk on a guys wife face and give her the best sex she's ever had...of course I said please and then Hi."

Fail to see what's wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included

I know of no female who couldnt get sex in the real world

"
you should see some of the Welsh woman on here... il disagree haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop being nice be nasty!!! Nasty is good.

But in a nice way.

dont confuse us guys, I just sent a mail that I wanted to spunk on a guys wife face and give her the best sex she's ever had...of course I said please and then Hi.

Fail to see what's wrong with that.

the big caps on their profile NO SINGLE MEN..might have annoyed..heehee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop being nice be nasty!!! Nasty is good.

But in a nice way.

You mean cheeky? I can be cheeky it's just getting into a convo to be able to be cheeky lol

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included

I know of no female who couldnt get sex in the real world

you should see some of the Welsh woman on here... il disagree haha"

I don't mean to be rude but your verification was of a man you met last week, so was the Welsh woman the one the wouldn't leave you a verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included

I know of no female who couldnt get sex in the real world

I can't. In real life I make men's eyes bleed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads like this often ring alarm bells for couples and women.

Moaning about not getting meets often puts people off from meeting because it comes across negative.

Plus you've been here for a month. It's hardly any time. Go to a club, be less negative, get involved. It's not hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice bum though ! ?? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads like this often ring alarm bells for couples and women.

Moaning about not getting meets often puts people off from meeting because it comes across negative.

Plus you've been here for a month. It's hardly any time. Go to a club, be less negative, get involved. It's not hard "

Yes you MUST sit there in silence it's imperative. You, as a single guy have very little control over the situation you have chosen to put yourself in.

What really sucks is when you do get a message it may be from someone YOU don't actually want to meet.

Then you will have to reject/ignore someone, unless you choose with your dick.

Happily I build famous monuments out of cotton buds; which fills the time between messages, fab isn't a hobby but earbud monuments (available in 197 weekly parts) is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate just join tinder and plenty of fish it's so easy I have to beat them off with a stick! Only difference is they normally expect you to take them for a couple of dates then WHAM!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all? "

I'm still here!

I almost never get a first message.

If you are not prepared to put the effort into looking at people you might appeal to, put effort into writing decent messages, or even effort into your profile, how much effort would you put into pleasing a playmate?

Patience is a virtue. If you are just after a quick shag, better be prepared to part with some cash. if you want to swing, stick around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate just join tinder and plenty of fish it's so easy I have to beat them off with a stick! Only difference is they normally expect you to take them for a couple of dates then WHAM! "

He said he loved me. But he just wanted a fuck? Who knew.

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"
That's a very rude thing to say about a fellow fabber, and its just taken me 10 mins to writing this, because I keep falling off the chair laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate just join tinder and plenty of fish it's so easy I have to beat them off with a stick! Only difference is they normally expect you to take them for a couple of dates then WHAM!

He said he loved me. But he just wanted a fuck? Who knew.

Haha I am pretty honest with women, I never make promises... They know the score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all? "

No I'd be looking what I was doing wrong not blaming others. Victim mentality yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay bye bye

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

But why haven't you taken advice. ..which you asked for...on your previous thread and made some effort with your profile? Or did you just think it would do you more good to just keep whining?! Look at your profile, up your game and quit moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you MUST sit there in silence it's imperative. You, as a single guy have very little control over the situation you have chosen to put yourself in.

What really sucks is when you do get a message it may be from someone YOU don't actually want to meet.

Then you will have to reject/ignore someone, unless you choose with your dick.

Happily I build famous monuments out of cotton buds; which fills the time between messages, fab isn't a hobby but earbud monuments (available in 197 weekly parts) is "

No one suggested sitting in silence. But being negative constantly will put people off of you.

There is ALWAYS something for someone here. That's the great thing about this place. If he or you for that matter aren't having success with messages then maybe it's how YOU are approaching people. Maybe you're coming across boring and mundane, or simply not appealing

You do have control over the situation. I have not had any issues meeting people. I've been rejected and had my time wasted. But I don't come here crying about it because people don't care not want to hear it.

Enjoy your cotton bud monuments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

If you feel it is and it is not working for you then try elsewhere. I have had no problems with this site but then again I feel I have put in the effort required to get the rewards and that has included patience.

Also OP have you thought that the ladies might be on stealth mode when visiting your profile. Many do this to stop blokes they do not want to meet/message/chat - messaging them asking why after seeing their fantastic marvellous profile they have not messaged them.

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol

So that's a nice thing to say is it? Everyone else seems to think so"

Maybe you develop you sense of humour ?

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

The funniest post I have read - brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you MUST sit there in silence it's imperative. You, as a single guy have very little control over the situation you have chosen to put yourself in.

What really sucks is when you do get a message it may be from someone YOU don't actually want to meet.

Then you will have to reject/ignore someone, unless you choose with your dick.

Happily I build famous monuments out of cotton buds; which fills the time between messages, fab isn't a hobby but earbud monuments (available in 197 weekly parts) is

No one suggested sitting in silence. But being negative constantly will put people off of you.

Enjoy your cotton bud monuments"

Yes because that's what I was doing moaning about not getting meets....

........click. .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate just join tinder and plenty of fish it's so easy I have to beat them off with a stick! Only difference is they normally expect you to take them for a couple of dates then WHAM!

He said he loved me. But he just wanted a fuck? Who knew.

Haha I am pretty honest with women, I never make promises... They know the score

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I was just thinking it had been a while since we had a prime moaner and whinger and here we are with a real humdinger...

What a piece of work this one is for all the reasons outlined above, and not a shred of effort on his drab profile, nor any evidence of taking the sound and positive advice offered,, just bitterness and self-pity in a thread clearly designed just to draw attention.

Pathetic.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

As others have said, you've only been here 4 weeks. Expand your profile - make it more appealing. Participate in the forums so that you become known on the site and go to some socials at clubs or on webcams - get some veris will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just thinking it had been a while since we had a prime moaner and whinger and here we are with a real humdinger...

Pathetic.

Twat

True tho

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I was just thinking it had been a while since we had a prime moaner and whinger and here we are with a real humdinger...

Pathetic. "
Tee hee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done"

Okay see ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't let the door hit your ass on the way out

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

Isn't that what having patience is? Not having what you want, until you get it. That period of time is 'patience'. Anyway, I wouldn't diss _iews from men, I had a guy look at me several tines and eventually I messaged him and told him that I wasn't looking for men even though I'm bi and he said he was looking for a guy to shag his female fb - so I did!

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

" you should see some of the Welsh woman on here... il disagree haha"
ummm pass on that one

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think some comments on here have been less than generous. The OP would do well to take the advice given, search the forum for similar threads and give this place 3-4 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some comments on here have been less than generous. The OP would do well to take the advice given, search the forum for similar threads and give this place 3-4 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done"

Do you mean as in looks wise?

I'll admit it then I'm 'shallow' when it comes to looks, unless someone's personality shines thru on here how else do I judge them.

That's why the forums are good because you can make an impression, good & bad.....

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

several months in my case, but I live in a remote area. Once you get the ball rolling though, it does help. Even so, still find it hard, it is a numbers game until you hit on someone who is interested in you.. but you have to be prepared for a lot of disappointment, be thick skinned and patient by the bucket load

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Sites marmite hate it love it

ignore the idiots n move on

lots of timewasters

n half the ones who think they are it on here

wouldnt stand a chance in real world lol

fabswingers is good value just some of the sad lot who let it down

men and women included

I know of no female who couldnt get sex in the real world

you should see some of the Welsh woman on here... il disagree haha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done"

Really?(

We meet single guys too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he gone yet?

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Has he gone yet?"

nope

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done"

Sorry OP but when free time is limited and chances to meet are few most people aren't gonna get into lengthy discussions with people they don't find attractive because they might be a nice guy. It's not shallow.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I think some comments on here have been less than generous. The OP would do well to take the advice given, search the forum for similar threads and give this place 3-4 months.

I agree Tina.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done

I get that totally but that just means no one finds me attracted. And means no point me being here

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done

I get that totally but that just means no one finds me attracted. And means no point me being here"

To be fair OP nothing is wrong with your looks, I saw the post you made 6 days ago complaining and it was that what made me not see you in a good light.

I cant speak for other people but complaining in the forum has more than likely sealed your fate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done

I get that totally but that just means no one finds me attracted. And means no point me being here

To be fair OP nothing is wrong with your looks, I saw the post you made 6 days ago complaining and it was that what made me not see you in a good light.

I cant speak for other people but complaining in the forum has more than likely sealed your fate."

Best I delete my profile then hey

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Seriously? Quit your whinging, man up and stop feeling so bloody sorry for yourself.

Either make an effort with your profile, you know follow the advice you were given, or leave.

We'll see you again in a fortnight with a new name. Just remember forumites have long memories.

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

If I'm brutally honest. Your photos are atrocious.

Not your looks, nothing wrong with your face etc... your actual photos are unflattering, look miserable from a distance (From your avatar I thought you were frowning until I actually clicked on it properly) and quite frankly have about as much effort in taking them as you made in writing the rest of your profile.

You get out what you put in. You have put in, well, very very little.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Best I delete my profile then hey"

OP, you don't seem to be taking advice about your profile, not even the stuff from a week ago and are coming over in a way that is probably not helping you. The way I see it, you have 3 choices.

1, do something positive about your situation

2, continue with the status quo

3, step away from Fab and find something that makes you happy.

Either way, posing stuff like you have above will not help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best I delete my profile then hey"

Well you have to buy a ticket to win the lottery! If you're not here then you'll DEFINITELY get no action from here!

As many have said, you're not unique. I'm a FAB virgin and expect to be so for a long time yet. I have to play a long game and hope for the best.

Feeling sorry for yourself won't improve the situation, try to adopt a positive mental attitude and approach and who knows what might await just around the corner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best I delete my profile then hey

OP, you don't seem to be taking advice about your profile, not even the stuff from a week ago and are coming over in a way that is probably not helping you. The way I see it, you have 3 choices.

1, do something positive about your situation

2, continue with the status quo

3, step away from Fab and find something that makes you happy.

Either way, posing stuff like you have above will not help."

This is the best advise you're going to get OP.

We can do any more to help you. It's up to you now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am looking for _iews, it shows how popular you, so far I got 77, gues my new hot pic does it, 6pack time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously? Quit your whinging, man up and stop feeling so bloody sorry for yourself.

Either make an effort with your profile, you know follow the advice you were given, or leave.

We'll see you again in a fortnight with a new name. Just remember forumites have long memories."

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done"

Shallow for daring having a preference, wow am shallow!! I dont do pity fucks!! Can guarantee if the shoe was on the other foot u would judge a book by its cover too but i can see that is NEVER gona happen now,

Ta ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Na not true this site is full of people that judge a book by its cover shallow if you ask me.fuck it I'm done

Ta ta

Coco we defo agree with you in this one x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think everyone loves a moaner. Ive started a few threads lately no reaching over 48 coments all quite fun threads . I have a moan and everyone jumps on the band wagon.weird that

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

"I think everyone loves a moaner. Ive started a few threads lately no reaching over 48 coments all quite fun threads . I have a moan and everyone jumps on the band wagon.weird that "

Quite the opposite old bean, the people on here cant stand moaners, that's why everyone has jumped on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 weeks, do you really think that is a long time on here.

if you think other sites may serve you better, Good Luck.

That's 4 weeks without any messeges at all would you stay that long if you received no messeges at all?

yes..... maybe your expectations of the site were way off.

did you think you would be bawdeep in vagina at the drop of your pants...

Why does everyone say this? NO DIDNT EXPECT TO BE GETTING SEX EVERYDAY

NO I didn't expect to have women throwing themselves at me.

NO I didn't expect to be fancied by every woman on here,

NO I didn't expect every messege that I sent to be answered.

I know I'm not the most attractive guy in the world. But I'm a nice guy. I'm not abusive. I don't send nasty messeges or copy and paste messeges "

So basically you're saying your only feature is you're not an asshole?

Try mentioning your good points on your profile, what you like, what your looking for etc.

Put it this way from your profile would you meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

From my point of _iew, and I know others will disagree. This is a swinging site. Couples, who want to swap partners. The place is swamped with single men. Moaning usually. Does my head in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think everyone loves a moaner. Ive started a few threads lately no reaching over 48 coments all quite fun threads . I have a moan and everyone jumps on the band wagon.weird that "

And you're still moaning and blaming others. Seriously?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to say sorry everyone I was pissed up last night and in a foul mood and took it out on here. I do apologise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say sorry everyone I was pissed up last night and in a foul mood and took it out on here. I do apologise

Argumentative when d*unk a? Another reason not to meet you!!!!

Ha ha only joking as you can see the forums can be a cruel mistress when you post a rant. Just take it on the chin and keep plugging away.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Just want to say sorry everyone I was pissed up last night and in a foul mood and took it out on here. I do apologise

onwards and upwards... hope your luck changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say sorry everyone I was pissed up last night and in a foul mood and took it out on here. I do apologise

"
nowt new there m8. Just stick to pop in the future lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just want to say sorry everyone I was pissed up last night and in a foul mood and took it out on here. I do apologise

Argumentative when d*unk a? Another reason not to meet you!!!!

Ha ha only joking as you can see the forums can be a cruel mistress when you post a rant. Just take it on the chin and keep plugging away. "

Lol no I'm a nice d*unk usually. But had my reasons for being pissed off last night but I won't go into that lol thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lols...

Because everyone loves a guy with issues(!)

Hit the gym for 4-5 months and get a pro-photographer to take some photos of yourself. Works for most single guys with success on here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol

The funniest post I have read - brilliant

glad you liked it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

From my point of _iew, and I know others will disagree. This is a swinging site. Couples, who want to swap partners. The place is swamped with single men. Moaning usually. Does my head in."

Also it doesy head in couples who can't seem to get meets, also does my head in couples professing this this a swinging site for couples, yet complain they can't meet that 'elusive' single bi-fem.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

We all have bad days mate.

In the cold light of day - honestly, the profile needs sorting. It's the same as thousands of others on here.

Mine is severely lacking in places too, but I have made it a little different in some ways and there are women who appreciate that!

I have a female friend on here. You would not believe the amount of messages she gets and how awful they mostly are. I actually find many genuinely shocking!

I'm sure yours aren't like that, but I think you probably fall foul at the next hurdle. I think, for her, it goes:

- crap message, reject

- ok message, but crap profile, reject

The ones she'll possibly consider replying to are the good message/good profile ones. Even then she might not because she's busy etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because whining constantly is so appealing.

If the site isn't working, then off you pop, don't let us hold you back.

If you're expecting instashag, you're on the wrong site.

Ladies on here don't just drop their knickers because someone messages.

Work on your approach - tailor a decent first message, work on your profile, check your images are up to spec... and then its luck and numbers.

I don't meet very often, some choice and some just life."
.

To be frank Love Its women with your attitude that make sites Like this crap, swingers fuck, most women on here treat it like a dating site, which swinging isnt. Wouldnt mind but some women on here think they are shakira when they defo arent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And most men on here have a weird sense of entitlement, which they havnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not think that everyone has the right to treat this site as they wish?

To be frank, it is guys with the attitude that they are here for a fuck therefore every woman or couple should say yes, now that's what makes site like this crap.

You look at it whatever way you want to and no one should tell you otherwise, why can't this woman, or anyone else for that matter, have any attitude they want to?

We get out what we put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said to that last post before ours!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you not think that everyone has the right to treat this site as they wish?

To be frank, it is guys with the attitude that they are here for a fuck therefore every woman or couple should say yes, now that's what makes site like this crap.

You look at it whatever way you want to and no one should tell you otherwise, why can't this woman, or anyone else for that matter, have any attitude they want to?

We get out what we put in."

Everyone uses this site in a way that suits them and can generally find someone compatible to have fun with. As long as people are using the site within the rules then why does it matter how they use it? Some want multiple meets with many different people, some just want a regular meet with the same person. If anyone thinks its a crap site then why bother with it, you're free to leave if its not to your taste?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't agree, so we start trading insults in public.

That is EXACTLY the kind of attitude that spoils this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you not think that everyone has the right to treat this site as they wish?

To be frank, it is guys with the attitude that they are here for a fuck therefore every woman or couple should say yes, now that's what makes site like this crap.

You look at it whatever way you want to and no one should tell you otherwise, why can't this woman, or anyone else for that matter, have any attitude they want to?

We get out what we put in."

Lol, forums are so funny, full of wannabe intellectuals, I didnt say people could or couldnt do anything, but people Who Like to fuck will fuck, but ive.conversed with females on here act and talk Like women that you would be dating, yes,.I daré say the vast majority of Men _iew this site as a free hooker site, and every female is gagging for cock. Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because whining constantly is so appealing.

If the site isn't working, then off you pop, don't let us hold you back.

If you're expecting instashag, you're on the wrong site.

Ladies on here don't just drop their knickers because someone messages.

Work on your approach - tailor a decent first message, work on your profile, check your images are up to spec... and then its luck and numbers.

I don't meet very often, some choice and some just life..

Wow, that's a bit nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true...."

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so.....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so....."

and the threads whining about the bad men, more often than not would be resolved if she applied filters that would minimise her pain or actually do the searching herself.

both sets are tiresome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so....."

because................there are more men on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't it be nice if people just went about their business on here without moaning or having a go at others?? I think hell is more likely to freeze over before that happens though lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so.....

and the threads whining about the bad men, more often than not would be resolved if she applied filters that would minimise her pain or actually do the searching herself.

both sets are tiresome

This is also true!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so.....

because................there are more men on the site"

Very good point, but I was just pointing out that the reason people tend to bash men more readily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be great if you couldn't message another member first until you were photo verified or verified. Yes i know both systems can be tricked but it would mitigate some issues.

That way verified peeps could choose to message unverified peeps and instigate contact.

If you are only photo verified then you get to send out a maximum of say 5 or 10 messages per day. Verified members can use the site unhindered.

So why this approach?

Unverified peeps have nothing to lose, if they are rude etc and end up with a bad rep, they delete their profile and start again.

Verified peeps have their verifications to lose so should (although not always) be a little more respectful.

I think it's time that fab started to look at some of the issues caused by unverified/faceless/textless profiles which seem to promulgate most of the negativity on the site. I would gladly pay for fab if it found a way of mitigated some of the issues caused by Internet anonymity.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

see yaaaaaaaaaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle on here .. and I'm good looking so your fucked .

mate lol"

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be great if you couldn't message another member first until you were photo verified or verified. Yes i know both systems can be tricked but it would mitigate some issues.

That way verified peeps could choose to message unverified peeps and instigate contact.

If you are only photo verified then you get to send out a maximum of say 5 or 10 messages per day. Verified members can use the site unhindered.

So why this approach?

Unverified peeps have nothing to lose, if they are rude etc and end up with a bad rep, they delete their profile and start again.

Verified peeps have their verifications to lose so should (although not always) be a little more respectful.

Ouch. Some people can't have face avatar pics but we do have private face pics. And textless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!"

You are so right.

I can't believe that comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be great if you couldn't message another member first until you were photo verified or verified. Yes i know both systems can be tricked but it would mitigate some issues.

That way verified peeps could choose to message unverified peeps and instigate contact.

If you are only photo verified then you get to send out a maximum of say 5 or 10 messages per day. Verified members can use the site unhindered.

So why this approach?

Unverified peeps have nothing to lose, if they are rude etc and end up with a bad rep, they delete their profile and start again.

Verified peeps have their verifications to lose so should (although not always) be a little more respectful.

Ouch. Some people can't have face avatar pics but we do have private face pics. And textless?

I apologise when I said "faceless" I meant pic less. But my opinion still stands it isn't difficult to get photo verified, it isn't difficult to limit the amount of messages sent. I would whole heartedly support this approach even if it applied to single guys and I had just joined the site.

Most of this thread has been about making an effort and being respectful. Perhaps when a person only gets 5 to 10 messages a day perhaps they will make more of an effort in those messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!

You are so right.

I can't believe that comment.

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Just a normal couple..

A few weeks back I saw a post of

Theirs on here, I know everyone Is entitled to their _iews but out of

Almost a record lenght thread hardly

Anyone agreed with them and they were

Still argueing at the end haha talk

About hot debated but thats what the

Forums are for ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ir also seems women are ok to slate Men but a Man speaking out against a woman hes all sports, hypocrites!

that is very true....

I guess it kinda is but most of the whiney, nasty or wo be me threads are started by men so.....

and the threads whining about the bad men, more often than not would be resolved if she applied filters that would minimise her pain or actually do the searching herself.

both sets are tiresome

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

Have you seen your profile, at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. I've changed pics and text can't figure what's best. Any tips welcome

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I think it would be great if you couldn't message another member first until you were photo verified or verified. Yes i know both systems can be tricked but it would mitigate some issues.

That way verified peeps could choose to message unverified peeps and instigate contact.

If you are only photo verified then you get to send out a maximum of say 5 or 10 messages per day. Verified members can use the site unhindered.

So why this approach?

Unverified peeps have nothing to lose, if they are rude etc and end up with a bad rep, they delete their profile and start again.

Verified peeps have their verifications to lose so should (although not always) be a little more respectful.

You can set your filters to block unverified members can't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

2 line profile, no pics and can't accommodate. If you ask most people here or any other site there is only one person wasting there time! Take a look in the mirror my friend. Then...yes you may as well leave!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coachman 9, we are glad you found our old forum so interesting!

Exactly what this forum is for is how we use it.

What you won't find us doing on here is moaning and wailing about the fact that no-one wants to meet us or chat to us.

Quite the opposite in fact!

The people who do not fit our choices should walk away, but loads of people, sadly mainly single guys, think they have the right to contact whoever they want and expect positive results.

We have been called intellectual earlier but whatever we are called never really bothers us.

What does bother us is the fact that there are so many rude people on here that think that profiles are not meant to be read, and choices are there to be ignored.

If lots of people treated others the way they expect to be treated, read their profiles and respected the choices people make, then what a better place this would be.

Not a lot to ask really.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think it would be great if you couldn't message another member first until you were photo verified or verified. Yes i know both systems can be tricked but it would mitigate some issues.

That way verified peeps could choose to message unverified peeps and instigate contact.

If you are only photo verified then you get to send out a maximum of say 5 or 10 messages per day. Verified members can use the site unhindered.

So why this approach?

Unverified peeps have nothing to lose, if they are rude etc and end up with a bad rep, they delete their profile and start again.

Verified peeps have their verifications to lose so should (although not always) be a little more respectful.

Ouch. Some people can't have face avatar pics but we do have private face pics. And textless?

Most of this thread has been about making an effort and being respectful. Perhaps when a person only gets 5 to 10 messages a day perhaps they will make more of an effort in those messages?"

I'm not photo verified. I have good reasons for not wanting to be photo verified and can understand why others wouldn't want to be.

If photo verification became mandatory on this site, which admin has said it won't, I'd leave.

And, as you point out, it's easy to get photo verified so it's not much to lose. It wouldn't make anyone more respectful or less entitled.

People join the site with completely unrealistic expectations and that, as far as I can see, is the biggest problem. Some deal with a lack of desired results by changing their approach and/or attitude and some get bitter and moan.

Even on sites that members must pay to join there are people who behave like arses. In fact when they pay money it can mean they feel even more entitled to what they want.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think it's clear which camp the OP's in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been here 5 weeks.

What were you expecting?

I'd been here for over 6 months before getting my first meet.

Single men outnumber single women on here by around 100 to 1.

You need to make yourself stand out - and to be frank, your profile, well, doesn't.

And you'll find, as many have said, it's no different on other sites, but by all means, don't take our word for it.

That said, you're not the first bloke to join this site expecting to be shagging within a week, and you won't be the last.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

What makes you think other sites will be any different?

If your approach/profile is not working for you, try changing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

What makes you think other sites will be any different?

If your approach/profile is not working for you, try changing it!"

He's been given lots of good advice but nothing has changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I`ve been here just over a week and had 32 meets already !!!

My inbox is over flowing daily, TBH I`m getting a bit sick of the women begging to suck my dick !

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

he's been given lots of good advice but nothing has changed quote

hmm photos a bit off putting for me the dick shot in particular looks like it need to see a doctor..oh and the text in the profile, oh and the hairy chest. or maybe I am fussy..connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!"

First off smarty pants, I didnt say anyone had to fuck anyone or how often they should fuck anyone, or that im here to put anything right, you obviously arent very Good at interpreting what people say. Time to explain yourself clever clogs, how is my line "Its not a dating site" condascending? Do you know what that Word means? I dont think you do, you are just trying to sound clever using big words, I also never said people were wrong to use this site in a certain way I just pointed out some women use this site as a dating site when clearly Its a sex site. Learn to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!

Its not a sex site, its a swingers site.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Your photos are a lot happier. They are a bit samey, so that's the next thing to work on. Try some in a suit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And most men on here have a weird sense of entitlement, which they havnt "

Now now, point proven, women think they are better. Women have a weird belief that they are something especial,which they arent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!

Its not a sex site, its a swingers site."

And swingers have sex, my god talk about splitting hairs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shakira shakira!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now people, play nice !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shakira shakira!!!!

Lol, shakira is hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And most men on here have a weird sense of entitlement, which they havnt

Now now, point proven, women think they are better. Women have a weird belief that they are something especial,which they arent.

Aww bless you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since we are talking "attitudes" to be honest... this one isn't standing out for being sparking either...

swingers may "fuck"... but just because they may want to, it doesn't mean it has to be with everyone, and on a regular basis...

the "its not a dating site" line is just so condescending.... just because everyone doesn't approach their swinging in the same manner as you.... it doesn't mean they are wrong and you are right!

but hey... I am glad you are here to put everything right... after all, all that time I put into getting to know people, and going to socials, and instead it is sex sex sex!!!!

Its not a sex site, its a swingers site."

It's a swingers site.

people use it for swinging, socials, NSA sex, dating etc etc

use it for what suits you best & let others use it how they want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol.

Go to a social

Go to a party

Go to a club

Blimey it's not a waist of time.

Need to put some effort in.

Sitting and waiting for the world to fall at your feet is not going to happen.

I love it here and could never leave or cry my eyes out due to the lack of attention.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd just like to mention that although the OP could improve his profile still, he has been joining in on forum threads which is good and I get the impression he will be a successful swinger. Patience is needed and some profile adjustment but the basics are there. So good luck to Arp.

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By *lack_GeminiMan
over a year ago

Pattaya

I find, a great attitude to have is just be pleasantly surprised by an email when it comes. upload a sexy but tasteful pic every now and again and just chill. Also just keep advertising that your free to meet and you'll get something eventually.

Women sense anxiety and desperation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this site just a waste of my time? Only get _iews off men and that's defo not what I'm looking for. Everyone's saying patience. But nothing is happening. Might try my luck else where

It won't work for everyone maybe the people you contact are just not interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd just like to mention that although the OP could improve his profile still, he has been joining in on forum threads which is good and I get the impression he will be a successful swinger. Patience is needed and some profile adjustment but the basics are there. So good luck to Arp. "

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over a year ago

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