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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone.

Where am I going wrong, Im a nice genuine guy, not a sex pest but find it difficult to even chat let alone meet someone. Im respectful and not pushy as I do read your profiles and I know that's a big turn off... for me too!

Anyway, some feedback on my profile or where im going wrong would be great... or that im just fuck ugly :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you super awesome enough to live up to your user name?

Profile reads well I suspect it's down to the old numbers game and supply and demand on here etc etc.

People are not obliged to message back so just send more out and hope you get the odd return.

It ultimately comes down to getting out there at socials clubs meets etc and building a reputation as a decent guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman, so its mostly down by luck, maibe the women got the message firt from another one and so on, so keep emailing till you get one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi everyone.

Where am I going wrong, Im a nice genuine guy, not a sex pest but find it difficult to even chat let alone meet someone. Im respectful and not pushy as I do read your profiles and I know that's a big turn off... for me too!

Anyway, some feedback on my profile or where im going wrong would be great... or that im just fuck ugly :/"

you aren't ugly, let's clear that up immediately.

I can see nothing wrong with your profile or pictures either. It's standard advice but bears repeating try socials, clubs and joining in positively on the forums. Also take down the status about not getting replies.

Good luck

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'd reply and you're not even my 'type'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

[Removed by poster at 26/08/14 14:06:08]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your very attractive and im way too old and too far! Just do as your advised and get to socials and clubs. Good luck handsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your very attractive and im way too old and too far! Just do as your advised and get to socials and clubs. Good luck handsome "

Ditto from me too, and change the name, that can put people off without even looking at your profile and pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say try going to some clubs, you can meet people face to face. And have more fun looking about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same problem when I joined being componded by being middle aged!

I use my tablet a lot and the combination of small screen, touch screen keyboard and big hands (and don't get me started on predictive text......) lead to some cock ups. One was when I wanted to send a wink and sent a seemingly random friend request as the two butrons are so close. So, realising my error I sent the friend request after. However I was still concerned about the random friend request so sent a mesage explaining all of the above and that I was still quite new to the site . That was the first message I got a reply to. It led ro a meet. So given this experience, and successful outcome it happened again and heh presto another meet! I will let you decide if the second was quite as accidental as the first , but with two decent veris I found my messages got a much higher response rate (maybe 25:1) and I was either more careful with my winks or started another charm offensive!

It has been said many times before, but itmis a numbers game. My favourite definition of a successful man is one who gets up one more time than the number of times he is knocked down

Oh, and lose the status as others have suggested. Negativity and neediness are unattractive traits.

Happy hunting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apols re typos above. On my tablet. Q.E.D!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys Appreciate you comments

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks guys Appreciate you comments"

Nice to see that you took note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys Appreciate you comments

Nice to see that you took note"

This

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Look fine to me.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Your very attractive and im way too old and too far! Just do as your advised and get to socials and clubs. Good luck handsome "

Ditto. ...Unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha girls you aren't too old, maybe too far away though :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good profile but shame do far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

use your other face pic, omg hot. and too faraway for me too...

maybe consider moving up north? lol.

nice profile, wonder what your other username was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same problem when I joined being componded by being middle aged!

I use my tablet a lot and the combination of small screen, touch screen keyboard and big hands (and don't get me started on predictive text......) lead to some cock ups. One was when I wanted to send a wink and sent a seemingly random friend request as the two butrons are so close. So, realising my error I sent the friend request after. However I was still concerned about the random friend request so sent a mesage explaining all of the above and that I was still quite new to the site . That was the first message I got a reply to. It led ro a meet. So given this experience, and successful outcome it happened again and heh presto another meet! I will let you decide if the second was quite as accidental as the first , but with two decent veris I found my messages got a much higher response rate (maybe 25:1) and I was either more careful with my winks or started another charm offensive!

It has been said many times before, but itmis a numbers game. My favourite definition of a successful man is one who gets up one more time than the number of times he is knocked down

Oh, and lose the status as others have suggested. Negativity and neediness are unattractive traits.

Happy hunting! "

What lucky ladies they were too! Alas..still too far tho..

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I'm just me on my profile, i will always have a cheeky banter with ladies keeping it clean bordering suggestive.

Profile pics are also important as its first impressions etc so put up pics you think the ladies will like, look through the ladies local to you and compliment their profule/pics if you like what you see.

Honestly get to be friends with them first with all thoughts of sex out your mind, when/if the lady is relaxed and feeling safe with you sex will happen naturally.

Don't be a pest and if rejected take it on the chin without being abusive (not saying you are lol), i have had ladies on here not even answer my messages and on meeting them at parties/clubs found out we get on really well so if it happens it happens.

Visit some local clubs if you can and network with the people there.

I am alaways looking for guys for shoots with various ladies and there are lots of other photographers asking the same so you could also take this route..

Just stick in there mate as this is a great site with lots of genuine people looking for genuine guys.

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