FabSwingers.com forum: couple refuses send pictures?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me)

trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in

Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

No it isn't. Sounds dodgy to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi

Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me)

trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in

Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"

No it isn't wrong of you. We always send ours if we are going to meet. The choice is yours, dance to their tune or walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on. I understand people keeping photos private for whatever reason but how do they expect to arrange meets if they don't send any, as far as I'm aware, this isn't blind date!! I've heard so many excuses for not sending a face pic and I'm not interested. Not wrong at all for asking especially after sending yours, my thoughts are they're not interested.

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

something dodgy if they won't send a pic

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you attach a photo through fab I don't think it can be copied and pasted so it's safe,,, I'm in a profession which means I have to be totally discrete,,, but will attach a photo via fab, maybe explain that to them, you need to reassure them of your discretion

Good luck x"

I have never tried to copy a photo from fab so I don't know if thats possible but have you never considered that it's just as easy to show photos to other people on a phone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether it's right or wrong us irrelevant. If you aren't happy move on

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

"Move on. I understand people keeping photos private for whatever reason but how do they expect to arrange meets if they don't send any, as far as I'm aware, this isn't blind date!! I've heard so many excuses for not sending a face pic and I'm not interested. Not wrong at all for asking especially after sending yours, my thoughts are they're not interested."

Very much agree with this.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You can copy photos from fab, the right click option is there.

No pictures no meet in my book - what do they think, its blind date?

Or are they going to be sat in the pub with a hard on and her tits out so you recognise them?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Good luck x"

Easy to do on a pc. Enlarge image, do a screen print, paste onto word and crop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for the advice and support people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck x

It is possible to save a photo, but you will have water mark on it. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No photo = no meet. Simples

Plenty more choice OP

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.

If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.

Do they have pics on Fab? perhaps not because they're worried about how that association might affect their professional status? Well they can always send a 'normal' pic to you by email or text message.

The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!

I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Hi

Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me)

trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in

Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"
No excuses for no photos. Software can always be used to blur faces . I always assume that no photos means a fake profile.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"No photo = no meet. Simples

Plenty more choice OP "

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Also, if they don't want to send pictures, ask them to go on Skype so you can see what they look like. Any excuses then block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.

If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.

The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!

I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.

I've had a few people say they don't have any on here but can send some by text/email. I don't understand this as they're concerned about their professional status but are happy to give away personal contact details. I would never give my contact details to someone I'd not agreed to meet let alone not seen just to send a pic. If they don't have any on here its a big no and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.

Block and move on.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

its a guy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.

If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.

The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!

I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.

They could have an email account specifically set up for that. I used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a guy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No it isn't. Sounds dodgy to me. "

Yeah, too dodge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is not wrong for you to ask for a pic.

If they are serious about meeting why wouldn't they send a clear normal holiday snap type of picture of both of them. I don't see how that would compromise them as professionals.

The no-shows I've experienced on Fab have 2 things in common - no phone conversation and no pics!

I would always want to see a pic, it's not blind date.

They could have an email account specifically set up for that. I used to. "

I guess so but I haven't so would be reluctant to give my details. I see no reason for not having a pic on here but I guess they have and that's up to them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Very suspect. It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple. I hear that Bi and gay guys do it a LOT to try and meet single guys. Always full of excuses why the woman isn't there ie poorly - working - away with the kids, blah blah blah.

Block and move on."

Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Well sooner or later someone tis going to have to see a face if the meet is to go ahead. So refusing to show a face pic makes me suspect that it is not genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Been recently contacted by a couple (lucky me)

trying to arrange a meet but they won't send me pictures even though i've sent mine. they say its because of the profession they work in

Is it wrong of me to ask ? Thoughts please"

Its not wrong to ask you can choose as they can you can ask to cam with them if they are cautious its normal to talk on cam with nothing sexual if they refuse that I would blow them off though. Well people out there in the vanilla world do that all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck x"

Wrong sent pics can easily be copied, pasted and or saved.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If they wont send a pic, ask for a phone chat to prove they are a couple. If they baulk, tell them they can ring you and withold their number,if they still refuse, chances are they are fake.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Same old.we are only hearing one side of a story.plenty people we haven't sent pics as it hasn't felt right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck x

It is possible to save a photo, but you will have water mark on it. x"

Not true it's very easy to copy and or save pics sent to you should you wish to!

There will not be a water mark on it if there isn't one there to start with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think at some point before you meet they should show themselves, by pic or on cam,

maybe waiting until they are sure they want to meet before showing, how are you supposed to recognise them if meeting in a public place, your call depends how much you want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is more likely to be a single man in the couple and no woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't bother in my book it's never worked out well without pics first their hiding something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No it isn't. Sounds dodgy to me. "

I agree, whether you are meeting a singleton or a couple a clue to who they are when you meet is good manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit dodgy not sending a face pic ! Maybe they want to play Blind Date! No pictures no meet for us too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they the Queen and Prince Phillip then?

Would these people that have such important professions meet with a paper bag over their heads?

Everyone has their own sets of criteria for how they use the site and thats fine but by then they also have to understand that it doesn't always suit other people

Id never arrange a meet without seeing pictures of who im meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We no longer meet people that wont send a piccy. Been caught out a time or 2 in past with this shennanigans.

Usually means one of them has been beaten with the ugly stick and one of us will be asked to take one for the team. Or it's a bloke posing as a couple. The could always put a pair of dark glasses on couldn't they.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I'm guessing if they have no verifications it is just a single guy as some wrongly do that.

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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

lol do they work for MI5 ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wont even exchange messages with people who have no pictures at all on their profile, Neither of us consider looks to be that important its more the fact of them thinking that they are that special they have no need to make any effort.

And as for discretion, important job what a load of total bollocks that excuse is so pathetic it laughable.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send pics to anyone and I'm real genuine woman. If someone doesn't accept that I have no problem with it. Just cos you meet someone doesn't mean you have to play.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I'm attracted to faces so no pic is definitely a deal breaker for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be great if Fab had the ability to put face pics into escrow. Once the two of you have entered your face pics into escrow they both get released to each other so you can both see who each other is... at the same time. Without that it is always a power play of "we want to see your faces before you see ours" which is just such a farce. I feel if we're going to show someone our faces then, at the very least, we should see theirs... which is what happens in most cases... but you're always leaving yourself prone by going first. The escrow idea would solve that. Should I suggest it to admin?

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Are you expected to on meet with out knowing what they look like then lol. Balls to that ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they wont send a pic, ask for a phone chat to prove they are a couple. If they baulk, tell them they can ring you and withold their number,if they still refuse, chances are they are fake."

agree with this, ask for a phone call. if they refuse, walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be wary but many don't like to risk of posting here. Ask for a phone call or maybe popping into chat and put their cam on to show their faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you expected to on meet with out knowing what they look like then lol. Balls to that ha ha

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No harm in arranging a social meet, then you will know exactly what they look like. I don't have and never will have pics on this site and it hasn't held me back. Remember the only way you will truly know what somebody/a couple look like is by meeting them. You don't have to hang around if you don't like what you see x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wont even exchange messages with people who have no pictures at all on their profile, Neither of us consider looks to be that important its more the fact of them thinking that they are that special they have no need to make any effort.

And as for discretion, important job what a load of total bollocks that excuse is so pathetic it laughable.

Gimp

You'd be surprised with some professions how seriously they take their employees being on a site like this. Definitely not worth the risk. And if photos are such a big issue, I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on.

Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt

I know from personal experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on.

Really? Bi and gay guys pretend to be couples a LOT? Where do you get that information from? Some considered source, no doubt

I know from personal experience!"

Yep a phone call first is good, but there is no guaranteed way of knowing what anyone looks like without a social meet first. Anyone can put fake photos up.

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We encounter this and it's plain bizarre aka time wasters

We all like to protect our identities. Totally get folks wanting to be careful but we've met people of numerous backgrounds and professions but all with pics up front

Blind dates no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We encounter this and it's plain bizarre aka time wasters

We all like to protect our identities. Totally get folks wanting to be careful but we've met people of numerous backgrounds and professions but all with pics up front

Blind dates no thanks

It's not a blind date in the blind date sense (with the possibility of a relationship to follow), but the only true way of knowing if someone is fake or not. And lets face it if they are really fake they won't show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sod them. Even if they were in a sensitive job they can send body shots and you will get a feel for whether genuine or not.

You then meet up and if they have faces like a welders bench you can then walk away with no obligation...

If it feels/sounds dodgy it's not worth the hassle M8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet without seeing a pic first, and always a social first meet anyway. Some people don't want to send pics but I'm fine with that and I respect their wishes but won't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

really appreciate the support and advice guys I guess I should give up on meeting a couple for now

I give people too much faith

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"really appreciate the support and advice guys I guess I should give up on meeting a couple for now

I give people too much faith "

By the way did you know that if you have sent someone a picture on here and no longer wish them to have it if you delete it from your profile it will disappear from the message you sent them too? Obviously this wont solve the problem of them saving it elsewhere but not everyone does that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No photo = no meet. Simples

Plenty more choice OP "

this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've started a thread in the site suggestions forum about the idea of a face pic escrow system. If you feel that would help maybe give it a thumbs up

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By *r not quite virginMan
over a year ago

rochdale

Good luck x"
your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So just a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Good luck x your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So just a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes"

I have just had a go and it really is a matter of two clicks to save a picture to the desk top, no determination needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.

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By *r not quite virginMan
over a year ago

rochdale

Good luck x your right in that you cant copy and paste but for those that know about it you can still screenshot it. So tjust a little workaround for those determined desperate assholes

I have just had a go and it really is a matter of two clicks to save a picture to the desk top, no determination needed."
ok just pathetic desperate assholes then :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds."

Do you work for MI5 lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds."

Snapchat?

Pics can still be screenshot x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"really appreciate the support and advice guys I guess I should give up on meeting a couple for now

I give people too much faith

Really? thats pretty awesome think I might just do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find people who refuse pics are ones posing as someone different or have you ever thought of the possibility that they might know you which could be another reason for stalling.

Cut your losses and move on mate. If they continue to mail you just block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've started a thread in the site suggestions forum about the idea of a face pic escrow system. If you feel that would help maybe give it a thumbs up

A good idea but would only work if everyone has face pics on here which they don't. I've spoken to many people who don't have face pics on here and send them by text/e-mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.

Snapchat?

Pics can still be screenshot x"

no similar I believe,it's called tiger text.

True, you can still screenshot but if you're anything like me the mere fact that you've got X amount of seconds to view from when it's sent, taking a screenshot was the last thing on my mind lol....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I have to say that we have never had an issue with face pictures. People request ours we send and they send back or vice versa, quite a lot of people couples and single men attach them to a first message too. I wonder if our age gives an impression of reliability or respectability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't send face pics but we are willing to go on cam to show ourselves but this doesn't make us dodgy or fake it's just I don't always trust face pics as they could be of anyone where as on cam your seeing for real. This is our choice and it's gone ok upto now

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.

Do you work for MI5 lol xx"

Sounds more like the opening sequences of Mission Impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.

Do you work for MI5 lol xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The old chestnut 'I cant upload face pics because of work/profession' is a load of bull.Tell em were to go and then block em!

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By *layingkitty69Woman
over a year ago

DONCASTER

A.... Maybe you know them B....they family.

C....you work with them

D....they fake

E... Move on an block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck x"

Yes you can, or you can screen shot it. Even if they disabled right click you can just nab it from the page code, Or even from your browser cache.

If you're seeing it on your pc or your phone you've downloaded a copy of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet anyone without a picture so if someone won't send one it goes no further.

There's apps out there that you can send via, view and the pic then deletes in a set time scale like 30 seconds.

Snapchat?

Pics can still be screenshot x

no similar I believe,it's called tiger text.

True, you can still screenshot but if you're anything like me the mere fact that you've got X amount of seconds to view from when it's sent, taking a screenshot was the last thing on my mind lol...."

And there are plenty of as that automatically save the pictures for you as soon as they arrive. For all the snap chat copies these apps exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When using an ipad any picture sent can be saved simply by touching the picture it's then saved to the camera roll, should you wish to that is .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me get this right. They ask to see a pic of you, but won't send you a pic of them. Absolutely shocking etiquette. I would definitely give them a wide berth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let me get this right. They ask to see a pic of you, but won't send you a pic of them. Absolutely shocking etiquette. I would definitely give them a wide berth."

We find that often they want to meet but refuse to show what they look like first, all we know is they have a cock and a pussy.

Now as far as we are concerned our time is very limited usually to weekends and then not every weekend.

If we are not attracted to them why would we waste a weekend meeting up ! ( and them us of course)

As for this ' I'm a professional' what a load of crap.

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